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Do you think you've should wait?
I want people's opinions on this. Do you think people should wait to have sex until their married. Do you think People would regret it? I mean because like youve waited and now your wondering like "what would it feel like with someone else?" On the other hand i hear people having sex when there 14 and having STDS and they probably should've waited. idk
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Age really has nothing to do with it. It is always about maturity and whether two people love eachother, are committed, have planned this before doing it and are using birth control and being safe.
It would be ideal if they were married but even if they are not as long as they are responsible and truly ready it's fine in my opinion and very common these days.
Having said that sex is best meant for adults 18+ and not someone 14-years-old as the consequences are high and the maturity level that is needed is usually lacking. That's not to put people down but there's more to sex than just the act and emotions come into play etc.
It depends on the individual person whether they will regret having sex before marraige or not. You cannot get a concrete answer on that because each person will have a different experience with sex and not waiting. some will not have regretted it while others will.
I think everyone is guilty of thinking what would sex have been like with so and so from time to time. The thing is most not all people are commited to their partners and despite thinking this only want to be with them. I think that's more a fantasy what if thing for most people.
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I don't necessarily believe it should be before marriage. I myself believe that if:
-you really love the person
-are committed to them
-know their sexual past
-are well educated about sex
-and feel as though you can emotionally handle it
it's fine. However, I doubt most young people can apply to even half of those. Most people probably aren't ready until they're at least 18.
I sound like a hypocrite really, I have sex and I'm 15 myself. I'm probably not emotionally ready because of my age, the person I'm with has been my best friend [now boyfriend] for a long time and we do care for each other, others can argue if we love each other or not. I know about his sexual past, and I am well educated about sex for my age [thanks step dad and sexinfo101]. But because I had sex this young doesn't make it right for others, I probably should have waited.
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In my opinion and belief,
I think its best to wait until marriage.
I dont care if a person is 17 years old and claims to be in love and mature. Sex will always CHANGE everything. People take it too lightly. It changes the relationship two people have so drasticly. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. If you are both virgins when you get married you will not have to worry about being compared to someone else. Its a very personal thing, physcially (obviously) but also emotionally. I personally think if you wait, you wont regre it. If you are wondering once you're married what it would be like with someone else, maybe you shouldnt have married that person, but then again, minds do wander and have fantasies. Young kids having sex, dumb idea. Aids is infecting millions of young and old people, and STDS there are over 100+ types, and some dont even have cures. There are just so many risks of having sex before married I think, so its just better to wait, but thats my opinion.
God Bless.
<3
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I believe that it really depends on the person, their beliefs, wants, and the couple as a whole....
While i do believe that its ok for people to be sexual before marriage, like with the examples that you used about a 14 year old, there are certain limits to situation.
A 14 year old really shouldn't be having sex at such a young age. He/she may say that its love, blah blah blah... but how tru is it? In a way sex is for a couple that is mature in a way, that are willing and ready for the possibilities that sex may bring.
That why I say that its ok to have marriage before sex, because if you feel that you are with the "right" person, know them for sure, and is the one that specially may believe to be the one with whom they'll spend the rest of their lifes with, why not? If there is that bond, that trust, and that reliability upon the other person to be with you no matter what, and for both to take responsibility is maybe even a pregnancy was to happen, that they're ready for it...
But for that, i believe there should be some maturity in both parties like I mentioned before. And of course be responsible and safe. Its not necessary to marry someone, or have to wait till marriage to have to unfold that part of you and share with the other person...
Although at the same time we have to respect those that chose to do that. Specially in our society today its hard to find individuals who are willing to wait till marriage, but more power to those that do! ...I for sure wouldn't be able to wait that long! haha! then again, I am planning no getting married in maybe five to ten years! haha! ;-)
Hope this helped! =)
VB
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I would be reluctant to marry someone I hadn't had sex with. Sexuality is an important part of an individual, and it therefore affects any relationships the individual might be in. In order to have a successful relationship, I believe that two people have to be sexually compatible.
