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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.

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I need to find the five most significant discoveries in chemistry since 1970 and I've been searching google.com but I can't find anything. Would anyone be able to find me a website that has what I need?

Thank you.

One that I feel is greatly significant is the discovery made by Candace B. Pert, PH.D. in 1972. She was the one who discovered the opiate receptors in the brain. This discovery could eventually lead to helping those with drug addictions. She did not win a Nobel Prize for this but I think it was worthy of one. It could be because she was only 26 at the time and they felt she wasn't seasoned enough. Below is a web site with a compilation of all chemists who won the Nobel Prize. I would think any of these would be considered significant. Good luck in your project.



http://almaz.com/nobel/chemistry/chemistry.html



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LULABELLE

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My bf came over to my place one day while I went to check my mail. I came back with all my mail, a couple of bills, and one letter that had no return address on it. My bf got very suspicous and asked me who could of wrote it. I said I didnt know, and that it was none of him business. He accused me of cheating on him. I got really mad and told him to leave. He said he wouldnt leave until I opened the letter. I told him no, so he grabbed the letter and opened it. It turned out to be my cousin. I told him we were through.
Is what he did illegal? I heard someone say once that it's illegal to open someone elses mail. Does anyone here know?

It's illegal to tamper with any mail that is in a mailbox whether it is at the Post Office or your mailbox at your home. It is even illegal for anyone to put flyers in your mailbox such as restaurant menus or handyman advertisements. Opening someone else's mail against their will is illegal and what your boyfriend did to you could possible fall under assault too. Something I've learned from experience is that when someone is accusing you of something or suspicious of you it is usually because they are doing what they are accusing you of. I think you made a good decision to break up with him.



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LULABELLE

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I am 13 and have never had a bf. All of my friends laugh at me behind my back. I found this out after we had a school dance a couple of nights ago. I danced with this one senior who is kind of on the geeky side, but he's a really nice guy. He's also the only guy who asked me to dance, all the guys in my class don't really like me. Well I found out from one of my nicer friends that all these girls that I thought were my friends were laughing at me at the dance and saying that Lee (the guy I danced with ) was the only guy I could get. They were also laughing and saying what a geek I was for never having a bf.
I was really hurt and felt like crying. Since when is it a crime to have never had a bf? I know girls a lot older than me that arent dating.
What should I do?

I know that it feels awful rignt now. You feel betrayed by these people and rightly so. Something I've seen time and time again is...the people that think they are sooo coool while they are in school are not all that when they get out into the real world. Oh, and something else? I'd hang out with that geeky senior. It's the geeks who run this world, look at Bill Gates! Can't get much geekier than that or richer.


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LULABELLE

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my beta has not eaten for about 6 days? does anyone know why? i have been giving him tetramin and betta pellet food and he has not done anything but let it sit there and float to the bottom..so i end up cleaning the tank about every 1-2 days..i dont want him to die either does anyone know what his problem is? HELLPPPP!

Miss May

He may be having trouble digesting his food if the room is cooler than 76 degrees Fahrenheit. Bettas are tropical, so they need 76 to 85 all the time in order for their bodies to function properly. Don't allow temperatures to quickly fluctuate more than a degree or two, as this will cause undue stress to the betta. If you put a light on him it will warm his water and help quite a bit. Keep it on 24 hours a day so it stays warm all the time. Change his water at least once a week. Be sure the new water is the same temperature as the old water and use a water conditioner. When feeding your betta it is wise to give them a variety of different foods. A staple food such as betta bites, betta bio-gold, or betta min should be fed on a daily basis once or twice day and only 5 or 6 pellets at a time. However, some bettas love variety, and can be fed freeze dried or frozen bloodworms, baby brine shrimp, or live foods such as mosquito larvae 2 or 3 times a week. Some often refuse to eat anything but live food. They are best feed live fish or live black worms. Black worms are often an appreciated food and can be a good choice to use when trying to teach these fish to learn to eat frozen food. It is important to give them a varied diet and they can be very slow eaters. Bettas are also nocturnal, so he may be eating at night and you don't see it. They love darkness and places to hide because in their natural habitat they live in caves. I wish you luck with your betta.


