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No cheer = No family
I cheered competativly for 5 years, I don't like cheerleading anymore so I refused to tryout for my middle school squad. My mom and I battled for 2 weeks about this, but I won and its to late now to turn in the forms. Now no one will talk to me in my family, and if they do its some sarcastic or mean remark to make me feel stupid. Sorry for the length but i need help, i dread goin home after school everyday now!! Plz help, I'll rate high :)
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i am a cheerleader and have been cheering for 9 years and i love it. not everyone likes it and i had this problem in 5th grade. i did't want to but my family toold me not to quit that i was making a big mistake. i fought them with them for days until i explained to them exactally how i felt. even though they thought i did something worng i sat the year out. i then relized i really did like cheering and i cheer now for middle school and trying out for high school. so you just have to sit them down and make them understand how you feel...hope i helped.
- aSkMe1o1...................<3
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My advice to you is that it sucks to live in that family but there's other ways to go around it or solve it than to get insulted. I mean its too late to turn in your form so your pretty stuck besides cheerleading isnt everything in this life first comes your education and if they're more into that sport than your education than they're not really raising you well. Basically its YOUR decision not anyone elses. Good luck ! :)
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if you dread goin home everyday after school y do you go home? just dont go home dumbass:)
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kk well i have never been hated by my family... but that must really really suck!!! but i know how it feels 2 be forced 2 do something you don't want 2 do.... i always confronted my mom and told her how i felt.. i don't no what you should do if you hav already done that. and don't listen 2 the stupid sarcastic remarks... it olny makes things worse!! i can tell you that! i don't want u 2 rate me.. b/c i don't think i was ne help.. soo i hope things work out and i hope you find some other hobbie 2 pick up... Always There 2 Help, Hope (lil Hil) P.S. Instant Message me sometime... that will hopefully help! :-) SMILE
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if your family is going to be like that about something as small as cheerleading (no offence to all of you girls who enjoy it, i do too) then they all need to grow up. it's not their choice what you want to do with your life. if you want to play another sport then they should support you in that, that's what a real family does.
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You should tell you're family that they need to live in their life - not yours. You have the right to make your own decisions, to make up your own mind about what you want and dont want and what you like and what you dont like. In the end, everything you do should be something that you feel you're doing for yourself and not others. Tell your mom, and your family, that you understand that they feel like you could have went somewhere with cheerleading, but that if they cant accept your decisions then they are being selfish in a way. Ask them what the hell it has to do with them anyway. I'm serious, you shouldn't even care about it if thats the way they're going to act. Good luck.
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if you do not want to be a cheerleeder they can't force you to be a chreer leeder talk to them get out of the house a lot so that the miss you.if they ask you why you never are at home tell them indirectly or directly.if you dread going home after school do not go home till 20-30 minutes after school.make them miss you.make them feel sorry that they were forcing you to join the squad.
*hope*i*helped*
*cleopatra*
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They really need to get over it. You aren't living for their amusement. If you didn't want to cheer then you were perfectly within your rights not to. So, don't let them belittle you for it. You are not the stupid one they all are. They need to get a life and leave yours alone. Just ignore them and don't dignify their remarks by arguing with them or anything. Just tell them to get over it already! :)
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Sit your family down and tell them that you understand they are upset that you've stopped cheerleading, but that it is your time, and you would rather spend it doing something else. tell them they are allowed to be upset, but they cannot be angry with you for something that has absolutely nothing to do with them. it was your decision, you made it based on what you felt was right for you. leave it at that, and then make sure you get in involved in other extra curricular stuff.
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wow, just ask your parents if they are really concerned for your well-being, or if they are secretly reliving their childhood through you.
-gunner
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There isn't much that you can do except talk to your family. Explain to them that if you continued cheerleading, you wouldn't be happy. Just say "Hey Mom, can we talk?" and then ask something like "Why are you angry that I'm not continuing cheerleading?" Then you can explain to her why you don't want to cheerlead anymore. Also ask why they're saying the mean and sarcastic remarks and let her know that this hurts you. Good luck! I hope I helped and if you need any more help, leave a question in my inbox!
*Manders*
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