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drinking
im almost never jealous or suspicious or paranoid, but for some reason, I don't want my girlfriend to drink when she's at a party without me. we live like 2 hours apart, and i only get to see her every other weekend. is this an irrational fear? i trust her completely at all other times, and it's not that i dont trust her, but i'm just worried that if she's too drunk, some guy will take advantage of her. idk why I'm thinking that but I just am. I know i can't control her or make her not drink, but is there anything I can do?
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It's completely normal for you to feel this way. You're just being a good boyfriend. =)
Since you live so far away I'd call her more often. Let her know how you feel. She'll probably think it's sweet that you care so much.
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Your not being paranoid or suspicious or jealous.. your being a loving caring boyfriend.
Obviously your girl might take it the wrong way without thinking that your being controlling and over protective but perhaps ask her how would she feel if you went to a party with lots of girls around and you were drinking too.
I am 100% sure she'll think twice about getting too drunk next time.
It is completely understandable about how your feeling at the moment and although you trust her, there is no doubt that there is just a little question in your mind about what goes on, its normal. Don't think your a horrible person!
I know it's hard because you two live apart but maybe talk about taking your relationship to the next level, this might test her to see how much she really loves you and how much she is willing to give up for you.
I don't know how old you two guys are but if you are able to manage a long distance relationship you are obviously mature enough to be taking things a step further.
Just think about it, and also think about how much further your relationship with your girl is really going go. Just on the reality side of things, are you two planning on living together one day? Marraige? or are you guys kinda stuck because you live so far away..?!
Good luck, Hope everything works out for the best!
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I can totally understand your paranoia on this since it was the same with my ex as well. She had done a lot of bad things after drinking too much (which she had told me all about) so I never did like the idea of her drinking when she was out (especially since all her friends were drug addicts who wouldn't look after her and instead sit in a corner high).
It's something that does happen so your paranoia/fear that you have is not completely unwarrented since it's common knowledge if you get wasted at a party you will have all the guys look at you as an easy target. It's a fact. I think given that you can't really control what she does when she is out and such the best you can do is explain to her why you feel the way you do about her drinking when out Obviously if she has friends she can rely on to help her incase something does happen then it's a good thing but I myself know a lot of incidents where friends were there but no one stepped in to do anything because they quite frankly just assumed it was what their friend wanted or trying to stop her they got told, 'what i do is none your business...' etc, etc, etc. It can put the friends in an awkward position too.
The best you can do though is talk to her. If worse comes to worse just call her to check up on her if/when she might be out drinking to make sure she has gotten home safely and such. That way you can be rest assured she's safe and it won't come across as you being controlling.
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