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Now I've had sex before, and it's not like this is my first time or anything. Lately, I've been wanting to have sex with this guy in my car. (My house has been ridiculously crowded.)
But I want it to be completely unplanned... well for him at least. I don't want to be like "Hey, let's have sex in my car!". I want to kind of just have it happen, but I have no idea how to move things from the front to the back seat, or how to just park. Or even how to just start driving aimlessly.
How should I get it into the backseat without saying it? Better yet, how do I get him to just drive around with me aimlessly?
First, even though you're trying to make it SEEM random, be sure to put a lot of effort into planning the whole thing.
If you're going to be driving, be sure your car has a reasonably spacious backseat, especially if you or your boyfriend are tall people. A Honda Accord is better than a Honda Civic in this case. The ideal vehicle would be a minivan with rear/mid seats that fold down/are removeable (A Toyota Senena, for example). If you have one, be sure to do all this work before the date starts.
Chances are, the "surprise" car sex will occur toward the end of the date, or at least during a time where you and your boyfriend aren't already doing something. If you ever have one of those "What should we do?" moments, that's the perfect time to suggest something like "Want to go for a drive?". If your boyfriend needs convicing tell him something to the effect of: "It can be entertaining enough just to drive around and talk to each other, and it's good for our communication." Besides being convincing, it's also true.
If you're driving, look for a quiet suburban neighborhood with no streetlights (Or at least, few streetlights). Find a spot not directly in front of a house, but in front of a bush or something. If your boyfriend is driving, make subtle suggestions to him to get him to drive where you want to. ("Turn here", "pull over here", etc etc). It helps if you have a place in mind beforehand, so a little bit of preperatory scouting may be nessessary.
As for moving into the backseat, just start kissing or making out or whatever it is you do, and then stop, move into the backseat, and call him back. He won't say no.
I had sex about 3 weeks ago on my period & we didn't use a condom!
Whats the possiblity of me being pregnant?
I've had sex with him before without a condom & never got pregnant!
Your chances are completely irrelevent. Find out for sure. Get tested. Twice.
Okay so me and my boyfriend had sex over 2 weeks ago. We used a condom and everything and so i didn't really think anything of it. The condom didn't split as far as i know but now i'm really worried.
I'm probably over reacting but my period is now 3days late (i know that probably sounds silly) But i'm really worried and paranoid about it. The last 4 months have been precise and it's a bit strange that i'm not 'on' yet.
So yea.. ANY helpful advice really would be great - at least to help put my mind at rest a little more anyway!
Thanks a lot. x
You didn't meantion your age, but being 3 days late is nothing to worry about, especially if you're young. Your period won't be "precise" until your mid-20s or so.
Instead of worrying about whether or not you could be pregnant, get tested and find out for sure. Closure will put your mind at rest more than anything we Advicenators could say to you.
Okay so my friend told me she and her boyfriend had sex like last Tuesday and she was supposed to get her period almost 6 days ago, but she hasn't. She's only 14 and CANNOT tell her parents. What should she do if she is?
I want to try to be the best of friend I can and help her through it, but I'm not sure how. Thanks.
14 year olds do NOT have regular periods. It's common for periods to be several weeks late up into a woman's mid-20s. 6 days is nothing for a 14 year old. I'd be more surprised if she was "on time".
Before freaking out and causing a ton of drama, have your friend get tested. Twice. There is a good chance she isn't pregnent. If it turns out she is, ask another question once you're sure.
So on Friday me and my boyfriend had sex, it was my first time & since he sneaked into my house he could'nt be able to buy a condom so instead we had unprotected sex ( i really don't wanna hear your smart comment about well you really should used a condom if you did'tn wanna worry about that!) cause i know it was stupid of me and that will the first and last time i ever have sex without a condom. But anyways, it was my first time and so was it his too we had no lub or condom so it hurt soo bad but im so scared that i might get preg cause at once he was about to bust and then he took it out and then did what he had to do to cumm...But then i told him to wipe it off he wiped it off with his hand and made sure he did'nt have any cum anywhere on his penis and then we went on...im scared of precum i've been doing research on that..and it says theirs a possibility you can get pregnant of it or maybe that might have cum and im so scared!
So what is precum? & can they feel it when they let it out? & how do you know if they precummed inside you?
please help me im so stressed out right now.
Firstly, "wiping it off" with a hand is far from the best way to steralize a penis after ejaculation. Chances are, he didn't get it all off. In fact, I'm willing to wager he couldn't have since there was probably sperm left over in his tube.
Like betheexp said, Precum is a clearless fluid that is emitted when a man is sexually aroused. Unlike what betheexp said, there IS sperm in precum. Figures vary on what your chances are of getting pregnent from precum, but they're all between 30%-70%. Your chances are probably a bit higher since your boyfriend had fresh leftover sperm all over his penis.
