Sit your family down and tell them that you understand they are upset that you've stopped cheerleading, but that it is your time, and you would rather spend it doing something else. tell them they are allowed to be upset, but they cannot be angry with you for something that has absolutely nothing to do with them. it was your decision, you made it based on what you felt was right for you. leave it at that, and then make sure you get in involved in other extra curricular stuff.

Mix a little bit of hot sauce into your nail polish, and then paint your nails with it.

wear the black shoes. as for jewelery, your dress seems pretty elaborate, so you wanna go with simple. i'd wear earrings, silver chandelier earring with a little pink in them, or just silver hoops. you don't absolutely need a necklace, but if u really want to wear one, go with pearls.

people relate to music in all different ways. maybe something in his music gives this guy the chills, or makes him feel understood, just like rap/rock/pop may do for you. its good to be exposed to other kinds of music, but for the most part, music is incredibly personal. let him listen to whatever he wants.

there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. love is love, and people are people. don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

while your intentions were good, your really going out with this guy for all the wrong reasons. that isn't fair to either of you. you have to break up with him. talk to him, but whatever you do, don't use any of those cliches (its not you, its me. i liked us better as friends) because as true as they may be, everyone knows them as "break up lines." you have to let this guy know that you're genuinely sorry. tell him that he is an amazing guy, but that you rushed into things, and right now, this isn't what you want from him. it may be awkward at first, but eventually you'll get your best friend back.

Don't jump to conclusions before you talk to her. You said she was talking to someone about how "you were on the verge of breaking up." that doesn't absolutely mean that she knew he was gonna break up with you- it could mean that as your best friend, she knew your relationship wasn't going so well, and had a feeling it was going to end. consider all the possibiltites. and then if you still feel like you need to know what really happened, talk to her. but be careful- most likely- she was just being a concerned friend.

paint is awesome for making collages. go into paint, go to edit, and then click paste from. you'll be taken to your documents, where you can find whatever picture you want, and then double click on it. it'll come into paint reaaally big, but you can make it smaller...run your mouse over the sides or corners until you see arrows come up and then move them in to whatever size you want. if you click on the middle of the picture, you can move it around too. just be careful, because as soon as you click outside of the picture, you can't move or size it anymore. then, repeat those steps for as many pics as you want. : )

there are stretches you can do up against the wall. try laying on your back with your butt against the wall, and kind of spread your legs out on the wall, like you would on the floor to stretch out. push them down as far as you can, and just lay there- read, watch tv, whatever you want. it really stretches your inner thighs out, and will help with your splits. each time you do it, push your legs down farther.

everyone matures at different rates, and if this 18 year old girl finds herself crazy about and connecting with a 24 year old guy, what right does anyone have to tell them they can't be together? yes, they are at different points in their lives right now, but if things are meant to be, they'll figure things out. if not, they'll eventually break up. its just like every other relationship- at this point, age shouldn't be the deciding factor. love is love u know?

heyy- sorry for the delayed answer! its really really hard to stop liking someone, as you obviously are experiencing. this is gonna sound so mean- but i swear it works. for a little while, concentrate on the things you don't like about this guy. think of all his annoying traits that you can't stand, his habits that make you clench your teeth. think of every reason not to like him, and go with that. keep your focus on anything else you can. after awhile, the romantic feelings will go away- and his annoyance to you will too ; ) good luck- you know where you can find me if you need anything else.

check around with his friends to see what gets him heated- you'll score some points for being interested in what he feels, and its usually easier for guys to talk about things that they're passionate about.

i tell my best guy friend this all the time- yes, it sucks not having someone, but you can't be totally happy with someone else until your happy with yourself. find your inner confidence. once you get to the point where you don't feel like you need the security of a girlfriend, the right girl will show up. i know- easier said than done. which is why you have to live up your life for what it is right now.

stop freaking out, because as scary as it seems, oral exams are go over a lot smoother if your calm about it, or at least seem calm when your taking them. im not sure what level of french your in, but my french teacher makes us take a ton of oral exams, and if you want, leave me a messgae in my inbox telling me what level, what kinda questions your answering, etc. i'd love to help.

shes doing great, thank you so much for asking : )

valentines day is the perfect opportunity to figure out whats up with her. plan something special, to watch movies together, go out for pizza, whatever. see how she acts around you then. it might just be that she hasn't spent time with you latly, and shes reacting to it. if she still seems to be being cold, theres something going on. girls sometimes act on their feelings, and don't realize what theyre doing to their boyfriends. I've done it, and if this is the case, she really needs you to bring it up. tell her you've noticed shes been acting a little different lately, and you wanted to make sure everything was okay. if her answer makes it obvious that it has nothing to do with you, don't push it and continue to be there for her until shes ready to talk. if its obviously something having to do with your relationship, make sure she knows that you have to know about these things to, and you can't fix anything if you don't know what she feels is wrong.

asking him to dance should deffinitly not messing up whatever friendship you have with him. when your at the dance, just go up to him, smile, and ask him if he feels like dancing. guys like girls with confidence.

you should deffinitly dance with him. regardless of his feelings for him, you still like him, and have every right to dance with him. just be confident, go over to him, smile at him sweetly and tell him he's dancing with you. don't let her intimidate you.

invite her to the party. i understand shes bothering you, but its a party, and you'll have other friends there with you. put yourself in her position. she obviously doesn't know shes bothering you, so when she finds out, she'll be an emotional mess of anger, confusion, and that terrible feeling of being left out. shes your good friend, on your nerves or not.

substitute them. make all soda, dots, ice cream and things like that unavaliable to you. eat frozen yogurt instead of ice cream. eat grapes instead of dots. drink juice instead of soda. think of it as the healthier version of all the foods you love.

Hey...im risa, known to some as Reeses : )
I love the feeling of knowing that something i said helped someone when they were feeling confused, upset, or just in need of hearing someone elses point of view. i know it sounds corny, but im always here if you ever just need someone to tell you your not crazy. : )

Because maybe...your gonna be the one that saves me.

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