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LULABELLE

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Me and my friend want to start a "band" so there would be two singers. I was wondering if anyone has any songs that have two singers in them. We already have a couple of Aly and AJ songs. But we would like some more. If you have any ideas please help.
I rate 5's for good answers.

I've been involved with a lot of bands and musicians. What I've noticed happens when you have two singers in a group is that they split the songs up according to the sound of someoneâ??s voice or they simply split the singing between the two of them. I've also see people splitting a song. One person sings certain parts of a song while the other sings the other parts. You could also write your own stuff that will include two singers. You can slip your original work in here and there among the commercial songs you are performing. I hope some of these suggestions helps your creative juices to flow. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavour.


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LULABELLE

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okay is it true that your boobs can become deformed if youre wearing a bra cup size too small..? cuz mine tend to hurt after a while and i think my bras getting a little small.. cuz im like right between an a and b.. and its really difficult to find a nice bra.

What you need to do is go into a department store or someplace that specializes in under garments and have a professional measure you. They will fit you with the appropriate size bra. I know it's weird to have someone measuring you, but it is worth your while because you will never find a better fit. They will also teach you what to look for in a bra and how to go about shopping for one. It really is the best and most accurate method. Also, just to let you know, it is not good to be wearing a bra that is too small. The reason is not because it will deform you, but because it constricts the flow of fluids such as lymph glands. There have been studies done which show a link to wearing a bra and breast cancer. I think that this is because people aren't getting the appropriate fit. So, get out there and find the right fit for you. Good luck.


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Well yesterday I took a 2 hour nap and then a couple hours layter I wanted to go to bed I couldnt sleep, I finally got to sleep at like 2 am then today I had cramps really bad I mean like wear I wanted to leave school bad they were horrible. && I dont know if it is like a part of my period or what because I mean I feel really shitty and everything and I dunno I am going to go to the nurse next period. This is really odd. Please help. All 5`s

[[♥]] TiFF

There is a chemical explanation for what is happening to you. The week before your menstrual cycle your body is producing the greatest amount of testosterone. Testosterone is the primary male anabolic steroid hormone. They are producing it all of the time. Women, on the other hand, produce it also but mainly one week before your monthly visit. Testosterone is also responsible for the aggressive behavior that women exhibit prior to their menstrual cycle. And if you feel restless and can't sleep? Yep, it is a contributing factor. What you need to do is work off some of that nervous energy and that can be done simply by taking a walk or some form of exercise. This will help you sleep at night. The week before your cycle is also a good time to quit eating anything dairy. Dairy cows are kept on hormones to keep their utters lactating. These hormones find their way into your milk, cheese, ice cream or anything else made with commercial dairy products. There are organically raised cows, which are milked. I recommend that if you are going to eat dairy you eat this type of product instead of the commercially produced items in your stores. You can usually find these products in your local health food store and some forward thinking grocery stores like Kroger or Ingles. In these stores there is usually a special section of the store sanction out for health food. You will find these items there instead of the dairy section of the store. You should also eat more fresh fruits and vegetables during this time. Believe it or not you will feel much better if you do. Good luck!



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LULABELLE

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okay so im a girl. 16 years old. and ive had my period for quite a few years. but i was just wondering if..
1) my breasts have stopped growing already and 2) lately i have had the constant urge to pee and even after i go i feel like i have to again...i was just wondering what it meant or what i can do about it.
3)if it is normal for a girl to day dream about having sex with her crush?


Thanks for all your help!

As far as your breasts are concerned they may grow larger but probably not. Later they will grow larger when you have children and could stay larger than you were when you have children. But, then, you may not. Take a look at your mother or someone in your family who has the same body type as you. This can give you an idea as to how large your breasts will become. It's a heredity thing.



I would see a doctor about that constant urge to pee problem. It could be a yeast infection or something else that is not life threatening, but your doctor can help you feel more comfortable.



And, yes it is normal to to day dream about having sex with someone you have a crush on.



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Is there anything I can find around the house to make my hands softer, besides soap?

