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No sex=no real relationship
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we are totally in love. He's 17 and is still a virgin because he wanted to wait for a girl who's still a virgin also and has all the other qualities he wants(which is me). In the beginning of our relationship he told me that he would never ask for sex but things are changing now. He'll be 18 this month and he wants us to have sex on his birthday. At first i was fine with it because there was no way that either of us would catch anything since we've never done anything. But I've realized that I want to wait until marriage and he is kind of mad but tries to hide it. He said that he still loves me and nothing will change. But i know he is extremely disappointed. I want our relationship to be awesome without sex. so I just dont know what to do....any advice would be helpful
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It seems your boyfriend realizes that this shouldn't change anything and that he shouldn't ask for sex. It sounds like, by covering up his emotions, he is trying to move on and to stick to what he should do. Just keep doing what you would normally do in your relationship, and don't bring up the subject.
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do what you want to do and if he loves you he will understand your decision and respect it. having sex isnt all that great you dont have to do that to prove that you love eachother. my friend for example told me that she was goin to have sex with her boyfriend because she says that having sex means you really love that person. So she means you have to have sex after you have sex with your bf/gf then that means you truely love them but i think that you can love someone without having sex with them. Everyone thinks that having sex seals the deal with things but it doesnt you can be in love with someone and care about them fully before having sex with them..sex is just an act like showing that you love someone isnt bein physical with them tell your bf that and see what he says. tell him how you feel about it and talk to him maybe he will realize why you dont wanna have sex right now. if he gets mad over you not wanting to have sex with him then he doesnt truely love you like he says he does. and dont just do it because you wnat to keep him as your bf because you might regret having sex with him in the long run. i hope everythin works out and dont do anything you will regret in the future...think long and hard about everything and i hope i helped out a little bit because i regret having sex before marriage and id ont want people to make the same mistakes i did...if you think your ready then have sex but if you have any doubts about anything which i think you do since your asking for adive you shouldnt..well let me know how things go for you..
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Ok,this is the way I look at it if he really does loves you then he will wait until you are comfortable and ready. Sex is not love, therefore you do not need sex in a relationship in order for it to be real love. Do not get pressured or talked into doing something that you are unsure about. For one, you probably will regret it, if you go into something with doubt it usulaly doesn't turn out too good. Whenever you have sex you have a chance of getting pregnant. There is no birth control out there or condum that says you are 100 percent safe. Although they do help a great matter and I highly sugges you use them when you are ready for sex. Just keep the facts in mind, ok hun. Don't let him tell you when your ready or when he wants it. Whether it be that you do decide to have sex or not, think for yourself and nobody but you can make such a huge decission.
The best of luck to you!
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