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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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my friend copies everything i do. like, i will make up a word and she will use it all the time after she hears me say it. or i will wear sweats to school and the next day she will wear sweats. my mom said don't look at it in a negative way look at is as she looks up to you but i hate it! my outfits are my style and i dont want anyone taking it. nobody reply "just talk to her and tell her how you feel" because she is the kind of person where you can freak out on her and she will just laugh or she will change her attitude that day and then go back to her normal self the next. help, please! im at wits end!
Keep changing your style and confuse the shit out of her. Then when she gives up, go back to your old style. Hahahaha, you probably won't do that, but it'd be hilarious to see how pissed off she got.
Um, this is hard. Sometimes people just end up accidently taking each other's words and crap just cause they're around each other so much.
Just take a "break" from her. Hang out with other people for a while.
Always workssss. :D
(Female/14)
In grade six A,D,T, and me we're best buds but unfort. A moved away so it was just me D and T.
In grade seven, T started hanging out with L and Z and it wasn't until the end of the year that i joined her and well we drifted away from D so it was then me T and L and Z.
Grade eight it was us all the way but we had so many fights that in june last week of school L and Z went there way and well me and T were once together again.(At this point we wished we hadn't left D )
Now in grade nine i missed first two weeks of school and once I come bacl, T is friends with D and M( m was friends with d after gr.6) L and Z arent friends anymore so i started hanging out with L and her shadow whos so fking annoying and I dont really feel like i belong anywhere :"(
I don't feel like they are my real friends and everythings jst so strange idk what to do :"(
And please dont tell me do find new friends because this is the group of circle of friends(ltters lol) i know best and well everyone else is jst like...mehhhh
Plz help me out I dont want to end my last yr in middle school without good friends
Holy shit that's way too many letters dude.
But yeah, middle school sucks. Girls just ditch each other & they're so shallow to each other. It gets a bit better as highschool goes on, despite what everyone'll try & tell you about how horrible it is. Most cliques & lame stuff like that just disappear.
I know the feeling though, believe me. Do you have any classes with any of em? Lunch? Lockers by each other? Just start talking to them & catch up. Try telling them how you feel, but don't sound clingly.
T sounds like she's been the one you've been friends with the longest, so start with her first. Ask her to hang out or spend the night this weekend.
And I hate to say it, but finding new friends is really the best thing for you to do if you don't feel like they're your real friends. Just start up random conversations with whoever you sit by in classes. Just be nice & cheerful & stuff; It'll make people wanna talk to you or be around you. It's really easy to make friends once you get the hang of it. :D
Good luck girlll!
not sure if this is in the right category, but last year around this time me and my bro had been planning a huge party and my parents other 'vacant' house. we ended up inviting alot of people to the party. so the party was suppose to kick off a bit after our schools homecoming football game against our rivals. so everything had gone to plan and my friend drove me and my bro down to house. we had everythinf ready then police show up at our doors so were totally fucked, they make us call our parents and they talk to them and well i guess you can see what happened from ther on. luckily the booze hadnt arrived yet so we wer safe, but it was close. so now its almost a year later and i kind of want to hav a party again. but i want to hav this party with my friends from my old school (middle school)(im a junior now) i havnt rly talked to much to them which im not proud of because i had some great friends. so what im asking is how can plan this up to hav a successful party wher me and my friends just basically chill out and what not. my old house the last place i should go to have it but im not sure what to do. although my parents do go out of town for a few days. weekend of oct 16,17,18, gone for three days. now do i somehow get something going at my new house and run down to my old house. the thing about my old house tho is that its about 15-20 miles away.
Just wondering what you would do in this situation if you were throwing the party, even though i know not throwing one is an option. if things to work out it would only be 7-15 people or so. thanks
Damn that suuuuucks.
I don't get it though. Why did the police just suddenly show up? If you don't know.. either your parents suspected something, a neighbor did, or one of your friends are laaame.
I'd throw one! Not throwing one wouldn't even be an option for me. If you get caught, that sucks, but at least you had fun & got to see your old friends.
..This is why I would be a horrible parent.
