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How far should you go with a guy at 13 years old?
how far should you go with a guy at age 13...and don't say "however far you wanna go"--thanks
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i wished that me telling you to keep yourself pure would actually make a difference. unfortunally its not that easy. now a days girls are so pressured to do soo much that it becomes over whelming. i tell you this from my experience. i lost my virginity at the age on 18. i waited so long to be with someone that i cared for. the worst part about that is that so many guys act like they care for you and will always be there until you give it up then there gone. i couldnt have been any happier that i waited. i was about the only girl that every man wanted. and not the young boys. men!!! men who wanted a respectable girl. once i got with someone i couldnt believe all the respect i was getting. im no longer with the boy but i dont regret it. he til this day calls me and admits that hes in shock that i found a girl like me and that he sometimes wished he never messed up. im so greatful for being so different and doing things my way.
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How far you wanna go....Just kidding
but seriously you shouldn't go anyway...kissing is the only thing that at the least for your age is safe. other than that, nothing else should happen......
hope i helped
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Imagine yourself in a pair of shorts which aren't Daisy Dukes and a one piece swimsuit.
Don't let him touch anywhere the clothes cover.
At 13 I'm going to assume you're talking about a guy who's 16 or under. If that's wrong, stop talking to him, you don't need to be around guys four years older than you anytime in the next couple of years.
You're both underage which means you both aren't supposed to be doing sexual stuff with each other. Kissing is fine, it's not considered overtly sexual. While kissing, like I said, don't let him touch you places that would be covered by the clothes I had you picture.
There are types of non sexual touching you can explore though, things that shouldn't land you in situations you aren't ready to deal with yet. Massage is an easy one. Sit him down (or sit down) on the floor in front of a couch or chair, the other person sits in the chair, and you rub each others shoulders, neck, even scalp (scalp massages are awesome)
You can also have one of you lie face down and have the other rub your back. It's relaxing, it's fun to give or receive, and it should keep you out of trouble.
A tip, and I'm a guy so trust me when I say I know what I'm talking about, boys push boundaries. Whatever you're comfy with, they're going to want to do more. They might ask, they might sneak a hand where it isn't supposed to be, people get caught up in the moment and often times doing one thing makes you want to do others.
You should stand by what you are comfortable with and whats appropriate. When someone passes your boundaries, you should stop them, show them what is appropriate, and expect them to adhere to it. If you're kissing and a guy goes for a boob feel, take his hand and put it back on your shoulder, arm, or neck where it belongs. If he tries it again, let him know that he can stop trying or stop everything.
Understand that relationships and physical intimacy are about what two people want to do together and are OK with doing together. When someone pushes you past your boundaries, it is ALWAYS within your rights to stop whatever is going on any second you choose to. That's how this works.
Now, onto the warnings.
Most (90 percent probably) of guys have some degree of asshole in them. It's the same side of us that, as adults, drives us to want to sleep with every woman we find even moderately attractive that walks into view.
Part of becoming an adult man is learning to control this side for the appropriate moments. I still push boundaries (or would, were I not married), and generally I steadily progress the physical relationship when dating a girl unless she throws up a stop sign. Even so, the last girl I dated I slept with fairly quickly, and she felt we'd moved too fast and wanted to wait a while before we repeated.
I never did anything more than tell her what I wanted. I pushed without making anything a requirement, and she filled in the blanks and did something she wasn't comfy with just because I was horny and willing to say so.
Don't be this girl. I'm not dating her anymore for a reason.
There will be assholes. Guys who will do anything they can to get laid, say whatever they can, who will tell you that you should do something, that it's required, who will make you feel immature, inexperienced, young, or otherwise inferior because you aren't doing exactly what they want when they want it.
These guys deserve a swift kick in the balls, and a swift breakup afterwards. Do not waste your time on men or boys who tell you that you are inferior for doing things at your own pace.
Other guys around your age though, might push just because they have no idea what they're doing. Guys who might say you should do something and then back off when you confidently state that you're not going there yet. Pay more attention to these guys, they just have growing up to do.
The point of all of this is to add "I don't", "I won't" and "No" to your vocabulary and to make you comfortable with using them. It'll keep the assholes away, they'll search for girls who listen when they tell them what to do. And it'll get respect from the rest of guys who are interested and just a bit too horny for their own good.
