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all i want is love
Hi, im a 15 year old girl.My boyfriend is 17years.
At first he was my friend and I always said I will have a boyfriend when i finish school, unfortunately that did not happen.we now have sex, he always wants money from me and I would give him.I love him so much and i think the reason why i feel like I cant do without him is because i do not live with my dad and theres no proper father and daughter cummunication.my mom
does not live with me either. he told me he will show me the love im not recieving from my parents,but this demanding way of him steps in some time and ill have to give him money or what he wants.What should I do ? leave him.
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From what I see you don't truly love him and he dont truly love you and he will NEVER love you. He might be older than you but he is NOT mature and neither are you. I learned that once you have sex, it's extremely hard to let go of that person because of that strong connection. The thing is that that connection is not love even though it may feel like it. It really is just lust and you are scared to let that feeling go. The best thing to do is leave him and spend years (since you are still young) to find the perfect guy for you. Right now just focus on YOUR life and don't worry about adding a person to your life until you are almost done in high school or in college. Once you got your own life straight, more than likely the perfect guy will automatically come to your life.
I hope your life goes great and don't let guys distract you from your life, if you do then you may regret it later.
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This guy sounds extremely dangerous, like he's very controlling. He probably thinks that he can take advantage of you because you are 15 years old, and you don't have as much experience as some of the other girls that he knows. Unlike most girls his age and your age you also don't have the love of your parents and knows that you're very vulnerable. It is NEVER acceptable for a guy to take your money, I made this mistake before with my first boyfriend... my current boyfriend refuses to take money from me.
It sounds like you may need to go to therapy, I suggest that you go to your school guidance counselor and let him or her know what's going on and that you would like to see a therapist. Maybe you even have a school psychologist that you can see? I think that you should talk to that person about how you feel like not having a close relationship with your parents is having a negative influence on you and you feel like you're in danger of being in a controlling relationship.... see what they have to tell you.
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He's no good. Plain and simple. First of all, I'm sorry that you're going through this. I understand where you're coming from. But my advice would be to stop seeing him, even as a friend. Cut him off completely. He shouldn't be taking your money, especially because he's manipulating you, knowing you're in love with him, therefore, you won't say no. Please, stop seeing this guy. I know it's hard because you're in love with him, but I know if it were one of your friends in your shoes right now, you would advise him or her that he isn't in the best interest for her.
You are 15 years old. You're so young! And full of capability. You have time to date, to meet new people, to figure out whether you want to work, school, or travel after graduating high school! You are limiting yourself at this moment. I guarantee you, you WILL find someone better than this guy. Someone who loves you, respects you, and will give to you more than he receives. Someone who will provide you that love that you deserve. All you have to do is better yourself. Keep going to school, get great grades. Meet new people and have healthy supportive friends. Along the way, whether it be a year from now or 20, you will meet someone who will fill that empty space in your heart that desires love. This guy won't. He doesn't respect you, judging by what you're telling us. I wish you the best!!!
Uniq
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This guy is a draining influence on you. He knows you're vulnerable, you're young without stabilising influences of family or parents. At 15, you're old enough to be able to stand on your own two feet but too young to know how the world works or about the scum that floats to the top now and again.
He's not supporting you in any way, all the effort is coming from you. Dump him and get your life back, the one you should be having that is, having fun with friends and learning about life in a supported way if that's at all possible.
Best of luck, I'll be thinking about you, I know how hard it can be to shake off a leech like this, but you can do it. Let me know how it goes?
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He is using you for money and sex.
This guy manipulates you by saying he loves you and all that other bogus because he knows your weak points. This guy doesn't love you, he loves your money and sex. My best advise is to dump him and cut all contact. Love is not using someone and it certainly isn't manpulating them.
Love is about trust, honesty and caring about a person's feelings. He does not care about you and if he did he would not be using you or asking you for money all the time. This guy is a dirt bag and doesn't deserve you. Find someone who will respect you and like you for who you are.
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