Hahaha, anyway, so you're throwing the party when they go out of town, or is that part of the question? Wait till they're gone, as long as their not the type to call & check up on you every five minutes.
Throw it at your new house. If you try the old one again, you're pretty much guarenteed to have the same thing happen again. Cause what I'm guessing happened is your old neighbors saw all these cars and all those people, flipped out, and called the police.
So, stick with the new house. Try to find a way to make sure your parents didn't tell your neighbors to like watch your house while they're gone or somethin. Keep the music down if you're gonna be playing some. The amount of people you're inviting is good. I'd say anything over 15 is pushing the limit. Can everyone drive? If they can, tell them to carpool so you don't have so many cars in the driveway/in front of your house drawing attention to it.
Have fun. :D
Hope I helped.
EDIT:
Hell yeah I woulda shit my pants too. Hahahah.
So how to keep distractions down:
Basically, if your music's loud enough for you to FEEL it, turn it down.
Make sure you're not inviting two people who like hate each other. Fights could definitely cause a repeat of last time. Do you have a pool? Tell people to bring swimsuits if you do. Put anything breakable or valuable away where it won't be touched. Lock your parents bedroom. Get good food that everyone would like. Pizza & chips are always safe. Play music the majority of people will actually like; Try to have a good mix of genres. And if you really wanna, put a movie on just for the hell of it rather anyone'll watch it or not. You could try playing "I Have Never"--google it if you've got no idea what that is.
Beer pong is a must. If you don't have that, you fail. Hahah, so get enough plastic cups and beer and shit.
After everyone leaves, make sure they didn't leave anything behind. Clean the entire house.
Ok so, I have a best friend, let's call him Nathan. We have been best friends for 4 years. I love being around him, he's funny and smart and just an all around good person. We text each other every night just talking about whatever, nonsense haha. My mom says that he likes me because every time I talk about the one boy I like he texts back "I'm sensing more than cozy between you two" I don't know if that means he's just making fun of me or he's jealous. I took a "does my best friend like me" quiz on the computer, I know they don't work and most of the answers are just made up right off the top of the creator's head but all of them said yes, he does like me. I don't get it though, a while back I liked him and he told me he looked at me as a sister and that's it. We spend every Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday together due to school functions. He's also in my one class (a class I'm not to strong in) and he is always there to help me on something if I'm confused, he used to do that to so that's not a big deal. Just help me, does my best friend like me?
When he told you he saw you as a sister, did he know you liked him? If he didn't, he was probably just saying that for fear of being rejected.
Guys aren't sure half the time if they like a girl. Neither am I when it comes to guys in general. But if they say that they're not sure, they probably DO like you.
He might be jealous, or just kidding. I don't know him personally so I have no idea. But with most guys, it'd probably be a mixture of both.
Those quizzes usually ARE half right depending on the quiz and if you take it not trying to get a certain answer. So hey, maybe it's right.
Does he text you first or do you text him first? Or both? If it's both or if he's always the one who texts you first, that's a gooooood sign. Haha.
Even if he doesn't, I think there's a good chance he likes you. I doubt you'll wanna risk yall's friendship, which is understandable, but you'll never know how he honestly feels till you put yourself out there & see.
And worst case scenario;
You tell him you MIGHT like him. He doesn't feel the same. Things get awkward. You can just tell him you realized you liked someone else. Problem solved, even though his ego may be a tad hurt.
Just follow your heart & everything else'll work itself out.
Good luck.
:D
My friend can get on my last nerves. Anything exciting I tell her s do she has to have something exciting all of a sudden too, she is also a pretty big liar.How do I solve this.
Uh, they're not insecure.
She's just comparing what you do to what she does and she feels boring. She wants to have something exciting she can do to tell people about too. She lies because she's trying to impress you or she's trying to make herself sound more interesting.
You can't really "solve it" unless you stop telling her the exciting stuff you do. Then she'd probably quit cause she wouldn't feel like she has to be/do something just as exciting as you.
ok my best friend in the entire world moved. TO SAN DIEGO! and i miss her terribly i dont know how to deal with the sadness. do you have any tips on how to be more happy because im scared that i might be getting more sad and the result of that i depression and i dont want that, cuz look im only in middle school.