Speaking as a man, it's nigh impossible to feel precum coming out under the best of cases, and truely impossible in the heat of the moment. Safe to assume that if an erect, uncovered penis comes in contact with your vagina, there is some precum in you.
How long will it take if I use two insulin pens full of Novalog to commit suicide? Assuming both pens are full and are inject within five minutes.
Quite a long time, seeing how that probably won't kill you. At most, you'll have a fit of seizures or go into a coma, but even that is unlikely with "only" two pens.
By the way, it's spelled "NovoLog", not "Novalog".
Edit: Upon double-checking myself, it seems it CAN actually kill you if you have already life-threatening hypoglycemia. No info on how long it will take. Sorry.
why does everybody say suicide is not the answer? that's all you say! suicide is not the answer.. suicide is not the answer.. that's not a good enough reason for me.
why the f-k not??
As wise as we at advicenators are, we don't know everything. I'm sure there is someone out there for whom suicide might be "the answer". That person might even be you.
But probably not.
We say "suicide is not the answer" because in most cases, it's not. It's usually the knee-jerk response to overwhelming sadness. That alone isn't enough reason to justify suicide. In almost any case you care to name, sadness passes, but suicide is forever.
Therefore, unless you can supply some kind of compelling reason that requires a solution as permenant as suicide, it won't be "the answer", at least from our point of view, since we can only work with the infomation we're given.
Again, we don't know everything, but in my entire advice-giving career I'm yet to see a situation that warrents a measure so extreme.
Are friends with benefits really that bad?
This kid Dillon wants to have sex with me but doesnt like me as a girlfriend...If I have sex with him is it such a bad thing?
Chances are, neither you nor "this kid Dillon" have the emotional maturity to make friends with benefits work.
If you really want to, go ahead and have sex with him -- we can't stop you. But I have a hard time imagining how this is possibly going to end well.
Me and my boyfriend had sex. There was a hole in the condom, but he said he didn't cum? Could I be pregnant?
Don't ask us. We don't know. Get tested.
I want to commit suicide but I don'twant pain so I want to tak a bunch of sleeping pills I am 14 and a female. About how many do I need to take to die in my sleep? My ffriend that's like a brother to me went out drunk as a fucking skunk to jump off a cliff because he was really depressed and I couldn't stop him no matter what I did. I know it's "not the end of the word" and shit but I don't care! I waited all night and morning and ect but he never got on again so spare me the bullshit about not doing it and trying to convince me not to because everyone knows it doesn't work so spare yourself the energy and help me please.
Suicide is an incredibly personal decision. If you feel you need to take that way out, so be it. Who am I to stop you?
However, just know that sleeping pills aren't the "painless" way to go. Death by overdose usually involved giving your body more poison than your liver can handle. Not painless, not pretty. It's not even guaranteed, and if it doesn't work you'll be a much more miserable person for it.
In a similar question asked here a few months ago, someone responded that voluntery euthanasia ("mercy killing") is legal in Switzerland, but it involves a lenthy application process, mental-health review, and is usually closed to foreigners. It's supposedly entirely painless, but it's probably not what you're looking for, since might take you a while and be beyond the resources of a 14 year old female, even if they do approve you.
Beyond that, my only advice is to not do anything unless you're entirely sure that it's what you want. You can't "undo" suicide.
i asked a question before about the likelyhood of me being pregnant from precum, even though my boyfriend didnt actually stick it in, it was just rubbed. but i normally get my period at the end of the month. lastmonth i believe i got it on the 26th and now its still not here. ive had continuous cramps since lastnight. whats going on.. im really scared
This cannot be stressed enough in "Am I pregnent?" questions.
WE DON'T KNOW. WE HAVE NO POSSIBLE WAY OF KNOWING.
If you really want to know, buy an over-the-counter pregencny test (preferably two of them) and get yourself tested.
Okay so heres the deal.
Im f/18 virgin and im leaving for college this sunday. Anyhow it just dawned on me that i should probly get on the pill before i leave seeing as things could happen.
*i know i dont have to go to the gyno to get the pill and i know you should.
*i know that your family doctor can give it to you.
*****BUT can you go to a walk in clinic to get the pill????*****
I would rather go see my family doctor but hes on holidays for the next 2 weeks. And i want is as soon as possible caus my school is out of town and making doctor app is gonna be hard.
THANK YOU!
I don't know if they have Planned Parenthood clinics in Canada, but if they do, that would be the place to get it. You're 18, so I'm not sure what it cost you.
Is it possible a penis could be too large to fit inside a vaginia?
In terms of length, yes. The average vagina is 5-6 inches deep (Could be slighly deeper depending on the angle of entry). After that, the penis is hitting cervex, which is unpleasent for all parties involved.
In terms of width, maybe initially, but vaginas are pretty amazing in their ability to stretch and accomodate. They are made to allow babies to pass through.
