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My boyfriend
Well i've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months. He has had sex before and I havent (15/f). For the past couple of days I have really been thinking if i want to do it or not. My boyfriend is perfect, but im kinda nervous about the whole thing. Dont get me wrong, I do want to have sex with him, but its only been to months and i think its kinda soon. I have been sort of leading him on, but i really thought about it today and im jsut not ready. What ways can i tell him that im sorry for leading him on but im just not ready yet?????
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its ok...dont feel bad if he doesent accept that your not ready well you can do better and i'd say just tell him you were teasing.....guys love to be teased...even if they dont get anything....and just make it seem like you were doing it on purpose and if he asks to have sex just tell him its to soon and that your not ready....he should understand.....hope i helped and if you have anymore questions....feel free to ask...
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Even if you lead him on, its ok to say no to something you don't like being done to you, thought I'd let you know that before I begin.
Alright, anyway 15 is a young and scary age to be thinking about sex, so it is normal to not be ready and to be totally confused, but I'm thinking that you should tell him that leading on thing was like a thought that you were ready, because you're only thinkin of see, but not doing it, so I'm thinking that all of this stuff about leading him on was that you thought you were ready, and he will understand if hes a good guy, tell him you thought you were but you need time, and I'm sure you know how some guys can be with words, don't just say "I don't know" if you're not ready, you've gotta give it to him straight, I know thats hard, but if you were to say that, you'll be brought closer together and better about telling each other things.
hope I gave you some thought.
-TheTeenGirl
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Tell him that you are sorry for leading him on but you hjust arent ready to have sex.....good for you too because you should wait untill you are married..Byw
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do if you like it do it again
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Sounds like you just answered your own question: say it> "I'm not ready" if he doesn't understand that then you shouldn't be with him anyway. Hope all goes well.
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*
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best way: "im not ready"
but just be strait wid him. tell him that ur not ready and ur srry for leading him on. just tell him the truth and if he truly likes u. he will understand and the pressure will be lifted
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tell him your busy just kinda avoid him but not so much the hell break up with you. then when your ready tell him you want to. hope i helped!
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IF YOUR NOT READY DONT DO IT! stand up 4 yourself!
Firstly if he dont understand how your feeling he obviously dont love you that much but you'll have 2 say sumthin first.
sit him down in private and tell him how much u like him, etc and then just say how u feel. dont go into deep detail but he'll probably understand. your not even legal age!
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i'm assuming you're either a soph. or a freshman in high school, correct? k, you need to decide whether you're ready for that or not. if you are, USE PROTECTION! you know the consequences are bad if you don't. if not, don't let him pressure you into anything. that's the worst situation to be in. and if you decide to do it, don't tell anybody. because that crap gets out like wildfire, and they'll assume crap n everything. im a virgin and ppl say stuff about me, n it's not even true.. so yeah. be careful =) hope i helped !
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Well just be straight forward and tell him how you want, to but its to soon and your not ready. And if he really loves you he will wait untill the time is right.Hoped I helped!!!!!!
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dont you fucking skank! if you tell someone ur gunna fuck them.. fuck them.. your 15 you should have done it by now!! my fucking god!
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Well, you have every right to change your mind. He's not the only one in your relationship who might want sex, and you are not the only one responsible for making those choices. So you led him on - so what? Just because you chose to do something/say something that could have been seen as sexually suggestive doesn't mean you HAVE to follow through on it.
I think you're right in saying that two months into a relationship is early for losing your virginity, but I also think you've already found your way to explain - you thought about it, you're not ready, you're sorry for leading him on. Any decent guy would accept that and reassure you that sex doesn't need to happen until you both want it to.
It can be uncomfortable to sexually stick up for yourself, but if you DO and the guy is supportive, then you know he's a guy worth being with. Good luck.
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Completly stop leading him on. if he asks you about it, simply tell him that you don't feel ready. he should respect and understand that. if he doesn't ask about it, than your okay : )
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well sweety, only YOU can decide whether your ready or not...but hey, if your having doubts about it, i honestly wouldnt go through with it :) thats just my personal opinion though, because if I were dating someone for 2 months and i REALLY liked him...and i was doubting having sex with him...i wouldnt go through with it just because if i were SURE i wanted too..i wouldnt have to question myself you know what i mean? Also, if you do decide to go through with it...just think about why your doing it...is it because you really likehim...or because you want him to like you more? Who knows :) lol and oh, one thing i would MAKE SURE to know...is if you guys are looking as if your going to be dating for a while, because some guys get sick of just one girl, but im not judging because i dont know him :) so just look out for yourself hun!!
good luck, hope I helped!
-Jenn
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You are right its kinda of soon. Actually its to soon. Your young you have your whole life ahead of you. Just put that off for now and wait longer. Alot longer. Thats something that takes alot of thinking on. If it actually comes to that then just let him know you arent ready and if he doesnt like your decision you need to dump him. Every guy should respect a girl. Same goes for girls with guys. But usually the guys pressure girls but anyways. Just let him know how you feel and that you dont want to have sex and that you arent ready and he should understand.-trix
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If it ever comes up, just say your not ready and that you just want to give it a little more time. Tell him that your sorry for leading him on and such. He'll understand. He's your boyfriend. If he loves you, everything will be great. Then when the time comes it will be that much more special, because you've waited till your a 100% ready.
♥ Krissy
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If he's as perfect as you say, he'll respect your decision and wait until you're ready...how ever long that might be. Just be honest with him and tell him you're not ready. He should understand and not pressure you to do it. Hope I helped,
JyNxiE
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well, the only way i can think of to tell him, is in a "baby i'm sorry, but..." kinda way. and if he's a true boyfriend, he won't really mind too much. good luck!hope i helped.:)
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he's your bf so he should understand and respect you. Tell him you dont want to do anything until your completely ready..and if he likes/loves you..he should be ok with that and wait. He shouldntt pressure you or anything..if he does then there is a problem. I would just be honest with him. When you get on the topic..just come right out and say your not ready and tell him exactly how you feel. Be honest and he should respect you for that.
-melissa-
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Well if he ever asks you about it be like "No, I'm not ready." and that should be the end of it. If hes like well you led me on..be like sorry I'm just not ready! Its good that your waiting!! Your so smart! 2 months is too soon...you'll know when your ready!! if he starts a fight or anything about the sex thing...hes not worth it.
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