Aw, I'm sorry about that. That's gotta be tough for you. :/
The first thing is that you have to face realtiy and know that they're gone and won't be coming back. I know it's hard for you, and you have every right to be upset over this.
Do you do any sports? If you don't, or even if you do, start a new hobby. It'll take your mind off things some. Try hanging with some other friends to take your mind off it also. Go with a big group of friends out to eat. Go see a movie. Go shopping or to the mall and get a really cute outfit. Read. Watch a funny movie. Listen to music. Go for a walk or run. Sometimes a good cry's all you need, too.
Definitley stay in contact with them though! Facebook, Myspace, e-mail, texting, talking on the phone, Instant messenger, webcams, letters, whatever works the best for the 2 of you.
And if you feel yourself starting to get depressed, talk to someone. + I'm always here to talk to if you need anything. Just drop something by in my inbox. :)
I hope I helped some!
I know this is kind of long, but its a big problem right now and i hope you can read this and help me fix it. well there are these 4 girls in my middleschool AND my neighborhood. I've known them all since like first grade too. We used to be friends but that friendship.. got annoying sometimes. One of the girls always was way too bossy, making up games that only SHE won, she always thinks she is always right even when she was clearly wrong, and expected us to take time to find her missing cellphone when im sure she wouldnt do the same for me. fast forward 7 years, to 8th grade. like sometimes, ever since first, i felt exculded. they're all indian/muslim kids and im the only black girl. i didnt get why we couldnt all be friends and share things cause a lot they had secret talks with one another and i felt left out. and this year.. i have no idea what happened to them. they're all really rude, always talk s*** about people behind their back, infact thats all they DO. You never hear them talking about themselves, what they're gonna do, what happened today. I got sick with being associated with them cause they really annoy a lot of people. And they always follow what another says. So one day I got mad, because that bossy girl yelled something mean to my friend when we left the school out the window of the bus, and i said that it was mean and i didnt want her to do it to her friend. then she got all stingy and said she was her friend too and im like.. how was she supposed to know who said it? and she got all pissed & crap. so when we came out i said they were all followers and i didnt like what they did. i ignored them and talked to my other friends on the bus and then they ended up sucking up to me after a couple days, then i didnt consider myself their friend but i wasnt their enemy. the bossy girl was.. nice for once in her life? then later on that same girl sat with me cuz someone took her seat. i let her since im in a 3 seater and hen someone needs a seat, i usually let them sit with me. but then that same girl got all bossy and mean when she wanted me to sit in the seat behind me, which nobody likes to. im like.. 'you can go sit there then' and she got all pissed. im like HELLO im the one who sacrificed my seat for you and you want ME to leave MY seat? which really isnt my seat since anyone can sit there but ya know, i got there first and i usually sit there anyways. then i talked to the other 2 indian girls and accidentally shared them a secret that this guy on the bus liked me in 6th grade. then they both blurted it out and said it doesnt matter since hes not a person and has no feelings. it really bothered me cause even though hes unpopular and i admit weird, i'd never treat anyone like that. so im like 'how dare you!' and i stop talking to them and tell my friend. the problem is that she is friends with one of the girls who shouted those things so she tried to be on both sides to avoid conflict i'd like to not be around them cause i try ignoring them, but they're always there since we are at the same bus stop and everything! like yesterday the girl whos my friend's friend on the bus, like i sat in her seat yesterday cuz someone else took my seat, not that i really care since its a free for all. and she got all mad at me and called me a stupid hoe, b*tch, and she always talks to people, shouting loudly indirectly talking to me. and all she says is false. i havent even had a boyfriend (not that i cant i just dont want one now) and neither has she. and i try to ignore.. i really wish i had an ipod on the bus to do that. its easier when that my friends on the bus but when shes gone is when that other girl like says all that crap. and like when her and her friends talk, its really loud and everyone can hear since everyones quiet. and then they accused me of eavesdropping. are you kidding me! i said the whole bus could hear them and they still didnt get how. So what should I do... like for comebacks or better ways to ignore them! Like i dont wanna say dumb stuff like "your mom" which they say. Like I want the kind of comeback that like really gets to them when they say dumb stuff about me like that. like they even think im all conceited and think im perfect which certainly isnt true.. im shocked since they've known me so long but think that at all. and i just happen to be an optimistic, moral person, who doesnt agree with all the dumb things they do to people, and talk about people. a lot of people dont even like them. people like me, unfortunately not a lot of my friends are on my bus, and they have the nerve to say nobody does when its actually the opposite. like i hear them saying how someone thinks they are annoying.. the people they annoy all think that, some have told me yet they still act the same. and they act so unconfident at school but on the bus they try to act like they take over. HELP!!!!!!! 14/f
Ah, middle school.
