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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

advice

I moved away from my hometown in 5th grade, now im in 8th and i want to get ahold of some friends that i left behind. i have a myspace account and i tried that but theres just to many ppl. uhh is there any other way i can get ahold of some long lost buddys?

This might not work, but I suggest joining facebook and trying it. I don't think it'll be very effective for you, because you're not in High School yet. But facebook's a really good way to find people. If any of them have older siblings in HS, you can search for them and they might be able to get you in touch. (= Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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i complain alot.. is there any way were i can stop complaining because ppl say that i complain alot

You need to concsiously think about it. A personal example from me is that I tend to jump to conclusions. So when I see something that I might not be okay with, I just get angry and jump to conclusions. Try to slow down and concsiously think "I've already said that" or "I don't NEED to say that".. by thinking about it for a couple seconds, you might stop complaining as much. (=
♥ Melissa

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okay well i used to be best friends with this one girl for like ever. and then we stopped talking for a little bit because we were both really busy and she got all mad and said that i was mad at her and she could never trust me again. that was a few months ago and were still not friends. well i was wondering if i should write her (she blocked me and she lives in another state so i cant call her). because i am just wondering if shes okay and maybe we can patch this thing up. should i even bother?

*i rate 5's*

If you guys were really good friends, then yeah, you should take the time to write or email her. If the friendship doesn't mean anything to you (which I think it does since you took the time to ask this question) then don't worry about it. Give her a chance to cool off, then write or email her. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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15/f- Its really long but if you would take the time, I would really really appreciate your help.

Okay I have 2 best friends, shelby and christa. Well shelby recently got a boyfriend, and all of a sudden started acting very distant to me and christa. She never hung out with us anymore, and barely talked to us at school. She was trying to change herself to fit in with her bf's friends. Well Then she started telling people that me and christa abandoned her and that we were mad and jealous that she has a bf. We never said anything to her. So then we heard it from more people, so we asked her about it, if she said it. She denied it, and got mad at us and walked away. We let it go. Then my friend found a note from her to her bf that said " I dont know what is up with HER (meaning me) lately. If she doesnt knock it off quick, Im not gonna talk to her at all at homecoming because I dont want my night to be ruined by HER". So then I called her and asked her about it. Now Im not a mean person at all. Im too nice at times. Well I must have said "Now Im not trying to attack you or be mean, I just wanna talk" fifteen times, and she was like "Oh I know" She made up some lame excuse, and I was like whatever, so then we talked for about an hour like normal about our day and whatnot. The next morning she came up to Christa and I and hugged us to make sure we were okay. Well afterschool a friend came up and said "shelby said you called her and yelled and bitched her out for an hour and then she cried after you got off the phone" I was so angry, and I was tempted just to not talk to her anymore, but I gave it one more chance. I went up to her before lunch at her locker and asked her why she was saying that, and that she knew very well it wasnt true. I was being wayy too nice. She wouldnt look at me, she kept her eyes on her locker and was like "yeah... whatever.. sure" while I was talking, so then she was like "IM DONE okay? IM DONE WITH YOU" and just kept saying it, and I walked off, and then she went and told her bf that it was the otherway around. So then she comes up to me like 1 or 2 days later and says I was being a bitch the otherday, I dont know what was up. Blah. And I just said yeah I agree and walked away, then she wrote me a 3 page note and the first page was an apology finally. Im the forgive and forget type, but I dont really wanna forgive exactly, but she sits at our lunch table now, but everyone is like "why are you talking to her, she doesnt deserve your time"

Should I forgive her after all she did?
Am I right about this whole thing?
Should I talk to her still?
What should I do?

I would greatly appreciate any help anyone can give

First of all, sorry that you're having to deal with a suposed best friend acting this way. It's ridiculous and you shouldn't get treated this way.

I don't think having a boyfriend & wanting to fit in with his friends should justify her talking about you guys. It's one thing to not be with you guys constantly anymore, because obviously she's going to want to hang out with her boyfriend, but that doesn't mean she needs to talk about you.

