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HEY EVERYONE! MY NAMES CHANTAL. I'M HERE TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS THAT YOU ALL HAVE. I'M NOT AN EXPERT OR ANYTHING OF THAT SORT AND DON'T CLAIM TO BE. I AM ON THE OTHER HAND WILLING TO GIVE YOU MY PERSONAL OPINION TO YOUR QUESTIONS. = ]

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I don't get it. Do guys like having sex with virgins? If so, why? Wouldn't they want someone experienced? I don't know. Just curious.

it's an ego boost to them that they took ur virginity.it thrills them to have a girl so innocent and be her first.

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About eight weeks ago I had sex with my bf, and the condom slipped off. my period was supposed to be four weeks after it. About a week after it was supposed to come, i took two first response pregnancy tests and they both came out negative. I heard that First Response is one of the most accurate tests. So what are the chances that I could still be pregnant even though the two tests came out negative?

sometimes your body doesn't produce enough pregnancy hormonce to have it show up on a test...so some require a blood test.
see a doctor if it stilol don't come.
but it should of came up by now.
stop stressing cuz that can make your period even later or be the cause of the whole thing to begin with

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I want to know is it possible to NOT get symptoms if your pregnant like, if I was pregnant for the first 2-8 weeks I don't get nausea etc.. stuff like that.. Is it possible to not get symptoms, or I need to get at least one symptom.. I'm really anxious... please help! Thanks so much!

Yes it is possible, Alot of women have no idea they are preggers till they are on their way to the hospital for stomach pains and come home with a baby. Every one is different, every pregnancy is different. the only way to know is a preg. test.

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so my boyfriend fingered me and ate me out (first) then after we both cleaned up a bit i gave him a bj, he went to the bathroom to clean up, then about like 10 mins later i had to pee lol so i went...im nervous that like some of his cum might have gotton on the toilet seat or toilet paper...i looked at it first to make sure there was no cum on it but cant sperm by invisible too? im freaking outtt :( could i be pregnant?

no, not preggers

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18/F

I've been on birth control for over a year and my boyfriend and I still use condoms everytime. This month when I was supposed to get my period I started having brown-ish spotting.. No red. It's been going on for the past 4 days.. Never a lot. Very very light. Is this my period? Or should I be worried...

could be implantion bleeding.
just get a pregnancy test and check, wont hurt none...except ease ur mind.

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i love my boyfriend but most of the time when he ask me to have sex with him i say no not cause i dont want to but because i dont want that to be the only thing he wants from me and sometimes i dont think im that good but he says i am do you kno any ways i can please him ????

as long as you do other things besides sex sometimes...uhh no biggie.have sex and enjoy.

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so me and my crush were streaking (yeah i know, it's like not right or whatever) but it was in his backyard hahaa. anyways so it was the first time he seen me naked and i don't have the biggest of boobs. i have like a 34b..

and i have a good body, i'm in shape. it's just self-conscious about the boobs thing. well me and him were at our friends house and my friend was like he's talking dirty about you! and then i was standing there in like a tank top and i could hear him doing gestures to his friend about me but i didn't know if it was good or bad.

i'm really self-conscious he thinks i have small boobs. he didnt say anything. i know he wants to get with me and thinks im really hot but my boobs look bigger because i usually wear a push up bra.

i just don't know if hes talking good about me or not!?

by the way i'm 19/f

trust me once guys get you in bed they don't really care about your exact boob size.that's not thier man focus. if they r good guys they wont care.

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is it true that it hurts guys to shave down there? my boyfriend said he would start shaving for me but like i dont want himto hurt himself...oh and is it also true that guys don't respect guys who shave down there if they ever find out about it?

no it is very common for guys to shave down there.
that's not true at all other guys don't look at other males in a different way cuz of that.they shouldn't even know about it anyways...that'd be odd.

no it shoulodn't hurt him if he uses an electric razor.

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okay so today, i noticed that i was wetter down ther than usual now im 16. and discharge i would think is like DRIPPING out. it doesnt smell. and its not chunky but its like muckesy. and whiteish. and its a lot. so whats that mean.

usualy increase vaginal discharge means ovulation.
you can check this by taking the first day of your -period and counting 15 days after and if it's around that time that you notice the increase it is most likely that.

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i just came on here to be assured by somebody. i know the way to *not* get pregnant is abstinence, but that's not the point.

anyway, i'm sexually active. he pulls out before he cums (while wearing protection) and then after he does, he always offers to check for holes - by looking then *blowing* into it, like a balloon. this is very sweet, i just wanna add :]

so yeah, basically, i just wanted assurance from a stranger saying it sounded pretty safe. i get nervous with things like this. thanks.. :]

yes if he is wearing a condom that is a form of birth control, but you should probably get on the pill and it'd be extra safe.
and fyi- you should check for holes ahead of time too=)

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Ok, so now my mom is getting her taxes next week and she said that if i clean the house for a straight month she will buy me a new phone. It is a kyocera strobe i realllllly want it. So does anyone no a friend that has this phone or own it if so can u tell me if its good like features (like is the cam. good, get good signal, etc.) Please send responses
P.S. it's goin to be alltel and i know they dont carry that phone anymore so im gettin it off ebay...if it helps???

