every once in a while (but not too much) I go to some sort of fancy dinner and I always get so confused when the first course comes with my silverware. Which fork do I start with? Usually I just use what the person next to me uses, but what if they're waiting for me to use a fork first? it could become very very confusing.
YaYaSis answered Tuesday October 5 2004, 12:41 am: It all depends on how the table is laid out. Most of the time it is from the outside in. The dessert fork is usually either laid diagonal at the top rim of the plate. Unless it is brought with the dessert.
When all else fails it is always good etiquete to let the host begin each course. You can gently fold your napkin in your lap or entertain with polite conversation while watching the host and which silverware they use first.
Always, always keep your drinking glass to the right of your plate and always lay your fork down when you are going to take a drink and hold the glass in your right hand. The napkin always stays in your lap unless you are using.
No matter what, even if the host or hostess uses poor manners you should always stay by the guidelines. You never know who may be watching and when you get used to proper eating techniques then you are never thrown off guard. You never know who you may later mess up in front of so get in the practice now of using proper skills. One day people will watch you to see which fork to use first... :) [ YaYaSis's advice column | Ask YaYaSis A Question ]
MysticalSwirls answered Sunday September 19 2004, 2:35 pm: Hey! yah, Its always confusing, how they arrange everything perfectly and have all these forks and stuff! I belive you start with the fork furthest to the outside.
hailebop answered Sunday August 29 2004, 7:12 am: If the table has been laid with several sets of crockery, you always use the set on the outside (e.g. the ones that are the furthest difference from your plate in the middle) first, and move inwards a set with each course you eat. [ hailebop's advice column | Ask hailebop A Question ]
Sporkster answered Saturday August 28 2004, 4:29 pm: Always work from the outside in: from smallest to largest. The smallest forks and knives are used for salads, desserts, and appetizers. If you see a small spoon, that will probably be used for sorbet in between courses. The largest fork and knife are used for the main course. [ Sporkster's advice column | Ask Sporkster A Question ]
Blondie04 answered Saturday August 28 2004, 3:56 pm: More than likely, if you know what I'm talking about, you won't be using the salad fork first. If they give you a salad, then of course you use the salad fork first. I hope that helped a little. I don't really eat at fancy dinners. [ Blondie04's advice column | Ask Blondie04 A Question ]
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