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my friend wanted me to ask this question for her..
ok so my friends having this problem with her bf and here is her question.........
ok so theres this guy who asked me out, and i just couldnt say no because hes like really really sweet and he did it in person, not through a friend...but the problem is that i dont like him...only as a friend, so now i have a bf that i dont like and the guy i really do like just now started to talk to me and flirt with me...so the problem is that i dont know what to do about my bf...like how to tell him that i only like him as a friend, but i really dont want to hurt his feelings, cuz i know he'll be totally heartbroken...what do i do???????
sorry that was kinda long lol
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In my opinion i would tell your friend to break up with him as soon as possible if she only sees him as a good friend. the longer she lets it go on and leads him on into believing she does have more then friendship feelings for him then he is gonna get even more heartbroken the more time goes on. if you want a suggestion on how to tell him, i suggest you tell him how you feel just say it in a nice way that hey you know i'm sorry but i only feel friendship feelings towards you, your a real great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you, but i just feel that we should be friends. he will understand over time.
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the same EXACT thing happened to me this summer.i liked this guy that was his cousin though.and he liked me but he told his cousin to ask me out even though he liekd me.so when he aksed me out i felt bad.and blah blah blah.but i ended up dumping him and he was actually really cool about it.i was just like "oh ya know i never see you and i think wed be soo mcuh better as friends" and he agreed.and if he flips out,then he obviously would be a terrible boyfriend for you.it all depends how he reacts when you do it.if he flips,its not right,but if he understands,then you guys should just stay friends.hope it goes as good for you as it was for me!
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Why is it that girls will always assume that by lying it will just prevent the guy from getting hurt?! Lying to him about liking him is not the way to prevent him getting hurt now really is it? Break up with him asap - as someone already said, the longer you leave it the harder it will become for you to do it and the harder he will take it. It's all you really can do at this point. Hopefully afterwards you both can continue to remain friends. :)
Incidently, does this other guy who likes you and started flirting know you have a bf? It's just amazing timing that he decides to NOW start flirting and show interest. Typical that he decided he wants you only after finding out that you're now taken. I'm just playing Devil's advocate (it comes naturally to me) so I thought I'd mention that.
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Break up with him as soon as possible, because the longer you leave it, the more hurt he will be.
If you are definitely sure you only like him as a friend and want to go through with the break up, you need to do it in person. Not the cowardly ways like txt, over the phone, email etc.
Just be honest and humble. No matter what you say, he will be hurt, but at least he will know and be able to get back to his old self given time.
Take him to a quiet place and explain you don't want to take it further because you just see him as a friend. Tell him thankyou for the times you did get to share with him though. and if he'd like to remain friends.
Very best of luck.
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