Would the birth control pill prevent pregnancy if a guy doesn't wear his condom? Bbecause I heard that birth control pill is highly effective and so it does not get woman pregnant.
The pill will only prevent pregnancy to a certain percent. It is highly effective but there have been cases where even those on the pill have fallen pregnant (a good couple of my friends have done so). Using a condom will reduce this risk by a LOT so it's always worth using. If the person you are engaging in sexual contact with is someone you do not know very well (i.e. you are not 110% certain is clean) then I would strongly advise using the condom as well as the pill. If the person is carrying any kind of STD's (and bare in mind not all STD carriers can be identified simply by just looking at them or how healthy they look) you will be well protected if the person is using a condom.
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This is a really long message, My name is Dylan and im 15. Ok about 3 weeks ago, i was on myspace and i had a friends request from someone i didn't know but they were the same age as me and had some of the same friends as me so i accepted and we have no classes with eachother but go to the same school, so we started talking alot a few days after that, i asked if she wanted to go do something at the movies, she said yes and gave me her number and i gave her mine. We each sent about 1,000 texts to eachother and we had planned on going the movies that next Saturday, and early on just incase she didn't know i said i didn't want to be strung along or get the wrong message . So it was Saturday and she had to cancel because of her dad and i believe she really did have to cancel but then later that night she said she really liked me as a friend, and i had a hard time coping with that, but she invited me to go to the mall a couple of times, but every time we go its usually with a few of her friends and its really awkward and she is really shy. But yesterday we went i guess as friends, it was me and 2 of my friends and her and 6 of her friends that went to the mall, i was talking to her friend and she said that Bethany (the girl i like) thought i didn't want to talk to her, and we all had originally had planned on going to the movies that night. So when it was time for the movies i thought i would do something big. We all went to the top but then everyone else decided they wanted to go way down further, so they all went and i stayed up there by myself trying to talk to her 1 on 1. But she didn't stay and i texted her to come up and talk to me, she said for me to come down there but i explained to her i wanted to talk to her and not everyone else but all she said was please come down. And i think i just keep making it more awkward. I feel bad and i honestly feel like i cant find a reason to get out of bed. I don't know where to go from here, please point me in the right direction! -Thanks
The best direction to go from here is forward. She was honest with you and made it clear she only wants to be friends and you need to accept that which is something you seem to be having a hard time in doing. You are also pushing the issue by wanting to talk to her alone - my guess is she will know exactly what you want to talk to her about (the whole only wanting to be friends and such) or something along those lines that may make her feel awkward or otherwise pushed into wanting more than just friends.
I think the best thing you can do is respect her decision and just (even if it's just for now) be friends with her. Open and loosen up a little and have fun. Don't make her feel awkward and she will eventually open up to you by herself and want to talk to you. As for the whole reason for getting out of bed... your only 15, that should be reason enough. There's a lot more going on in the world than some girl (no matter how amazing she might be) who turned you down. There'll be plenty others and your world doesn't (no matter how much you may think or want it to) revolve around her. I've had a very sheltered childhood. I never got to do a lot of things many got and get to do so use the time you have to enjoy yourself. You'll only regret it afterwards otherwise.
The reason this girl you like may have thought you don't want to talk to her is because of her saying she only likes you as a friend since it's usually enough to put most guys off into never talking to that person again (not the right way to go about it in my opinion but then most guys can't have a female as a friend without wanting more from them as well).
Step back, take a deep breath and think about this whole thing in a logical way and you'll see where I'm coming from. :) Just be what she wants you to be for now (a friend) and see where it goes from there but don't force it and certainly don't keep bringing it up as it'll turn her wanting to be friends with you into her wanting to avoid you to avoid the confrontation over and over again. I know you like her (we all been there dude) and I'm not saying forget about her because you can't. All I'm saying is move on though and don't deny yourself the next person who might come along.
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” --Alexander Graham Bell.
