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I am a teenage college student and I have gone through a lot of stuff in my life. I am here to give advice to anyone who needs it, from small things to big things. I am a great listener and hope people put their full trust in me.

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What do you tell a boy who stalks you and it drives you crazy and you have given him the hint that you do not even want to talk to him because he is weird. It defnetly does not have to do with looks but his personality is weird! I am not sure what to do he won't stop it and now I can't enjoy all the boys in the basement because he is always down there! I am 19 and a female by the way.

You should try talking to him again and have your friends talk to him as well, and if that does not work, talk to your parents about it. They might be able to solve it through pressing charges.

Good Luck
College Girl NH

ok so i've liked this guy for like 2 years off and on. my best friend said that during the summer he liked me 2. well i guess i finally got over him by the end of ther summer and then he turned up in my math class, sitting right next to me. i find myself liking him again, and he always finds time to talk to me during p.e. , and for the stupidist reasons, does he like me?? (sorry about the length ) thanx

It is usually really hard to get into the mind of males, so no one knows. If you guys share friends, try to get friends to share his feelings to them and then have them tell you. It's sneaky but it works. If you like him, but you dont know if he likes you, you should pursue him anyways.. it couldnt hurt.

Good Luck
College Girl NH

i have a horrible time getting to sleep at night... it takes me lke 3 or 4 hours every night and sometimes ill go to bed at like 6 just to get enough sleep otherwise im exhausted in the morning. does anyone have any tips to help me fall asleep faster? thank you, ill rate you high

What I have found that works, is about an hour before you go to sleep, dim the lights so your body adjusts to the darkness and gets sleepy. Also try reading a book and burn aromatherapy candles they help a lot. But if that doesnt work, you can always take OTC sleeping pills, but they can get addictive, so be careful.

Good Luck!
College Girl NH

This isnt about sports too much but people who do sports might be able to help me. I have a big sweating problem and i always wear jackets to cover up my sweat but i was wondering what a good deoderant was that would mostly block sweat so i can wear my cute tee shirts more.

You probably have a over-persperation disorder. I do, I am 18 and still constantly find sweat stains under my arm pits. There is a shot the doctor can give you to control it a bit, but if you want a good deodorant, try Degree.. I have found it works well.. but talk to your doctor, they might be able to perscribe a more heavy-duty deodorant for you.

Good Luck
College Girl NH

Is the only way a girl can masterbate is by fingering herself or using a vibrator?

there are many more ways, here is a site that has a lot of good information for you on it.
http://www.sex-project.com/female-masturbation.shtml

Good Luck!
College Girl NH

OK i got this realllly cute real Guchi purse for my birthday. Its really cute! and I just figured out that the most popular girl in school has the same purse! Im really mad cause i really want to use it but i can't because if she see's it shes gonna hate me! and well she kinda likes me right now and lets me hang out with her and shes really nice and stuff. BUt we cant have any of the same stuff as them. Even clothes. It really stinks cause i love all her clothes and i have the oppurtunitiys to but them! I really like there group! should i even hang out with them?

Teenage Drama, I have always loved it. You got your purse for you birthday, think of what you want and you shouldnt care what she thinks. Use your purse, it was a gift and you love it. Dont worry about what anyone else thinks. 10 years from now you will look back and laugh at that, and you probably wont be following styles as much.

Good Luck and "That's Hot"
College Girl NH

Hey! I am trying out for the school play on Tuesday, there is 100+ people trying out (some 6th, 7th and 8th graders, I am in 8th, not that it matters) but I am scared. I had Speech and Drama for 12 weeks with the teacher that is going to be the one judging tryouts, I have performed in some stuff before (our teacher picked our group to perform in front of the school with our scence from the Jungle Book, she picked me to give my speech at Grandparents Day, and I was Lady Macbeth in a play a few years back) but I am still so nervous. Anyone have any advice on trying out, how to make my acting better, things to do or not to do in tryouts, etc? It would be much appreciated, and I rate high!