Soap actually dries out our skin, so, the more you wash the dryer our skin becomes, especially in winter. Some things you may have around the house right now to help you out is as follows. Salt: What you would do here is put about a tblspn of salt in a bowl and a tblspn of olive oil. (Olive oil is the best household oil to use on your skin, but if you don't have any use any available oil you have until you can get olive oil.) Rub the mixture all on your hands really well. Wash and dry. You will notice a big difference in how your hands feel. You can also use corn meal as an exfoliate and in the same way. Salt gets better results. Periodically throughout the day you can moisturize your skin and there are several household items that you can do that with. Mayonnaise is great for that. Mayonnaise is eggs, vinegar/lemon juice, oil/olive oil, spices and preservatives. Simply take about a tblspoon at a time and put it into some kind of closed container. This will be what you will use. (You don't want to keep dipping your hands into the family mayonnaise.) A little goes a long way so tap it and then use it. If you have Crisco or any solid vegetable oils, they would make great creams and hydrators. You don't want your hands to feel greasy so use these things sparingly. If you have oat mill then make yourself a cup. When it is warm to the touch spread it all over your hands. Cover them as best you can in oat mill. Leave it on for 15-25 minutes. Rinse off in a sink with a garbage disposal or be sure to put the sink strainer in. This way the oat mill doesn't clog up your sink. This oat mill mask is great for your face/body too. You can add all kinds of things to it like honey and essential oils to get a more intensified treatment. Keep drinking liquids (not sugary sodas) throughout the day. Dry skin is a symptom of dehydration. I hope this has been of some help.



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LULABELLE

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I was wondering if anyone knows of Greek gods? What were the powers of the Greek gods /What did they do? Which fictional mythical creatures would be good for a fantasy story?

Here's a great site that has a story about all of the ancient gods. You just click on the figure and their story will pop up for you. I love the
Greek gods. You can have a lot of fun writing stories based on them. You could also write a story about how the Greek gods lead by Zeus overthrew the Titans and took power. Good luck and have fun!




http://www.mythweb.com/gods/index.html



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LULABELLE


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okay well ive always felt that ive had some sort of learning disorder. i am 16/f and get fairly good grades (all As and Bs) and take 2 honors classes but ive felt the higher the grade i am in the slower i get at getting things and mainly the dumber i am, i mean i know im not stupid but sometimes i just dont get things and have problems. i tell my parents that i think i have a slight learning disablitity and they just kind of laugh it off and say i dont. ive never had any kind of formal testing b/c my parents wont take me but ive taken some online surveys and they say that there is a "somewhat" need for me to see a specialist and my parents should consult my teachers and whatever...


what should i do? and are there any good websites that i can take good tests that are more than like 10 questions that could tell me if i could really need help?

It's entirely possible that you have a learning disorder. It sounds to me like you have problems focusing at times which isn't difficult to overcome and probably chemically based. Something your parents may not be aware of is that most highly intelligent people are the ones with what is considered learning disorders. Einstein had a learning disorder. He was dyslexic. Einstein couldn't read until he was 9 years old. I use the term learning disorder loosely because it is my opinion that there is no such thing as a disorder. It is just that there are some people who would show better results if they were taught by different techniques then those used on the majority. Or, people are eating the wrong foods. Society has developed learning institutions that are more like factory cookie stampings rather than developing and discovering the true purpose of the individual. We should be looking for the one thing that not only would be a contribution to society, but also something that is fulfilling and enriching to the individual. I only point this out as an observation and not a criticism. Educational personel are doing the best they can with the funds and support they are given. Teachers are under paid and under appreciated. Back to you...One of the first things you want to look at is your diet. If you are eating a lot of surgery products than you need to cut that out. Check the ingredients of all the foods you eat. You may not think you are eating that much sugar, but it is in almost everything you eat. Fast food? Tons of sugar. You can't even eat their salad dressing (sugar). Straight up white processed sugar is too concentrated and rushes through our systems and spikes. This concentrated surge of energy makes it very difficult to concentrate. Start out with cutting out things like sodas and cut down on candy (pies, cakes) to special occasions and see if that helps. If it doesn't keep cutting things out until us see an improvement. In its place eat more fresh fruits. Get a sweetener called "Agave" which is a cactus. This sweetener is 30 times sweeter than sugar and doesn't have the same affects on your system as sugar does. Diabetics can even have it. It has a slight caramel flavor and you'll love using it everywhere sugar is used. You can find it in most health food stores or online. If your local store doesn't have it they will usually order it for you too. I also included some sites below that give nutrition advice with regards to the brain. Scientists say that learning disorders are a chemical imbalance yet doctors prescribe synthetic substances to stimulate our brain functions when we are surrounded with the natural remedies to restore our brains to its proper balance. The web sites below will help you get started with feeding your brain. Good luck and if you have further questions feel free to contact me.