There's no reason why you guys should be forgiving HER for everything she's saying and doing to you. That's ridiculous and if you guys are best friends, it SHOULDN'T be going on.

I know it will seem mean, and hard at times, but until her & this boyfriend break up, or have a fight she probably isn't going to change. Just leave her alone and let her come to you when she needs you. Then talk to her about how she is making / made you guys feel. Because it's not fair.

Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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my girlfriend is having a halloween party and i forgot about it and made plans with my friends to go to the movies. should i go to half the party and then to the movies or to all of the party. do you think my girlfriend will be mad if i dont go to the whole party

HELLO?!?! You're her BOYFRIEND. If you don't go to HER party, what do you think that says? Ask her if your friends can come too. Then you can hang out with both. But you need to go to her party, expecially since you forgot about it and made other plans.
♥ Melissa

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OK,i have a guy friend named Klint he is 16 right and we were friends until we started liking eachother.....we went out and i cheated on him he broke up wit me and we decided to jus be friends,but after that we started hangin out right well...this is the part that confuzez me...when i'm wit him hangin out he alwayz wants to be all over me lik kissy,kissy and huggy,huggy, i alwayz ask why he is lik this and i tell him were jus friends but he ignores it.another part that confuzez me is that we broke up and r friends but he still treats me lik his gurlfriend.... and i don't want that plz i need advice!!Thnx!

Talk to him. Just tell him that if you're going to be friends, ACT LIKE FRIENDS, and if you're going to ACT like you're dating, then DATE. Don't confuse them, it just makes things harder.
♥ Melissa

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Hey, So I screwed up really bad. I stole 3 pairs of pants from one of my friends. But then I gave them back, I said sorry and explained myself and everything. But now I don't feel like any of my friends like or trust me. What can I do to get our friendship back? PLEASE HELP!!

There's no good way to earn that trust back. You're just going to have to give them time and hope they forgive you. You did it, and now you have to deal with the consequences. Try being friends with them but if they don't trust you, there's not much you can do. Good luck.
♥ Melissa

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ok...im like one of the most popular girls at school but my friend is known as a "almost geek" and i love her to death shes like my sister...and i have been so popular since elementary school and i cant give that up but i also cant give my bestfriend up...Why is this so hard for me to decide on?What should i do give up popularity or help my friend become popular 2? please help!!
15
female

One part of being "popular" SHOULD BE being nice and being friends with a lot of people. That means that you can be friends with anyone you want. If you're best friend isn't "popular", so what? Ask her to hang out with your "popular" friends, if you're friends with all of them they can be friends too. Nomatter what, don't forget your best friend. She's been there for you, and it wouldn't be fair to abandon her.
♥ Melissa

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ok i have this friend...she's 17 years old and she was in this religion where you can only wear skirts and you cant cut your hair and all that kind of stuff and she got pregnant so now she's no longer in this "religion" but i found out last weekend she's pregnant by a guy that i use 2 be so inlove with...i want to still be friends with her because we grew up together and she's like my sister and she has had a rough life but then i dont want to get a bad name for being friends with her!! What should i do? And should i forgive her for messing with my ex boyfriend because we promised each other we would never date another ones ex or anything because thats wrong...what do i do...HELP
15 female

Okay, if she's your FRIEND, then you shouldn't be worried about getting a "bad name" by being a friend. That's ridiculous, and immature. Right now, she's going to need her friends. Don't abandon her just because you're worried about YOURSELF. If you're that upset about her being with your ex, then talk to her about how you're feeling.
♥ Melissa

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I'm really close to this guy named Kevin. He's one of my best friends & I just met him about a month ago when I first moved to this state. He told me he was gay when we first met. It didn't bother me at all, seen as I have a lot of gay friends. But, this was our conversation tonight:

HIM: I love you a lot! :)
ME: Hah, you can't you're gay.
HIM: No, I'm bisexual. I just prefer guys more.
ME: Lol, well youre 75% gay.
HIM: Yeah, but the other 25% is you.


