hey! im a 16 yr old female from south east wisconsin. i been thru quite a bit of stuff and i have problems of my own...who doesnt have problems right? well anyways talkin is my thing. i kno that i love to have sum1 to just spill my heart out to whether im really close with them or not. if u have anything u want to ask me about pretty much anything feel free to. im always gonna be here if u need some help on something so juss give me a buzz....~!~xoxo~!~
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MK so theres a senior and hes the most perfect guy for me. and im a freshman. how do i get a guys attention and get him to talk to me. i see him everywhere though out the school and his locker is down the hall from mine. i'm like in love with him cause every time i see him i just feel so ughh idk how to explain but you know. i've been to his house before with a bunch of girls waiting for his bro whos myage to come home a year ago but i doubt he remembers me (link)
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sorry if this sounds mean.
but if you havent really ever talked to him or hung out with him..
you arent in love..
that would be call lust.
you are just attracted to him.
trust me.
it happens to every girl.
and guy for that matter.
but..
you really should try to make friends with him.
like the others said..
it probably wont just happen.
you have to make the first move at a friendship.
when you see him just be like.."hey whats up?"
it may not work out at all..
but just remember.
you are young.
you just started high school.
and there will be plenty more guys.
dont worry too much!
hope i helped.
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Okay. Well. Yeah. =]
I'm a 17-year-old guy and I'm bisexual. It took me a while to admit to it, but I finally accepted it. =] Anyways, I've told my mom and she has no problem with it. My parents are divorced, by the way. Well, I want to tell my dad, but he is extremely homophobic. I seriously think he would yell at me. He lives in another state. I visit him in March.
Should I tell him I'm bisexual, and if I should, then how? I'd like to tell him before March because I wear eyeliner and don't want to stop wearing it when I see him. (link)
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if you dont feel ready to tell him yet.
then dont.
you need to be comfortable saying..
"dad im bisexual, i like girls and guys"
before you can actually say it to him.
go to his place in march.
visit with him.
and have a good time.
and if while you are there..
you feel you are ready to tell him..
then tell him.
if not..just wait.
until you are ready.
keep in mind that he may react negatively.
but he may not mean to react that way.
thats a big deal for a parent..
any parent.
it will be a shock to him.
and you have to let him adjust to it.
if he gets angry or upset.
let him.
its his way of showing the shock.
im sure he loves you..for you.
it just may take him awhile to get used to the idea.
dont get mad at him for reacting negatively tho.
that will only prolong the process.
just try to understand that is as hard for him to accept it as it was for you.
im sure everything will work out okay.
GOOD LUCK!
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Is something wrong with me? There's some blood in my discharge. I never had sex. And I last had my period around the 6th or in that week.
Can masturbating have anything to do with it? Long fingernails? Can being gentle tear/cut something inside there? (link)
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well.
i had the same thing happen to me..
and my doctor told me..
that it could just be from your period..
coz as you know..
when you menstrate..
the tissue on the inside of your uterus sheds out..
and sometimes..
it might not all come out..
so masturbation/ good orgasm could cause the little bit that didnt come out when you had your period to come out..
but..
it could also be from long finger nails while masturbating..
just make sure to trim your nails before you masturbate next time!
hope i helped.
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ok, so i was just wondering if all the rumors are true about proactive being horrible... i need something to help get rid of mild acne, and i was thinking about trying proactive, so i was just wounering if it was ok to use.. or not.. if not what do you sugest that i use?? thx in advance (link)
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a friend of mine used proactive..
and at first she hated it..
because..
it makes all the dirt and oil come out of your skin..
and it makes you break out pretty bad.
but..that was only for a few days..
and then everything cleared up..
and as long as you keep using it..
morning and night..
it works GREAT.
at least it did for her.
its different for everybody.
i dont use it..
but i dont have bad acne or anything..
i just use Clearasil Ultra.
two times daily..
and it works pretty good for me..
just make sure that if you start using proactive..
that you keep using it.
it should work pretty good..
after you get past the first few days.
hope i helped.
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How do you know when to kiss someone?
"You'll just know" doesn't cut it for me, k?
Is it when you stare deeply into each other's eyes and happen.. to lean in closer?
Is that the right moment to kiss?
I'm really nervous. I have kissed people before but this is my first kiss in this relationship. Usually my "first kisses" with others.. were bad.
And I want to actually remember this kiss with him.
What is better.. lipgloss or chapstick?
And what will make my breath smell good?
