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This girl is annoying the heck out of me and I don't knwo what to do!
Okay first off I'm not a mean person and I'm sorry already on how this is going to come out. First off theres this... well whore. She's next to me by locker which I don't mind cuz she basically doesn't even see I'm alive next to her. But I really don't mind that. But, she also now sits next to me in life studies since we changed our seats. When the teacher called on me for a question she go's we don't have an *my name* in this class. The the teacher said I was right next to her and she was like ohhhh I didn't know her name. And mind you we've been in school together for years now. She is too busy with her dramatic life of going through boys like tissues but hey not my problem or reputation. To my point, myself and a few others had to work in a group with her. I did everything while she did her math homework and did other peoples homework for money. I ask her to help (yeah probably not in a perfect polite manner) but they she did her whole attitude thing. I backed off because she wouldn't hesitate to hit me and I don't go that way even though I could win if I had true motivation. She's not pissed off anymore, ya know to busy with herself. (Lucky for me I suppose.) I can't talk to the teacher to ask to move because her daughter is in the same class as me and they are best friends and I don't want to ride that train. So she won't move me. Nothing seems to be in my favor lately. I can usually supress my annoyance but she just sends me over. I usually take my anger out at my sport (don't worry its individual so I don't hurt anyone. But it also takes a lot to get me mad. But she's talking about how this other girl hasn't made out with her boyfriend yet and she already has. Blah blah. I don't feed on drama, I could live without it. She just gets under my skin.
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You have to stop hating or resenting her and thinking of her as a whore for instance? Why? This type of thinking and stewing about another person is toxic only to YOU.
I refer to it as the Draino effect. It's like drinking a tub of that every single time you think negatively about her. You don't have to like everyone you meet but you do need to learn to tolerate her.
It's actually a good test for you having to sit next to her. If you can learn to tolerate her and understand that this is how she is and not be bothered over it that's great. You're going to find yourself working later on with people just like her and will have to adapt.
What I want you to do is to think about her as you want others to think of you and chuck any negative thoughts. Be kind to her, she needs that and pretty soon if you're just cordial you won't find a problem with her or think about it. You might find a friend in someone you thought was an enemy. Try a new strategy in handling her.
Accept that this is how she is with EVERYONE and that her social skills or lack thereof probably angers a lot of people. That's for her to learn to fix but not for you to worry about. Let it slide off your back like water on a duck. Don't let yourself waste time dwelling on her habits.
If she tries to talk to you and launches into gossip tell her that you don't talk about others if they aren't present nor concern yourself with their private business. Maybe she'll get it.
You could very nicely tell her that there are some things she does that makes people not want to befriend or have anything to do with her. She can't see that yet. Maybe she would work on herself then. It might do her a huge favor and adjust her attitude.
You also have to wonder were her attitude and annoying behavior starts at. People who act like she does usually have no self-esteem or a bad situation at home or are exposed to the same toxic type of people she's allowed herself to become. Maybe she knows no other way to act because her parents are too interested in other people's business and talking about it too. Dunno but strong chance. She gets it from somewhere.
What you need to do is realize she seeks attention and acts this way for attention that she craves or is socially inept. At either rate tune it all out no matter what and only worry about you and chuck the toxic thinking about her as it's hurting you more than her.
Also, say what you need to say to people and don't be scared of them. I doubt she would hit you and if she did it would result in suspension. It's not worth it to her.
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Show her you aren't interested, Each time she talks about drama change the subject. If you really have a problem and can't stand her then ask the teacher if you could be seated elsewhere perhaps they could switch you with someone else in the class. This girl sounds like she loves attention, If you don't give it too her eventually she'll probably move on to someone else. If she continues to talk about drama when you show no interested then you can slip her a little reminder by saying "I'm not into drama" and walk away. Personally, I hate girls that go on and on about stupid crap too. This is why every time someone talks drama I either show no interest or I remind them that I don't do the drama. I'm not sure if you have assigned seats but try sitting on the other side of the room if it makes you more comfortable.
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