Okay, Well, basically my question is, do you think he really likes me? Like from that 25% thing? Just wondering.. Thanks a bunch.

I would say talk to him and ask. It LOOKS like he likes you, but you never know for sure. So just ask (=
♥ Melissa

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Well see about 8 months ago I wouldnt care for you know like when My mom yells at me and then I met this guy that feels like he changed my life....but then we broke up and now my friends are worried that I will go back to being my oldself....they like the kinda new me... what do I do???

If YOU like the new you, keep acting that way. It shouldn't matter if the boy's around or not.
♥ Melissa

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Ok, my 3 best friends recently kind of just...left me. Like on the weekend we were gonna get together to go to the movies, and one was like "I just dont think it is going to work out" and then i found out later that they went! And we were all gonna do the Halloween costume theme deal and now I found out that they changed it to be the Fanta girls but they didnt want me to know and it is even sadder because I came up with us being the Fanta girls. And for them to make a Halloween thing with it just makes me mad. But I dont know what to do. I used to have so much fun with them, but now it is like they all hate me. And I have heard that they said that.

So I asked and they were like "No, we dont hate you..." and like if they someting totally mean and then brag about it and I dont get mad they will twist up my words like "We went to the movies and it was sooooo much fun and the most funny thing happened.." "cool" "are you mad at me? because oyu are acting like a total b*tch" please help, i dont know what to do...

I think I agree. Maybe it's time for new friends? You deserve to be treated a LOT better than that, and there are always other people to be friends with. Eventually, they WILL miss you. When they do, it's up to you what to do. (=
♥ Melissa

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Hey everyone. I'm in a spot of a dilemma here. You see, I have this friend who I've been chatting to online for around 2 years now and he's coming down to meet (don't worry, he's not a pedophile or anything. we've spoken on the phone and web cam and all) anyway, we were planning to see green day together and he already bought the tickets and his plane ticket. Anyway, a few days ago my good friend who lives here bought me a ticket to see Green Day. It was going to be a suprise but then he found out I was already going and had to fess up. Anyway, the next time he saw me he HANDED the ticket to me, which I now have. My good friend bought the ticket for me as a present and I don't have to pay him or anything, and I'd feel bad making him give it to someone else. But the other guy can't cancel his plane ticket or sell his ticket (since he lives in brisbane and i'm in melbourne) advice please??

thanks

First of all, it's NEVER 100% safe to be meeting people online. Nomatter how many different ways you've spoken to them, it's still not completely safe. However, about the thing you ASKED about.. I would say pay him for the ticket, and then give it to another friend. If you're really wanting to meet your internet friend, there's not much you can do except go there with the friend who bought you the ticket, and then meet your internet friend there. BE CAREFUL PLEASE! Oh & have fun at Green Day! (=
♥ Melissa

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ok, my friend andy invited me to sleepover on friday night. hes having a sleepover and i really wanna go. the only thing is... im a girl... and andy is a guy so my parents will probably say no. my friend tia is going too... but i dont think that will help convince them much. im thinking about saying im sleeping over tias and then going with her to andys... but im scared my parents would find out... what should i do? please help me...

Lol wow definitely have been in that situation. Do whatever you think you need to do. If you know you're going to get caught, or think it's wrong that you do it, then don't. If you want to do it, then do it. It's up to what you think you should do.
♥ Melissa

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one of my best friends and my sister are in the marching band. so far i've been to almost all the competitions and football games to support them, well this weekend i wont be able to go so i was think i'd get a basket as a good-luck gift for them... besides writing them a note saying good-luck and everything, what can i give them? they aren't allowed to eat/drink anything besides water in their uniforms...