It sucks.
I hate to say it, but the more you talk to them, the worse you're going to make it. If they say something to you, just smile. That'll make them more mad than any comeback you could think of. All they're trying to do is get you pissed off so they can have something to talk about.
Just back off from them, and hang out with your other friends. And your friend that's in the middle - don't try to get her on your 'side.' And whatever you do, don't talk about them. It always comes back to you. All that will do is make things worse. Don't even TALK to the friend that it's the middle about anything that's going on. If she brings it up, just change the subject. Hopefully these girls will eventually grow up some, but until that happens, just stay clear of them.
Good luck. :)
14/f
I'm having a slumber party with some of my friends. 7 girls are coming. I'm inviting 2 girls from 2 different schools. I can either:
1. mail the invitaions to the ones that go to another school, and hand out invitations to my friends at school. But i could hurt someone elses feelings if they aren't invited.
2. mail everyone the invitations even tho it's only like a week and half away. Sorta silly. I'll look silly too.
3. OR just call everyone and hope to God they remeber. Or like even give my friends at school a little reminder sheet.
HELP
ALSO: If i send out invitations should I include my friends name on it who's birthday is 2 days before mine. Plus idk if I'm even going to invite her, because she might be having a party of her own. Plus she's pretty shy.
thanks!!!
Hm, this is what I usually do:
The week before, call whoever doesn't go to your school. Then the people that do go to your school, just hand the invitations to them when no one you're not inviting is in the room. Also, tell them who's invited & not to mention it to anyone who's not. & as a reminder, call them the day before, just in case.
If you REALLY are worried about hurting people's feelings though, just call everyone the week before. Then call them the day before as an extra reminder in case they forgot or something.
Have fun at the partyy. =)
I absolutely hate my ex best friend. But I'm obsessed with her. I've hated her for about a year because she was a terrible person, but I can't help but to peek around her facebook and xanga to see if her life is miserable. Is this normal, because it sure as hell doesn't feel healthy.
Ehh, I used to do that. =[
Hahh, I would think: Oh, maybe she'll be miserable too. Then maybe I'll feel a little better? But every time I'd check her myspace & whatever else she had, it just made me feel worse. So, finally I was just like, "Mmk. She's out of my life. I don't need her to bring me down anymore than she already has." & I stopped.
The girl's probably an insecure jerk who thinks she's "popular" or something, so she treats other people like crap. Am I right? =]
Here's what you need to do:
Everytime you get that urge to go "check up" on her. Just say this to yourself: "It's none of my business who's life she's screwing up now. I know this is going to make me feel worse." & just exit out of the website & go listen to music, go call your best friends & talk about it with them, write in a journal, go for a walk, go shopping, etc.
Good luck!
i am so depressed right now. my best friend and i got into a HUGE fight that we both kind of started and it's making me so confused. after getting out what we both needed to say, i had this really long heartfelt apology because i hated the fight and knew that someone had to step up and be the better woman. then she said that saying sorry wasn't good enough, even though it wasn't just any apology! i really meant what i said and she threw it back like it was worthless. i understand that saying sorry doesn't magically make everything all right, but what else could i do? she really seems on the verge of leaving behind the whole friendship, but i'm not ready for that and i want to fight for it. i'm so sad because i feel like there's nothing else i can do. i'm reeaally really depressed but she doesn't care. what else can i do? please im desperate..
Eh, well, what exactly was the fight about?