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Although beauty is always in the eye of the beholder (in other words some may find you attractive and others won't but that's only because everyone has their own version and opinion of what beauty is) I personally think you're very pretty. You have an awesome smile as well which is always a wonderful thing. If you have an excellent personality to go with all that as well then we got ourselves a winner right there. :D
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I recently met a wonderful, mature guy in his forties (I'm in my thirties) and we spent a great night together and a long late breakfast the next afternoon in which we told each other quite a lot about our past relationships. I divorced four years ago after a marriage of seven years. This marriage was to my first boyfriend, my first sexual experience, and turned out to be somewhat abusive. I tried to get out of the marriage twice, first by simply telling him I wanted out. I stayed that time because I couldn't handle how much it seemed to hurt him to leave. The second time, I went off to an artists' colony for a month and actually cheated on him, the first time I'd ever done this before or after. I told him immediately and it was the end of our marriage. One of my friends thought the cheating was the only way my husband would have let me go.
So I told the new guy all of this. He had said something about my being mature enough to get out of the marriage or something that I thought wasn't quite right, wasn't quite honest if I agreed, so I told him of the cheating so he'd really know what happened and told him I suffered untold guilt about it for a long time.
Well now I'm wondering if I made a mistake, if my desire for honesty will simply scare him off instead. He took what I said very kindly, seemed to understand, but now I'm worried. Maybe it's just that I'm waiting for that call to see him again that's gotten me so worried. In any case, would you recommend this kind of honesty on my part in the future (on future dates, if this one doesn't work out)? Shouldn't I keep things open? Or am I just shooting myself in the foot.
Thanks,
handwringing
I envy your honesty with this new guy because admitting to something like cheating (for whatever reasons anyone may have had) is something a lot of people will never do for the same reason you now have doubts. I think I can honestly say there are not many guys who would ever admit to cheating.
I don't know anything about anyone else but I truly appreciate anyone who can be honest. I think it's not a bad thing at all and if I were in his place I would appreciate that you could be so honest. I mean seriously if I was a guy who made it a habit to cheat I wouldn't set myself up by admitting I had once cheated. Whether or not he appreciates it or not and whether or not it will make things good or bad I think it was courageous of you to be able to admit something like that from your past. As for the future I think it really depends on who the person is. Some people can accept it and others can be very suspicious about everything and anything if you give them reason to be and you admitting this could just as well be that reason. On the other hand others will see it simply as a stage in your life from your past which you have left well behind and overcome.
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i was pregnant.. my boyfiend made me take a pill to kill the baby, i was about 1 momnth and 3 weeks along.. almost 2 months... i did not want to kill the baby, i wanted to keep it.. dont judge me on my actions.. thats not why im here..im here for help.. ok? well any ways.. i did this 2 nights ago (thursday night) and that night i was in horrible pains.. like cramps.. and he said i was supposed to bleed.. kind of lot he said... ok well i didnt bleed so much but i did bleed.. but the blood was kind of like.. mmmmm chunky i guess i can call it... i hope you understand what i mean.. ok and well i still feel a little wierd.. like i still have some cramps... but i still feel hungry all the time and dizzy and my breast still hurt and sometimes like i want to throw up... ok well my question is...
is there a possablity that the pills did not work and im still pregnant... i know i was bleeding and was bleeding in a strange way... and by bleeding in that strange way... does that mean the baby is now terminated... and all the things about me being hungry still dizzy wanting to throw up, is that just in my head and me wishing i was still pregnant or that my body hasnt like umm "realized" im not pregnant anymore.. or could i still be pregnant?
((now i really wish i still was, and i am going to the doctors next week.. but i dont want to get my hopes up thinking im still pregnant,because i really wanted this baby... but i need to know if there is a possablity if i stil could be... what do you think the percentage would be...))
please help me with this... should i stop hopling i still am... or just accept the fact that its gone....
I will assume that you had been given the abortion pill to use by your doctor? Mifepristone and prostaglandin which you take 48 hours apart? If this is the case then I'd hate to be the bearer of bad news but yes, the pregnancy would have been terminated. The pills cause your womb to contract and shed its lining so that the embryo is lost through the vagina. This can be painful and some women feel sick or have vomiting and diarrhoea (because of the use of the drugs). The pill is effective for pregnancies up to 9 weeks old so the time frame would have not been a factor.
Judging from what you described (regarding the bleeding) that would have been the pill doing what it's designed to do thus terminating your pregnancy. I think hanging on to any hope is never a bad thing but I really wouldn't get your hopes up too much since everything you've described leads me to believe it had worked.
