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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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When you have sex with a guy and after wards every nite he wants to fuck does dat means it was good..??
Either that or he is using you.
i was on a break with my bf and he got with someone. that ended p hurting me and he said i should get with someone to even it out. bad idea or good idea?
Bad idea.......
Your boyfriend cheated on you, Why the hell would you even think about lowering yourself down to his level to make things okay? That is just an excuse, He was caught and he is obviously trying to cover it up or think of some lame reason to how to make it up too you. This guy doesn't deserve you, If he can't be faithful then shit can him. If you want a real relationship then you are going to have to find the right guy that will treat you right, Not back stab you. Also, If your boyfriend cared about you then he wouldn't be trying to get you to see someone else.
How to ask a guy to give uu a hickey.....????
Tell him you find it a turn on when a guy kisses your neck and then when he does tell him not to stop that should give the hint. Also, I find hickeys to be very unattractive.......Just sayin
Okay so first of all, some of you are going to think that I'm a b**** for saying this forgive me. I'm 20 years old and my sister is 26, most people say that at age 26 your brain is fully developed. I really feel like her brain is still under-developed because my sister tends to go for losers, and I'm really worried about her relationship with this one man.
He's 32 years old, I feel like at this point in his life if he was working towards his full potential in life he would have a bachelors degree and maybe even a masters, or a certificate in some kind of a trade. Instead he's been unemployed for a long time, living at his parents, and basically living off of them for over a year now. I understand that the economy is bad but if you're that serious about wanting to marry your girlfriend like he is telling her, you go to every employment agency and get work and then you save your money until you can find an actual job. I don't even believe that the man is really looking for a job, however my sister is too naive to see this.
I say this because I see a trait of laziness in him. I can basically judge this by saying that he dropped out of high school at 15. That might have been fine 40, 50 years before he dropped out of high school but you're not doing much with your degree now. He did get his GED and he has a 3.9, but the fact that he didn't fully graduate high school for stupid reason. I apologize to those of you who maybe out of high school for honest reasons, he dropped out because he didn't like going to school and he could cut. I think once you're lazy, you're always lazy... it's a character trait.
My sister in all other aspects, other than her selfishness I'm pretty proud of. The only thing that I'm ashamed is her boyfriend, the high school drop out, the man who I don't see getting anywhere in life. For a 26 year old woman who didn't finish college she has an amazing job, she's making $15.00/hour working as a customer service supervisor, a job that she quickly moved up towards after only a year of working at her company. She only has two years left of college and will be going back to school soon, and she wants to be a college professor.
Her downfall has always been men, I have no idea what it is with her. I think it may be because she saw my dad cheat on my mom numerous times, she read his emails to his ex girlfriend (that he had when he was married to my mom) and my parents are still married. All of her boyfriends in some way or another have been losers.
Her boyfriend Mike who she started dating at 16, who broke up with her after almost 3 years of dating when she was 18 going on 19 had dyslexia, and used it as a crutch, he also couldn't hold down a job. Then she dated a guy named Jeff who was a 36 year old truck driver accused of child molestation, after he apparently "gave the police photos of nude minors" in order to get it taken off the web, they dated for 8 months from the time she was 19 to 20... until he started talking about marriage. After Jeff was Tom who owned a construction company with his father, she dated him for 4 or 5 months, he was fine in all other aspects other than he was bi-polar, stopped taking his medication and went crazy for a little while. After Tom was Paul a construction worker, whose idea of going on a date was sitting in his car for hours and not taking her anywhere... they were off and on again for two years.
Jason is probably the worst though, he's a high school drop out, he's 32 and I don't see where his future is going to be... when I ask her that she won't even answer me. In her eyes she loves him and he's perfect for her, I don't see this. I think that someone who wants to be successful should date someone who has some what of a plan.
I bring this up to her all the time, because I'm really worried about this situation. It just turns into a fight, what it comes down to and I have plenty of evidence to show this she's choosing him over all of her family. She won't even go to our cousin's baby shower this month because she doesn't know when she's going to get to see Jason again. This is my cousin's first baby, and I really do believe that she should be... it really aggravates me that she's not going to be there, and what it comes down to is that all that she cares about are the future of Selene and Jason.
