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Is it okay?
Okay I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. Well I have a few questions....
1) I'm not a virgin but I told him I was. The 1st and only guy I had sex with was very small and I was wondering if my (virgin) boyfriend would be able to tell I wasn't.
2) Also...after sex do things change between the two people?
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Dear Lier,
I do not think that it is right that you are leading your boyfriend into thinking that you are a virgin. Imagine how upset he will be when he finds out and hopefully when he does, you two have not had sex already. It will be his choice to decide whether or not he wants to have sex with you. What if he wants to lose his virginity to a virgin? I know that might be upsetting, I have been down that road before but it is his life and he deserves the right to know the truth. I made a mistake at not telling my fiance the whole truth about my sexual relations and when he found out, I was lucky that he still wanted to be with me. Please tell him. Once you do, you will feel better about your relationship. If he really cares about you then he will stick around. Remember that sex is not a crime and that it is alright to not be a virgin. You should not look down on yourself for that. You asked whether sex changed people or not. You tell me. Your not a virgin. You would not be here asking that question if you had not had sex, so has it changed you? Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon
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Your boyfriend isn't going to be able to tell if you're a virgin or not. That's impossible unless the guy was over 9in.. and that's just painful to think about. Also, things change drastically after sex. You'll be closer, in a good or a bad way it's really up to ya'll. Be careful not to have sex a lot because soon the relation depends on it to function and eventually you have nothing else but that. Good luck!
PEACE
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1.if hes a virgin he prolly wont be able to tell but it is possible it all depends on how many times you have had sex and how long it has been since the last time youve done it...you do close a little bit after a while and 2.yes it does change usually for the better you will prolly get closer...good luck
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Gurl your dumb what kind of g/f who really loves there man lies and makes him believe that shes still a vrgin.....man thats horrible you must not really love him...
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well your boyfriend isnt gonna know that you lied to him and you have had sex before. you should have told him the truth but that aint my business. and after people have sex sometimes things can change. but not always. dont make it all that you two wit each other. you should be doin it cuz you both have feelings for each other and thats another way that you wanna express them.
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1) no, he wont be able to tell. you dont become a "gaping tunnel" just because you had sex. And because he is a virgin, he for sure wont be able to tell because he doesnt know what to expect.
But lying to someone you are about to have sex with about being virgin or not isnt a very good quality in your relationship. you should be honest with him about it.
2) yed, thing do change between people after having sex. sometimes for the good and sometimes for worse. if it changes for the good it may help bring you closer together and if it changes for the worse it may aid in drawing you guys apart.
But i wouldnt let the changing part bother you. you wont know if it will change for the good or the bad until after it has been done. so if you are ready, go for it.
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1)No, he would not be able to tell, and you really should tell him you have had sex before ... be honest with him about that
2)After sex things usually do change, but for the better. You'll be a lot more closer
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answer to your questions
1. since he is a virgin he will not be able to tell, but you should be truthful with your boyfriend and tell him you have had sex.
2. things usually do change between people, you will either become closer together or part further.
Good Luck
College Girl NH
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To answer your questions,
1) no
2) no
♥ Michelle
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ok number 1 you should have been honest with him because if he founds out that you lied to him then things may go wrong. number 2 he would be able to tell if you dont bleed or scream in pain because every first virgin is having an experience with this and its there first time and you are suppose to feel pain and bleed on top of that. and lastly it all depends on how you two felt about each other beforee you had sex. if you feel differnt then maybe he was the wrong person to have sex with......
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Well, I completely disapprove of lying, especially to someone you're about to have sex with, but if you're determined not to tell him the truth, then no, he probably won't be able to tell if you're a virgin or not. He won't know what to expect from a virgin, so he won't know if anything's different than it should be.
As to your second question, after sex, everything changes. It could be better, it could be worse, it depends. For me and my guy, it strengthened our relationship. For a lot of people, though, it can weaken the relationship. To us, sex is the ultimate expression of love, but to others, it's just lust. I think what it does to the relationship depends on how you see sex.
Girls (at least I think they do) tend to get more attached to guys after sex, because it's really a very emotional thing for us. That's why everyone says "wait until it's the right guy" and all that.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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Well he probably won't notice a difference if you guys have sex because he doesn't know how it's supossed to feel unless you really loose but you already said you weren't.. and yah it changes people, but usually for the good. imean if ya'll really love each other it will probably just bring you closer together.
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No, your boyfriend won't be able to tell. Your vagina does not become a gaping tunnel just because you've had sex; also, he's a virgin and has no idea what to expect.
That being said, I think it's always best to be honest about sex.
As for whether or not sex changes things, I think in most cases it does. This can be for the better or worse....why not look at your last experience? How did having sex affect your relationship? Why did that relationship break down?
If you are truly honest with yourself about your emotions, thoughts, and past experiences, you'll be less likely to make big mistakes. Good luck!
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i don't think there's anyway he can tell and they definetly do change! hope this helps!
~Alyssa
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Nope, your boyfriend won't be able to tell if you weren't a virgin and things do change between two people after they have sex. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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no he wont be able to tell
yes things do change
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