I pass no judgement on you or your decision since it's your body and decision to make but I will say, and emphasis, it's YOUR decision and YOUR body. If you had wanted to see this pregnancy through you should have said so and taken more time to discuss it with your other half and to try and come to another kind of arrangement perhaps. I say this only becuase it sounded very much like this was a decision that was made for you by your other half as opposed to a decision made and agreed upon by you both.
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i have a very long penis (20 and a half cm) which is good for my girlfriend, but it is also very thin, which is bad for me. I don't feel a lot of pleasure from sex. Is there anything we can do to make either her tighter or me thicker?
Your best bet, short of considering cosmetic surgery, would be to go with what Rosie2000 said I think.
If you do a search in google for sex positions (there's absolutely hundreds out there) you should be able to find a few interesting sites that will describe each position and it's advantages. There are a number of positions specifically to make sex more pleasurable by making the female seem tighter (this is achieved through the position you and she is in at the time). This would, in my opinion, be your best choice since not only would cosmetic surgery be extremely expensive but it would also come down to there being no guarantees that there is any surgery that can be done to impriove the situation with yourself as it stands currently.
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I've liked this one guy for quite a long time now and it seemed like he kinda liked me to cause he'd always be staring and just stupid little things like that. We never really talked much even though we've been in the same period 4 class for 2 semesters because hes more of the jock type and im just kinda floating around lolll.
So every halloween people sponsor a dance called SPOOK-O-RAMA and everyone goes.
So he was there along with the guy my best friend likes.
This boy kept following me around, staring, and at times it looked like he'd try and come over but he chicked out. So it was like 10 minutes before I had to leave so I just went up to him and asked him to dance.
HE SAW ME COMING AND PRETTY MUCH REFUSED TO LOOK ME IN THE FACE. I go up to him:
Me: "hey, wanna dance?"
him: *mumble* no
me: "Common :) "
him: *tries to show me he's tired with his eyes*
me: "k whatever *walks away*"
It wasnt even like a "nice" no, it was like "im too good for you so you better go away" kinda no. lmfao.
cocky-ass attitude. He danced with me at the previous 2 dances so I didn't think he'd really say no this time ANNNDD I made sure his friends weren't around when I asked cause they like to tease.
like WTF.
Then on Thursday and Friday he KEEPS STARING AND ITS LIKE IF YOU DONT LIKE ME THEN EFF OFF!!!! I turned around at lunch on Friday and he was facing me and when I looked his eye quickly darted away and then I left and he pretty much WATCHED me leave. ughhhh.
God its so frustrating.
Im overrrrrrr him and all this nonsense but I'm still sorta stuck cause its like "if you dont like me, then why are you staring?" you don't stare at someone if you don't have even just a little bit of interest? Right? Am I wrong?
Sorry this seems kinda out there.
Its just really pissing me off.
Why would he do that?
ANY OPINIONS?
I'll say this, you made the effort and went up to him which is admirable AND as far as I can see he had no reason to say no (more so if he's danced with you before).
I honestly can't say what it could be that possessed him to say no at the dance. If he liked you (and in his place) I'd have jumped at the chance since I find approaching girls like that virtually impossible to do. He seems to have had little reason to say no if he had danced with you before as well so it wouldn't really have been exterely awkward either. I've had the exact same thing happen to me not long ago in a club when I had 'noticed' someone at the club but me being myself I refused to go up to her to say anything (that's just how I am I guess). She came over and asked me to dance and even though I made some really stupid excuse at first (I can't dance) she grabbed me and said it's time to learn then wispered in my ear on the dancefloor I'd been looking at her all night so now I finally got my chance to dance with her. :D So it does seem at first glance he likes you but then his reaction when you approached him made no sense. Initially I'd put it down to shyness but if he's danced with you before why be shy now? Unless... when he did before he didn't like you like he does now. I mean, I can talk to any girl normally without any problem but if it's a girl I like I find that I do sometimes get hit with shyness.
I can't really offer much of an explination (even after all that) but I can say if you catch him doing it again maybe just going up to him and simply asking him what's going on may result in some answers. Obviously if you're completely over him and such then if his staring at you is making you feel uncomfortable it may just be time to tell him quietly to stop since it's making you feel uncomfortable AND that he had his chance at the dance - which he now missed.
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im almost never jealous or suspicious or paranoid, but for some reason, I don't want my girlfriend to drink when she's at a party without me. we live like 2 hours apart, and i only get to see her every other weekend. is this an irrational fear? i trust her completely at all other times, and it's not that i dont trust her, but i'm just worried that if she's too drunk, some guy will take advantage of her. idk why I'm thinking that but I just am. I know i can't control her or make her not drink, but is there anything I can do?