My sister says that my boyfriend is a loser, however he's really. He's 22 years old, already his associates, and is going to school for accounting... he's very smart and he is on the path to having a very successful future. He's already successful because he was the first one in his family ever to obtain a college degree. He's already accomplished A LOT, and I'm sure that he's going to accomplish even more in his future.
I would love for her to be a 30-something year old man whose going to take good care of her, who has a college education, has the credentials to get a good job one day. From what I know Jason doesn't really have any of those things.
This is turning into a rant, but what's the best way for her to see reality and have her date better guys? I'm really worried about who her future husband is going to be, and what of debt he's going to put her in in the future.
I know that this is really none of my business, but honestly I'm concerned.
You are correct, This is none of your business.
Your sister is an adult, She can legally choose who she wants to be with. You may not like the men she dates but this is nobody's choice but hers.
I understand you are concerned for the well being of your sister but unless she is being physically, mentally or emotionally harmed there isn't a whole hell of a lot you can do and I think you would find it a lot less stressful if you started to worry about you. You do not know everything that goes on in your sisters relationship, I sure as hell don't know everything that goes on in my sisters life but again it is not my business. I respect my sisters privacy and I would not do anything to sabotage her happiness unless she was being harmed in some way. You are too caught up worrying about other people, Not everyone approves on who someone dates but that is just the way life is and sometimes we need to accept that not everything in life is based on our approval.
Someone in another country is harassing me and calling me names.
I've blocked him on everything possible but he is still finding ways to contact me. Is there any legal actions I can take if he doesn't live in America?
Help please.
You didn't provide enough detail for me to give you proper advice.
How old are you? How old is he? How did he find you? How long have you known him? Where is from? ......
my womans daughter age 39 has caused me troble even with the law. i can contact her again legally in 3 days but i won't. some and most of the trouble is her drunkness and sexualness. i am weak and lust for her as well. however i think the lady wants me for keeps and takes extreme measures to get me. i think the lady wants me as a partner and willing to take me from her mom. she has failed in 13 years. i am 57 myself and our life styles are totally apart. i have a gut feeling i will hear from her. love to have sex with her but i want no trouble. advice any1 ?
Stay away from her, The situation is bad news for both of you. Adorable proves a few good points, If you continue you will likely end up nowhere but down the road to divorce. Would you really want to throw all those years with your wife for someone that likes nothing but trouble?
Again, Adorable is correct. You need to learn self control. Nobody can force you into a situation and if you don't want trouble then I highly advise you too stay away from it. If this women caused you legal trouble I can promise you that likely you will head down the same road if you continue to let her. Someone only gets too you if you let them, I'm assuming you are married. You need to start seeing this women as your step daughter not some sex icon. I would also advise you to seek therapy for your problem as this may be the end of your ropes to save your marriage.
Hey, I am 17 and female. The boy I will be talking about is 17 and male, obviously, haha. At the beginning of the school year, he was kinda rude and sassy to me. I think that's joking to him but it was rude to me. Now, weeks into school, I see a significant change in him. Every time we see each other in the hall, we say hi to each other, every time.. it never fails. We are both in the marching band, his friend was asking him who he wants to be on their bus for travelling to cavalcades and this boy said he wants me on their bus. Out of everyone in the band, he chose me, I was flattered. So, my friend and I signed up for that bus not only because of the boy but because the boy has friends that are my friends as well and we all mesh together and we'll have a lot of fun when we're driving late at night after a competition. A few other things he does is at practice when it was hot, I was talking to one of our mutual friends and he kept squirting me with his water bottle telling me to drink up because it was hot. He also went out to get lunch when it was raining and when he came back inside, I was talking to him about how hard it was raining and he shook off like a dog and got me all wet. He also sings (jokingly) a song to me about our first period class together because we sometimes walk there together.
Sooooo, he likes me, right? (: thanks!
