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I have always been one to over think things, but lately, it's been ten times worse. Im in a new school and things aren't exactly going great. I dread waking up, walking to the bus stop, and It even worries me about getting on the bus. It's like a feeling of panic. When I get to school it's okay, but some situations make me feel sick. It's not so bad, but when I get home, worry overwhelms me. I involuntarily replay the events of the day in my head- going over embarrasing moments or bad parts. I build up so much unessacary worry for the next day. My stomach hurts, my heart pounds, sometimes it's hard to catch my breath. Sometimes I just break down. I know this is not normal, I should not worry so much, but I just cannot help it. I'm trapped in my own emotions. What's wrong with me? How can I stop this? I just can't handle it anymore. (link)
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I don't really know if I can help you but I just thought I'd let you know that I'm going through a similar situation. I hate my school so much and when I get home that's all I can do it worry about it.
I try many different things to take my mind off it though. Maybe you could try some of these things. I get on the computer and play video games. I go outside and just play. I listen to music and dance around my room like a crazy person. Watching TV sometimes helps.
And since you said you're in a new school why not contact some of your old friends from your old school? Let them know how you're feeling. Maybe they could help.
When you're in school and you start to feel sick just take a deep breath and try not to panic about what other kids are thinking of you. Have confidence in yourself and know that everything will be fine!
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I was on my vampirefreaks profile and went on my boyfriends profile and I looked @ his favorites and he only had one person on it so I looked to see who it was because I thought it was me but when I looked I seen a diffrant girl there I was shocked so I went 2 her profile and she also had him on her faves and it hurt me he says he loves me and everything but I think he's cheating on me because I was talking 2 him on the phone and he told me NOT to call him back with that number its............my....friends number. That's how he said it why did he pause for (link)
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From what I read it sounds to me like he's cheating on you. But then again he might not be! That's what makes this so tricky.
Do you know if the girl on his profile could possibly be related to him? Or maybe she honestly is a really good friend of his. So that you don't come off as being an overly protective girlfriend I'd casually ask him who that is on his page. Maybe you could add that you'd like to meet her cause she seems cool. If he starts to get nervous and doesn't think that it's a good idea then you know something is up.
You could take him a date and make him realize how much he really does love you and how much you love him. If he is cheating then he should feel bad about it. Just let him know that you really care and if you still think he might be cheating then I'd confront him about it.
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ok, next year, I'm planning to try out for our pom (dance) team. To make the cut though, you have to be really flexible, like back bending or splits. I have the rest of the school year and the summer so I guess I'm in no hurry but I figure te sooner i start the better. Any excersises i could do to improve my flexibility and be healthy at the same time? Thanks :] (link)
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I would suggest signing up for gymnastics and dance classes if you can. Those will really help you out as far as flexibility goes.
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out of nowhere my ex texted me last. i didn't even know he still had my number because i surely didn't have his. it's been 2 years since we broke up and it was a mutual decision after he found someone else. he's still with that other person. how do i respond to this? is he just trying to catch up as friends? (link)
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Just respond as if you two are friends. Don't assume anything right away.
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im almost never jealous or suspicious or paranoid, but for some reason, I don't want my girlfriend to drink when she's at a party without me. we live like 2 hours apart, and i only get to see her every other weekend. is this an irrational fear? i trust her completely at all other times, and it's not that i dont trust her, but i'm just worried that if she's too drunk, some guy will take advantage of her. idk why I'm thinking that but I just am. I know i can't control her or make her not drink, but is there anything I can do? (link)
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It's completely normal for you to feel this way. You're just being a good boyfriend. =)
Since you live so far away I'd call her more often. Let her know how you feel. She'll probably think it's sweet that you care so much.
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i'm 16/f. i really like this guy who's a year older than me and i know he likes me too. we hang out at school some and after my soccer games. we've only been on one date - out to dinner after a game. he's not a christian, and i'm a very strong and dedicated christian. he's into partying. i'm not at all. he's already hinted about having sex, i'm for sure saving myself until marriage. i really like him, but is this too much of a risk for myself? i might be able to help him change for the better, but i might end up being brought down. i'm really not sure of what to do right now. any advice would be helpful. please give me some honest answers. thank you so much! (link)
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I wouldn't date him. Not only is he not a Christian like yourself but he just doesn't have very good morals. He just doesn't seem like a nice guy. If you have a strong faith like you say you do then I'd wait for a guy who shares that faith with you.