I can totally understand your paranoia on this since it was the same with my ex as well. She had done a lot of bad things after drinking too much (which she had told me all about) so I never did like the idea of her drinking when she was out (especially since all her friends were drug addicts who wouldn't look after her and instead sit in a corner high).
It's something that does happen so your paranoia/fear that you have is not completely unwarrented since it's common knowledge if you get wasted at a party you will have all the guys look at you as an easy target. It's a fact. I think given that you can't really control what she does when she is out and such the best you can do is explain to her why you feel the way you do about her drinking when out Obviously if she has friends she can rely on to help her incase something does happen then it's a good thing but I myself know a lot of incidents where friends were there but no one stepped in to do anything because they quite frankly just assumed it was what their friend wanted or trying to stop her they got told, 'what i do is none your business...' etc, etc, etc. It can put the friends in an awkward position too.
The best you can do though is talk to her. If worse comes to worse just call her to check up on her if/when she might be out drinking to make sure she has gotten home safely and such. That way you can be rest assured she's safe and it won't come across as you being controlling.
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What does it mean to 'live life to the fullest'? How does a high school freshman live each day to the fullest?
The best way to define living your life to the fullest is to have no regrets on things you had wanted to do but you never did. Living your life to the fullest means just that - to live your life to its full potential. To do everything you want to do and can achieve without letting the pitfalls along the way stop you from your objective.
If someone was to ask me if I've lived my life to it's fullest I'd say no because I have a lot of things I still have to do and want to do.
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ok so my friends having this problem with her bf and here is her question.........
ok so theres this guy who asked me out, and i just couldnt say no because hes like really really sweet and he did it in person, not through a friend...but the problem is that i dont like him...only as a friend, so now i have a bf that i dont like and the guy i really do like just now started to talk to me and flirt with me...so the problem is that i dont know what to do about my bf...like how to tell him that i only like him as a friend, but i really dont want to hurt his feelings, cuz i know he'll be totally heartbroken...what do i do???????
sorry that was kinda long lol
Why is it that girls will always assume that by lying it will just prevent the guy from getting hurt?! Lying to him about liking him is not the way to prevent him getting hurt now really is it? Break up with him asap - as someone already said, the longer you leave it the harder it will become for you to do it and the harder he will take it. It's all you really can do at this point. Hopefully afterwards you both can continue to remain friends. :)
Incidently, does this other guy who likes you and started flirting know you have a bf? It's just amazing timing that he decides to NOW start flirting and show interest. Typical that he decided he wants you only after finding out that you're now taken. I'm just playing Devil's advocate (it comes naturally to me) so I thought I'd mention that.
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ok so us women fantasize about finding the perfect guy "our prince charming" as we call it and we want them to be incredibly sweet and love us and no one else blah blah blah but what do guys want. when you guys think of having a relationship, a serious relationship, what do you guys want??? please don't say sex, women are not sex slaves, that doesn't make a relationship. please answer this question seriously and only answer if you're a guy because if you're a girl and you think you know what they want, you probably don't.
Love. Stability. Someone to laugh with (and inevitably cry with). Someone to share my future with (if things work out).
That's pretty much what I look for in a relationship.
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Don't you think that the following advice (The lawsuit part) I received from another website is bad advice: I think that anytime a manager is in a bad mood they should not open their mouth. With Tania it seems if she is in a bad mood she starts being unprofessional herself and creating a hostile work environment. I told you before and I will tell you again, if you want that woman removed quickly then you and at least one other staff member has to file a lawsuit against your firm for creating a hostile work environment. Believe me, once your company gets served they will move mountains to get Tania out of there because failure to do so could end up meaning they pay millions of dollars in damages to those who filed suit. There are federal employment laws against being treated the way Tania treats you all.
HERE IS THE STORY I ASKED ABOUT: I work in a large company. About a year ago Tania replaced the male manger who everyone loved. Tania is very mean spirited and is always moody. You never know if she is going to be mean or nice. She has caused such friction in our department that people are at each other throats. Our clients have been noticing a change in my coworkers spirits. And yesterday she called one of our most professional workers unprofessional due to the fact that this coworker had to leave because of an emergency at home. Tania will write people up for nonsense (for things she could just ignore).
