Hey i'm not quite sure where to start, i'm a younger sister and an older sister so i understand that stuff (two brothers), i love sports, arts, reading, i hate math, i love giving advice, i want to really help people, i hate gossip, i love animals, and um.. i have friends that are girls and friends that are boys, sorry if that's too long.
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So, I have this 12 year old cousin and she LOVES Vanessa Anne Hudgens (from High School Musical) and so this "vanessa" has a xanga--and I commented her like 10 times saying how fake she was and I even gave her proof!(she deleted all my comments though) Like if you search "Vanessa Anne Hudgens"..TONS of results would come up CLAIMING they were the "real Vanessa"--UGHHHHHH I'm trying to tell her that she's FAKE, but my cousin won't believe me. She INSISTS that this Vanessa is the real thing--and her friend believes that this Vanessa is real too.
Anyway, "Vanessa" has a slideshow and she put pictures of these STRANGERS that she calls her "friends"--and she gives out her screenname! Seriously what celebrity does that?
Can anyone help me convince my cousin that this Vanessa is a FAKE?
Here's "Vanessa's" link: http://www.xanga.com/vanessa_anne_hudgens_xxo (link)
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First of all this person is definitely a faker but you know that make sure that this person doesn't make your cousin do anything dangerous. There's a website called fanmail.biz you could have your cousin send her a letter on it with that question or whatever and then ask the person what was in the letter you sent her, but if this person is not making your cousin do anything dangerous or causing her any mental or physical harm, then it's kind of like the tooth fairy or santa, just let her have fun and believe it.
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is there a website that has fanmail addresses for famous people? aka actors, singers, bands, ect..thanksss (link)
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You should check out www.fanmail.biz they have tons of fan mail addresses for Athletes, Singers, Actors, directors, models, authors they basically have it all!!!
Hope it helps!
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i wish i could just not worry about what people think.
be normal,be myself, and nothing more.
i wish i could accept myself, prove that who i am, is enough.
and nothing really matters but my happiness.
not worry about the trends,clothes,popularity.
why can't i let that go? and be real? how do i find myself? is it even possible? or will
i always be the scared,shy,little person? i've come accustomed
to me tht way,as much as i hate it.
please help.
thanks (link)
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Here are four tips:
1. See yourself as a success:
You have a little voice inside your head that tells you you're not good enough. Instead of letting that voice continuously judge what you didn't do right, focus on a real moment in your life that makes you feel great. This could be a religious event, a romantic event, and educational event, when you are thinking of this moment say these words, "You know what this (say the bad feeling you are having right there) reminds me of? It reminds me of the time... Then remember, or "live out" your great moment End the moment with the words: Thats what this reminds me of. This is exactly what olympic athletes have for years to increase their physical performance They see it first in their imagination and then they reach their goals.
2. Restore your self confidence:
The second key to getting over your need for acceptance is self-confidence. Confidence is the result of how you see yourself in your imagination. The wya your nervous system makes you feel is the direct result of what's going on in your imagination. That's why when someone describes delicious food your mouth waters even though there is no real food there To your nervous system this food is more real than the actual food itself. SInce that's the case, just think what would happen if you imagined yourself being succesful and confident. When you see confidence in your imagination, your nervous system believes you are confident which changes the vibes you give off. People will treat you better because they can feel your success and want to be around it. This is what actually makes you stop worrying about what others think of you. Those days of wishing in you can now be ancient history.
3. Do What truly fits "the real you"
This may seem like it has no connection to the previous steps, but it goes hand in hand with learning how to accept yourself. An easy way to build your self-confidence is to do what you truly were meant to do in life. What are you passionate about? What have others told you you're good at?
4. Get "Back to the basics"
Most people are not sure what happiness truly is. True happiness comes when you lend someone else a hand it not only brightens their day but it also brightens yours, if only for a brief moment, true happiness!
Now that you know how to gain confidence by focusing on a positive memory instead of the negative voice inside your head, you'll be able to give off the vibes that attract people to you. Instead of wishing and hoping for approval, you know how to accept yourself by giving people what they need, a confident person who not only looks for the good in them, but also shows them how to see it to
Hope it helps!!
