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Should i have sex?

Question Posted Friday July 6 2007, 12:20 pm

I am 13 years of age. I have been put in a situation where I could have sex. I really like the guy and I think he likes me. I am not sure if I should have sex with him or not. I really want to. I need advice. HELPPP!!

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partygurl24 answered Sunday July 8 2007, 12:55 am:
That's just ONLY like him. Sex is something special that you should share with someone you love, not like. Personally, I believe 13 is too young to be having sex and you should wait till you've found the right one. Your virginity is a one and a lifetime gift and you shouldn't throw it away for someone that you just like. Also, if you're asking us whether or not you should have sex, you're not ready. Don't look for approval for us, do what YOU think is the right decision, and know the precautions first.

I hope I helped!

...and good luck with that decision ;).

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bexers answered Saturday July 7 2007, 8:37 pm:
how long have you known the guy for one.
and two, you dont want to put yourself into the situation where you are not sure if he is just playing you. because that can totally ruin any feelings that are between the two of you. if you think you are ready and you are sure of the feelings between the two of you, then you may come to the decision to have sex with him, but also think of all of the responsibilities that come along with sex. only have sex with him if you think it is the right thing that you want to do, dont be pressured!

hope this helps!=)

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disasterxwoah answered Saturday July 7 2007, 5:16 am:
Who cares if you are 13, age shouldnt matter when it comes to sex. What matters is if you know of ALL the risks and all the things that COULD go wrong if were to choose sex. Do you know how to use a condom, correctly ? What if it breaks or slips off. Are you 100% comfortable with this guy. (For you to be asking if your ready means you're not sure, if you are not sure, then you are not 100% comfortable with the idea, and if your first idea is to say no, dont secound guess your heart). Also, you say you really like this guy, but do you love him, are you sure its not lust ? Is he just trying to "get some" from you. Don't just asume this guy really likes you, you think he does.. but are you SURE. Ask yourself all this and please just really REALLY think about everything, and yourself and the risks before you choose. I can't tell you what to do.. only yourself can, so listen to your idea, its the right one.

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Genrawks2 answered Friday July 6 2007, 9:59 pm:
You defently shoulnd't.

Yes, you're ONLY 13, and lots of girls that young regret doing it but, thats not just it. If you're not sure you're ready to have sex, then YOU'RE NOT READY, PERIOD. Sex is something you do with the person you know you truly love and care about, not with some guy who you THINK LIKES you. So yeah, I highly advise you don't do it. Wait until you're 120% sure


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ohhsnapp05 answered Friday July 6 2007, 7:21 pm:
nooooooooooooooooo. bc if you do it now. you'll be called a slut your only 13. and if other guys hear that you didd it there gonna want that from you and there gonna use you soo donttt do it.

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butch2 answered Friday July 6 2007, 5:31 pm:
If you guys are really, extremely sure that your mature enough for it and if your sure that both of you guys LOVE eachother. I would say as long as you both wear protection and are sure that niether of you have STD's then sure. just make sure this is something you really want to do.

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neveragainx answered Friday July 6 2007, 5:17 pm:
Don't do it, you've got your entire life ahead of you.

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muah_xx_muah answered Friday July 6 2007, 5:14 pm:
There is a difference between really like, and love. I personally think that you should not have sex until you are sure you love the guy. Plus your only 13, you have plenty of time for sex. I would say, don't do it.


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shadows answered Friday July 6 2007, 5:10 pm:
dont do it im 14 and im a guy and i have a girlfriend and sure ive thought about it and stuff but im not going to do it because i think about the worst like what if the condom breaks and i have a kid im only 14 i cant take care of a child yet so ask your self can you take care of him even if you have school im not ready for it you shoudltn either because you are way to young to be thinking about it im sorry but they are right along with me so you need to make sure its with someone you love because yeah guys will just get one thing and is to sleep with a girl so i wouldnt do it if i was you so make the right choice because you are only 13 and you are not sure of the guy likes you or not

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Erinn_the_bamf answered Friday July 6 2007, 4:21 pm:
If you're not sure, you're not ready.

You, dear, are 13 years old. You have your entire life ahead of you. You don't want to ruin it with an unwanted pregnancy. Also, you probably aren't mentally ready to have sex. Wait. I can promise you it will be more special your first time if you do.