Thanks!

x0x ChRiStEeNa x0x

What I usually do before I go to an audition is I get into the character that I will be reading for, or the character my monolouge is based on.. I usually do this 15 minutes ahead of time, Everything you do or say should be in the character. Also make sure you contantly breathe, concentrate on your breathing as well and it will help you relax.
I hope that helps

Good Luck and Viva Las Vegas!
College Girl NH

Okay I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. Well I have a few questions....

1) I'm not a virgin but I told him I was. The 1st and only guy I had sex with was very small and I was wondering if my (virgin) boyfriend would be able to tell I wasn't.

2) Also...after sex do things change between the two people?

answer to your questions
1. since he is a virgin he will not be able to tell, but you should be truthful with your boyfriend and tell him you have had sex.
2. things usually do change between people, you will either become closer together or part further.

Good Luck
College Girl NH

Please help me with my relationship problem, my boyfriend is like absessed with tickling me, he thinks it's funny and cute. It's fun, but it gets annoying. When I tell him to stop, he just keeps doing it. I can't get away. What do I do?? No matter how much I ask, he won't stop.

I am in this exact same problem as you, My boyfriend constantly tickles me and I have become more immune to it, but he still does it. What I do, is I use force and push him away and tell him to stop and that I don't like it. He does get the point of it. Sometimes you need to use a little force upon men to get to their brains, because alot of them think women are just play things. If he keeps doing it, it could be harmful to your emotional health, so talk to him about it and push him away if you need to.

Good Luck and Hallelujah (ha ha sorry im listening to that song)

College Girl NH

ok well my bf and i we hang out all the time! and hes the sweetest guy ever and i love him to death but neways when we go out to places or we watch movies he makes fun of gay people! and it kinda pisses me off but i don't say anything i just laugh cuz i don't wanna lose him! but the reason why it makes me mad is cuz my step brother is gay! and i don't know how to tell him that he is and that it bothers me! HELP

You should just sit him down and tell him how you feel about it, say "I dont like it when you... and it really offends me." If he loves you as much as you love him, he would understand and appreciate your concerns.

Good Luck and Lots of love
College Girl NH

i am wanting to change my look to a more 'ashlee simpson/punky' look without being called a poseur. i am currently into hollister, american eagle, forever 21, abercrombie, and aeropostale. how can i change my style without being too drastic? please help

I dont believe you would end up being a poseur, just dress how you want. Ashlee dresses a lot like normal punk people, so I dont think anyone would connect the two. So just do what you want to do, shop and if you see something cute that you like, buy it. Dont go to far from who you actually are.

Good Luck and Viva La "Kitchen Floor"
College Girl NH

People are always saying not to do anything until you're totally and fully ready. Well, my boyfriend is ready to finger me and I want him to and i want to be ready but like..how can i become ready?

There is really no way of "becoming ready" physically, But mentally, you need to psych yourself up to what comes out of sexual encounters. There is a 50/50 chance that the relationship will not last forever, so make sure your making sure you want to do sexual things with him, I know I regret doing things with boys when I wasnt ready.
And an answer to your additional info is, guys usually do not tell you, unless you tell them to.. it depends on the girl wether you want him to on you or not. I know I do not prefer it, so you have to think how you would like it.

Good Luck and Lots of love in your sexual future
College Girl NH

i am in two classes that has people that make fun of me so should i just ask my mom to talk to the principal so they can put me in a new classes? or should i stay there?

If they really bother you that much, you should try and switch classes. If not, talk to your teacher. I got made fun of constantly in school, and then I talked to my teacher and she had a conference with the kids and they stopped. You should also talk to your mom about it, just let her know whats going on in your life.

Good Luck and Keep on Truckin'
College Girl NH

last night was my first time getting fingered. i was wondering...what are like the bad things that could happen from that? are there any consquences?!