Sometimes people just don`t accept apologies as quickly as others. Other people could`ve hurt them in their life that simply made it difficult to trust people & if you broke that trust, then she probably has no clue what to do. I`d say just give her time if she`s the person that can`t handle being pushed into doing something that she doesn`t want, cause sometimes ... that can just make it easier for something like this to happen again.
Try EVERYTHING. Call her, text her, leave her a long msg apologizing. Write her a letter -- the length really matters cause it shows how much you care & how much effort you actually put into it. Buy her a nice gift. Make her a CD of songs about friendship, apologies, etc .. then attach a note or somehow record you saying, "I`m sorry." Send her a long e-mail about all the good times -- first paragraph, then say you know whatever you did was wrong -- second paragraph, then apologize -- third paragraph, & make the title like "PLEASE DON`T DELETE!"
Good luck!
My birthday is coming up soon, i am turning 13 adn am having 30 some girls sleep over at the local sports complex..it should be a balst but there is this one friend who is nice but she ditched me and my other firneds for more popular ones we had this huge fight for 2 years now were finally made up but then last night we kinda you know butted heades again but now were cool.....do you think i should invite her to my birthday party? shes really controlling but is SO nice, but sometimes we just dont get along and its definitly not like old timeswe dont sit with eachother at lunch or anything. should i invite her?
Whatever your decision is after reading this, keep this in mind.
"Sometimes you just have to forget what
you want, & remember what you deserve."
Personally, I think it`s really stupid when people ditch real friends to have a bunch of fake "popular" ones, so I`m sorry you had to go through that. Even though you probably want her to come, you don`t need someone to control you. You don`t want one person to mess up the whole party & if you think there`s even the slightest possibility of that happening, don`t invite her to ruin your night.
Although if you think it would bring you two closer together, go for it. Just try not to mention anything that could make her even a little bit mad if you decide to invite her, because that could easily start a fight between the two of you & ruin the party. & if something happens where she mentions something & it makes you mad or bothers you, just try to ignore it & stay away from her the rest of the night.
It really just depends on what you think is more important. =]
Goodluck!
well someone left a really mean message on my myspace (on a little notepad thing, so I don't know who it's from). it said "you're an ugly stupid hoe. jk girl i love you! or at least, i have to pretend i do!"
well, i'm definitely not stupid or a hoe, and i don't think i'm ugly. so i know i shouldnt let this bother me, but i've felt like crying ever since i saw it. and i cant stop wondering who wrote it. one of my "friends?" someone i don't really know? and why would they write that? i'm not mean or stuck up... i'm always really nice to everyone! my mom says someone is just jealous of me, but that doesn't make me feel any better. it just really hurts to know that someone secretly hates me. how can i stop feeling so bad about this?
Ugh, people think they can say whatever their little heart desires just because their protected by a computer. They think that they can be as mean as they want, as long as they`re friends go along with it. Just ignore it. Trust me, I used to get so mad when people told me to do that. But honestly, it takes a long time to realize this. The nicer you are, the meaner some people will be to you. Some people are just that way. It`s not that you`ve done anything wrong -- they are just extremely insecure or extremely jealous. Chances are, you`re not ugly. People call people ugly & fat just because they`re uncreative & stupid, so it`s the first thing that comes to their mind. And trust me, it is NOT true.
If you really wanna find out who it is...
If that was exactly the way it was typed, think of someone who types like that. Like who says jk instead of just kidding, who doesn`t capitalize stuff, who cusses, etc.
The way most of the gossip, drama, etc. is started is simply by jealousy. Just remember that.
Go to the mall.
Go to the movies.
Best things to take your mind off of anything!
=D
Good luck!
So, around about two months ago my best friend moved.
I still call her, sometimes. We keep in touch.
But I feel like I never see her.
She now lives with her dad, but she visits her mom sometimes.
And when she visits her mom, we usually get to hang out.
But the first time she visited her mom, I couldn't get in touch with her.
And she hasn't been able to visit since.
So I feel like I never get to see her. And now I almost never get to talk to her! Her phone number keeps changing, and she never checks her emails. I have no idea what to do. I don't want to lose my best friend.