A last bit.
It is likely that there will be people around you who go alot further, and people around you who don't go anywhere near as far as you want to go or are comfy with sexually. In your case, there are 13 year olds who are having sex and 13 year olds who wouldn't let a guy anywhere near even kissing them or touching them.
The ones who AREN'T doing anything are generally pretty quiet. They're fine with what they do and don't (usually) feel too much of a need to make others be like them.
The ones who are doing stuff are generally loud about it. Especially the ones having sex, a 13 year old having sex knows it's frowned upon, and so he or she is going to want to encourage others to be like them, they're going to tell people who don't want to do things that they're abnormal.
Don't let people get to you. Teenagers tell each other what is "right" or "normal" based on what they want "right" and "normal" to be. A guy who wants blowjobs will make it seem like it's expected. A girl who fucks a new guy every weekend is going to tell you that "hooking up" is normal and everyone does it so she's not the only one slutting it up.
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i would just say kissing, 13 is young and doing much more may lead to othere things. why rush kissing can be a load of fun and if that isnt enough for aguy then who cares find you another one cause girls are worth so much more then men see them as. just kissing would be my answer you have your whole life for everything else :)
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13 years old is WAY too young, Rainbow is right.
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Kiss.
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According to the law, you shouldn't be doing anything more than kissing.
Obviously this depends on where you live as the age of consent varies from country to country but in most of the US it's 18 and in the UK it's 16. This means that having sexual contact before that age is illegal and if you were to engage in sexual contact with someone above the age of consent, they could be charged with statutory rape.
Obviously no one can physically stop you from doing what you want but you should never do anything if you aren't ready and you should never let anyone force you to do something you don't want to do. I know alot of people who really regret having sex and engaging in sexual activities as young as they did and wish they'd waited. 13 is very young and you have your whole life ahead of you to do whatever you want.
If you do decide to have sex then please remember to be safe and use protection.
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Well, I wouldn't recommend going all the way at this age. I would go as far as you wanna go even though you don't wanna hear that. The farthest my friends have gone is giving a blow-job/hand-job and going up shirts and down pants lol. Hope I helped! <3
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Hey!! I think you should go to kissing-- AT THE MOST. You're young, you have the rest of your life to go ALL THE WAY. And, going all the way can ruin your chances of a higher life if you have a kid at 13...
xoxo,
Lara
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you should go as far away from him as possible. This blows me away! I mean im only 27 but my god, a 13 yr old worrying and wanting to have sex is disturbing. Dont. You will regret it and regrets are not something you can take back. Respect yourself, your body, and enjoy being a kid.
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It matters how long you have been with this guy. do what your ready for. anything but sex!
xoxo chels
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Don't sleep with him that's for sure. And don't do anything too sexual. Kiss him and cuddle him but don't go *too* far.
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Probably not far at all....13 is still very young. You have many more experiences that you need to have before you do anything serious. I say making out is about as far as you should go.
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makeout at the most- ur a whore if u do more lol
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Well NO SEX!! Kissing and holding hands but your only thirteen, there's gonna be alot more boys and plenty more realationships. Don't put yourself in the position that someone like sex could happen. If you keep yourself out of those situations then you should be ok. Don't do anything that you will regret! **Mosey**
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nobody can really tell you how far you should go...its different for everybody and whatever feels right
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when i was 13..and all of my friends too..we only let them kiss us on our cheeks & held hands..stuff like that..i guess it really depends too on how long you've been together..if you really love him?..but i mean you're only 13..don't rush into anything you'll regret ..you shouldn't do anything you don't want to,respect yourself--you don't want to be known as a hoe or anything..=)..xO`lexi
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No sex before marriage. It can lead to unwanted circumsatnces, pregnancy being one of them. Kissing, making out, nothing further.
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Just dont get yourself carried away with nething too serious i mean yeah people tend to experiment and everything but for you i would say things can be optional just dont have sex witht the guy ey just dont do nething that your not ready to do!
-Cass-
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I think at thirteen, the most you should be doing is kissing. There is plenty of time to do that other stuff when you are older, believe me. At thirteen, I don't believe you should have a serious/sexual relationship.
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however far u wanna go. u suck.hahahahahahaha
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