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its like, that game, where you create an account, and walk around. and dress up. but then if you wanna decorate your room or something, for certain things, you need something, and they say.. "opps you need to connect barbie girl! to get this" and i think its an MP3 player, but its like 60 dollars. and i was just wondering about the special codes you can type in, like how do you get those codes and stuff. (link)
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I'm sorry everyone has a different code,you're going to have to buy it if you want it. If it's too expensive heare are some suggestions to raise money:
Lemonade Stand
dog walking
Babysitting
Lawn Mowing
Garage Sales
You can make friendship bracelets and sell them
Think about what you're good at i bet you can figure out a way to make money from i
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My older sister writes in her diary every day, so as a younger sister when she's not home, i read her diary usually it's just about cute boys, and gossip, but i was reading her latest entry and it said that her boyfriend is hitting her and she hasn't told anyone, i'm the only one who knows this, why is she letting him do this, and what should i do??? Please help A.S.A.P i don't want my sister to get hurt anymore. (link)
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Sorry if this answer is very long but this is a serious subject.
If you want to understand what your sister is feeling these are the reasons:
1. Peer pressure- she might feeling pressure to be popular, sometimes teenagers feel that being in an abusive relationship is not as bad as being alone which wil negatively affect their popularity
2. Lack of control- sometimes victims feel that they can't tell adults because adults will take control of the situation and make all the decisions, they ironically prefer the abuser's control then the parent's control, and sometimes adults don't treat teenage abuse seriously enough.
3. Safety- Teenagers feel unsafe breaking with an abusive partner because this person may have access to them at school or in the community, they rarely have the opportunity to seek refuge in a shelter or something of that sort, unfortunately service providers don't always take the issue seriously
4. Poor Information- Teens generally get their social information from their peers, they may be misinformed from peers or their partner that this abuse is normal sexuality in a relationship, such ideas that women are mens sex slaves might be reinforced by music videos, movies, television, advertising, and such.
5. Low Self-Esteem- Victims generally suffer from low self-esteem, they feel they will never find another partner, they feel alone, with no one to talk to, and no one who understands their pain. Abusive partners offer a place of "belonging"
6. Lack of community supports- Dating abuse still lacks attention from community service providers, especially adolescents, there are anonymous crisis lines, but there aren't many services.
Here are tips for helping your sister:ow but don't be confronta
1. Listen without criticizing
2. Show concern but don't be confrontational. Say "im worried that you could get hurt and i want to help" instead of "I know you are being abused and you have to break up with this jerk"
3. Be patient. They may deny the abuse out of embarassment or fear, but criticism will only further alienate.
4. Offer help but do not take control. Your goal is to empoweryour sister to make wise and safe choices.
5. Concentrate on their strengths to increase their feelings of self-worth
6. Be honest. discuss the limits of confidentiality up front so they know under what conditions you will involve other people, including parents, school, police.
7. Don't victim-blame by asking questions like what did you do to make him mad? Help them understand that the abuser is responsible for his actions.
8. Criticize only the abusive behavior not the abuser. The victim will feel forced to defen the person they care about and will not trust you to help. Understand that ambivalence is normal and the victim will take time to make change
9. Continue your support even if they choose to stay in the abusive relationship. When they are ready to think about leaving, they will be more likey to seek your help.
10. Continue to support even if the victim returns to an abusive relationship. Maybe they just need more time to develop stronger boundaries and courage.
11. Ask them how they feel don't tell them how they feel or how they should feel.
12. Be aware of your own "baggage". Don't bring your issues to the victim's relationship.
13. Be sensitive to cultural differences and realize that not everyone will share your values.
14 Provide information about relationship abuse. Give them numbers and names of community resources that can help them.
15. Encourage them to share their situation with family or caregivers secrecy nourishes abuse.
I know this might be a lot for you, and remember this can't all be done at once.
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My has this new bf lets call him "Frank" my mom and "frank" have been dating for a couple months now. At first my mom and frank seemed like a perfect match, and Frank seemed like a great guy, he brought my mom flowers, and wrote her love poems, and he acted like my dad, he took me to a play, and he was just awesome, my mom and i were so happy, but then i notice my mom started to wear long sleeved shirts, and i heard her crying at night, once i walked in when she was in the bathroom in a tank top, and i saw bruises on her arms, she hid them, and she didn't talk about it. I have my suspicions and i think Frank hits her, i don't what i'm going to do about it? (link)
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I'm sorry i just don't feel i have the ability to answer this question.
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I have a little sister and she has some mental problems, i also have another younger sibling who's a baby, so my mom is sometimes preoccupied with the baby and i feel it's my responsibility to take of my sister, sometimes i just want to be a normal kid though, is there a way i can be a normal kid with out feeling awful about not being the best older sister i can be????????????
14 yr/f (link)
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First of all you love your sister but she is not solely your responsibility, putting all this weight on your shoulders is just going to end in a mess for you. Talk to your parents discuss how this makes you feel, they might not realize how much of a responsibility your dealing with. I'm not a proffesional with this matter but i strongly suggest you talk with your parents, remember you're just a kid.
