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Incest
I have a friend that ive known for several years. She lives a very long distance away from me and theres nothing i can do physcially for her. Her father makes her have sex with him on a nightly basis. Is there any way i can help her get help. Shes afraid of going against him, because he is paying for her college and everything. I love her to death. What can i do?
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hey y dont you do one thing.... become efficient enough that u can take her father's place and pay for urr gf's colleges if she is really interested in studing high.... but the main thing is get her away from the person whom she calls as ger father... but in actual he aint no father for her... do it as soon as possible and you will end up in saving 2 lives maybe 3 if u stopp her from geettin pregnent from her father...
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get her away from him.how's she going to do college when she's taking care of her dad's baby(whcih will probably happen).call the cops on him,seriously
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hmmm... I would have two words for this girl.
FUCK
COLLEGE.
there are somethings more important than college, and THIS being one of them...
It sounds like the only way your gonna get through this is with a hidden camara. find someone who can help you with that. plant it, wait to catch him in the act, and bust him red handed. the fuck deserves life in jail.
this isn't a matter of convincing her to get help, this is a matter of what YOU should do as a freind, reguardless of how much she's afraid.
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hey! aww thats so sad but i think since shes your friend you need to tell her to call the police or talk to some one who cna stop this..this is really serious. I really hope everything works out with her. ♥ Michelle
PS:hope i helped and if you ever need anymore advice ask me
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eww..isn`t the mother around? or are they divorced. well anyway i think you should tell your friend that she should talk to her father and ask him y he wants to have sex. tell her to tell him how she fels in a nice gentle way! thats all i got! *HOPE I HELPED* :-)
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aw h0w sad.. her dad is fucking sick in the head. and needs t0 be put away..p0lice w0uld help...
♥aMbi
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YOU HAVE TO MAKE HER TALK TO THE POLICE. THIS IS A MAJOR ISSUE AND HE SHOULD BE ARRESTED FOR IT. IDC WHAT ANYONE ELSE SAYS ABOUT THIS. PARENTAL RAPE IS HORRIBLE, NY RAPE IS FOR THAT MATTER. YOU NEED TO CONVINCE HER TO COME FORWARD.
irish
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Her safety is more important than her education.
Here are a couple of websites that can help:
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It's wonderful that you are there for her. Keep supporting her. Best of luck.
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You and her need to sit back and look closely at the big picture. It is easy for us "outside-third-parties" to do because we are not involved in your daily life. Reality is her father is causing your friend many lifelong problems. Her school has a counselling department that can take care of her. Your role is to be there when she needs you. She is not obligated to pay off her college tuition with sex. She should emancipate herself from the situation, go to another school in another state, preferably close to you, and apply for student loans and grants. Maybe you can show her the light about this. Do research on college loans and grants and provide her with a way out. She can't fathom it now, but she needs to remove herself from this situation immediately. As for the mother, she knows, without question. As for the father, he clearly needs help too. He has an illness, and your friend is not responsible for this. She did not cause this. At some point, after exhausting all avenues, if she does not listen to you, you must prepare yourself for a life without her. You cannot help the unwilling.
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woooooow havent really kowning some fucking dad doing this to his own daughter thats fucking retarted i if i was your friend i would told the cops to hid out side then catch the dad when he is trying to force her to have sex with him agian if dont work then just CUT THE DICK OF HIM!!!!
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This is serious, she should not call the cops when he is around her or he would probbly berserk her! she should hide a video camera in the area or she should just stab him or something. ~Jordan Wang~
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you cant make her do wat she doesnt want to do but you can let her know how much you love her would be the best thing at this point.
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Tell her mother, Tell your guidance counselor, You have to keep trying! She can get a scholarship or something. Tell her that it is not right for her to go through that shit.
~Nokomis~
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Why are you sitting at your computer? call the chicks mom or something let somebody know that her dad rapes her that shit aint right dude grow some balls and do the right thing.
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Hunny thats considered rape. You should tell her that the next time he does it im guessing tonight if you say regularly night basis you should tell her to not take a shower and tell her to wait until he leaves her alone goes to sleep or whatever to go call the police. That way she still has proof that he raped her. Same thing happened to my friend and she didnt take a shower after and called on him and then they went and did DNA tests and found out she was raped. You should really tell her to tel someone or else it can or will get worse!!
