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Marines//Boyfriend
I just recently told my guy friend (who is now my boyfriend) that I have feelings for him. So, we decided to be together and there's a huge problem.
This all happened at worse time. He joined the Marines and will be leaving shortly after Thanksgiving. So everything happened pretty darn late. The thing is that I'm not sure if I want to be a military girlfriend or wife. I'm great at doing long distance, but I'm not sure if I'll be great at this. We are both 17 and I just feel so young for this. But I admit my feelings are very strong for him.
I would never convince someone not to follow their dreams, so that's way out. I guess what I'm asking is what to expect when your boyfriend is gone for so long?
Any advice or stories would help.
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Hi, I also have a boyfriend in the marine corps and I have been with him for two and a half years. He is the love of my life, but the distance is difficult. Trust me, I speak from experience (my dad was also in the military for 25yrs) when I say that you MUST have trust in order for this relationship. Not only trust in him, but trust in yourself that you can resist temptation. If you really love him, support him and be with him through this tough time. I wish you the best of luck. ;)
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I'm in the very same situation as you, so don't feel bad. The guy I was seeing just went in the Army in September. We were never boyfriend/girlfriend or anything, but I have really strong feelings for him & I think he likes me.
Anyways, I can tell you that it's going to be hard. You will probably do a lot of crying. It might not really hit you that he's leaving until a few days before. It didn't hit me until the night before. :/
He's going to basic training, right? I'd imagine so, lol. But don't expect to really hear anything from him from about a month. They get one short phone call every Sunday. (That's for the Army anyways, not sure about the Marines, but I think it might be the same.) He can write, but he won't have much time to write while he's there. Trust me, from what my guy told me they get like 2 minutes to eat a full course meal, and they have to wake up at 4 in the morning. I didn't get a letter from my guy until almost a month after he left. But just because he might never call or write, doesn't mean he's not missing you or thinking about you :) Make sure you give him your address and number before he leaves or you won't get to talk to him at all.
Other than that, all I can really say is just bear with him & be there for him. He's more than likely going through the same thing because a lot is about to change for him. He'll be someone totally different where he doesn't know anyone, away from everyone & everything he knows. He won't get to see home for months, depending on what's he's going to do. And if the whole war thing is going on when he gets back, there is a good chance he might be deployed overseas. :/ They told my guy there was an 15% he was NOT going overseas. So yeah, I'd say just stay for him a little while, until you know if you can handle it or not, then make your decision. If you two are meant to be then everything will work its way out. I hope I helped some! :)
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Long distance relationships are hard. I believe that they work but there is a lot of commitment that is involved. My friend is "dating" a marine and it is hard being in a relationship with someone that is in the military (especially if you do not live where he will be stationed). It will be hard, but if your love is strong enough then you both will be able to get through it. When it comes to the marines you will be fighting for his attention with the military. In other words, when someone joins the marines, it is like they are marrying the marines. The marines tell them when and where to go and what to do when they get there. Sometimes he will have to do something and may not be able to call you to let you know. I know with my friend she is having a hard time with her "boyfriend" being in the marines. Her mind starts to play tricks on her because she does not hear from him in days or sometimes a week. I also had a friend that is married to a man in the military and pretty much she just tried to stay busy (so she did not think of him) and tried to talk to him every chance she got. If your love is ment to be, then you guys will be together, whether it be now or after the marines. I wish you luck. I hope I have help. :)
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I personally think if you have strong feelings for him that they are not going to go away. So you breaking up with him or saying you don't know if you can handle it or not isn't going to make it any easier. You will probably just always wonder "what if" about the relationship, you know. In my opinion I would say just stay with him and see how things go. Your going to have to expect well missing him of course and being worried about him and how he is and wanting to see him and everything, it's not going to be no piece of cake. The way i look at it things in life that are worth it aren't going to be easy. If you did decide to just be friends, you know you're gonna have about the same worries if not more for him. I have a friend that is in the army and he is actually missing in action right now for abot 5 months so far. It's hard, but at least i know that i was there writting him and trying to show my support the best i could. Just make sure he knows either way that you love and support him for being such a strong person and doing what he is doing for our freedom.
Good luck to the both of you!
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