Free AdviceGet Free Advice
Home | Get advice | Give advice | Topics | Columnists | - !START HERE! -
Make Suggestions | Sitemap

Get Advice

Search Questions

Ask A Question

Browse Advice Columnists

Search Advice Columnists

Chat Room

Give Advice

View Questions
Search Questions
Advice Topics


Remember me
Register for free!
Lost Password?

Want to give Advice?

Sign Up Now
(It's FREE!)


Shirts and Stuff
Page Backgrounds
Make Suggestions
Site News
Link To Us
About Us
Terms of Service
Contact Us

My dog is sick!

Question Posted Tuesday May 2 2006, 2:18 pm

I'm taking my dog to get put down on Friday. She has cancer and is really sick. I've had her for 10 years and it's going to be really devastating. I don't know how I'm going to handle it. Has anyone else had a pet put down, how did you get over it? What's it going to feel like, no one close to me has ever died before!

[ Answer this question ]
Want to answer more questions in the Domesticity category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Pets?

EverythingIsAllrightx3 answered Thursday June 22 2006, 5:47 pm:
I had to put my dog down about 5 months ago.
I'm going to be honest.It'll be the hardest thing you will ever have to do.I cried allmost every day and i still cry every now and then.

Just tell yourself that she is in a better place.
And that she's better in Doggy Heven than on Earth being sick.

[ EverythingIsAllrightx3's advice column | Ask EverythingIsAllrightx3 A Question

honu22 answered Monday May 15 2006, 10:11 pm:
It is hard, and only you can figure out a way to handle it.
It's hard not having their physical presence with you anymore, I know.
There are good things that can help you. You know that she had a great life, and it sounds like you both share a great bond. It's her time, though. It's a shock but it will wear off over time... Time can heal your wounds, but only if you allow it. Just don't forget to be happy. I always choose to celebrate a life instead of mourn it. It's bittersweet in a way. She would want you to be happy, anyways.
Most likely you have others that love you and will help you though this sad time. Everything will turn out ok.

[ honu22's advice column | Ask honu22 A Question

JillandAmanda answered Friday May 12 2006, 3:39 pm:
aw i know how you feel, i had a dog die at a young age. i was 9 and my dog got hit by a truck and died right there. still to this day i cry when i think of her. there really is no way to "get over it". you just have to think about all the good times youve had and think about when she wasnt sick how fun she was. just never forget her and always keep her with you.


[ JillandAmanda's advice column | Ask JillandAmanda A Question

DirtJumperKelley answered Wednesday May 10 2006, 4:10 pm:
Hi it's really tough after a while, but knowing our animals are in a better place with great friends is a good thing to know. Remember the memories you've had with your dog, I lost my dog who my mom bought me when I was 5 at the age of 14 and it was hard..Ask the person if you can have some alone time with your dog, and just pray to the Lord. Your in my prayers.


[ DirtJumperKelley's advice column | Ask DirtJumperKelley A Question

CavieOwnsU2 answered Sunday May 7 2006, 10:30 am:
I have many pets die (my cat who my family had even before I was bor and my numerous hamsters and gerbils) and I;ve also had other animals that were close to me die (a pony I used to ride all the time, another pony, the pony I used to give lessons on, and a couple other horses). It is sad and you are going to hurt. The best thing that I did was stay busy and hang out with my friends alot. When the horses died, I still rode alot because I knew I HAD to. I tried to keep the rest of my life the same. After my old cat died, we waited about a year to get our new cats, which was a good move for us. We felt like we couldn't replace her, but after a year the pain was lessened. However, my horseback riding trianer got her new dog (who is absolutely the best dog I know) about a week after her old dog died. At the time, it was only her living in her house and she's the kind of preson who needs a companion. It's actually a quite touching story becasue the day before she went to get Noah, her new dog, she was wondering if her old dog would take it the wrong way. Then she turned on the TV and a show about Noah's Ark was one. Everyone took it as a sign that her old dog was telling her to get Noah, and it turned out to be for the best. A couple years after the first pony died, I started riding this gelding, and one day I noticed that they are like the splitting image of each other. I felt like it was DeeDee, the pony, sending a guardian angel down to take care of me and my best friend.

Well, enough stories, here's what I though to help me.

1. I believe, not in heaven, but in another place where everyone goes when they die, like an after life. Therefore, I keep telling myself that I will see them again.

2. In that place, there is no pain so your beloeve dog will be out of pain and misery. He'll be happy.

3. This place is located above us so our pets and loved ones can look down on us and watch over us.

[ CavieOwnsU2's advice column | Ask CavieOwnsU2 A Question

BlondBritBrit answered Thursday May 4 2006, 11:24 pm:
get another puppy a few weeks after your dog is put down. The dog i had since i was born was put down and a new puppy really helped. While you are looking for the type of dog you want though, you may feel a little sad... but its worth it. Best of wishes.