-steph
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She needs to put all her financial needs aside and go to the police. If she will not, you should get the number for the police in her town and call yourself, she may not like you for awhile after doing it, but she will thank you later on. Be true to a friend and think of her feelings and this is wrong what is being done to her. Rape and Molestation is wrong and should not be taken lightly.
Good Luck and God Bless the both of you.
College Girl NH
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Hey, well i seriously think you needah call the cops. What her father is doing is a thing called ; RAPE! . Who cares about the college money thing, their are schlorships and she could get pregnant from her damn father, meaning, she would have a hard time going to college. if she thinks you shouldnt call the police, you still must need to do it. She will thank you in the long run, but maybe just not right now. but please do call the cops if you want to be a good friend, and your concerned. alright <3
♥ Colleen
Sorry, i wrote my advice in my OLD advice column, because i forgot to switch to the old one =]
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Hey, well i seriously think you needah call the cops. What her father is doing is a thing called ; RAPE! . Who cares about the college money thing, their are schlorships and she could get pregnant from her damn father, meaning, she would have a hard time going to college. if she thinks you shouldnt call the police, you still must need to do it. She will thank you in the long run, but maybe just not right now. but please do call the cops if you want to be a good friend, and your concerned. alright <3
♥ Colleen
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Tell her that she needs to call the cops. There are schholorships so she shouldn't worry about collage right now. She defenetly needs to call the police or talk to someone because that's rape.
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go to the RAINN website at www.rainn.org or call the national sexual assault hotline at 800-656-HOPE..... it is free and confidential and open 24/7. there is also the youth crisis hotline at 800-448-4663
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i think that y0u need to call the p0lice f0r her because that is rape and it is n0t g00d f0r her!!
the c0ps will definitly d0 s0mething ab0ut it!
x0x m0rgan
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I think that you should call the police!!!!! that is rape. Hope this helps!!!
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Tell her not to worry that she wont have the college money. Theres so much financial aid and scholorships..anyone can go to college! Try and convince her to go to the police about this. Tell her putting her sick father in jail and having her safe again is priority. If she doesnt listen..you have a choice to make. You could go to the police about it yourself. This is a horrible situation and your friend needs to get out of it!! Your friend will be fine between scholorships, etc. Its very important that her dad gets locked up!!
-melissA-
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i think that maybe you can get money to like fly down there and if he still does it then when you are there then you should go to the cops and she can get scolarships from school she has to study hard and all that good boring stuff or maybe if you tell your mom then she can also do something about it i really think you need to go down there i know that it is alot of money but it is worth it your friend will be safe and you will be happy that is wrong or if you have friends down there tell them so you dont have to fly down there and also have them do something well i hope i helped
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too add onto what arun said.
if/when he gets convicted *(wich he probably will)* Then im sure that there is a way to make him pay for her college. Like you know cold support. even though shes older. did he say that that was why she couldnt say anything because if he does he wont pay for her child support?
I hope all goes well!
AlwAys ThErE/---
KeLsA*
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well...if you really wanted to help...tell someone...call the police...no one should worry about college tuition when it comes to rape! good luck.
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OMG! that's totally sick! but you need to call the police and tell them that this is happening no matter how far the distance is from you guys! hope this helps!
~Alyssa
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The first thing that you have to assure for her is that she will be safe. In most cases of violence against women the perp is someone that the woman knows. Also, if she goes to the police right away this may force him to be more assaultive towards her. There are many battered women shelters in almost every city that she can go to be safe. Have her call Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN), which she can get help and information of getting out of that situation. The number is 1800656HOPE. It is the group that Tori Amos is involved in and I know that I have referred several women there.
After she is in a safe place, she has to go to the hospital ER. In the ER we have sexual assault kits, which allows the doctor in the ER to start gathering evidence of the crime (because this is what it is). She can also get medical attention there, meds for STD, pregnancy issues (only place where you can get the morning after regiment). It is usually in the ER that she can contact the police. The police have to be brought in and she needs to file charges against him. This is a crime that I personally find worse than most.
As for college, she may have to go to the financial aid office and have her explain to them the situation. They can help her out with financing college b/c there is a lot of loans that she can get. Also, it would be best if she can get to stay with someone that she really trusts until all of this is settled- even with you.
You're a great friend and the fact that you brought this up shows that you truly are a caring person.
Hope that all works out with her and you. If you have any other questions- don't hesitate to ask.
Yours,
Arun
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simple do it for her, call teh police and tell them everything.
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