That's obvious, Ask him out
I'm 18 years old and I'm between a C and a D cup in bra size. This problem has been going on for a few years and I just don't know what to do anymore, it's interfering with my love life.
I think I have big pores on my breasts, and it often looks like there are black heads on the skin. When I squeeze then, sometimes I get a white pus, sometimes I get something that kind of resembles a blackhead but are very different from the ones on the face, and sometimes I get nothing and it just bleeds. Needless to say, this causes scabs with sometimes cause a little scarring.
I know the obvious answer is to stop picking, but I have a impulsive problem with that. I need to figure out how to stop picking, but at the same time I want my boobs to look normal and not have those big pores with things that look like blackheads. Any suggestions?
I feel like I'm the only person in the world with this problem...I get insecure when I wear low cut shirts, bathing suits, etc. Especially when I'm being intimate with a guy, if it's really bad that day, I won't take off my bra or I'll even keep my entire shirt on and that is frustrating sometimes cause I feel insecure when I don't want to be, and I know it's frustrating for him cause he wants to be able to look at my chest when we're making love. If it's not that bad, sometimes I even put make up on to conceal the little spots so and if it's dark in the room, I'm comfortable showing my boobs.
Anyways, I'm in college and this boob problem with the skin has been going on since early high school. Help please!
First, Stop picking. Picking is the worst thing you can do.
Second, I advise you to wash your breast daily with warm water. Forget using soap, Just a warm cloth with do the job. Acne can be caused from sweating, If you can help it skip the lacey bra and go for cotton. Lace can build up odor and cause sweat.
Last but not least, If a guy is judging you by your appearance then you shouldn't be with him. Nobody should be with someone because of the way they look, It's about who they are. Nobody is perfect in this world believe me we all have our flaws. Also, I don't know if you are aware but certain types of soaps can also cause acne as well try switching and see if that helps any.
The job market where i currently live sucks so I plan on moving to tx where things are flourishing. I have some interviews lined up but nothing is a guarantee of course and I'm not going to move till i know i'm hired. I'm in a year lease contract now with my apt and I don't know when the right time to tell my landlord. on one hand I don't want to tell her and i go to these interviews and things don't go well and then come home to find out that my landlord found someone to take over my lease while I was gone. on the other hand I don't want a situation where I don't tell her go to these interviews get hired on the spot and the job expects me to relocate a week later but theres no one to take over the remainder of my lease. I want to do the right thing here I'm just not sure what the right thing is in this situation. Any advice?
The courteous thing to do is to give a 30 day notice ahead of time, It will leave you on good terms and give them plenty of time to find another tenant.
I have sort of an odd situation. My boyfriend and I who recently, about 2 months ago, got back together after being together for 8 months and breaking up, called me F*ed up. He calls me all sorts of names, and tells me to stfu, calls me crazy, nuts, and all other things. When were argue this is what he replies back with. He can't communicate right. He is getting better but I can't make him understand how disrespectful it is to call your girlfriend those names. How do I make him understand what he is doing is wrong and no matter who he is with no one will take that from him? Should I break up with him? I am so comfortable with him and I have a great time with him but he doesn't connect on an emotional level with me.
You don't have a relationship with him, He is mentally abusing you. Calling someone names is not acceptable even if you two are in a relationship. Reality, Spouses do fight yes, but no matter how mad one gets putting someone down is just wrong.
I'm going to say, Leave him. Nobody needs to be with someone who is going to kill your self esteem and abuse you. Communication is a important part of a relationship and if he can't be mature enough to do it the right way then he isn't going to find anyone. I'd dump him, Cut contact and meet someone who is right for you. Don't let assholes play stupid games, You are better than that.
I'm 20 years old and I've been with my boyfriend whose 22 for over 5 months. We've had a few problems, mainly minor but so far things are going great.
There is one problem though when we're having sex he won't take off his shirt. Actually make it where he won't let me see him without his shirt period. I actually tried pulling up his shirt because I wanted to try something new, and as soon as I did that he pulled his shirt back down.
