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Q: me n my bf had been together for about 8 months and ten this thing haoened which wasnt suposed to hape. We beat eachother up n thats wen we broke up. But unfortunalty it has been his last year so he left. i feel so alone without him... Ps. we were very close to eachother. We make out every day..

Hey!! I think you should go talk to him. Tell him that you feel alone and you like him a LOT. If you're seriously really close to him, it shouldn't be any problem to make up. good luck!

xoxo,
Lara

Q: every once in a while (but not too much) I go to some sort of fancy dinner and I always get so confused when the first course comes with my silverware. Which fork do I start with? Usually I just use what the person next to me uses, but what if they're waiting for me to use a fork first? it could become very very confusing.

Hey! yah, Its always confusing, how they arrange everything perfectly and have all these forks and stuff! I belive you start with the fork furthest to the outside.

xoxo,
Lara

Q: question for everybody that asks questions on advicenators: How come you dont rate somebody after they answer your questions? it doesnt take a lot of effort and its a quick little thank you for their response. It helps the advice giver to understand how well they answer certain questions. I think everybody should rate out of pure politeness...Just curious as to why most people dont..??

I ask tons of questions and I always rate...people (99.999999999999% of the time) try to help me if i need serious help... but from and advice giver to those who dont rate: SERIOUSLY, we spend like a while trying to help them...yet they dont seem to care to rate us... which is WHAT WE REALLLLY WANT..... but oh well, i like helping people even though sometimes they dont appreciate my help ;)
((please rate...haha))
xoxo,
Lara

Q: how far should you go with a guy at age 13...and don't say "however far you wanna go"--thanks

Hey!! I think you should go to kissing-- AT THE MOST. You're young, you have the rest of your life to go ALL THE WAY. And, going all the way can ruin your chances of a higher life if you have a kid at 13...

xoxo,
Lara

Q: hi. im in a group of 3 best friends. Alexa and Erin. They both tell me that they secretly like me better than the other one and wish it was just the two of us. Alexa says crap about Erin and so on. I love them both and wish they wouldnt do this and could just like eachother. what should i do?

Hey! Next time they tell you this tell them that you think its unfair of them to talk rudely about eachother. Maybe, since they just cant stand eachother, hang out with them seperately. I'm sorry about all this :( i hope my advice was ok for you.

xoxo,
Lara

Q: every1 is talking about an 'xanga' or however u spell it. i was wondering how u get it and what it really is. thx! i rate!

Hey!! Go to http://www.xanga.com and sign up.
Xanga's are like an online diary/blog.

xoxo,
Lara

Q: Hey, well my dad had a problem with smoking cigs years ago, and I caught him smoking again about 2 months ago. He told me not to tell anyone so I didnt. Then about a month and a half ago my brother went into the garage and found a pack of cigs. (They were my dads) I dont know why but I said to him, "Those are mine, dont tell dad." I told my dad about it and he said to keep that story. My brother again found more and I took the blame. I didnt feel right about lying to my brother and I thought he has a right to know, so today I told him about it. I feel bad now because my dad might get mad. Do you think I did the right thing? I'm not sure.

Hey!! I understand you're in an EXTREMELY difficult situation and its VERY hard to decide what you're supposed to do. Try talking to your dad and tell him that you've been lying to your brother but then told him the truth. Your dad may be mad, but its the best thing to do. You could end up in serious trouble because your brother thinks you were smoking. But anyways, Yea, you did the right thing. good luck!! I know its not easy having to keep a secret like that and then covering up for someone.

xoxo,
Lara

Q: For some reason when ever I ask a question, the question never appears under the give advice secttion. This one may not either. Does anyone know why? And could anyone help me with a question I have?

Hey! Ok, the questions must be approved my the Level 2 mods. Soo, If your question is something inappropriate like "i like to do ..stuff.. with my dog. Is this normal? or is it more normal to eat fried cheese?" (lol, haha first thing I could think of...) or something containing REALLY sexual things...... then it will be deleted. Thats most likely the problem ... Or if not then it could be a problem thats been asked 100 THOUSAND times soo it was deleted.

xoxo,
Lara

Q: does anybody know any good photo editing software that is free to use/download?

Hey! you can search on download.com . it has TONS of free software you can find to download :) I hope I helped

Q: well, my horse is being trained, and i want her to trust me more. although, as a girl, she has a bitchy attitude. i know i should do groundwork, but whatelse could i do?? i can almost ride her, maybe in a few weeks.

will rate well!!

Heyy!! My pony is 9 and she has a bitchy attitude. I've found that it almost always helps if before I ride her I groom her and give her a peppermint and a sugar cube. When I'm riding her she usually tries to buck or rear, so when she does that I just sit back, Um when you start riding your horse you should do the same.. sit back. The horse will realize that you wont deal with all that and should stop. If she behaves, give her treats after you ride. If she doesn't, then don't give her treats. Thats totally helped my pony :)

Q: How do i lose weight on my legs and not my other body parts? I will rate ya'll!