The reason I think the advice is bad is because I need my job so why would I cause friction and file a lawsuit. After that I would have to quit my job. Also one major client called the CEO's office and told the CEO what is happening in my department
I do agree that the advice given would cause more problems that it would fix. As you said, if you went ahead and filed a lawsuit you'd probably have to quit your job.
When it comes to work and the environment you're working in, specifically when it's about the people your working with and they way they are towards you then the matter should be taken up with the person next in line above the person you have the problem with. It would then be handled and taken care of from there. If nothing is done then you could very well take it further up the chain of command but this in my view would be the best course of action.
Also, as someone else stated, the way this woman is could very well just be she is being very professional about the work as opposed to your last boss who may have been more relaxed and chilled out.
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I REALLY hate my stupid mom right now!!!!!!!! Ok, well I wanted to spend the night at my friend (g's) house. Problem is, she has 2 cats and im allergic to them. And everytime I ask to go over to her house, she says no she has cats! And all my friends have cats!!! so I can never spend the night any where because my mom is stupid!! Help *sniff*
You have to see this from your moms perspective.. an allergy can be mild and it can be sever - so sever that it can become life threatening. Your mom is only worried about you, that's all. Maybe reasurring your mom that certain precations or steps will be taken whilst you are at your friends will help to ease your moms worry a little and let you go?
I think you can easily solve this problem simply by just talking to your mom about it. :)
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Me and her our sexually active, recentlly she has felt nausious constantly and her period is 5 days late. we our always careful and have takin about 4 pregnancy tests all coming back negative, she told me about this thing were the egg is to big to get through the falopian tube and says she think she might have that, but my question is what could cause these symptomes? and i highly doubt she's pregnant simply because the test she took were good quality ones with 99% accuracy. and all of them came out negative.
First and formost you would be very surprised how everyone says it may never happen to them and then they realise that 1% turns out to be them. Have you both not used protection??? If you have and there's not been any accidents then you both should be safe but if you both have not been using anything then you both are doing nothing but asking to get into this kind of a problem. Use common sense and use proper protection - it will make things a hell of a lot safer in the long run.
As for the symptoms she has been suffering... the late period can be a result of stress or anxiety - which seems evident since you both may be worried about her being pregnant (4 tests seems a little extreme). Nausious I can't explain but may also be connected with her being stress and worried she may be pregnant so I would strongly suggest she does have herself checked out by her family doctor to make sure everything is okay. The condition you described can be the result of various things (where the fallopian tubes have narrowed) thus a fertilised egg will be lodged in the fallopian tube (called a Ectopic/Tubal pregnancy). There is further information on this available for you at the following site should you wish to read up on the condition:
http://bodyandhealth.canada.com/condition_info_details.asp?disease_id=49
Either way I think she should seek medical assistance to have herself checked out and to remove any doubts about being pregnant and such and strongly suggest in future you both exercise caution and common sense and make use of protection.
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Ok this guy i really really like was startin to like me back ok.
Well i was walking down the hallway with him and he hugged me and he wispered in my ear that he really liked me.
Well my X-step brother {haha} is going out with this girl and i found out she is cheating on him!!! With the guy i like!!!
UGGGHHH!
So i told my brother and he dumped her ahahahaha and i tried to tell this guy i like the truth but i knew he wouldnt believe me bc i like him.. Well i told my friend is said hey go tell him that his girl friend is cheating on him but you didnt hear it from me.
Well she got back and she said "His exact words were, i dont care you are prob just making this up so i will go out with {{ Im not gonna say my name but he was talking about me }}! ugh well i just didnt want him to get hurt and now we are not talking bc we are kinda mad so what should i do?
Thanks abunch
Just so I understand this correctly... this one girl was going out with your x-step brother (that made no sense... how he is your ex step brother?) and at the same time was going out with this other guy you like as well?
So your step brother dumps her but this other kid you like won't because he thinks your lying, right?!
Well, at the end of the day you've done your part in warning him about her but ultimately it is his decision and up to him. :/ I suppose if you really want to ensure he doesn't get hurt (although I do fail to see how telling him his gf is cheating on him will make sure he wont get hurt becuase I'm pretty sure he will be) then you may need to confront him and tell him yourself.