When I asked him if I could see him without his shirt off, he said no. I asked him "Why not? I'm not your girlfriend," again he told me no.
He's the only boyfriend of mine that I've never seen fully naked. He does have a lot of body issues, he's overweight from playing football and has never been able to take off all of the weight. I'm used to when I'm having sex actually getting to see the guy naked.
He loves me and I love him, we're both very much into sex. He's seen me naked and topless a bunch of times, I would like to have the opportunity to see him naked.
Is there anything that I can do to get him to feel more comfortable about taking his shirt off in front of me?
He is insecure
I would sit down and talk to him, Tell him you love him none the less. If you two are going to be intimate with each other then he is going to have to learn to trust you. Relationships aren't a one way street and with a little communication and work he'll slowly begin to feel more comfortable around you. You two may be having sex but clearly your boyfriend doesn't fully trust you just yet. He may be afraid you will judge him, make fun of him, think of him differently etc. This is where the communication comes to play but try not too pressure him just remind him that you love him no matter what and he has nothing to worry about. Whenever he is ready, He'll come around
I have a teacher at school who has been very helpful and understanding since my freshman year. I am graduating at the end of the year, and would really like him to know what kind of affect he has had on me. Trouble is, I know a lot of students tell him at the end of the year how influential and great he has been with them--- and I want what I say to be memorable and stand out.
I planned on just going with what feels natural, and telling him after school one day after I've graduated how much I appreciate him and how he has been like a father-figure. Is that saying too much? I also planned on giving him a copy of my senior picture with a quote about teachers on the back.
THOUGHTS? Thanks so much. God bless!
It is okay to give a teacher a note expressing how his education has made a positive impact on you but nowadays I would be very careful to how you put things. You wouldn't want your teacher to get the wrong impression yet alone think you are coming on too him. I would definitely skip the whole father figure as I think that would be a bit much to say to a teacher. A note should be nothing more than a thank you and a few words as although your intentions aren't wrong I would again be careful on how you word it.
Everytime I take a home pregnancy test I not pregnant but I'm trying am I doing things ok?
Becoming pregnant comes with a lot of planning.
The best way to track your best times are to buy an ovulation kit, Keep track of when you ovulate monthly. Also, It takes some couples up too a year to find success in getting pregnant and if after a year you are still have trouble then you should visit your local fertility clinic. Expecting isn't about having sex and taking home test all the time.
Okay first off I'm not a mean person and I'm sorry already on how this is going to come out. First off theres this... well whore. She's next to me by locker which I don't mind cuz she basically doesn't even see I'm alive next to her. But I really don't mind that. But, she also now sits next to me in life studies since we changed our seats. When the teacher called on me for a question she go's we don't have an *my name* in this class. The the teacher said I was right next to her and she was like ohhhh I didn't know her name. And mind you we've been in school together for years now. She is too busy with her dramatic life of going through boys like tissues but hey not my problem or reputation. To my point, myself and a few others had to work in a group with her. I did everything while she did her math homework and did other peoples homework for money. I ask her to help (yeah probably not in a perfect polite manner) but they she did her whole attitude thing. I backed off because she wouldn't hesitate to hit me and I don't go that way even though I could win if I had true motivation. She's not pissed off anymore, ya know to busy with herself. (Lucky for me I suppose.) I can't talk to the teacher to ask to move because her daughter is in the same class as me and they are best friends and I don't want to ride that train. So she won't move me. Nothing seems to be in my favor lately. I can usually supress my annoyance but she just sends me over. I usually take my anger out at my sport (don't worry its individual so I don't hurt anyone. But it also takes a lot to get me mad. But she's talking about how this other girl hasn't made out with her boyfriend yet and she already has. Blah blah. I don't feed on drama, I could live without it. She just gets under my skin.