Hey!! You could try:
*Jump roping
*Jogging
*using a trampoline
*lifting weights with your legs...pushing weights
*anything else that has to do with leg exercise

hope I helped :)
xoxo,
Lara

Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months and are going to celebrate our half year anniversary on August 28. The problem is I have no idea what to get him! I think he's getting me a promise ring, which is sweet beyond believe but I don't have anything to match it! When I bring it up though he just says "the only thing I want is you". Adorable, but not very helpful. I would be greatful for any suggestions, and I don't have a lot of money. Thanks a bunch! Em'lee

btw: he's a big music fan, is learning how to play guitar, and loves wild, death-defying stuff; if that helps any.

You should burn some music on CD's for him. maybe his fave songs and some songs that mean a lot to you two. You could also take him out to the movies or to a free concert if there are any nearby.
xoxo,
Lara

Q: ok, sry if this is real long:
last summer, at the pool i belonged to, there was this guy that i liked. he liked me too i thought bc we would always like give each other stares and stuff but we never actually met. we dont go to the same schools so i didnt see him but once the whole schools year and that was at the freaking vet. so now, ive seen him at the pool again this summer, but i dont think he likes me any more bc he never like looks at me or anything like he used too. i just relized how much i do like him and im really mad that he doesnt like me back (bc im pretty sure he doesnt) does he just not want to show hes """affection""" or does he just not like me and i cant stop thinking about him...I NEED HELP

**and i rate!**

I think that you need to talk to him. Thats the only way you'll know if he likes you and you'll also get to know the guy you say you like :)
xoxo,
Lara

Q: I have been getting zits ever since the beginning of 7th grade. I really hate it. And I use Clean & Clear to clear them up, but the product doesn't exactly work. Do u know any product that will work? What advice would u give me? I looked at ur Zits link, but i've tried all of that..and i still get zits. Please tell me what products u use! It's hard to walk in school when a lot of boys are staring...

I think that your problem is Clean&Clear isn't the right product for you. My advice would to be stop using clean&clear because that could be why you are getting zits. Its prolly causing your face to break out. I dont really use any stuff currently. I just wash my face with a MILD soap and water 2-3 times a day. If it doesnt work, you could go to a dermatologist and he can give you a prescription. Thats what my friend does and her face is totally clear now :)
hope I helped!
xoxo,
Lara

Q: Hey..
me and my friend are together in a babysitting job and we love children so much and we just already let out flyers one,last year and once just recently the next year..on the 1st year flyer given out..no1 responded..the 2nd year one responded..liked our job..gave us $20 each for 1 1/2 hours...i know.. alot..o well..lol..back to the subject..ever since that day..no1 has responded..what should we do? send out more flyers or keep waiting or quit caring..what should we do??

thanks if u help..

You should keep trying. It will show people that you really want to do this and they'll probably take you more seriously. Good Luck!!
xoxo,
Lara

Q: ok idk how to say this. i read my sisters away message the other day and it sed "my life is so perfect. so dont try to ruin it" and i feel like my life is crap cuz of everything that is going on. how it her life so perfect and mine so horrible? wut am i missing?

Hey! Well she could've been scarcastic.... And often times away messages aren't true at all. And she probably meant "I dont want to talk to you" (to the people who im her)
Nobody's life is perfect. The best thing is to realize what the good stuff in your life are. Trust me, your life will get better
xoxo,
Lara

Q: heyyy! omg thats soo cool you ride horses!! i ride too! how high have you jumped? what kind of horse do you have? do you show? what state do you live in?? my advice coloumn thingy is texangirl01...and my sn is texanmoose109....IM me anytime so we can chat about horses!!!! haha byebye xoxo!

Hey! Thanks!! Awesome!! I've jumped about 4.5 feet! I'm currently leasing a quarter horse/pinto (Cant buy a horse because I move throughout the world too often...Every other place I live is another country...) I used to show but I got tired of it... I do it more for fun now. Shows used to be fun though :)
xoxo,
Lara
((aim- horsegurl8990))

Q: does anyone know how to make the salsa dip not as spicy cause we bought extra spicy on accident and its wayy to hott!! do you think its ok to put sugar in it? ok well i hope someone knows how cause my mouth is on fire!!!!!

I'd put some more water and tomatos in it. however, I LOOOOOOOOOOOOVE spicy foods soo haha, It sounds yummy to me! lol

xoxo,
Lara

Q: i think is is totally gross and disgusting to be a gay guy or a lesbian is it wrong to think that i dont think it is

I dont find anything gross or disgusting about being gay or lesbian. But this is one of those things that is your belief. There is no right or wrong answer.
xoxo,
Lara

Q: hey! does anyone know what:
a) idk
b) imao
means???

Hey! yea,
a) idk: I dont know
b) Uhh, do you mean lmao? that means Laughing my ass off. If not...uhh... umm not sure hehe

xoxo,
Lara

bio

Hey Everyone!! My Name is Lara. Thats my picture above ^^^ on a horse I used to have... k...dont have any pictures with my face :/ Umm soo Feel free to ask any question you need to ask. I love to help people! dont feel shy at all, I'll never know who you are unless you tell me :D
xoxo,
Lara