I recently became aware that I might've been raped. I don't remember much from the night but there is a possibility. While that scares me a lot, but after I found that out, I've become a lot more sexual, and for lack of a better word horny. =/
And this is the kicker, what turns me on the most are like fantasies about being raped and things like that.
Is this completely crazy? How can I go back to the way I was before all this happened? I mean, I know that I can't but at least stop thinking about this stuff. Also, is there a way to tell if you were raped or not? I've had sex since then, so I don't know. I mean, it upsets me but sometimes I think I'd rather not know...
We here at Advicenators have even less information about what happened than you do, so I doubt anyone could give you a conclusive answer on "Was I raped"?
The "rape fetish" isn't automatically a sign that you've been raped. Everyone has their kinks, and yours is far from the craziest I've heard.
I don't think there's a way to find out for sure if you've been raped or not, unless someone you know comes forward with a confession, but what are the chances of that happening, right?
Also, please completely ignore yourrtrustyhelpline. Your "cherry" can get "popped" by many things completely unrelated to penises or sex. Including, but not limited to, using tampoons and riding horses. It's a huge and dangerous assumption to say that if your cherry has been popped and you aren't aware of it, you've been raped. Shame on you, yourrtrustyhelpline.
okay so i made a dumb mistake long story short
i had sex today and my boyfriend didnt use a condom.. i know we should have and i have had pregnancy scares lately where i think im pregnant because i end up missing my period but i guess my cycle just changed a bit bit now its back on track..
i use this online thing to track my period and it says like ovulation day and such this website
http://www.mymonthlycycles.com/
and it says that today i was fertile... and i had sex without a condom ah.. and im only 16 and i know it was a mistake so im not looking for a lecture i just want peoples opinions of if they think i have a high or low chance of getting pregnant.. i mean .. he pulled out and jizzed so.. i don't think any got in me..
Our opinions of a "high" or a "low" chance aren't even remotely relevant at this point. Get tested. Get tested twice. Knowing a concrete answer will do you a lot more good than knowing our opinions on your chances, and it'll do you a hell of a lot better than some website.
If I were you, I'd get my hands on the morning after pill, take it, and then I'd think long and hard before having sex again. You're clearly not ready.
hay.. ok so im 17 and im still a virgin. i broke up with my bf last year after goin out with him for a couple of monthes cos he wanted to have sex and i wasnt ready and cos my friends didnt like him.
but now i think im ready and i really want to have sex but i want it to be the right time and right person. i think about gettin back with my x so we can do it but i now it wouldnt work.
im scared that ill never find someone and that ill be alone for the rest of my life. i think iv just lost hope. wat do i do?
In my experience, actively looking for someone rarely nets you a good result. If it happens, it happens.
My advice to you is to put this out of your mind until it does happen. Enjoy life while you can, and when Mr. Right comes along and you're ready to have sex with him, you'll know. You're still young, so don't give up hope just yet.
If you don't know, you're not ready. It's that simple.
Also, I beseech you not to listen to anyone's advice over the internet (Myself included), as to if you should have sex/have an abortion/etc etc. Other people have a different set of values than you do, and see the world a different way. The only person who's opinion is relevant in these kinds of situations is yours.
If you feel you're ready to have sex, by all means, don't let any strangers over the internet stop you, but be absolutely honest with yourself, and be absolutely sure it's what YOU want.
Usually on pornos the guy eats the girl out before having sex as foreplay, but do a lot of people actually do this or is it just for the movie?
Yes, people actually do this.
I missed my period, so at first i thought i was pregnant, but i took a pregnacy test last night. The result was negative. Are there other reasons that i could have missed my period? Or was the test just wrong?
I've looked up early signs of preganancy, and the only symptom i have, is not getting my period, so i really have no idea.
anything advice would be great.
thanks.
Firstly, always test twice, just to be sure.
Secondly, your period will fluctuate wildly until you hit your early-mid 20s (And in some cases, not even then). You won't be completely "regular" with your periods for a while.
If you re-test and it comes out negative, you have nothing to worry about.
17 f..
usually whenever i was with a bf.. making out would make me extremely excited.. making me real lubricated.. and i found this a big problem.. it started fading and now its to the point where we makeout and im still not lubricated but yes excited.. whats the deal? any tips on how TO take it to the lubrication point? thanks in advance!
If making out alone isn't cutting it for you, try adding something new. Find out what gets you to that point, as it varys from person to person. Then go ahead and do it.
Okay, this is sort of awkward, but here goes.
My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now and he used to go pretty fast and hard and I loved it. Lately though, he tends to go slower and deeper, which is also great to an extent, but I prefer it when along with that he finishes off going faster and harder. But, I'm too shy to flat out say it to him.
So, my question is how can a subtly get him to start doing it faster like he used to, without flat out saying it?
Flat out say it. Shy or not, he'll apriciate it. It would be easiest on you to say it in the moment. Just say "Faster!". He'll know what to do.