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ugh
i wish i could just not worry about what people think.
be normal,be myself, and nothing more.
i wish i could accept myself, prove that who i am, is enough.
and nothing really matters but my happiness.
not worry about the trends,clothes,popularity.
why can't i let that go? and be real? how do i find myself? is it even possible? or will
i always be the scared,shy,little person? i've come accustomed
to me tht way,as much as i hate it.
please help.
thanks
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Well the problem is, everyone cares what people think about them whether they admit it or not. It's just in our blood to want to fell reallly liked and hate being rejected by people. But you can accept yourself. The thing is that you should do what you like to do. Just try tuning people out when they give you rude compliments. Also being scared of the world makes it harder to get a good self esteem and care what people think. Try being outgoing. This is really hard to overcome. First start out with doing what you want to do. Then be outgoing. And third tune out people with rude comments. Try turning the rude comments into nice comments. For example if someone calls u a nerd; You can turn it into I'm smart and there jealous. If you need more help, feel free to email me back.
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Here are four tips:
1. See yourself as a success:
You have a little voice inside your head that tells you you're not good enough. Instead of letting that voice continuously judge what you didn't do right, focus on a real moment in your life that makes you feel great. This could be a religious event, a romantic event, and educational event, when you are thinking of this moment say these words, "You know what this (say the bad feeling you are having right there) reminds me of? It reminds me of the time... Then remember, or "live out" your great moment End the moment with the words: Thats what this reminds me of. This is exactly what olympic athletes have for years to increase their physical performance They see it first in their imagination and then they reach their goals.
2. Restore your self confidence:
The second key to getting over your need for acceptance is self-confidence. Confidence is the result of how you see yourself in your imagination. The wya your nervous system makes you feel is the direct result of what's going on in your imagination. That's why when someone describes delicious food your mouth waters even though there is no real food there To your nervous system this food is more real than the actual food itself. SInce that's the case, just think what would happen if you imagined yourself being succesful and confident. When you see confidence in your imagination, your nervous system believes you are confident which changes the vibes you give off. People will treat you better because they can feel your success and want to be around it. This is what actually makes you stop worrying about what others think of you. Those days of wishing in you can now be ancient history.
3. Do What truly fits "the real you"
This may seem like it has no connection to the previous steps, but it goes hand in hand with learning how to accept yourself. An easy way to build your self-confidence is to do what you truly were meant to do in life. What are you passionate about? What have others told you you're good at?
4. Get "Back to the basics"
Most people are not sure what happiness truly is. True happiness comes when you lend someone else a hand it not only brightens their day but it also brightens yours, if only for a brief moment, true happiness!
Now that you know how to gain confidence by focusing on a positive memory instead of the negative voice inside your head, you'll be able to give off the vibes that attract people to you. Instead of wishing and hoping for approval, you know how to accept yourself by giving people what they need, a confident person who not only looks for the good in them, but also shows them how to see it to
Hope it helps!!
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Whoa. I've been dealing with this issue for a while now, but I'm doing better than I was before. I realized that the only person holding me back is myself. It seems that we are our own worst enemies and we are far too critical of ourselves. It's too time consuming to be concerned with what each individual thinks of you. As long as you show others respect, then you musn't care what others could be thinking because they wouldn't have a logical reason of disliking you. Find yourself through music...through television shows...food...colors. This sounds insane, but our likes and dislikes make up our personality. You probably aren't naturally shy, you're just letting your insecurities mask who you wish to be. Don't hesitate to send any follow-up questions to my inbox. I'm here to help =]
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Everyone isn't going to like you. It sucks but we have to face the facts and realize reality. You should always stay true to yourself because if you won't then who will??? Be yourself especially since the PEOPLE THAT MATTER, DON'T MIND AND THE PEOPLE THAT MIND DOESN'T MATTER. I'm sure you have at least one person in your life that accepts you for you whether it be your parent, sibling, or friend. I hoped I helped but if not then feel free to write me back.
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