And on the other part of this is that once my best friend moved, I started to hang out with some other friends. They can be okay sometimes, but I don't really feel like I'm "friends" with them. One of them, yes. But the rest, no. We always joke around, a lot. But I'm always the one being joked about.
And I do have a sense of humor. But honestly, hearing the same thing over and over again (making fun of me kind of jokes) gets on my nerves. =/ I just feel out of place when hanging out with them. But I mean, when you're hanging out with your friends, you shouldn't. So I have no idea what to do about this situation.
Can you guys please help?
When a friend moves, it`s difficult for them to stay close, but it`s possible. Does she have IM? You could call her one day, make a screen name for her, & you guys can talk on there. That`s how I stay in touch with some of my friends.
On the long school breaks & over the summer, go visit her. Try & get together with her as much as possible.
Hah, it kinda annoys me after a while when people do that too. Try talking to your closest friend in the group about it. Or just laugh it off when they make a joke & take your mind off it. I doubt they mean it in a way trying to hurt your feelings, but try and talk to them about it.
Good luck!
Well i have a problem im to nice i guess like when someone calls me a slut i get upset easily if someones says im ugly or calls me a bitch or anything i get upset and i cant have a fight with someone cause im too scared im 15/f by the way and when i see someone upset i get upset when i see someone ina fight i cry when someone tells me off i cant stand up to myself and i just start crying i need help :( please any advice that i can become a little bit tougher =[
Anything will do ?
xoxo
Thanks
I`m the same way. Everyone just always tells me I`m a really sympathetic person or something, haha, so I guess that`s why. But trust me, there`s nothing wrong with it -- hey, at least you care about people. =]
Just tell yourself, "They`re no better than me. If they actually took the time to say that to me, they must be pretty desparate for some attention." & walk away or tell them off -- whichever you feel more comfortable doing. But whatever you do, don`t cry...that`s why they said that to you in the first place -- to make you cry.
there are these girls at my school and from what happened last year i don't really want to go back to school and see them. they are mean and rude to me and my friends people call them ##### and the terrors. (i don't want to put the name for my safety) they make fun of what we wear then they get soemthing exactly like it and wear it and tell us we don't have enough class as they do. so what should i do? should i try to get back at them? should i gossip about them?
Woah, I was about to ask a question pretty similar to this.
Alright, I know EXACTLY what you`re going through. Whatever you do -- don`t gossip about them. PLEASE, please, p-l-e-a-s-e don`t! It`ll make things way worse than they already are, trust me on that. Don`t try to get back at them -- I know that`s the one thing that you don`t want to hear. When everyone would tell me that, I would just walk out of the room wondering why they couldn`t give me normal advice. But trust me, it`s exactly what you need to do. I even go to the point where I asked my mom if I could be homeschooled...she laughed & said no. So caring, right?
I saw the girl who was being mean to me yesterday & you wanna know how she greeted me? She yelled, "Woah! Could you get any uglier?" She wore the same shirt today. Hah, I decided to try everyone`s advice. I smiled & said, "Hey. I know, I thought nobody would notice! I love your shirt though. It`s so cute! I hope you had a good summer. Well, I gotta go." I looked at her out of the corner of my eye & she looked so confused. Haha, so with every mean thing they say to you, say something nice back. You can`t insult a compliment, right? =]
Good luck!
I'm 16/f, used to be bestfriends with a 16/m. We were extremely close, the best of friends, we no longer are. We've grown apart due to random fights, and idk why. But anyway, I cry all the time over him. It's like mourning a loss, but really it's just a friendship. Basically, I've tried since February (when we were no longer best friends) to maintain a good friendship with him, and it's real hard.
I've come to the conclusion that continuing being his friend is the wrong choice. He's the only person that makes me cry, I always feel like I'm never good enough for him, I'm tired of being hurt. Would you say cutting all contact with him, not seeing him, etc, would help me forget about him & allow me to no longer be his friend?
In my opinion, you`re better off without him.
Alright, make two lists.
One of all the good things about him, one of all the bad. Whichever one is bigger, well, there`s your answer.