There are not any huge consequences that come out of this sexual act, unless you have an STD. Since you said this is your first time, I am assuming you do not. You have nothing to worry about, Just make sure you dont run into anything too fast that you will regret later on.
If you need any more, professional advice, I would recommend this site-->
http://www.sex-project.com/fingering.shtml

Good luck, and I am gladf you asked me for advice. VIVA ADVICENATORS!

College Girl NH

hi, uhhh its kinda hard to talk about this but, I dont know what to tell my boifriend, I mean he asked me if I was a virgin or not n i keep aboiding the question, you see when I was 13 I was rapped, what should I tell my boifrien? should I lie or tell him the truth, do you think it will effect the relationship?

thanks so much (I rate well!!!) HaLeY

Dear Haley,
If you want the relationship you have with your boyfriend to be strong, you need to be truthful to eachother. Every time you lie to the person they lose trust in you and eventually you will have no trust in your relationship. If you told him you were raped, I am pretty sure if he loves you he would run away. Instead he would help you out if you are still emotionally distraught from it.

Good Luck and Lots of Love
College Girl NH

ok so i have this s.s. project and we have to be certain ppl and i am stuck w/ Vasco da Gama! I don't need to wear like an over the top costume just sumthin that shows a little bit of who he was. i know this is the gayest question but plz help!
I need help on what i should wear!
plus the kid i like is in this class
plz help me
thank you so much!
~*i rate*~

No question is stupid. Even the little ones can be solved.
What I did was I did a google image search, type in Vasco da Gama in the box and make sure your on image search, and It came up with pictures of him. Take ideas from that, the pictures are not terribly hideous either. If those are too extravagant for you, I would suggest wearing a black robe (like a reverend robe) with puffed sleeves, and a cross.. like in the pictures.. .hat optional.

Good Luck and Happy Sailings!

College Girl NH

See i vacumming the carpet down stairs and all of a sudden the vacum got all smelly and gross. whats wrong with it?

This happened to me last year, before the bag bursted on me. You probably just need to replace the bag. That's all. If thats not it, take it to the place where you bought it (if it was recently and if it has a repair shop).

Good Luck and Happy Vaccuming

College Girl NH

my mom keeps getting mad at me for wearing make up....all i wear is eyeshadow and eyeliner... once i wore mascara and she blew up... so i stop wearing mascara, and she was fine, she didnt care about me wearing make up anymore... as long as i just dont wear mascara... after a week my aunt came in and said i looked like a witch becuz of my make up... my mom got so mad that she yelled at me and threatened to kick me out of the house, and slapped me... what should i do? i need help, she can't even live up to her pride and stick up for me.... she thinks that if people think you look bad than you better do what ever you can to make them happy about your looks... i told her not to care what people think because its just plain stupid to be liked by some one that doesn't like your looks... people should care about your character and smartness but not looks... i mean i even get good grades at school and i think thats enough.

You need to sit down with your mother and talk to it very politely so you two dont blow up at eachother. Ask her when she started wearing make up. Make compromises.. equalling out what you both want. The hint to make up is to look like your not wearing any at all and bring out your natural features. Remember that, and maybe your mother would accept that and you would be happy with the look you have.

Good Luck

College Girl NH

i have orangy-red hair, brown eyes and pale skin. what color eyeliner would look good on me? if you need more info just tell me! i rate 5s to answers that dont piss me off.

A lightish Brown color would not only bring out your eyes but your hair as well.

Good Luck
College Girl NH

I have a friend that ive known for several years. She lives a very long distance away from me and theres nothing i can do physcially for her. Her father makes her have sex with him on a nightly basis. Is there any way i can help her get help. Shes afraid of going against him, because he is paying for her college and everything. I love her to death. What can i do?

She needs to put all her financial needs aside and go to the police. If she will not, you should get the number for the police in her town and call yourself, she may not like you for awhile after doing it, but she will thank you later on. Be true to a friend and think of her feelings and this is wrong what is being done to her. Rape and Molestation is wrong and should not be taken lightly.

Good Luck and God Bless the both of you.

College Girl NH

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