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alrite so i have this really close group of friends,its pretty much the 4 of us all the time. over the summer we got close with this group of guys, my 3 friends all had their flings but i never was interested in any of them. untill the end of the summer and i started crushing on this one boy, mike. we were friends awhile back but once i started haveing feelings with him it was always very akward. on day we hooked up and then didnt talk again for a while. we both know that the cheimstry is there, alot of ppl tell me he likes me but he wont call me or come up to me in school. it bothers me because we would be hanging out a lot more if it wasnt for his friends that ended the "flings" with my friend. ugh its soo frusterating! sometimes he flirts with me and then he doesnt talk with me for a week.=\ should i say something to him of should i just forget about it (link)
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I would definitely talk to him. From what you're saying about him he seems really shy. Just be sure that when you do talk to him about this make sure he's not with any of your friends cause it seems like that makes him really uncomfortable. But I'm sure if you let him know how you really feel, and if he really likes you, then he'll change.
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Me and my bff Sami are so close and I want us to find someone that is perf. for us to create kind of like a clique,but not really really mean or anything. If you've heard of the book The Clique Series by Lisi Harrison that'd help cuz I want it to be like that! (link)
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I know what you're talking about, and I think it's great that you guys want to have something like that. But clique's are known to cause a lot of drama and trouble and do nothing but shut other people out. I guess it would be OK if you guys weren't to rude to everyone else.
But if you wanted to make new friends I'd just try and get to know some of the your classmates better. Or if you do after school activities just see who has a lot of things in common with you and work from there.
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I like this girl and I asked her out but she dosent know to say yes or no, How do I get her to say yes. (link)
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First don't bug her about it. If you keep asking her for an answer she will say no. Show her little things to let her know that you care and really do like her.
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I'm a girl and I'm almost 16 and I have never been in a relationship with a guy. I cant figure it out! I know myself that I'm easy to get along with, im friendly to everybody, and nobody dislikes me. All my friends say I'm so cute, but I know im not gorgeous. But I like my body/who I am... I am not self-concious. I have crushes on guys, and somtimes they find out about it, but they never ask me out! So I've never had a boyfriend, and I've never been kissed. Frankly, at my age, it's embarrasing! I've liked this guy for a couple of months now, so I told my friend to slip it to him, but she said that she thinks hes already in one of those "we like eachother, we know it, and were kinda dating" relationships with somone else. and she dosn't want me to get hurt and I dont want him to feel bad or akward. I feel like all the guys and girls in the world are already coupled up and I'm the odd one out!! What can I do? About the boy I like now? What about my situation in general? i welcome any advice, or just comfort. because this is really bringing me down. (link)
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I am in the exact same situation you are except I'm 17! I get compliments all the time saying I'm cute and skinny. And like yourself, I know I'm not drop dead gorgeous but guys like cute girls too. I normally get really really really creepy guys hitting on me or asking me out and I turn them down immediately. A guy that I've actually liked never likes me back.
About the boy you like know I'd stay away from him for a while if he's trying to get with someone else. I think if you got in the middle of it it'd only make a huge mess. But ask your friend to keep you updated on whether or not he's still with this other girl. And about this whole situation in general just know that you're not the only one! I'm going through the same thing and I'm older then you! Our time will come soon. =)
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I want to be a fashion model. I'm like 15, not anorexic or bulimic, not size 0, and have kinda weird shaped body. Like small boobs, narrow hips, small framed, kind of short torso, long legs, very pale, robin's egg blue eyes, light hair, large feet, long delicate hands and arms, and like a little indent right above my lady parts. Like size 4. My ears stick out a little bit, I have a sharp nose that people call "perfect", oval face, thin lips, huge eyes, medium length neck. Long hair, kind of physically weak. Are those good qualifications do you think? I was thinking like one of those British designers who hire those unique-looking models since I'm not the model stereotype, more like 1700s French lady stereotype, y'know? So what do you guys think? (link)
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I think you have a good chance. If you watch America's Next Top Model not all of them fit in the typical 'pretty' stereotype. I say go for it!
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ohk, well theres this banging kid who sits infront of me in my one class. he always use to talk to me, but i didnt know what to say so i would like hardly talk back, and like i guess be mean (sorta). well now he thinks i like dont like him and i always seem in a bad mood. how do i get a conversation starter? haha and be nicer? (link)
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I wouldn't randomly start talking to him because then he'd know that something's up. I'd just have a more positive attitude when you're around him. Smile more and whenever he says something to you just be polite and nice.
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I live in lansdowne my boyfriend live's like 15min away we barely see eachother its not effecting the relationship i just miss him and I REALLY REALLY like him please help we want to be with eachother badly HELP (link)
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I know you really want to see him but there are many other ways of keeping in contact with him. Email him, instant message, Myspace, the telephone... I know it won't be as good as seeing him face to face but at least you'll be with him in a sense.