[I don't want to constantly pop in mints] (link)
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not popping mints is a good thing..
coz if you're contstantly doing that..
he'll just think you're expecting the kiss..
and it will probably make everythig even more awkward.
mints= bad.
brush your teeth before you go out.
or before you hang out with him.
dont eat smelly stuff.
dont chew gum.
it makes your breath worse.
just..avoid gross smelly stuff.
and you should be fine.
for the kiss thing..
when you get to that moment..
where you both are like..leaning in..
just go for it..IF IT FEELS RIGHT!
dont do it if you're the only one leaning in..
coz that might mean he isnt ready..
so..
just observe..
and then go for it.
you cant expect the first kiss with him to be perfect..
because..
chances are that it wont be perfect..
and if you want to remember it..
you'll remember a horrible kiss!!
Lol.
hope i helped.
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I'm a virgin (15), and my boyfriend is not(17). he doesn't care that I am, or anything like that, he has a girlfriend for a long time and she's only the other person he's had sex with.... Well I'm really scared to do it, and it's not liek he's pressuring me or anything, I just want to know, what his reaction will be like. because I'm really afraid, and do guys usually have patience with girls during their first? and how bad does it actually hurt? (link)
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well its different for couple.
because if hes really big in the pants.
it will hurt more than it would if you had your first time with a guy that wasnt so big.
the first time i had sex.
it hurt.
but not too bad.
the next time i had sex was over a year after i lost my virginity and guess what..
it hurt all over again.
prolly because i hadnt had sex in a long time.
but ill be honest..
it hurt me the first few times.
just depends on you. and the guy.
BUT.
after the first few times.
sex is great.
DO NOT RUSH SEX!!!
i lost my virginity at 16. and i wish i had waited longer to lose it.
seriously..your virginity is something you cant get back.
once you lose it..
its gone.
there is no getting it back.
make sure you really think about it..
also..
the guy i lost my virginity to was really understanding..
and he was 19..just out of a 2year relationship..and they had sex all the time...
he was understanding and patient with me..
i know..a GUY..PATIENT..
its a miracle i think.
LOL.
and if yer boyfriend isnt patient.
and understanding..
then maybe he isnt the one you want to lose it to.
good luck hunnie.
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My Daughter is 11 and she tells me shes old anough to babysit but i dont know if she should. I started babysitting when i was 11 but i want to make sure its a good age. Please help! (link)
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well..
the way ive always seen it..
was 11 for family members.
and 12 or 13 (whenever you think they're ready) for kids other than family members.
plus.
you always want to make sure that the babysitter..or potential babysitter can handle serious situations that could arrise. such as injury. or illness.
make sure they have phone numbers. know where a fire extinguisher is. and it would probably be a good idea for them to take a first aid course with the Red Cross and get certified.
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Is there an easier way to shave the vaginal area .. ? I'm too young to go out and buy cream and all that stuff ... so all I have is the easy to use razors and soap and whatnot . I've tried before .. but it scratches and hurts and whatnot, then when I shave down it just trims .. it's getting annoying . (link)
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yea uhm. if youre too young to go buy shaving cream..you're too young to shave your legs, let alone anywhere else. dont shave. trust me. you may think its cool now..but it sucks! i shaving everyday!
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I am 13yrs old and I want a byfriend.
Unfortunately I go to an all girls school.
How can I meet boys the same age as me? (link)
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just go places with your friends from school. like a movie or the mall. you'll be sure to meet some guys. but you are only 13. you do not need a boyfriend. boys can be the cause of a lot of drama between friends. especially in middle school and high school so just be careful:P good luck hun hope i helped
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I don't attract guys at all. It's been said that I'm a lesbian (which I'm not), and I have an extremely brutal (but with purpose...I don't just say "Fuck the world" for no reason and think it's funny) sense of humor and wear all black. Are these turn-offs? But I'm a nice person. Though I can be a little morbid, I'm generally pretty friendly, I consider others' feelings, and I try to make friends, but nobody at my school wants to be around me. It's inevitable someone will say "Marian, I REALLY wanna sit next to Joe Shmoe. Can you move over?" at least twice a day. I just hate that. Whenever we have to choose partners/teams in gym, I'm always the last person. I feel so lonely, I cry sometimes in the locker room when nobody is around. There's only 1 friend of mine that's a guy who actually appreciates me for who I am, and I now have such a huge crush on him. I don't want to sound conceited at all, but I think I'm a nice-looking person, so that eliminates the idea that guys might not like me because of my looks. Does anyone understand? How can I make more friends? Even though he doesn't like me back in the same way, should I tell this boy I like him, and if so, how?
