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I'm confused by him.
So I'll try to keep this short--
I'm a freshman this year. In November, me, this guy Seth, a junior, and a few other people went bowling. After, it was dark and we were walking around. It was like the group in front of us, and then Seth and me. In the middle of December, we were both at a party. It wasn't hardcore, but it was like a get-together. At like 10:15 he was like, "At least there are still SOME hot girls here." He said this to me. In the past couple days, more and more people have been saying, "Hey, I think Seth likes you. He said you were really hot." or "Seth said there was only one hot girl in (a club we're in), and that's you." Today, I gave a presentation to our school, he was sitting on the floor (I was on stage) under me and was staring at me the whole time. He has been staring at me a lot lately, and I think he likes me.
I wonder if he likes me, or just thinks I'm hot. What do you think? Also, what do you think about a freshman dating a junior? I've never had any romantic relationship. Do you have any advice to help me get him? I like him, too (well, duh)...
Any other dating advice (not those tip websites) would be appreciated.
Oh, and I don't see him very often, but we do go to the same school.
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I would advise you to think about dating him, but also to go carefully. I say this last because guys who are too hung up on how beautiful a girl is are not really the best canidates for boyfriends-it tends to be the immature guys, or the ones with self issues, who bother about looks the most. That said, attraction is certainly neccesary, and the fact that he finds you good to look at is certainly a starting point. One thing not to lose sight of is how much you like him-do you find him good company, amusing, kind or is a large part of it the flattery of admiration from an older boy? Don't be offended, because that would be perfectly natural. Try also to find out a bit about him-it's a sad fact that some boys in older years will hit heavily on younger girls for sex, then dump them. I'm, not saying he's like that, just that you should find out a bit about his rep. But if you're satisfied that he's a good guy, and you find each other attractive, then perhaps get one of your mutual friends to approach him, and just see how the land lies.
Have fun, and good luck!
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He probably does think you're hot. That's great! Don't worry about what his opinion of you is yet as far as hot vs brains. He doesn't know you. Now it's up to you to show him the depths of your character. Enjoy the flattery and if you are attracted to him too then you might consider being receptive to his approaches. Say "hi" to him whenever you see him and be open to conversations with him. Just be your "sweet" self that is so endearing and before you know it you will be on a date with him. I wish you the best of luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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Well, I'd say take it slow, let it flow! Don't try to push and pull it or you'll not realize the best outcome. You're young, there's no hurry and enjoy the journey, right? Right!
Just become his friend, friends first I always say and I don't think it matters that he's a J and you're a F.... it's how mature we are and how we accept the responsibility of being human on this glorious planet.
When we're young our hormones run amuck... I may be an old lady but that I remember. And I will tell you that I was pregnant when I graduated from hs.... so I was lucky to finish... so don't be stupid like I was, it forever changed my life and now, at his age(61) I'm having a ball, but I should have had it right after hschool. Instead I had three kids, all good people, so I have no regrets.
Become his friend... and whatever you do, you stay in charge of your body and your choices and respect each other, demand he respect you as a woman....because you may not see yourself as that, but you are! And if you don't respect yourself, how can he.
Whenever you get a chance to chat with him, or perhaps exchange emails if you can't get together in person very much, do so a friends first not as boy and girl. I really like male friends myself, they tend not to gossip and want to shop all the time... or chit chat all the time. So many better things to do.
Make sure when you are around him that you make eye contact with him.... the eyes are the windows to your souls.... and you can communicate w/o saying anything. A good connection, a solid foundation of friendship first and then worry about a b/g relationship later if you both decide you really like each other as human beings. Sometimes the more we get to know someone, the less we begin to like them... I don't know why that is, but it is so sometimes.
And whatever you do, don't get jealous if he happens to have other female friends nor disallow yourself having other male friends. It's important to have a good circle of acquaintances when you're young or you'll become a recluse like I am.... and now it's hard to undo old ways.
Hope this silly answer helps... that was my intention. Have a really good rest of your school year and I wish you the best with your junior friend.... does he have dimples.... I love dimples, ha!
I'll be thinking of you and him.....
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Well I see it as, he's only been saying that you're hott. Is that what youre looking for in a guy? A guy who likes girls only becuase of their looks??
Its up to you. I dont think the age difference is gross. Just start talking to him more i guess.
hope i help.
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