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I love a man (never married, not long realtionship) and he is the father of my child he pays child support but has seen the child only ten times in two years, what should I do? i want to let it go(child support)and move on. give me some advice. (link)
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If you honestly feel that that will be best for your child then I'd recommend it. It would be much better for your kid to grow up with a family who really loves them. If you feel like your child will be raised better in another environment then I'd do it.
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Okay there's this one guy names Aurthur I really like him. He's two grades above me so I don't have any classes with him, but he's always in my choir class second period because he doesn't have a class assigned to him. (He's in show choir and I'm in concert choir)
Anyway I had to interview him for newspaper because he had a solo for the last show choir concert and he's a really good singer so I presented the idea of a student profile on him and my editor assigned it to me.
So I interviewed him and he was really sweet and funny, he didn't just give me really crappy monotone answers like guys usually do when I have to interview them. But now the articles done and I still see him in class sometimes but I don't have a clue as to what to say or how to start a conversation with him. He's usually running around a lot and helping out...but what should I say as a conversation starter. I don't want to sound like a total idiotand I don't want to sound like I'm trying to get him to talk to me.
P.S. I'm in 9th grade and he's in 11th.
To anyone that helps; thanks in advance. (link)
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Well since you're obviously both into music maybe start talking about that. You must know quite a bit about him if you interviewed him. Whenever you have down time in class and you see that he's not doing anything, I'd go over and talk to him. At this point you really can't tell if he's into you or not. Try not to be to pushy and don't let it be too obvious that you like him.
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i'm on my period, obviously, and i'm starting to get really bad cramps. i wake up because it really hurts. what are some ways to make it stop hurting? or help ease the pain? (link)
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Whenever I have really bad cramps I take pain relievers. I bring them with me throughout the day and I just take them whenever the cramps start again.
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why do boys hate it when girls cry? (link)
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Many of them see it as a sign of weakness. And I think it makes a lot of them feel uncomfortable. Since many of them have never cried over emotional things they don't know what to do to console a girl.
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okay so im looking for some sad songs. songs that really give you that feeling inside. that heart dropping feeling of sadness. know what i mean? but yea im looking for some really sad songs. preferably rock, alternative, pop, country, acoustic kinda music.
for example a few of the songs i really like that are ones that im kinda looking for are...
Tonight I Want To Cry by Keith Urban
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One Man Drinking Games by Mayday Parade.
or even
Adams Song by Blink 182
they can be break up or suicidel or loosing someone kinda songs or anything
i just need sad ones
thank you so much!
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Forward - Dane Cook
I'm Here - Aly&AJ
Right Here - Miley Cyrus
With Or Without You - U2
She Will Be Loved - Maroon 5
Those songs always get to me, no matter what!
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15/f/good student.
here's the scenario:
we're supposed to buy and bring a book to school on a certain day. i forget, and don't buy it. i realize that i didn't buy it when it's already too late to get it. i start to freak out, thinking that the one F i'll get for not bringing the book will affect me a lot. i start to FREAK out.
same thing with homework/tests and studying. just the TINIEST things make me freak out/panic.
does anyone know why this is? (link)
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When something happens like this again just take a deep breath and realize that it's not the end of the world. You'll have other opportunities to get a better grade. The same thing goes with homework and tests. Just take a deep breath and do your best.
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OMG!!!!
Why are guys such A-holes!?!?!
Ok so I have this friend and we have dated previously and that was along time ago before I knew him and now I really do like him and I know he likes me its just that I feel used by him...Like he wont talk to me if he is talking to or hanging out with another or other girls and he like only talks to me when he isn't and tonight (Halloween) I was with him and he ditched me for another girl and yeah it just makes me mad...he acts like "oh I don't have anyone to flirt with so I'll just go hangout or call me!!!" and yeah he is one of those guys that treat you differently around his friends than when you are alone with him and as much as I wanna hate him I just can't because whenever I hear his voice of see him i just feel that attraction for him and I just don't know what to do about it and it just crushes me and tonight after I get home he calls me and he is all like "you sound sad or mad" and I was all like "well thats because I am" and he asks "well why is that?" and I was like " I have my reasons" and yeah Im still kinda pissed at him but I know I can't be mad at him for too long but it hurts me because he treats me like that...Please help me... (link)
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Even though you like this guy a lot you need to ditch him. Or stop trying to get into a relationship with him. I don't even think he'd be that good of a friend though. He's a player and he's good at getting other girls to like him but he'll only break their hearts. Please be careful and don't let this guy hurt you.
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