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My friend is a mythomaniac (compulsive liar)!!
Hi!
I don't know what to do anymore! I know my friend is lying. I have proof against it! I have confronted him and still he denys it all! We just had a big fight today over it.
I'm just worried because he is loosing friends because of the lies. He has already lost me. I don't trust him anymore. Nobody trusts him!
What should I do??
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well.....u should first think on if you would like to be this persons friend n giv them a chance....but its their fault theyre losing friends n telling lies telling lies dnt help nuttin so do the best and if you wanna b friends again talk to this person n tell them wut you feel....if you dnt wanna b friends with them then leave it alone SCREW IT.....dnt talk to this person
~Jenna
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hey...... well if u would feel comfortable maybe u should go talk to the couselers.
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The problem with compulsive liars is that they usually don't really realise they're doing it or they do realise and can't stop themselves. Owning up to this later is very embarrassing so they pick denial - yet another lie.
The only thing you can really do with a compulsive liar once confronted is to let them get on with it and either stop being friends with them or take everything they say with a pinch of salt.
I had a friend who was exactly the same (She even put black eyeshadow all under her eye and told us her ex had been round and hit her) and it was awful because we didn't know what to do about her lying. Eventually, we realised we couldn't do anything and every time we thought she was lying, we ignored it completely and pretended she hadn't said anything. Eventually she got the message and as far as we can tell, she no longer does it, so it might be worth giving that a go.
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If he won't listen to you when you try to confront him about it, bring someone who is also feeling the same way you are and the both of you should try to let him know how you feel. If he still doesn't listen, it may be hard, but it may be time to find a new friend who you can trust and who would not lie to you. If this friend really means something to you, then you should stick with the problem and let him know how much it bothers him. Don't let him lie without facing some kind of consequence or some sign that shows your hurt. Good luck :)
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Truly compulsive liars do not do it because it fun. They do it because it is a compulsion. Sure there are people out there who do it for fun, but most just do it because it is a reflex and they haven't learned to stop it.
What's worse is, like many mental illnesses, they have a very difficult time admitting to themselves that they have problem. Getting alienated from friends is a good way to make him wake up to the facts. Be clear to him and encourage your friends to be clear too, he lied and you all know it, so you don't trust him and aren't interested in being his friend anymore. That is the issue, don't let him turn it into something else.
But if he doesn't want help there is nothing you can do but to move on in your life.
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