Thanks in advance...
-Delesha

I actuall just got this phone not even a month ago.
It's pretty sweet, a lil bulky when it is closed.
Ver durable though, i've droped it twice and it's got no scratches or anything.
The camera is alright, i wouldn't say great.
Pretty good though.
I get mine through metro pcs i would suggest that.
You get a lot of talk time for your money.
The only thing that bothers me about it, is it looks a lil manly.lol.but like i said that helps make it durable.
The keyboard is awesome!
The service is pretty dang good.
Also be sure to make sure that it allows you to charge it when your on it talking because mine already has problems with that.
Hope i helped some.
Good luck on getting the phone you decide on= D

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I have everything on my page hidden.For some reason the links that should be located at the bottom of the page (about,FAQ,terms,etc) are scrunched up directly under where my about me would be.I think it has something to do with the code I'm using to hide my friends and comments,but the one I have is the only one that I can get to work.How can I get the links back to where they belong.

I would suggest trying to find a new code to keep things hidden on your page. Try whateverlife.com. They have a lot of codes to hide certian things and they haven't done that to my page. They seem to work perfectly fine, when I used them.
Hope I helped some.
good luck!

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Im 14


When i was 11 my boyfriend and i broke up. He wanted to have sex but i said no so he ripped my pannies and shoved his "stuff" in. when he did that he took my virginty. I called it rape.Ever since then i have been having sex. I want to tell my mom but i am scared.everytime I have sex,afterwards I always feel like im going to get caught. The boy I am having sex with right now I like him but he just wants to be "sex buddys".I just found out one of my childhood friends has been liking or loving and talking to him for 2 years. She`s coming to fight me friday or saturday. My sister told me thar should stop talkin to him but I realy like him and I think i might be pregnant by him.

What should I do?

and how can i tell if im pregnant or not without having a pregnacy test or waiting for my period to come

Ok, first off this is a very serious situation. Tell your mom or another trusted adult about this. Teachers can help or tehy have school counsulers. I would highly suggest you tell someone, if he did what you said to you. That is rape and that is not right of ANYBODY. The whole prgant thing you shoudl go to teh doctrs and get check out and even tell them about what happened when you were eleven. Call you local information number or go online and type in your city and state and look for the health department number. All states have a health department that you can go to for free and your mom doesn't hav eto know and the doctors tehre will help you. You also shouldn't fight, if she does try to fight you, walk away and tell someone. As far as this "sex buddy" you have. I woudl stop. You could catch an STD and a lot of those are very serious, plus sex is suppose to be something wonderful to share with that special someoen not just a guy that only wants sex. Please just tell someone, there has got to be a trusted adult out there for you to talk to, talk to a friend have them tell thier parents or consular at school or a teacher or another family member, just someone.
Good luck!

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What do I eat if I avoid eating carbs? (And I don't like veggies much, by the way. So no vegetarian diet for me;) ) What other food choices am I left with? (And I also try not to eat pork.) I need to lose weight because I've gained around 10 lbs. over our semestral break and I am not happy with my body. I also started to lessen my carb intake and lessened my food intake, in general. Still, there isn't much improvement.

I think the problem is really with the food (cuz I dance a lot, I exercise for at least an hour everyday), so please give me some suggestions as to what I should eat.

Thanks in advance!

Hmmm..u never metioned fruits= ]
they can be very good.
like a lil plain yogurt cut up some strawberries in it, or blueberries.
fruits are very good and healthy.
here are a list of some for you:
like I said strawberries, blueberries.
kiwi(sooo goood! must try it, if you haven't!)
plums.
bananas(cut them up add some milk and sugar, very tasty)
grapefruit(just cut one in half sprinkle sugar on top you got breakfast, very good by the way.)
oranges.
apples(you can even dip them in some carmel on ocassion.)
pears.
tangerines(i actually like them better then oranges)
peaches.
Good luck!




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ok so me and my boyfriend just broke up for the 3rd time!!!!!! it is driving me insane i was in love with him!!!! and all of my friends are saying just get over you are a pretty girl and you will get another boyfriend, but the saying is that you never get over your first love, and that scaries me!!!!! because when me adn my ex broke up before i would date a guy for a week and then break up with him all of a sudden because i stopped liking him! and my ex was the same way!! but now he is going to ask out my best friend(Tressa) and i don't know that just drives me crazy!!!!!! i dont know if it is because i am jealious, or it is because i know that she will hurt him because she moved but she lies to the school saying that she lives at her old house just so she can go to our school! and everytime she gets a bf(at our school) she cheats on them with another guy down where her new house is!!! and i dont wat to see my ex get hurt!!!! should i tell him???? but then i don't know if i should get involve with that
i just dont wat to see him get hurt!!!!!!!
HELP!!!!!