http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20031028-000010.html

http://enchantedmind.com/html/science/brain_food.html




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LULABELLE



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So I'll try to keep this short--

I'm a freshman this year. In November, me, this guy Seth, a junior, and a few other people went bowling. After, it was dark and we were walking around. It was like the group in front of us, and then Seth and me. In the middle of December, we were both at a party. It wasn't hardcore, but it was like a get-together. At like 10:15 he was like, "At least there are still SOME hot girls here." He said this to me. In the past couple days, more and more people have been saying, "Hey, I think Seth likes you. He said you were really hot." or "Seth said there was only one hot girl in (a club we're in), and that's you." Today, I gave a presentation to our school, he was sitting on the floor (I was on stage) under me and was staring at me the whole time. He has been staring at me a lot lately, and I think he likes me.

I wonder if he likes me, or just thinks I'm hot. What do you think? Also, what do you think about a freshman dating a junior? I've never had any romantic relationship. Do you have any advice to help me get him? I like him, too (well, duh)...

Any other dating advice (not those tip websites) would be appreciated.

Oh, and I don't see him very often, but we do go to the same school.

He probably does think you're hot. That's great! Don't worry about what his opinion of you is yet as far as hot vs brains. He doesn't know you. Now it's up to you to show him the depths of your character. Enjoy the flattery and if you are attracted to him too then you might consider being receptive to his approaches. Say "hi" to him whenever you see him and be open to conversations with him. Just be your "sweet" self that is so endearing and before you know it you will be on a date with him. I wish you the best of luck!



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LULABELLE

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I'm currently expecting my first child and my due date is fast approaching. I recently told my husband that I'm hurt that no one has offered to throw a baby shower even though everyone around us (family, friends, coworkers, church members) knows that we are expecting. He said that I should throw a baby shower for myself. I'm afraid that it would be a breach of etiquette and come across as greedy. With our current financial situation, the gifts would be helpful, but I want the shower more for the companionship and celebration that comes with it.
1) Would you consider it greedy if someone were to invite you to a baby shower they were throwing for themself?
2) What would you do in this situation?

Why not do something a little different that hasn't been done before and there is no precedence. Why not have a "Last Blast" party. The concept here is to invite everyone over for a last grownup party. Your inviting couples. Then, as I'm sure conversation will allow, you will talk about the up and coming event. I'm sure people will ask you about showers and parties etc. You can let them know then that no one has come forward to give you a shower. Do it in a sweet way. Also, why not go to your family and ask someone to throw you a shower. If it's because they don't want to do anything tell them you will take care of everything just host the party for you. You would then so everything from send out the invitations, coming up with party them/food, and cleaning up. I wouldn't think you would have to do everything really...just offer it. If one person doesn't want to be bothered why not ask several family members to do it together. Let them know you would be there to help if you can. Your husband can go to his side of the family and solicit. I'm sure they are all just caught up in their lives and just haven't noticed. There are a lot of distractions happening all around us these days. I wish you the best of luck!




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LULABELLE

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my skin is pale with a tint of red and i cant stand it. i use cover girl clean makeup creamy natural cover up and it always makes my face look like its pealing can anyone help??

It appears to me like you need to exfoliate your skin. From your description it sounds dry which is why makeup has that cakey look. What you need to do is get yourself a good granulated cleansing facial cream for sensitive/dry skin. Cleanse your face first with a good hydrating facial soap followed by the scrub. Rinse real well and then immediately apply a good hydrating cream afterwards. Do this once a week at first and then work yourself up to 2 or 3 times a week. Every morning after washing your face you need to apply moisturizer before applying the makeup. If you want you is to tone down that redness in your skin simply find the lightest makeup with a slight yellow tinge to it. The yellow will calm down the red appearance. Be sure to blend the makeup well because you don't want to have a makeup line on your face. Once your skin becomes healthy then you want to find a makeup that matches your skin exactly. Good luck to you!



