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New school and New friends, what am I suppoesed to do?
I recently just moved to Moore,Oklahoma from Henderson,Kentucky. Everything is different since I moved like on the line of a huge city. I'm so used to living in a small town. Now school is coming up,and Im going to a new school with new people. I want advice because last time I moved it was a disaster. The school I went to was horrible, it was so bad that I wanted to kill myself(no one say I'm emo, i didnt cut myself). No one talked to me and I had no friends, i didnt talk to anyone and no one talked to me. Unless they were going to pick on me. I talked to my mom's friend, who is really friendly and has a bunch of friends. But I'm just so scared of another school that was so horrible that I want to kill myself. What should I do?
P.S. srry if it was a bit long.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
You'll never get to know people if u don't talk to them. Just start a normal conversation hey i'm..." One of the most important things is be yourself, and especially since your moving to a big city there will be tons of people who have the same stuff in common with you. Remember there's no way your going to meet people unless you put yourself out there, if you're having a hard time meeting people and the school seemse cliquey try joing a club or a team.
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belive me i just went through the sam thing i think the over sudgetions are good if you are having self confidence issuses that you cant reslve on your own go to someonefor help i did the same thing and it helped a bunch. also the last thing to do is not to ingage in talking with anyone if you open up more to the people around you it wont seem so hopless an you will have a chance to meet some really good kids. so try and talk to someone thats in your classes so you will always see eachover if your having problems talking about something bring up your favorite music,movies,books....ect. belive me from experience the last thing to do is going to school and not talking at all
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Adding to follow up on your response:
Work on your self-confidence. See if you can find a counselor to help with this. You can also talk with your parents about it or anyone else that you trust and believe will have some wise advice for you. Read books about people that you admire and model yourself after them.
And remember, people will usually see you as you see yourself, and treat you as you treat yourself! If you see yourself as a loser, so will other people. But if you see yourself as a winner, then others will too.
So if you want friends, you need to start by being a friend to yourself. Stop being so hard on yourself and start believing that you can do it.
Think of it this way- if someone ELSE posted this up here and YOU WERE GIVING THEM ADVICE what would you say???
Would you still believe that they couldn't do it and the situation hopeless? My guess is that you would have a more positive outlook and be encouraging....so you need to use that same outlook and give some of that same encouragment to YOURSELF!
You CAN do it. And you will.
Just make up your mind that you will succeed and you will. The way you're thinking now, if that doesn't change your fears will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don't know what that means look it up.
Take care,
Ruby
Find a club, sport, hobby or group that you are interested in and join up! It's a great way to meet other people that have similar interests and you just might make some good friends.
And try coming out of your shell a bit- be confident, talk to people.
You can also talk with the school counselor and ask him / her for help in getting acclimated to your move. They may have some other good suggestions.
And listen, none of this talk of it being so horrible that you wanted to kill yourself. At that age, everything seems so terrible, like it's the end of the world. And then when you get older (like me:0) you realize that those problems were really much ado about nothing.
Enjoy this time. Go have fun!
Think of it this way, you get to start over on a clean slate. No one at this new school knows a thing about your past (unless you have met some people already). So you can totally re-invent yourself! You can be whoever you want to be.
Use this as an opportunity to be a new you!
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Yeah I know that moving to a new school isn't that great. Everything chages, it feels like life is moving to fast and you have nothing to do in it but be sad and not want to face anything. In your next school, try talking to people who seem nice. For example compliment someone to get a conversation going. Not every school is the same. People make fun of people even if they aren't new. You just have to learn to not care what people say. Yes a lot of a people are cruel, but there are always nice people. Don't worry. Try catching onto a friendly personality. I'm sure everything will turn out the way it is supposed to be. I hope i helped = ]
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Yeah, I`m about to have to do this in four weeks when school starts for me. I know how you feel -- my dad`s in the military, so we`re always moving places.
My mom finally agreed on homeschooling me. Trust me, it`s much easier. Just tell your mom how you feel & explain what this site says to her. I did & my mom finally gave in. =]
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If you or your parents don`t want to do that, try joining a club or starting a sport rather it`s with the school or out of it. Most of my friends are outside of school, considering that most of them at my school are immature jerks. Do you go to church? If so, try joining something there. Most people who go to church are extremely nice, trust me.
Just whatever you do, don`t freak out about popularity -- that never turns out good for people. Plus, most of them just enjoy seeing people cry for some reason, so they`ll just make everything worse.
I can probably relate to alot of what you`ve been through, but don`t worry -- It`ll get better. Well, if you wanna hear some of my stories -- haha, they`ll probably make you glad it didn`t happen to you -- or if you just wanna talk, just leave something in my inbox & I`ll give you my e-mail.
Good luck! =]
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