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ok i live in new orleans. my dad came to help fix my house. well he started to have stomach pains. we found out he has livier cancer cause he is an acholic. well he will die anyday now. well now my grades are sinking and my mom hardly lets me on the computer we go to consuling but they still cant fingure me out. i can hardly fingure myself out. my dad now always screams at me cause he is in a bad mood and it imbaresss me what should i do? i cry every nitee
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First of all going by the little information you typed, it is not hard to figure you out. You are going through a very stressful time, there is no so called "normal" way to react. Don't feel bad about your Dad yelling at you, he is sick and not himself. It's hard..but you will have to accept that this is his reaction to his illness. As far as your grades, even though your life is in an uproar right now, you do have to move on. Your grades will be important long after your Dad is gone. Tell your school counselor that you need extra help right now because you can't focus. You are a better person for asking..don't be ashamed. Maybe someone will volunteer to tutor you.
If your Dad isn't signed up for Hospice, he should be. They are actually very well trained to help the family. Ask to speak to a social worker that works with Hospice families. Apparently the counselor you have now is not the right person to help you. Most of all don't blame yourself, you did nothing to cause this situation.
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Well...I'm Sorry about your dad but the reason that your grades are sinking is probably because Your Dad Is on your mind and you can't concentrate. Your mum is probably woried about you. And she is in alot of pain and has alot of greif right now. As for your dad yelling at you... He is probably just Trying to let out his pain through anger. He probably see's how your mum is and that makes him mad so because you are right there he will continue Yelling. Just tell your dad that you know he is in alot of pain but that is no reason to be treating you the way he is. Tell him that it is making you feel scared.
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Okay, you want the reason why your grades are sinking?
Because you are worried about your dad. You love you dad and would hate to see him die. Yes, counseling is good but you're not going to do better if you don't want.
Think of it like this, you want to get good grades to make your dad proud of you because you want him to be happy during his last days on earth.
So, put your mind to it and get some homework done!
You also said your dad was an alcoholic.... you might want to try AA meetings if he is still drinking.
As for liver cancer, I don't know.
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wow im sorry to hear about your dad. my grandfather just recently passed away from liver cancer...its gonna be really tough for a long time. im sure you know that. just make sure you dad knows that you love him and like someone else said. do not take what he does to heart. hes your dad..he loves ya. like someone else said im sure he is just afraid of passing away...most likely he is worried about his family and stuff...just assure him that you and your mom will be okay and that you will always love and miss him. again im sorry to hear about your father. i hope i helped out at least a little bit. my msn is sweet_pea_318@hotmail.com if you ever need someone to talk to. best wishes n prayers. <3nichole
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Hi,
I'm soo sorry to hear about your dad. Yes, your dad maybe screaming at you but please don't take it to heart. I'm afraid that your dad is afraid of dying. But before he passes on he will always love you. Just let him know how you feel because it might make him feel better. Okay? I'm soo sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you the best of luck.
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