Ex's and Oh's

[ BlondBritBrit's advice column | Ask BlondBritBrit A Question

XoXoXoXo77 answered Wednesday May 3 2006, 7:22 pm:
if you got a new dog right away it would help a lot. even tho a new one wouldnt take the place of ur old would be a new pet that you make new memories with. =)

[ XoXoXoXo77's advice column | Ask XoXoXoXo77 A Question

Nallie answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 7:48 pm:
I firmly believe that there is a place that dogs go and wait for us....

Honey, it's sad, there is no doubt about it. I have experienced the death of a dog many times in my life and the decision to have one put to sleep is very hard. No matter how much anyone tells you it's the humane thing do to, it still hurts. She won't feel pain and won't be sick anymore, but you will miss her yes. See the link below which may help. You are in my prayers.

[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)

[ Nallie's advice column | Ask Nallie A Question

Friday_im_in_love answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 7:21 pm:
For me, the best thing was to write down everything I could remember about my past two cats. The color of their fur, the way they acted and the funny things they did. It really does help once you remember the good times you had with them. Both my cats died and I wasn't informed about it untill later which made me feel alot worse. It's better that you know when shes being put down. You will feel terrible for awhile, just keep yourself positive and think that shes not in anymore pain. Believe me, I know how it feels :[

[ Friday_im_in_love's advice column | Ask Friday_im_in_love A Question

Lalagurl answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 6:09 pm:
I know exactly how u feel i had a dod i had her for about 4 years, but then she got heart worms....well she had to get put to sleep and it was very devastating.the 1 thing that made me feel better was thinking of all the good times we had. (good luck, i hope u feel better!)

[ Lalagurl's advice column | Ask Lalagurl A Question

G.Dfan1902 answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 5:47 pm:
well when i was little we had to put my dog to sleep to o but what i did was think about all the fun times we had and plus i wouldn'tt hink that you putting your dog to sleep remember all the fun times you had with him

[ G.Dfan1902's advice column | Ask G.Dfan1902 A Question

orphans answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 5:35 pm:
well of course you're going to feel really really sad. I've experienced it twice, because my hamster and my uncle died, and we were really close.

there's not really a way to get over it, because you can never fully recover from it. You'll still feel a little sad everytime you think about her, but in time, you'll start to feel better, and you'll move on.

just don't spend too much time thinking about her, so that you don't get too sad. you have to move on and act happy.

i try not to think about my hamster and my uncle because everytime i do, i feel sad, but as you go on you'll start to feel less and less sad, so don't worry.

all you can do now is just try to stay positive and don't try and think about it, and i hope it works out!!


[ orphans's advice column | Ask orphans A Question

isis answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 5:17 pm:
I'm so sorry to hear about this, it's a really awful thing to happen. I've lost 12 pets over the last 25 years due to old age or terminal illness and it never gets any easier. I can only suggest, as mentioned below, you take plenty of pictures, and maybe a sample of her hair and spend as much time with her now as possible. It's going to be hard, and you can't really do anything to prepare for it.
Try to take comfort in the fact that you love each other, have been together for a long time and you are doing the one last thing for her that you can do, put her out of her pain.
Hard as it is, I take a kind of comfort in being with them while they slip out of this world so that I am the last person they see and know they are loved, but I do realise that not everyone would be able to do this. It's a personal choice and you would not be wrong to not want to do this.
As for getting over it, I'm not sure you ever really do 'get over' losing a loved one but in time you do come to terms with it. It's a sad fact that animals do not live as long as us, but the joy of having them around more than compensates for the sheer pain of losing them.
As long as you know you have done all you can for her, your last gift to her is to let her go in love.
As you seem to have such a large capacity for love, in time, and it's up to you how long, there will be another animal that would benefit from that love. Don't let it put you off having another animal, there are so many needing good homes and you sound as though you've done a fine job. Courage and good luck to you.

[ isis's advice column | Ask isis A Question

amyyy789 answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 4:58 pm:
this happened to me two years ago---when i was at camp. my dog had been doing really bad..she was 16 years old so yeah..but my parents put her down when i was away at camp becuase she couldnt walk very well and was just in total pain. when i found out when i got home i was devastated. i had had her for my whole life and i was SO attatched to her she was like ah the best dog everr. i just had to realise that she wasnt in pain anymore and that she was when she was alive for the last few days of her it was better. plus another thing that helped--i got a new dog a week after she was put down...which sounds awful like to replace her..but i just couldnt live with out a dog so it brought my spirits up.

oh yeah...and also right after she died my mom fuond a picture of her and went to kinkos and put it on fabric and we made a pillow out of it. its a relly cool way to rember your right now the pillow is still on my bed!

i hope this helped..and im really really really sorry about your dog..