There is one interesting thing here I noted though. He was hugging you and telling you how he liked you when he had a gf? She may be a bitch for cheating on him but in effect it makes him no better chasing after other girls while being with someone. Unless I'm missing something the way I see it they deserve each other since he seems no better than she is.
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16/f.
i've been talking to this guy (19yo) online because i was bored. yes, stupid, i know. i met him on a forum and we've talked on msn for a year and some months.
he used to be nice, and i used to like him. but now, i think he's disgusting. he's perverted, makes the most GROSSEST jokes, and never even talks to me when i sign on. he's honestly a waste of time.
but we're still pretty close. if i were to delete him, like..i wouldn't care. whatever. i hate him anyways. but he would start stalking me on my e-mail and stuff and bothering me. and it just really creeps me out that he likes me in 'that way'.
do i just delete him? like that? he's really gross. and i'm even scared that he could be a pedophile (i can see it being possible :/)
I certainly wouldn't put it past since the internet is full of predators but some are just simply creepy and a**holes. :)
Best bet is to delete AND block him from your MSN as well as logging into your hotmail account and then in settings you put his email address on the black/block list. This way he won't be able to stalk you. This would be the best thing to do given what he is like and what he can possibly be. Beware that he may resort into making a new MSN account in an attempt to try and contact you that way, even pretending to be someone else. You'll just need to be careful when strangers add you (ask them why they added you and where they got your email address from).
The best thing to remember though is that if he does persist you CAN do something about it. Report it (there are various child protection agencies specifically equipped to combat people like that).
Good luck and feel free to message should you need any more help with this guy.
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ok i have been with this guy for two years and we have a 1yr old daughter.. well i found out four months ago he cheated on me so i broke up with him.... well a couple of months ago we talked and he said he wanted to try to work it out that he loved me and so we started talking again... well a week after that i went to take my daughter to see him and i wanted to see him well he was on the phone with another gurl knowing we r trying to work it out.. well i got mad and left.. then not too long ago he called me and asked me if i would get mad and start a bunch of shit if he was dating someone.. and of course i said no know ing that i needed to get over him... well now he and that gurl r bf/gf and i cant get over the fact of that... i want to get over him so bad but dont know how.. i mean i am talking to this guy and he is really sweet but the thought of him and his new gf just hurts so bad... well i dont understand how to get over him will someone please help...
thanks
Ideally I would say that you need to forget this guy and move on and concentrate on yourself etc, etc, etc but that's actually not so simple baring in mind that you and this guy also have a 1 year old daughter together. So simply closing him out of your life (which is what I would normally have suggested) wouldn't really be such an easy option especially since your daughter may well need her dad (provided he still want's to be her dad and isn't all about wanting to be 'free' of that responsibility and such.
I agree what the other advice giver said though. The first step is to accept that it's over and move on. I'm not saying to forget about him because that's not something that can be done so easily but you can try to move on and get on with your life -- just as he has clearly done. You gave this guy a chance a second time and he obviously didn't seem to tke it seriously so I don't see how he would deserve another at all especially since the world isn't short of decent guys, at least not as much as it always seems at first (I think I'm pretty decent and I'd hate to think I'm the only one).
It will take time but do try and move on and get out, see people and take some time to yourself. You do need this time to yourself because being around him a lot will not be giving yourself the chance to heal from this.
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ok so last night my computer was fine(its a dell XP only about 2yrs old) ok so i shut it off and went to bed. this morning i try to turn it on, i go get something from the kitchen and come back and its still turning on so i think that its just taking a while but then it restarted loaded for 5 minutes and restarted again. this is without me touching anything! so it restarted itself like 8 times. then i finally got it to the main screen, with my backround and yeah the main screen. i signed online went to advicenators because i was going to ask this question and then it restarted AGAIN! now im on my laptop because my main computer can't stay on for more than 2 minutes. what the F*** is wrong with it. i'm a computer addict and my drug isn't there!!! please help meeee
There can be a number of reasons this is happening from a hard drive problem to a virus (and everything in between).
Did you try loading windows up in safe mode? To do this press F8 when you boot up and select safe mode. Before doing this listen for any noises your hard drive makes. Open the chassis (the cover) and then listen carefully to the hard drive when you switch the PC on. If there is a scraping noise then the reading head is damaged and will mean you'll need a new hard drive for sure.