Show her you aren't interested, Each time she talks about drama change the subject. If you really have a problem and can't stand her then ask the teacher if you could be seated elsewhere perhaps they could switch you with someone else in the class. This girl sounds like she loves attention, If you don't give it too her eventually she'll probably move on to someone else. If she continues to talk about drama when you show no interested then you can slip her a little reminder by saying "I'm not into drama" and walk away. Personally, I hate girls that go on and on about stupid crap too. This is why every time someone talks drama I either show no interest or I remind them that I don't do the drama. I'm not sure if you have assigned seats but try sitting on the other side of the room if it makes you more comfortable.
i have developed some itchy sores around my genital area..... but i have only been sexually active once... im not sure what it is....
Go to the doctor, Sometimes all it takes is one time.
20/F
Long story short, I have 3 roommates. We were all best friends and inseparable. One of them (Dakota) basically picked a boy (who happened to be one of my other roommates, Shaina's, ex-romance) over the rest of us and now we all can't stand even the sight of her. She started talking to a guy that Shaina previously dated, someone Shaina had talked to us several times about, and ruined Shaina and said boy's reborn friendship. Dakota knew beforehand that Shaina did not want any type of romance to develop between her best friends and this guy. Dakota also knew everything Shaina was feeling about this guy. She also never apologized to Shaina for doing this to her, and when she did, it was an empty apology. She never apologized to me and my other roommate for bringing drama into the apartment. She chose a 1-week texting romance (with "deep conversation"), a boy she has seen 3 times in person, a boy who lives an hour away, a boy Shaina specifically told Dakota to please not flirt with (because she has to be TOLD not to flirt with guys), and basically disregarded her feelings and is now dating him. I am mostly mad because she continued hurting Shaina, someone she considered one of her best friends, and was okay with it. She continously lied to us about the situation and although at first I didn't take sides, it really hurt me deep that she could so easily stab someone in the back that she considered one of her best friends. There are also a LOT of underlying issues, but this whole fiasco is what brought us to realize these issues existed instead of pretending they weren't there.
After Shaina began to accept things, she had a talk with Dakota and said she didn't forgive her yet but she was willing to become adjusted to everything. ONE DAY LATER Dakota invited him over and lied and told us that he surprised visited her. We found out later from him that she had been texting him all day and had been begging for him to come over. I told her that he needed another place to stay. I found this to be so inconsiderate that she would not even ask us for permission. No matter who I invite to the apartment, I ALWAYS ask my roommates if it's okay. A day later, things blew up when she told us she was now dating him. She lied again and said that she never lied to us about inviting him over, and lied about other things that she "didn't" lie about.
Now I'm afraid of what will happen when she invites him over. I do NOT want to be put in the situation where we would have to deal with both her and this boy. I know that since we are no longer friends with her, she won't care about our opinions and will just bring him to the apartment, no warning, no questions asked. Besides asking her (she probably would just ignore me) is there any way I can avoid this happening, especially since it's 3 vs. 1? She would definitely bring him over to just throw everything in our face and I don't need the extra stress.
Does this girl pay the rent? Does she help with the bills? Does she bring food into the house hold? If she does, Then you and Shaina don't have much say on who she can and can't have over.
You can however sit her down and discuss how you all feel about the situation but don't come across as if you are out too attack her. Calmly, Tell her that you find it bothersome that she wants to bring someone into the house who Shania previously dated and you feel that if he comes over it will stir tension and cause an argument. Try to come to an agreement that she can go over his house or see him elsewhere but if she doesn't seem to be okay with that then like I said there isn't much you can do about it. It sucks, but as long as she pays part of the bills then she will have her say too. You both will just have to be mature enough to handle the situation.
OK. This is what eating me(making me mad and sad).
My sister is mean to me sometimes. If she wasn't and I wasn't always trying to get her back we would be all most bsfe(best sister friends ever). Now my Mom has a new baby on the way(a sister)and I don't want her(my older sister) to be mean to this one too. One day we were talking about the baby and my sister said that she was mean to me because when I came I"massed things up" and she said some more and I'm not going in to that. But she likes baby's so I don't know weather I have some thing to worry about or not. I've been in a place were your sister is mean to you and I DON'T want for this baby to have to go in and out of that thing too. But by the time this baby's 2 she will be 18 and out. She is still mean to me so I need someone to tell me how to keep Ms mean from being mean.