[ amyyy789's advice column | Ask amyyy789 A Question

TEENAGExHEARTS answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 3:44 pm:
i know its hard to have to put down a family pet. i've had to put down my cat because she had a disease that was eating away at her. It will be hard at first, you will also cry, A LOT. but some things that help is to let out how you feel. write in a journal when your feeling sad, or talk to a friend. sometimes friends can help you the most. A take some pictures of your dog now so you will have something to remind you of him when you are feeling sad. What might help you is writing down all of the good times you've spend with your dog so you will know that she has lived a long and happy life and you will know that she is now in a better place because she won't have to suffer anymore.

i hope this helps ♥♥♥♥

[ TEENAGExHEARTS's advice column | Ask TEENAGExHEARTS A Question

herbivore answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 3:27 pm:
hey. this same thing happened to me too. my 15 year old dog dog suddenly died when i was at school in the 2nd grade. when i can home i found out and i started balling. the same thing will happen you you. you will probally cry a lot, but after a few days you will get over it. what i would do right now is to take lots of pictures of him right now and maybe make a photo album so you can remember him. i know it may be hard to let go, but your dog has to be put down for a reason. she cant go on living in pain. it will be the best thing for her. hope everything is okay and i hope this helped!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

[ herbivore's advice column | Ask herbivore A Question

TheOldOne answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 3:09 pm:
It hurts, a lot, and the only thing that really helps is time.

You'll probably find yourself crying, and feeling as if your heart is going to burst. Then you'll be okay for a little while, only to feel your heart break all over again. In the weeks and months to come, you'll be surprised again and again by fits of sudden sadness and tears.

Those fits of sadness will come more and more rarely as time passes, and will become milder, too. They may never disappear altogether, but they'll become easier to bear.

I'm sorry; it will be terribly painful, particularly at first. But there's no easy way to cope with death.

All you can do right now is make the best of the brief time you have left with your dog.

Afterwords, if you have friends or family who are supportive, let them support you - and in turn, try to support anyone else who also loved your dog.

In the end, you'll always have your memories. That may not seem like much, right now, but good memories can be precious. You may, if you feel up to it, want to make some notes of special memories you have of your dog.

Some ignorant people may suggest that you get a new dog right away. They don't realize how insensitive they're being; they mean well, so try not to get angry at them.

At the same time, in a few months - it might even take a year - try to be open to the idea of accepting a new pet into your life. Not as a replacement for your friend, but as a new companion. Some people feel that a new pet somehow takes away from your love for your old one, but that's simply not true.

Right now, though, it's much too early to think about anything like that.

I'm sorry for the loss you're about to go through. I wish you a peaceful parting.

[ TheOldOne's advice column | Ask TheOldOne A Question

x0brittany0x answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 3:08 pm:
I personally had to put down 2 dogs that were close to me. It is a sad experience. Buy a disposible camera (or if you have a digital) take pictures of her. It'll help you remember him. Also ask your parents if you can get a new dog to help you get over his death.
I'm so sorry. I really love animals and this made me really upset.

[ x0brittany0x's advice column | Ask x0brittany0x A Question

xOobabiicakez answered Tuesday May 2 2006, 3:01 pm:
im dead serious take as many pictures as you possibly can. my cat died and i loved my cat to death like i loved it so much and it died suddenly so i only have a few pictures of him and it hurts so bad inside i used to cry myself to sleep at night because he used to sleep with me and its wicked hard im sorry that your dogs dying i hope it goes well.

[ xOobabiicakez's advice column | Ask xOobabiicakez A Question

More Questions:

<<< Previous Question: Hair
Next Question >>> My friend is a mythomaniac (compulsive liar)!!

Recent popular questions:
Want to give advice?

Click here to start your own advice column!

charlie charlie?
Goodbye lettter
Is veet bad for you? Does Veet cause cancer?
Why does my iPhone keep turning off?
Is the Charlie Charlie Challenge Real? Am I Cursed?
can't study
I'm losing myself to insanity
Can someone believe and fear witchcraft and be a true Catholic?
I do believe my insanity is rising due to meditation.
How to get someone to think you exciting and maybe like you
pain on right chest when coughing
my question is about a long distance relationship
ok i really need help?
No connection
I have not given my older
Scared to report CP
self -control. patient. Discipline
school's player
How long after a perm til
Dating and virginity

All content on this page posted by members of is the responsibility those individual members. Other content © 2003-2014 We do not promise accuracy, completeness, or usefulness of any advice and are not responsible for content.

Attention: NOTHING on this site may be reproduced in any fashion whatsoever without explicit consent (in writing) of the owner of said material, unless otherwise stated on the page where the content originated. Search engines are free to index and cache our content.
Users who post their account names or personal information in their questions have no expectation of privacy beyond that point for anything they disclose. Questions are otherwise considered anonymous to the general public.

[Valid RSS] eXTReMe Tracker