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ive gone thru the same thing!!! and i know its hard. i used to be like depressed and stuff and i wore all black and cried a lot n blah blah blah you know how that goes.i got called all sorts of names. yes even the lesbian thing came up. for some reason highschool students seem to think that just because a girl wears a lot of black that she is a lesbian which isnt true at all. but yea well...guys didnt like me...most of them were afraid of me coz i used to wear all black and just seemed rough edged and stuff. it was intimidating i guess? i dont know..but what i did was just talk to people. let them see that im a nice person. its school and it sucks i know hun. i hate my school. most of the people in it are jerks and there are times i just cant take it. but its life and you get through it. maybe try dating an older guy? like a senior or someone who has already graduated from highschool. chances are that they are more mature than the lil boys at school. if i was you id hold off on tellin that guy that you like him. if you do it might make your friendship awkward and that wouldnt be a good thing. trust me. just try to flirt around with him a lil bit when you hang out with him and see if he flirts back. if something is meant to happen between you and him it will. just let it flow sweetheart. i know i prolly wanst much help but i hope i made you feel a lil better. good luck.
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i keep having to peee
like all of a sudden really bad and then very little comes out, very often
and i havent drinkin that much today, just a small cup of cranberry juice, a bottle of water, and a can of minute maid lite...
does anyone know what this is?
thank you (link)
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yea that sounds like a UTI (urinary tract infection) go see a doctor and your doctor can prescribe an antibiotic for you and it will clear up in a day or two. dont get too worried. just see your doctor and everything should be fine. but if you dont see your doctor and it gets worse and worse it could lead to a bladder or kidney infection. so just get checked out as soon as possible. good luck. hope you feel better and i hope i was some sort of help for you.
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My friend is hanging out with my old friend. my old friend is into bad things like sex and stuff. I don't want my friend to be around those kind of people. (link)
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first of all sex is not a bad thing. its perfectly natural. and thinking its a bad thing doesnt quite compliment your maturity. anyways. tell your friend how you fee about it and let your friend make the decision whether they want to stay friends with the people. its up to them not you. just dont be a bad friend and yell and get angry. just tell your friend how you feel and hope for the best. good luck hope i helped
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ok so im friends with this one guy Will. we have this whole group of friends..4 girls and 2 guys including Will...i always feel like im saying or doing the wrong thing to him. for example..i always take his ipod and listen to it b/c it has better songs than mine ((also to kinda firt with him)). and i had no idea that he was mad at me for doing that but he told my friend Claire that he doesn't like it. and another time when i asked him for a bite of his pizza..he said no and i begged some more and then he said no still and ((jokingly))i said i hate you will...((jokingly)) but i think he took it the wrong way...simply put im always saying/doing the wrong thing to him...how do i stop doing saying or doing the wrong thing around him? (link)
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shut your mouth and keep your hands to yourself?
kindergarten had to do teach ya something.
:P
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OK so, right before Christmas my freind broke up wtih her boyfreiend. They had only been seeing eachother for 2 weeks. She then told me sometimes in January that if me or any of my freinds went out with him she would be mad. Well, we aren't really freinds and more and over the weekend I kissed her ex. I don't know if I should tell her or just keep it to myself. Like, if someone else told her would it be worse? I like him and have liked him since January. (link)
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follow your heart. if you and him want to date then go ahead. its not like your friend had a serious relationship with him..it only lasted two weeks...dont tell her bout the kiss. its none of her business. i dont believe in kiss and tell so yea. hope i helped you out. dont forget to follow your heart.
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Everytime my boyfriend (who i have been with for 1 and a half years) gets a boner, his penis is bent, like a banana. If i try to have foreplay with him, this makes it difficult and i want to laugh. Im not sure what to do. It makes intercourse unsexy and turns me off. He just doesnt give me the pleasure i need. Does anyone know what to do? im thinking of breaking up with him because i need to laugh everytime he gets horny. Please get back to me as soon as possible! (link)
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hmm seems like something that he cant help. i mean if he could and it was effecting your sex life so bad im sure hed do something to change it. but yea thats not something he can change. i dont see why you would break up with him because of it. he didnt do anything wrong...maybe try different positions or something. if you have been with him for a year and a half i highly doubt that is the real reason you wnat to break up with him...maybe you are just looking for a lame reason to break up with him...? i dont know. but its up to you whether you break up with him or not...but if you do it and thats the reason...dont expect to be able to come back to him in a few months whe the next guy dumps you...im sure he'll find a girl who likes his bent penis. its up to you if you are willing to give up a year and a half of your life. but none the less i wish you luck.