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Why is it that you cant remember dreams,
like I had one this morning, and it was very clear in my head, and I cant remember the specefic people or anything anymore? (link)
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There are steps you can take to remeber your dreams first off wake up S L O W L Y- lie in bed, with out talking, keeping your eyes closed, working diligently to remember your dreams, if you don't recall the dream, try to think of the feeling you had right when you woke up whether it was anger, depression, happyness, worry, dreams always leave an emotional "hangover", once you've got this feeling reach for a "dream journal" any pad of paper will do, and write down the answers to these four key questions:
1. What was the key image in the dream?
2. What was the key feeling?
3. Where was the dream located?
4. What situation in our real life does this dream remind us of?
This will help you understand the dream, and will help you recall it later in the day, when you have a clear head and more time to reflect on it. Also writing four sentence will keep the journal brief. Before you go to bed at night confirm your goal to remember your dream and to wake up slowly. If you sleep with someone else make sure to ask them to give you some quiet time in the morning. Dream on!!!!!!! lol
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my little sister, wants this thing for barbie.com. does anyone know how to get secret codes for it? (link)
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i think i can help you but can you be more specific what does she want??
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16/m .hi, well seeing how its the summer and theres no school, im going to sleep at about 2am, and wake up at around 12 pm, but when i wake up, i feel really crap. i have a really mild headache, my chest hurts, my eyes are itchy,and my face and head feel hot, even though the window is open, and i just generelly feel horrible, when after you wake up youre supposed to feel refreshed and relaxed, but i just dont. whats up with me? i dont want to go to sleep earlier, because like, its the summer. (link)
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The problem might be that you exhaust your body during the day and go to sleep late, and then wakeup late, your body is not used to this schedule, i'm not a doctor or anything but i suggest you either go to bed earlier, drink liquids and eat when you wake up, take a walk or go for a jog, so you wake up your body, try to be active, make sure you're eating healthy. Just don't try to compensate your tiredness with caffeine.
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dear duno2200,
well my friend has been really jealous of me and my other friend hanging out a lot i don't know why though1 i mean i don't treat her like crap its just i don't know... do u have any idea to stop her from being jealous???¿¿¿
signed,
upset (link)
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First off make sure you make plans with her sometimes, and include her. Chat with her, make her feel included. If you have to say sry i can't have plans make sure you also say how about we have plans soon.
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Shannon
I know this person and I hate them but they like me what should I do (link)
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First think about why you hate this person are they mean, do they gossip,do they hurt people, then just gently (they have feelings to) say something like i don't like that you do this, but if you stopped i would consider being your friend.
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15/f. Pardon me if this is long. But it's ruining my life.
Last year I was a really lonely and pathetic teenager. At 14, I had no friends I could trust, and all that revolved around my mind, was school and homework. And then I stumbled upon an online forum. There, I made lots of friends and became so much happier. I had gotten more social through the ways of the internet chatroom. The people there all shared my interests and were so nice and sweet to me. It was almost like a dream. I actually thought I was fitting in somewhere. Ever since, to this day, it has become an addiction. Particularly because of one guy. Let's call him "Vibrator". Vibrator is 3 and a half years older than me. That makes him...(well, you do the math, if I'm 15 1/2) And he lives in North America (as I do) He shares my music interests, hobbies and other things such as this. When he talks to me (and we have been talking online on MSN and AIM for a course of one year) he is always so sweet and sugary and amazing. I feel like I've known Vibrator forever. He always compliments me and tells me I'm pretty. It makes me feel amazing. But, I'm a bit paranoid, because I've only seen like ONE picture of him! And I'm always sending him pictures o.o And everything we discuss....personally..is always about me. So I feel as if...he wants to know about me, but never tells me about himself. Is he hiding something? I don't know what to do ! I'm so emotionally attached to him. And he flirts with other girls too, and then tells me later that he has no "sexual" feelings for me. He tells me that we should meet and he tells me he wants to. He manipulates and plays with my feelings. He really is ruining my life. I hate him, but at the same time I like him a lot. I don't know what to do. I really want to meet him. But I'm so unsure. It's becoming an obsession talking to him. And he gets mad very frequently...when he does, I cry. He upsets me a lot. But then he apologizes and plays with me...like that. I cry over him. I can't tell this to anyone. Not even my best friend, because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I like someone online.