I can see why some people would wait, however. It offers a certain measure of security, and some people see it as a measure of morality.
But to answer the question, I don't plan to wait until I'm married. I plan to wait until I've found someone I love and who loves me. If we are safe and care for each other, that's what I care about most.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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Well, if you are sure your in love, I don't think that age matters. And if you are in love, then you should have no regrets as long as you use a condum, and be sure to ask the guy/girl your going to "do it" with, if he/she has an STD, if they have been tested, etc.
Love,
Hailey_xx
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I was 17 when I first had sex, I don't regret it one bit! My boyfriend who is two years older then me and I had sex for the first time together just before my 18th birthday.
We were together 12 months before we had sex, not once was I pressured or pressured my boyfriend with the subject of sex. We were both virgins before we slept together.
The night was so perfect, we didn't really talk about it much before we did it, it was kind of it happened because it was meant to happen!
My boyfriend was so sweet and gentle towards me, today.. two years later we are still together and love each other very much. We always use protection during sex as well as the pill!
When the time comes, when i'm not worried about getting pregnant we'll have unprotected sex but I want us to be checked out for any diseases, just to be safe!
So no not everyone needs to wait until they are married to have sex because you need to find yourself and experiment and have fun before you settle down!
But.. on the other hand.. I do not agree with 13 and 14 year olds having sex!! They are way too young to deal with the consequences for pregnancy and diseases! They are not carefull enough with protection! They shouldn't even know what sex is at that age!
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I myself believe in no sex until marriage.
I'm a virgin and I think it is disgusting when I hear people at my school, especially when it's every other day, saying how last night "I went all the way with so&so". I think you should wait because, like you said, you can get stds.
Or what if you get/get a girl pregnant.
Then you've just thrown away the rest of your life, because you have a child to take care of.
I believe when you wait until marriage, then sex is fine. Because you are commited to that person, and you know you truly love them.
Unlike if you were to go do somebody now, and then look back and think on your wedding day, "I regret it, because it wasn't love. I wish I would've waited, because I know now that it is love."
I hope this helps.
<3 Laura.
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I wouldn't wait until I was married, just until I knew I was ready. Some people do regret waiting until married, and others don't. It's all preference. People who have sex at age 14 are just doing it for attention and want to be " cool." Think about it, and wearing condoms keeps you from getting STD'S. You should even wear a condom when having oral sex.
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I don't think you should wait until marriage. However, I think you should wait until you are 100% sure about it and happy and stable with the person you're with. You have to have respect for the other person, commitment to them, and overall, just really want to do it. Waiting until marriage annoys me because, how are you going to know if you want to really marry someone, if you've never slept with them? I suppose its possible, but still, I'd rather be intimate with someone before I decide to spend the rest of my life with them. So yes, it's fine, as long as you are safe all the time, and you are not just a dopey 13 year old.
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My opinion on this is very strict. I believe in no sex until marriage. I myself am still a virgin.. and it kills me inside to hear that someone has already had sex with 17 other people- and they're younger than me! I've heard a lot of people say they completely regret losing their virginity premaritally, as it wasn't someone they really loved, they got pregnant at 14, or they got an STD. Then again- I've heard many people say that they don't regret it at all; they are still with the person they lost their virginity to, they didn't get pregnant because they used protection, etc., etc., etc.
Honestly- its all up to you what you do. I suggest you wait.. you'll probably end up feeling much better, knowing that the person you lost your virginity to is someone you'll already be with for a long time. Plus, if you have a child- you'll be able to take care of it together. Having a child premaritally doesn't ensure anyone but yourself will be able/willing to take care of a child.
If you do, however, chose to have premarital sex- please use protection, and really think about if its what you want to do.. because there is no going back.. and you can only lose your virginity once.. so make sure its who you WANT to lose it to.
Good luck.. hope I gave some helpful insight!
--Jack
(15/m)
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