Well I don't know why you guys broke up, but time will heal it. don't try to move on right away, at least that's hwo it is for me. It's better if I take my time and heal from the break up and then don't go looking for guys. The right one will come along one day. As far as you telling him about you best friend and how she might cheat on him. Hah.I so wouldn't bothe rtelling him, cuz for one major reason he is asking out your best friend..now that is pretty low and let him learn on his own. you telling him probbaly wont make it any better, he'll probably just say you're making it up because you are jealous. Just let him learn for himself and as far as you just hang in there. You will be ok over time.
good luck to you.

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I won't tan and I can't buy makeup light enough for my skin. (Im goth btw.)
I usually use Halloween makeup (but it peels) or Halloween makeup mixed with real makeup.

Anyone know of any quick, easy household fixes or ideas to help me stay pale and beautiful and not look like I have a faceful of dirt when I wear makeup? Lmao.

I'm like the whitest person a lot of people know. I use trueblend by covergirl in the shade ivory. It works great. Try it out.
good luck.

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is curioliss actually a very good hair straightner/ any tricks to straightning the back of your hair.(besides a mirror) / does curioliss really not damage your hair

As far as curioliss, I'm assuming that is a name brand of a straightner. I do not know anything about that. When it comes to how to straighten your hair in the back without a mirror. I personally just part my hair down the middle and pull all my hair to the front of my shoulders(like you would if you were putting it into pig tails) and i pin the top layers up and straighten for the bottom layer on up.
hope i helped some.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we are totally in love. He's 17 and is still a virgin because he wanted to wait for a girl who's still a virgin also and has all the other qualities he wants(which is me). In the beginning of our relationship he told me that he would never ask for sex but things are changing now. He'll be 18 this month and he wants us to have sex on his birthday. At first i was fine with it because there was no way that either of us would catch anything since we've never done anything. But I've realized that I want to wait until marriage and he is kind of mad but tries to hide it. He said that he still loves me and nothing will change. But i know he is extremely disappointed. I want our relationship to be awesome without sex. so I just dont know what to do....any advice would be helpful

Ok,this is the way I look at it if he really does loves you then he will wait until you are comfortable and ready. Sex is not love, therefore you do not need sex in a relationship in order for it to be real love. Do not get pressured or talked into doing something that you are unsure about. For one, you probably will regret it, if you go into something with doubt it usulaly doesn't turn out too good. Whenever you have sex you have a chance of getting pregnant. There is no birth control out there or condum that says you are 100 percent safe. Although they do help a great matter and I highly sugges you use them when you are ready for sex. Just keep the facts in mind, ok hun. Don't let him tell you when your ready or when he wants it. Whether it be that you do decide to have sex or not, think for yourself and nobody but you can make such a huge decission.
The best of luck to you!

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I am female and 13 and i have been friends with this girl for about 3 years. She copies everything I do, like fashion etc. This is surprising cause she is really outgoing, and everybody thinks she is coming up wiht all of this stuff! I don't know what to do!

Ok, I would suggest you just be honest with her and tell her that you noticed it seems as if she is coping you and you don't appreciate it. Ask her to please stop and just be herself. Now if taht doesn't work,haha, I got an idea. just pick out an outfit that is really ugly and she will probably copy you and wear something like it, and well it'll be ugly. Then after that tell her you know you copy everything i wear and do maybe that will teach you to just be yourself and not copy others. People are going to like her for being herself, not acting or dressing like someone else. Let her know you only did it for her own good because she just needs to accept herself and have her own fashion.
good luck.

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I just recently told my guy friend (who is now my boyfriend) that I have feelings for him. So, we decided to be together and there's a huge problem.

This all happened at worse time. He joined the Marines and will be leaving shortly after Thanksgiving. So everything happened pretty darn late. The thing is that I'm not sure if I want to be a military girlfriend or wife. I'm great at doing long distance, but I'm not sure if I'll be great at this. We are both 17 and I just feel so young for this. But I admit my feelings are very strong for him.

I would never convince someone not to follow their dreams, so that's way out. I guess what I'm asking is what to expect when your boyfriend is gone for so long?

Any advice or stories would help.

I personally think if you have strong feelings for him that they are not going to go away. So you breaking up with him or saying you don't know if you can handle it or not isn't going to make it any easier. You will probably just always wonder "what if" about the relationship, you know. In my opinion I would say just stay with him and see how things go. Your going to have to expect well missing him of course and being worried about him and how he is and wanting to see him and everything, it's not going to be no piece of cake. The way i look at it things in life that are worth it aren't going to be easy. If you did decide to just be friends, you know you're gonna have about the same worries if not more for him. I have a friend that is in the army and he is actually missing in action right now for abot 5 months so far. It's hard, but at least i know that i was there writting him and trying to show my support the best i could. Just make sure he knows either way that you love and support him for being such a strong person and doing what he is doing for our freedom.
Good luck to the both of you!

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