What should I do? Please. :( Any piece of advice would be helpful. (link)
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I know this is the last thing you want to hear, but this guy is like a drug for you you're addicted. You've got to lock up your computer or block these sites, he's toying with your mind, you might be embarassed to tell your friends, but you've got to sit down and at least tell your parents. There are clinics for these types of problems, YOU MUST NOT MEET HIM,
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i recently met this guy and we went to the movies but it was a double date with my friend and his friend. it was the first time we met and we didnt say anything like during the movie and our friends were talking away. we talked later on the computer and talked about a bunch of things. now i know him better and were going to the movies again, but im scared its going to be awkward again.
any ideas on what should i say to him? (link)
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Don't jump right in to talking about the deep stuff, what is he most into sports, art, whatever it is see if you can strike up a converation and then maybe he'll really start chatting, just remember he's just as nervous as you are so maybe it's easier for him to talk to you online.
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I seriously need help!
I am 13.
I recently moved across the country, from the towwn which I lived all my life.
At my old school there was this boy my age who really liked me... I was unsure at the time whether i liked him or not...so i sorta gave him the impression i disliked him...
I know he still liked me though because i would look up to see he was staring at me, and he purposly bumped into me in the halls.
But when i moved i cant stop thinking of him..
Should i conntact him? (link)
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First think about it do you really like him, or do you just miss having someone admiring you, if you really like him, just contact him and talk to him a bit, see where things are going and then go for it, i like you, it's the perfect situation if he still likes you back, great, if hedoesn't then you don't have to face any embarassment because you live across the country!
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I was wondering, What do guys look for in a friend thats a girl ? Do they like someone who is more boyish?
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I'm not a guy but i hav a bunch of guy friends. IF this is seriously just a friendship and not a soon to be dating relationship then it depends on the guy, if he is interested in sports and comics, then yes he might be looking for that, he justs wants to have something in common with you, he wants someone funny, nice, he wants what a friend that a girl wants also, expect DON'T get all giggly and talk about cute boys
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i have this friend and ive gone with her and her boyfriend and a few other people to the movies. well when they are at the movies she lays on him and he puts his arm around her and stuff. and she sometimes like sits on him and they make out and its cute.
well im going to the movies with my boyfriend soon and i want to do that kind of stuff. how do i get him to do that. i dont just want to throw myself on him. how do i know he likes to do that kind of stuff too? i dont want to ask him cause thats kinda of weird. (link)
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First of alll if you really like this boy throwing yourself at him or asking him is not the answer he will think your just a slut, which i'm not saying you are but he might not be into that stuff let the events roll if something does happen great, if nothing happens then ask yourself what you really want from this boy do you like him do you want him as a boyfriend or do you just want someone to kiss and cuddle, either one is fine but only you know what you really want
Beware of going out with slutty guys because you want that though because that will just get you a bad reputation
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Im so scared im not going to have a friend next year, all my friends are going to be in seperate hombases!!!!!!!!!!!! I need tips on how to make friends because its hard in middle school,
THANKYOU!! :D (link)
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First off i went through this problem last year. Although you're very nervous middleschoolers aren't vicious tigers, they have hearts too. You'll be spending every day with the kids in homebase, so here are some tips:
1. Be friendly
2. Introduce yourself
3. Sit by other kids
4. Try to get to know people
5. Don't be judgemental
6. Smile
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ok well i'm pretty good at keeping friends (when i'm in school) but anyways i don't know how to keep them interested,you know? people get bored of me fast,i hate it ! i just stop my energy for some reason after a cirtain point. how can i keep my energy up? i'm not sick of them, its nothing to do with them,its me. i just loose energy and stop being so talkative,its weird because i'm usually so much more talkative. any help? this is probably confusing.sorry. (link)
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Maybe you just feel as if you don't have much to say anymore, you've said it all. If you run into this problem you might want to do something different with your friends something bound to bring up a conversation rock climbing, scuba diving. And if that doesn't work you should take the time to think about all the details of these friendships, spice it up!
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I recently just moved to Moore,Oklahoma from Henderson,Kentucky. Everything is different since I moved like on the line of a huge city. I'm so used to living in a small town. Now school is coming up,and Im going to a new school with new people. I want advice because last time I moved it was a disaster. The school I went to was horrible, it was so bad that I wanted to kill myself(no one say I'm emo, i didnt cut myself). No one talked to me and I had no friends, i didnt talk to anyone and no one talked to me. Unless they were going to pick on me. I talked to my mom's friend, who is really friendly and has a bunch of friends. But I'm just so scared of another school that was so horrible that I want to kill myself. What should I do?
P.S. srry if it was a bit long. (link)
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You'll never get to know people if u don't talk to them. Just start a normal conversation hey i'm..." One of the most important things is be yourself, and especially since your moving to a big city there will be tons of people who have the same stuff in common with you. Remember there's no way your going to meet people unless you put yourself out there, if you're having a hard time meeting people and the school seemse cliquey try joing a club or a team.
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