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LULABELLE

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My cat is freaking me out! whenever im in bed she lies next to me. Then i'll pet her and she does a weird funky thing to my hair. She expands then inclines her paws in my haie and purrs. when shes done (3 mins) i feel my hair and theres drool! and my hairs all knotty! what is going on?

Awwww, she loves you... Your cat is so happy that she is marking you with her scent. Whenever you see a cat kneading or rubbing up against something they are leaving their scent a type of marking their territory but not exactly. This particular type of kneading should not be mistaken for a cat sharpening her/his claws or the marking of territory that is usually done by males to let other males of the species know that a certain area is his and to stay out. This territory marking is done usually through urination. Your cat is marking you with her love. The drooling is a physiological response to how happy she is to be with you. How lucky you are to have something in your life that loves you so much!



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LULABELLE

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this is a bit complex. a friend of mine (not really a close friend as all that although he likes to fel like he is but he knows he is not) was asking a girl out. seh didnt accept his advances and he told me and others that he has given up about her. After a long time, i got attracted to her, asked her out and she got down with me. we started dating and my "friend" got to hear about it. he gets paranoid over it. My friends adviced me not to bother telling him about me and the girl. and the girl herself says i can tell about us going out or not, depending on what i think. i decided not to tell him sice we are not really close (me and him). the guy goes about lieing that he is sleeping with the girl, saying they are dating. am sure its not true, but i dont feel comfoprtable about the way he goes about it. need advice thanks

Wow, there's a lot that could be going on here...I can see why you're confused. You have to be careful how you go about this. I know you don't think so, but your girlfriend could be seeing this guy (I only mention it as a possibility). I mean, she's not with you 100% of the time. You certainly can't say something if in that minuet possibility she has fit him in somehow. Or, everything could be as it seems. Yep, don't like these dilemmas. Here's an idea; you can now set your mind to seeing things from an objective view. Try to put your feelings for her aside for a moment (this may take some practice). This putting your feelings aside idea is for observation purposes only. I don't mean stop feeling. Find a nice quiet area to sit and release the tension that comes up for you when you think of all of this. Close your eyes. Be aware of your breathing...then breath in to the count of 8, hold it to the count of 8, then release it to the count of eight. Do this for as long as you can. Believe it or not there are people who can do this for hours. Once you've reached the maximum amount of time you can do this continue being aware of your breathing, but don't worry about the counting. Let all of the feelings that you are experiencing with regards to this situation come up for you. Now, starting with your scalp notice the tension you are experiencing here. With an outward breath relax and let that tension leave your body. Really feel it leaving and that area relaxing. You then repeat this with your forehead, face, neck, shoulders, abdominal, thigh, legs and finally your feet. Once you've achieved this state of relaxation stay with it for as long as you can. Also, repeat the word relax all throughout. Once practiced enough you could be under a really stressful situation and simply say the word relax to yourself and you will relax. Anyway, the point of this is to get you into a different state of mind. Once you come out of this you will be able to observe people. What I suggest you do is look at how your girlfriend treats her friends and family. If she is always lying to her friends and family or if she is mostly (nobody is perfect) truthful and honest with everyone, whatever her behavior is towards others, will be repeated with you. Once you're comfortable with what she is telling you is true, then I'd start questioning this guy. I'd ask him questions like: when was the last time you and (GF NAME) got together? Or, if he talks about being with her you can ask him when it was he was with her. If it happens to coincide with when you were with her you could say something like how interesting that is since you were with her at that exact time. Wow, she's more talented than I thought. Two places at the same time, etc. That's just an idea I have. I hope this at least helped your creative juices flow. The calming exercise will help with this. You can also use it anytime you feel stressed. I wish you the best of luck.



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LULABELLE

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Alright so me and my bf broke up 2 days ago but we are still basicly together nd tryin to fix things... the problem is I dont really want to i dont think. I dont know how I would be able to just end it with him without telling him straight out. Im not good with that sort of thing

People always tell me how i can do so much better and that he is just an ass and all this stuff But i dont think I can do better..

What should I do?