Siblings do fight, There isn't a whole hell of a lot of you can do to prevent it. As far as this new baby goes, I don't think you really have much to worry about because there is a big age difference between them. Siblings who are closer in age tend to be the ones who fight and argue more frequently. As far as your relationship goes with her I think it's normal you both are siblings. Once your sister moves out, You will see a big difference. She will grow, She'll learn to be independent and over time she will mature.
i sorta like this guy..but i dont think all my friends would approve of him because i heard them talking bad about another girls boyfriend like "hes not goodenough for you" or "hes ugly". i know i shouldnt care..but their opinion matters to me and i dont want them to talk bad about me or the guy behind my back. what do i do/say?
If you like this guy and you feel you two are right for each other then date him, Relationships aren't about what your friends think it's about what YOU want and what makes YOU happy.
If their opinion matters on who you decide to be with, Then you are allowing your friends to basically choose for you. Rumors have it all but not everything you hear is true. You friends will always have opinions no matter whether you have their approval or not, You just cannot satisfy everyone. If your friends decide to talk badly behind your back instead of being happy for you then these wouldn't be true friends to begin with.
Hi there. My partner has just told me he doesn't want children any time soon. The thing is, I hae a daughter who we raise together. We've been together 3 years and my daughter is 3 and a half, her biological dad sadly died in a road accident before she was born so he is the only dad she knows. He says he's not really but this doesnt make sense as he is already raising my daughter? Plus he still insists he doesnt love me yet. He's a nice guy, he takes care of me and my daughter but I'm getting sick of this 'i don't love you yet' stuff. He is upsetting me, should he love me by now? Does he know? Its silly, is he using me? We live together, he works occassionally but I support him financially. Basically, what if he never loves me? Half of me wants to give him all the time he needs, we are in no rush and I really want to be with him, but the other half is angry and wondering if I should stick up for myself more. It would be nice for my daughter to have abrother/sister whilst she is still young, this is also better for me as I want to go back to work in the future and having a child later on would make it harder. I do love him, I tell him often, and I don't want to push. I know he cares for me, I just feel used sometimes. I dont know if I have a right to feel this way though or if i should give him more time and respect his feelings...
3 years is a long time to be with someone for them to still not be sure of whether they love the person or not. This guy sounds like he is confused on the relationship, If it were me I'd give him an ultimatum either he sorts out how he feels or you hit the gas and leave him off the bandwagon. I would generally say give him some time but 3 years is just long enough to keep someone hanging.
I would also advise you both to take time apart, but considering this guy works and that is your time apart I'm probably going to tell you that maybe it's time to leave the relationship. You have the responsibility of raising your daughter and you don't need the baggage of constantly wondering if you are with someone who loves you or not. This guy sounds like he is sticking around for your daughter but at the same time he states he isn't her father. If he is in her life and helping you raise that child then he IS her father whether it's blood or not. I'll give you my opinion rather then advise: I'd leave and find someone that knows what they want.
Hi, im a 15 year old girl.My boyfriend is 17years.
At first he was my friend and I always said I will have a boyfriend when i finish school, unfortunately that did not happen.we now have sex, he always wants money from me and I would give him.I love him so much and i think the reason why i feel like I cant do without him is because i do not live with my dad and theres no proper father and daughter cummunication.my mom
does not live with me either. he told me he will show me the love im not recieving from my parents,but this demanding way of him steps in some time and ill have to give him money or what he wants.What should I do ? leave him.
He is using you for money and sex.
This guy manipulates you by saying he loves you and all that other bogus because he knows your weak points. This guy doesn't love you, he loves your money and sex. My best advise is to dump him and cut all contact. Love is not using someone and it certainly isn't manpulating them.
Love is about trust, honesty and caring about a person's feelings. He does not care about you and if he did he would not be using you or asking you for money all the time. This guy is a dirt bag and doesn't deserve you. Find someone who will respect you and like you for who you are.