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friend or b/f?
I broke up with my b/f a few days ago. One of my best guy friends ask me out then. I said yea, because I thought that I liked him and I didn't wanna hurt him. But now that I'm going out with him I'm not sure if I really like him. It kinda feels like oh I liked it better when we were friends when I could just say I love you all the time and he'd tell me the same thing. I don't know what to do now. Does anyone have any advice or had the same problem and what did you do?
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tell him that things arent working out, and you just wanna be friends. that happened to me too. i felt really bad when i turned my friend down but i was just friends and now were cool. just say that it feels awkward going out with a good friend. tell him youll still be friends with him though, you dont have to hate eachother or anything.
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Bwah. Thats funny. You people move too fast in relationships. Take more then "a few days" to think about your past relationship and what went wrong with it. If that guy is really your friend and not just there for your ass he would understand you need time. If not kick him in the balls give him a glass of water and run like a nudist from the police.
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You only went out once! You can either give it another try and see if things change, or just tell him you like him as a friend and want to keep it that way. Don't wait long though because you'll hurt his feelings if you let it go undecided to long. :)
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ok well jsut think of ur relationship with this guy stepping up to the hext level. this doesnt mean that u have to stop any of your old ways. but being on this new level allows you to grow closer and closer to the guy.
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Talk to him about it. Tell him exactly what you are feeling. If you guys are as great friends as it sounds, then he'll be understanding and he'll want to make sure you guys do what is best for your friendship. As you talk with him, you should find that your own feelings will become more clear; you may not know the ultimate answer at the end, but you'll have had a chance to express your feelings, think out loud, and get his feedback all at once.
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while your intentions were good, your really going out with this guy for all the wrong reasons. that isn't fair to either of you. you have to break up with him. talk to him, but whatever you do, don't use any of those cliches (its not you, its me. i liked us better as friends) because as true as they may be, everyone knows them as "break up lines." you have to let this guy know that you're genuinely sorry. tell him that he is an amazing guy, but that you rushed into things, and right now, this isn't what you want from him. it may be awkward at first, but eventually you'll get your best friend back.
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I had the same problem earlier this year. I ignored the problem for a week, hoping that it was just me having trouble adjusting my mind to thinking of the guy as a boyfriend instead of a friend, but it didn't work. I started really resenting him. In the end I told him and I broke up with him. I felt so much better afterwards, like someone had set me free from prison or something.
You should tell him...it's not fair on either of you to keep this going on. The longer it goes on, the more it'll hurt him, and the more unhappy you'll get in the meantime.
Don't stay where you aren't happy, sweetie...life is too short.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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