If your line of thinking is that you are going to stay with him because you don't think you can do any better then my vote is for a brake up. That is no reason to stay with someone. It's a shame that people have to use the thought process of someone being better or worse than someone else. I wish people would use more constructive statements like...the relationship between the two of you doesn't seem healthy, he dominates your life, he doesn't seem to have much ambition, etc. What I'll say to you is this...there is nothing wrong with ending a relationship no matter how long you've been in it if it is in your best interest to do so. You tried it and it didn't work with this guy. That's ok, oh, and that's what dating is all about. You date different people until you come upon the one person that resonates with you. There will always be disagreement in relationships, but there is someone out there that you will just seem to fit...and you'll know what I mean when you find them. So, if you have to be up front with him, you have to be up front. Have friends with you in case he gets upset and you have someone around to help you if you need it. What he isn't worth is the cost of your happiness and joy of life.



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LULABELLE

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Umm... I heard from a friend of mine that tall guys love short girls. I wanted to know why because I am six feet tall,not ugly,not fat. I used to say that all the shorts girls steal the tall guys, but its the other way around. Will I be left with the short guys? There is there are few a guys I'd consider dating that are like 3 inches shorter than me. Is that my limit?

Note: Highschool Junior, Female, Bicurious

There are guys who like short women, there are guys who like tall women, there are even guys who like us average women in between. Another thing I've noticed is there are guys that thought they liked one type of woman only to fall in love with the complete opposite of what they ever thought they would do. I guess my point is, as it is in all aspects of life, a toss up. Don't get bogged down in formulas. People are not always predictable when it comes to matters of love. Just enjoy your life. Have fun with everyone you meet and have no expectations of them. If someone is ever rude to you because of your height...they are an idiot. I think you've been given a great gift. I would have loved to have been tall.



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LULABELLE

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i know this is weird but why are some mean people popular, why would you wanna be friends with a mean person

just wondering?

There are many types of popular people. There are popular people who are caring and loving people. I've known quite a few of those. The so-called popular people that you are talking about are your garden-variety high school popular bully. These people use fear to maintain their position. These mean tactics that you are seeing being used in high school are the same tactics used in the corporate world. It's a popularity contest, unless you are in some kind of research or technical field. The good news is they can't be mean to you directly anymore. The bad news is they love coming up with rumors to undermined people. What you need to do is come up with some tactic that will make you necessary to them. Do that and they will be nice to you because they need you. This will work better when you get out into the working world. While you are in school it is just so superficial. It's all about who looks the best, has the most money, wears the best clothes, athletes, etc. There is very little compassion while you are in school. College is much better. You'll enjoy that. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it will always be there. There are just some people, for whatever reason, who simply thrive on the humiliation of others. This makes them feel more powerful and superior to others. I know this will be hard for you to understand right now because it just doesn't look that way, but these people are living in fear themselves. They do what they do so that they feel in control. Their world feels so out of control to them that they have to intimidate others. By doing this they maintain their delusion that they are superior to those they trample. Don't buy into it. I know what I'm saying is easier said than done, but stop worrying about what they may say or do. Just go about your life and do the things you want to and enjoy yourself. If they insult you or try to intimidate you simply ignore them. Don't show any reaction to them in any way. You can even feel pity for them because it is sad. And when you think about it their behavior doesn't deserve your attention. Eventually you will loose your intertainment value and they won't bug you anymore. They only bug people that they get a reaction from. You wouldn't be fun anymore. I do wish you the best of luck here. I know it's tough but it's like one of those initiation rites. We all have to live through it.



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LULABELLE

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i've been with this girl for a few months now even though we are usually in different towns. i don't konw if she accepts me as her boyfriend yet, even though when i asked her about it she does not give a yes or now but merely keeps communicating with me amorously. How do i find out form her if she takes me to be her boyfriend, if she akes me seriously if she has someone else,etc. Thank you.

The best way to find that out is to ask her. If she avoids the issue next time by continuing with amorous conversation...slow her down. Tell her she didn't answer your question. But, you must prepare yourself in case she gives you an answer you don't want to hear. You might even want to consider if you want to maintain a romantic or just friend's relationship with her. Remember, since y'all are usually in different towns, she may not think much can come of what is between the two of you. So, my thought is, since your relationship is so new you may consider patience. You may want to give her some more time to warm up to the idea of an exclusive relationship. Good luck to you and I hope whatever you truly desire becomes yours.



Namaste!



LULABELLE

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