If it loads up in safe mode it very well may be a virus/malware problem or even a problem with some other software on your PC. You'll need to run a scan of your system as well while in safe mode. To check for mal/adware try Spybot - search and destroy and for virus' there are a lot of trial programs you will be able to use. Just download on your laptop and transfer to a cd to pop onto your PC.
If loading in safe mode is also not working, you don't hear any noises from the hard drive where you think it could be physically damaged you can attempt to plug the drive into another PC (as a slave drive) and format it from there (as well as attempt to recover your files from it to back up onto a CD/DVD).
If when doing this the drive won't let you access it (corruption error etc) there's professional software available that will let you but how easy it is to get online is debatable since the software I use for this purpose costs $600+. Once plugged into another PC though you will be able to format the hard drive therefore remove any software problems on there and then plug it back into your own PC and begin a fresh windows install. :)
If you need any more help on anything I've said above feel free to message me.
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It's my freshman year of university and I picked a random roommate because I don't know anyone else at the school. I like her and we get along great, but we're not best friends or anything and we rarely hang out outside of our room. Anyway, my friend and I decided we would like to room together next year, because we are a lot a like in our schedules and we get along really well and have a lot of fun together. This is great except that recently she's been having some tough times and she's started to self-injure. She calls me sometimes late at night crying because her roommate isn't back and she's all alone. I've had her call her family and she's getting therapy, but I want to know if this will make things harder to be roommates next year. She seems to be sort of relying on me at the moment and I don't know if she's doing SI because she doesn't feel cared for in her room or if it will continue on next year. Ummm..any advice?
Hi. I think there's two ways you can actually look at this situation. The first is that if you were to move in with her next year she may have that support she needs (since you were the one she called I would assume she feels you can offer her some degree of support and help as well as trust) to be able to stop self harming because she will have her friend there with her. On the other hand it could also develop into a heavy burden in a way that she may want you there and with her all the time (or expect you to be there with her all the time) as well as the whole situation with her interrupting your studies. So there's really two ways to see it and it could go either way to be honest but I think the best thing to do is try talk to her and ask her how the therapy is going and maybe even ask her why she does it. From that, grouped with how well her therapy is going, you may be able to decide for yourself if moving in with her would be a wise choice or not. If you feel she could deal with it, it may even be worthwhile talking to her about it as well. Clearly your studies are important but so is your friend so it may come down to sitting her down and talking to her about it all and seeing what you both want to do and if it's a wise thing for you both to room together - it may solve problems for her (if she does feel alone and such where she is at the mloment) but it could create more problems when you just want time to yourself or to be alone - or even to go out on your own.
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So ever since I was like 17 I've wanted to move out straight after high school and still go to college. I found a boyfriend and me and him were together my entire senior year of high school... and things were great between us! We had talked about moving out for a year and when the day came to sign the papers, he didn't want to because his mom said that she wouldn't approve. He listens to everything that she has to say and he is a year older than me. He doesn't speak his mind to his mom and we are stuck doing what she wants us to do... like get married at 23 and have kids at like 27.. I've had all these plans about getting married when I was 21 and having kids at 23.. and majoring in elementary education. I have a feeling that I'm pregnant and it seems like my boyfriend isn;t being mature about it. I have no idea what he would do if I was. It just seems like we have to plan our lives the way he wants to.. He wants to party and stuff right now and stay in school... and that's still an option because I have 15,000 in the bank just for college and I can't use it on anything else. What should I do? I love the kid to death and I really think that we are going to get married one day.. but I can't live with the fact that he wants to wait to grow up!!!
Being 18 and legally an adult doesn't make a person an adult. If this 'kid' can't grow up he is clearly not ready for the responsibility. I suggest very strongly that in future you are careful about taking any risks where you might get pregnent especually being as young as you are and with a guy who can't even change his underwear without his parents approval.
More to the point I think it's time you had a serious chat with him about what you're both going to do if you are pregnant. I always find it unfair if someone's pregnant she has to go through it all by herself because the guy just wasn't ready. If he wasn't ready he should have thought about it beforehand and not afterwards when the deed was already done - a clear sign of how stupid guys can be.
Talk to him and explain you both need to sort these things out together and that you need to know from HIM what you're both going to do becuase if you do turn out to be pregnant the last thing you need is someone who will just bury his head in the sand and let his mom decide everything.
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