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Obsessed with Enemy
I absolutely hate my ex best friend. But I'm obsessed with her. I've hated her for about a year because she was a terrible person, but I can't help but to peek around her facebook and xanga to see if her life is miserable. Is this normal, because it sure as hell doesn't feel healthy.
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I had literally the exact same problem. I'd practically stalk her facebook, AIM profile, and anything else I could find. Then I'd just feel miserable when I realized how happy she was, and I was just depressed enough to 'stalk' her.
Just realize that by peeking around her stuff, you're making things worse for youself. It's hard to realize that you're leading different lives now, especially when you used to be best friends, but it's such a relieving feeling to just let go of the past, as cliche as it sounds.
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Ehh, I used to do that. =[
Hahh, I would think: Oh, maybe she'll be miserable too. Then maybe I'll feel a little better? But every time I'd check her myspace & whatever else she had, it just made me feel worse. So, finally I was just like, "Mmk. She's out of my life. I don't need her to bring me down anymore than she already has." & I stopped.
The girl's probably an insecure jerk who thinks she's "popular" or something, so she treats other people like crap. Am I right? =]
Here's what you need to do:
Everytime you get that urge to go "check up" on her. Just say this to yourself: "It's none of my business who's life she's screwing up now. I know this is going to make me feel worse." & just exit out of the website & go listen to music, go call your best friends & talk about it with them, write in a journal, go for a walk, go shopping, etc.
Good luck!
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ah its alright.
i'v done that too. like there was this guy that i had a thing with and when it was all done and over i hated him. but i'd always check his myspace and look at his comments and stuff.
its alright to be curious =]
you'll probably get over it.
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