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im a girl. and im 14 :p okay so, ill start rom the beginning. in April i dated this guy Magilla (ehh, code name). he was my first love and i dated him for three months.he left me because i wouldnt have sex with him. and i was so heart broken. id have alot of good friends that helped me. one of them was Jonny. Jonny at that time had a girlfriend that he was with for a whole year. so he was there for me through everything. so when school started again in August, Jonny helped me get to most of my classes and i started to really like him. and i knew he did too. me and Jonny would always get high together and have the most funnest time ever when we hung out :)he was like me brother. but i always felt like hed use me becase when his girlfriend wasnt there hed treat me like i was his gf. and i didnt like that. him and his gf broke up last week (its October now)and he asked me out. but......i dont like him as much as he likes me. being in a relationship with him is so different from us just being friends. his kiss dosent feel right. nor when we cuddle. im so confused. i wanna leave him but i know we wont have the same friendship we had befor. help? :( (link)
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well the best thing to do is talk to him about your feelings. tell him that you found out that your not ready to be together like this. tell him at first you thought you were ready but you were wrong. tell him how much you like being friends and that you hope that you two can stay friends forever and thats all you want for now. its the best thing for you to do, i know when y'all break up you two wont be the same as before at first but in a year or 2 things will go back to normal. I hope i helped!
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Never been to one of those haunted houses theme parks ever and i never planned on it either until my brother called me today and told me i was going, like forcing me. I find it very rude, but then again i kind of understand why he wants me to go out because i barely leave the house now a days because i am homeschooled. Thing is I'm not a fan of horror and i have a sleep paralysis disorder. Where i suffer from hallucinations when i sleep, basically from stress or something real scary i saw. I can overcome it though, its not a big deal, but should i just go anyways? Just to do something different for a change or just drop it? Because something is telling me i should go if not ill regret it? (link)
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If you know you can overcome it then go, just go without thinking about it. If it gets too scary just think about how fake it is, all of it is fake. My mom used to always stay home sleeping because she's used to it, but not going out can mess up your future. Get every chance you can to go out. If you suffer from stress, going out is a perfect idea. It keeps your mind busy. Also a good idea is when you are done with the haunted house see if your brother can take you out to a place that is bright lit and cold like an ice cream place because the light can calm your mind from scary thoughts and the cold can help slow your heart back to normal speed. All of this is just from experience so i hope it helps! :) if you need help on anything else just ask me :)
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I'm Male/16. I'm very interested in science, but not just regular science, theoretical & fringe science. I like to think that NOTHING is impossible. I believe that a God is possible, but not as much the religious god from Christianity. I think that I was a lot happier when I was a Christian. I remember feeling a lot better about life. But, I disagree with a lot of the teachings and some things just make no sense. I think we all have souls, and that when our physical body dies, we leave as an energy that cannot be destroyed, like our souls are scientific, but just cannot be understood by our physical minds. I also think that our energies have meanings to which we will never know and time doesn't apply. I used to go to church and communion. But if I go back, I'll feel like a fool, I kind of want yo go back but I don't want the criticism and force to feel guilty. I don't need Jesus talk or go pray things. More like God and my Soul. I feel like I've lost faith but there's still a little bit deep inside of me. (link)
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I am not religious, but i was before. I was a christian but i cant seem to believe in it. But I see that you believe in something, but you are not sure what you believe in. I understand why you feel happier when you were a christian. It's because you felt like you had a strong connection to something. Going back to being a christian is NOT the answer. Just study different religions and soon you will find something that you can fully have faith to. When you find the right religion for you, you will feel happy and have that connection back. Good luck.
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Hi, im a 15 year old girl.My boyfriend is 17years.
At first he was my friend and I always said I will have a boyfriend when i finish school, unfortunately that did not happen.we now have sex, he always wants money from me and I would give him.I love him so much and i think the reason why i feel like I cant do without him is because i do not live with my dad and theres no proper father and daughter cummunication.my mom
does not live with me either. he told me he will show me the love im not recieving from my parents,but this demanding way of him steps in some time and ill have to give him money or what he wants.What should I do ? leave him. (link)
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From what I see you don't truly love him and he dont truly love you and he will NEVER love you. He might be older than you but he is NOT mature and neither are you. I learned that once you have sex, it's extremely hard to let go of that person because of that strong connection. The thing is that that connection is not love even though it may feel like it. It really is just lust and you are scared to let that feeling go. The best thing to do is leave him and spend years (since you are still young) to find the perfect guy for you. Right now just focus on YOUR life and don't worry about adding a person to your life until you are almost done in high school or in college. Once you got your own life straight, more than likely the perfect guy will automatically come to your life.
I hope your life goes great and don't let guys distract you from your life, if you do then you may regret it later.
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Hey so I'm a sixteen year old girl in high school, junior year. I've been dating this guy for 18 months and he just turned eighteen, a senior. Something I've always kind of noticed about him are his very protective tendencies. When we first started dating it wasn't so bad, he was about as protective of me as he was his little sister so I knew it was out of concern and coming from a caring place. As we've continued dating, he's started to verge on the over protective side, and this I don't like. He get's so angry when guys make crude and dirty comments about me to him. Like, obviously joking comments. He plays football and all of the guys give eachother crap about everyone's girlfriend. It doesn't bother me, but it bothers him. And just last weekend he almost tried to fight some kid at a party who was being, I'll admit, out of line with me. The kid was grabbing and pulling me and wouldn't listen to me when I told him to stop and wouldn't let go. I appreciated when my boyfrined came over and told the guy to let go, but I didn't appreciate how he continued to threaten the other guy and how he completely escalated the situation. When my boyfriend does those kind of things I feel like he isn't even concerned abotu me at that point. I feel that it hasn't become about protecting me its become about HIM protection HIS "property". You know what I mean? Like he's doing it for himself and that just bothers me. Not only is it embarassing for me but its a little frightening too. We've had talks about it before but he I don't think he understands what I mean. Does anyone know what I'm trying to say here and how I should say it to him?? If so, please help!!
(Oh, by the way, on a side note. He constantly defends his over protective attitude by saying I'm too small to protect myself properly, which also extremely annoying. I know I'm physically little but that still bothers me that he doesn't think I can take care of myself. Any advice on how to handle that too? PLEASE don't tell me to break up with the kid. We've worked through so many bigger issues together, I'm not ending our relationship over this.) (link)
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Well first off I am a girl and I currently have a boyfriend that was just like yours. I have been with him for a bit over a year and it drove me nuts, but I also understand his point of view, too.
Well first off lets look at your boyfriends point of view. In his mind it's his job to be protective and I think he is very sweet for that. He wants to make sure you are safe, emotionally and physically. Since he is your boyfriend his automatic response is to care for you. He loves you and just wants what's the best for this relationship.
BUT... it's too much especially for a high school relationship! It gets very aggravating when people want to take control of your life. So what do you do? Take him out to dinner and have a talk with him. First start off with asking him to listen and don't speak until you are done talking. Then tell him that you really love that he cares about you and how you love that you know he will always be there for you... but tell him it's too much. Basically say that you own your life, you are a teenager and you wanna be able to take care of yourself. Tell him you might be small but you have a big, strong heart and no words in this world can hurt this heart. Tell him that you always want him by his side protecting you but you want him to let go just a tiny bit. Also mention that you don't ever want him to fight because you care about him too. Just talk calm with him and tell him how you feel. Now tell him what he should do for now on: tell him to just stay right next to you, hold your hand, and if something goes wrong, don't over exaggerate, and just tell him to give you the chance to stand up for yourself.
I hope everything works out!
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