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ok i live in new orleans. my dad came to help fix my house. well he started to have stomach pains. we found out he has livier cancer cause he is an acholic. well he will die anyday now. well now my grades are sinking and my mom hardly lets me on the computer we go to consuling but they still cant fingure me out. i can hardly fingure myself out. my dad now always screams at me cause he is in a bad mood and it imbaresss me what should i do? i cry every nitee (link)
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wow im sorry to hear about your dad. my grandfather just recently passed away from liver cancer...its gonna be really tough for a long time. im sure you know that. just make sure you dad knows that you love him and like someone else said. do not take what he does to heart. hes your dad..he loves ya. like someone else said im sure he is just afraid of passing away...most likely he is worried about his family and stuff...just assure him that you and your mom will be okay and that you will always love and miss him. again im sorry to hear about your father. i hope i helped out at least a little bit. my msn is sweet_pea_318@hotmail.com if you ever need someone to talk to. best wishes n prayers.
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well i looked at your pictures. very pretty i might add. :P maybe you could get it cut a little shorter with drastic blending layers throughout and then chopped bangs...that is what i would do if i was you. im not sure if you will be able to see this link or not but i thought the style was cute. and i think it would look cute on you.
http://www.1001-hairstyles.com/gallery/long/centre-parting/2/tmd3n2.htm
or maybe you could try going on google and typing in hairstyles. hope i helped you out at least in some way. good luck. im sure anything you do to your hair will look cute:P
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After the AVG thing scans my computer and in the virus vault and I suppose to delete the files or should I leave it in there? And for norton antivirus say there are some Quarantined Items am I suppose to delete those? Does it delete those virus out of my computer? What should I do? Thanks! (link)
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eh. i dont really know how most of those things work but i can give you a site to down load a free scan that you can do on your computer. a friend of mine who is like a computer genius told me to go to the site and use it...it checks and catches everything. the first time i used it it said i had over 1300 infected files when another scan i had used said i had NONE!!! the website is www.ewido.com just download the free version or you can buy the other version too. but that isnt really necessary. dont quarantine the infected files. clean them. the scan on the ewido sit will automatically clean them for you when the scan is complete. just make sure you close all the programs on your computer before trying to use it. the scan will go slower if you dont. and if you are trying to use programs while scanning it...your computer will lag. hope i helped you out.
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ok, this friend of mine told me that this girl i really like deosnt like me but a friend of hers said she likes me , but shes afraid to hurt me if she brakes up with me. her friend said i should ask her out but my friend said i shouldnt. should i take the chance and listen to her friend and ask her out or not and listen to her friend? (link)
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best advice i can give you is to follow your heart. chances are that the girls friend knows her a lot better than your friend does. or you could just go straight to the source and ask the girl yourself if she likes you...just follow your heart. everything will work out in the end. hope i helped. best of luck.
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when my bf is 18 i will be turning 17 5 months later. it sounds not a big of a deal but he doesnt want to give my parents a reason for him to stop talkin to me so he is plannin to break up with me until i turn 18. he still will be close friends with me but i just dont like the idea. can someone help. my mom doesnt like him and wont get to know him bc of his skin color she thinks she has my whole life planned for me. (link)
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tell your boyfriend that you dont like the idea. tell him you dont care what your mother thinks about him and that she has no control over your future and who you will be with. then you need to talk to your mother. i 100% support inter-racial dating. if i was you id tell your mom that you love him..(if you do) and that her opinion of him doesnt matter to you. and that even if she thinks she is going to control who you are with in the future she is dead wrong. tell her you are almost 17 years old and that you are more than capable of making the decision of who you want to date. she cant tell you who to love. my parents tried the same thing but i didnt let their crap work. i dated who i loved. and eventually they grew to understand why i loved him and just how much i did. needless to say he and i didnt work out but thats a different story:P but really you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him you dont like the idea of breaking up and stuff...if it comes down to it that your mother tries to make you guys break up even if you and him decide that you dont want to break up...and you really want to stay with him...in most states once you are 16 you can get emancipated. that is pretty much where you get a job and prove to the govt that you can support yourself. and you pretty much divorce your parents. you and your boyfriend could get an appartment and stay together.:P hope i helped you out in some way or another. good luck. best wishes to you and your boyfriend
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