If there`s more bad things, don`t just suddenly start entirely ignoring him. He`ll probably freak out if ya`ll are still friends. Just gradually stop calling him, IMing him, etc. If he calls, explain the situation to your family & tell them not to pick up. Also, block his number from your cell phone if you need to. Whatever you do, try not to talk bad about him, somehow -- they always find out. Don`t start a fight either to end the friendship, just gradually break away. It`s hard, I know, but it`ll get easier after a while. =]
Good luck!
Hey, basically I've decided to cut off all contact with this person. And it's been about 5 days now, problem is, they haven't called at all. That obviously makes me feel like shit, like they don't care at all that we're not talking, etc. But I CANNOT/WILL NOT call them. I need some willpower, basically someone to say some things that will help me NOT call him. He is 17/m, I'm 16/f. PLEASE help, I DO NOT want to give in, but it hurts that he doesn't show he cares at all! THANKS!
Hah, I`m in the same situation, except it`s with a friend.
Well, think about whatever it was that they do make you WANT to cut off all contact with them. List all of the things they`ve done to hurt you or make you sad some how. If you have a cell phone & their number`s in it, delete it. OR just take your mind off of it -- go see a movie (comedy), go shopping, have friends over, etc.
I recently just moved to Moore,Oklahoma from Henderson,Kentucky. Everything is different since I moved like on the line of a huge city. I'm so used to living in a small town. Now school is coming up,and Im going to a new school with new people. I want advice because last time I moved it was a disaster. The school I went to was horrible, it was so bad that I wanted to kill myself(no one say I'm emo, i didnt cut myself). No one talked to me and I had no friends, i didnt talk to anyone and no one talked to me. Unless they were going to pick on me. I talked to my mom's friend, who is really friendly and has a bunch of friends. But I'm just so scared of another school that was so horrible that I want to kill myself. What should I do?
P.S. srry if it was a bit long.
Yeah, I`m about to have to do this in four weeks when school starts for me. I know how you feel -- my dad`s in the military, so we`re always moving places.
My mom finally agreed on homeschooling me. Trust me, it`s much easier. Just tell your mom how you feel & explain what this site says to her. I did & my mom finally gave in. =]
http://school.familyeducation.com/home-schooling/parenting/29861.html
If you or your parents don`t want to do that, try joining a club or starting a sport rather it`s with the school or out of it. Most of my friends are outside of school, considering that most of them at my school are immature jerks. Do you go to church? If so, try joining something there. Most people who go to church are extremely nice, trust me.
Just whatever you do, don`t freak out about popularity -- that never turns out good for people. Plus, most of them just enjoy seeing people cry for some reason, so they`ll just make everything worse.
I can probably relate to alot of what you`ve been through, but don`t worry -- It`ll get better. Well, if you wanna hear some of my stories -- haha, they`ll probably make you glad it didn`t happen to you -- or if you just wanna talk, just leave something in my inbox & I`ll give you my e-mail.
Good luck! =]
so i started a new school this year and i want to sit with popular kids at lunch and they are like my bffl but my othe bffl i have known them for a lot longer and the ones i have known longer are like all over me and will get pissed if i dont sit with them what do i do?
Noooo.
Alright, want to know what I have learned this year & I will never forget as long as I live? Those people who you called 'popular' probably talk about everyone who you sit with as soon as they leave ALOT. Now I`m not saying that`s what they do for sure, I said PROBABLY. If I were you, I would stick with the ones who have always been there for you rather they`re popular or not. You didn`t say that the 'popular' kids got mad when you didn`t sit with them, so sit with the ones you know longer.
okay me and my friends are friends for 2 years.i told my friend that im moving to china this year and i dont think im gonna come back , last month we were doing good but this month she's acting weird because im leaving in 3 or 2 weeks and she doesnt really talk to me all of the sudden shes quite, and feels like shes ignoring me she looked pretty sad and all i asked her whats wrong she just said nothing and just kept walking is she sad because im leaving or she doesnt like me at all?
Alright, she's sad, but that's probably not the whole thing.
When someone moves, there can be two types of people. Some will try and spend every second of their life with you till you move and the other tries to pull away from you, so it's not as hard when they have to see you go. I think she's the second one, though.
Goodluck!