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coconutcatastrophe answered Friday July 6 2007, 3:27 pm:
Don't do it. Please don't do it. You're 13 and you're running the risk of getting pregnant and if you do, you're basically just throwing your whole life away. Plus, you said you THINK the guy likes you, sorry to break it to you but there's a really good chance that he only wants one thing, and it's not a relationship =/ Also if you're "not sure" that means you aren't ready. I can't emphasize this enough. I don't want you to make the same mistake one someone I know did, she regrets it a lot. Good luck with the decision you make.


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thecarsdownthehill answered Friday July 6 2007, 3:24 pm:
NO. your thirteen. you should be in love with the guy once you decided to give it up man. and im not trying to be offencive in anyway but your ovously not mature enough to handle it yet.. "i think he likes me" dude. you'll regret it this young, this sounds wierd but like it really is a big responcibility.

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OhMyPEACHYKEEN answered Friday July 6 2007, 3:10 pm:
Nope. What happens if you get pregnant? You shouldnt take that risk until you know you can. If your ready and willing to then I guess no one can stop you, but you dont want to do this and then have everyone know and think bad things about you. So think it through, and make sure this guy likes you, but overall I say no, your too young.

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xeey99 answered Friday July 6 2007, 2:37 pm:
Noone can really tell you what to do its all your desison, but your only 13. Im 15 and still havent had sex. Are you mature enough to deal with the consequences? Like accidentally getting pregnant or getting a disease. Also sex should be with someone you love and you know when you're ready. I dont think your even close to ready because you have to ask for advice. Not trying to be mean. Also, chances are hes not going to like you forever , and that is going to break your hurt especailly if you have sex with him because you will be so emotionally attached. I dont really think you should, but its your life.

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DandKitsLOVE01 answered Friday July 6 2007, 2:10 pm:
my opinion, i think you are too young. i wish i would of waited to have sex till i get married. plus bad things could happen, like you getting pregnant.


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clouded_bluee answered Friday July 6 2007, 1:20 pm:
I think you are too young. You said you didn't even know if he liked you. And you two aren't even going out. I mean come on. Why would you want to have sex with a guy that you don't even know if he likes you, that means your being used! So just think about it, but you're still too young and this isn't a good situation to have sex. Usually people loose their virginity to people they love alittle, or are atleast going out with them. And think about the consequenses!

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dawn_7 answered Friday July 6 2007, 1:08 pm:
i'm 24 i had sex at 16 one time and got pregent i had my son at 17 yearsold. if your not ready to have a baby then i really think about haveing sex befor you do it. first make sure you love this guy cause most guys will sleep with you then leave you .it is your chocie so make the right one. think about it you are 13 you have your whole life ahead of you.

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runawayxlove answered Friday July 6 2007, 1:05 pm:
hey, well this is a stupid question. if your asking us on advicenators if you should have sex, than that just proves to all of us that your too immature and not ready to have sex.


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easilyfixed answered Friday July 6 2007, 1:05 pm:
well how old is the guy? if the guy is the same age as you, i would forget about it.
13 year old guys are definitly not mature enough to have sex. and even if they do, you will get hurt by it, and it will be hard. if the guy is older, i would consider your options as well. Will you still be okay if he ever left you? Are you nervous at all about this? How can you have sex with someone because you "think" he likes you back. Guys are your (and mine) age are usually not good with this kind of stuff.

the only person who can tell you if you should is yourself.
are you ready to put yourself in that position?

hope i helped.

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DepthofHeart answered Friday July 6 2007, 12:53 pm:
If you are not sure, then you shouldn't be having sex with anyone. You're way too young and sex is a 100% sure kind of thing. If you have sex with him you'll probably just end up regretting it, besides you don't even know if the guy likes you. He could loose interest as soon as you sleep with him. And he most likely will. You should wait until you find someone you love, who loves YOU back.


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orphans answered Friday July 6 2007, 12:47 pm:
these are the reasons you should NOT
*you said your not sure
*you said you THINK he likes you
you should have sex with a guy that LOVES you and who you LOVE
so basicallllyyy ... no

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