Hey, I'm in a marching band too and that only water thing really blows. Lol so I know where you're coming from. But anyways, give them a basket full of stuff they can eat before OR after marching. Put water in there for the game, but also include just normal food [chips, fun size candy, stuff like that] that they can have later. (=
♥ Melissa

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Ok this is a really horrible situation I got myself into.
Today is my 1 year anniversary with my boy friend and this weekend is my best friend's birthday. I totally forgot to mention that to my boyfriend and he bought us tickets to this concert and reserved dinner at a really nice place downtown that has a waiting list weeks long.
Anyway, I've known my best friend my entire life and we had always planned that for her 18th birthday, we'd drive over to Alberta and get totally tanked with a group of girlfriends because her parents would be away for Thanksgiving.
So yesterday, my boyfriend gave me my ticket and I noticed the date of the concert and the dinner falls on the same day of my friend's birthday! I couldn't believe it and I got really upset because my best friend and I had been planning this for years and I couldn't believe this was happening to me!!
Well my boy friend said he understood and it was ok, he could take me some time later even though I know he spent a lot of money on the tickets and planned it all out and we can't get seatings at a concert again till they come around on tour again. So I said ok, I'll go with Sandra and them.
So I was all planning on going with the girls until one of my other friends "felt bad" or whatever and she told my best friend and now my best friend says it's really stupid that I would ditch my boy friend for a road trip and she demended that I go to the concert.
Now I feel really bad and so does my boyfriend so I don't know what to do! Like if I go to Alberta, I'll feel really bad but at the same time, if I go to the concert, I'll feel bad too! What the eff am I supposed to do?

I think that you should go to the concert. Your boyfriend spent a LOT of money to get the tickets, and took the time to get reservations also. That's a once in a relationship type thing. You can ALWAYS go on a road trip another time, and plus it can be even more suprises for your friend because you have more time to plan.
♥ Melissa

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me and my friend were best-friends since we were 4. we're 13 now and since we were 9 she's been hanging around with other people at lunch time.It didn't bother me that much .She became way more popular but it was like nothing had changed outside of school.When we 1st went into 1st year in secondary school (in Ireland)and i was really happy that she starterd hanging out with me in school again.Now we're in 2nd year and we don't see each-other outside school that much and we don't hang out in school and we're only in three classes together.she still talks to me like everything is fine.She doesn't sit beside me in two of the classes unless her friends aren't there!Sheonly sometimes sits beside me in the other class but lately she hasn't even been doing that!I think she's using me but if I tell her then she might not be my friend at all.What should I do?HELP!!!P.S. I'm a thirteen year old girl.

Try telling her how you feel. You can't expect her to read your mind. Just talk to her and get things out into the open.
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Omg please help me you guys. This is gonna be kinda long ,but im just really confused!

Okay. Here goes :

I have friends that are twins(Kateri&Teresa). And i have another friend named Emily. Emily goes to highskool and she's a freshman.So am i. and Kateria & Teresa are in 8th grade but they should be a freshman but w/e thats not the point. Okay Me and Emily haven't seen each other in sucha long time but we hung out on Friday with out friends.

Emily and the Twins were really close when we were all in skool 2gether .Like really close,almost like best friends. Now when me and emily hung out on friday i was totally happy to see her since i haven't seen her because she goes to a different highskool than me. And we started talkin about the twins. And Emily was like "I don't really like the twins anymore." and i go oh my god why not you guys are like best friends. and emily was like "i kno but there just soo...clingy" and i was like in shock.

Me and the twins totally talk still and i luv em. And they started talkin about how emily was acting really weird and stuff..Like everytime they invited her to hang out or something emily would just be like "Well i don't really have time.."

Now i don't wanna go behind emily's back and just tell the twins. Becuase it was really good to see emily and i totally missed her. But i don't want to NOT tell the twins because im afraid that they'll tell Emily that i told them and i don't wanna hurt them either. Im just soo confused and omg its like irritating!! My question is should i tell the twins what emily said and go behind emily's back? Or should i just not tell the twins. Oh my god im super sorry that it is soo long but im soo confused! i don't wanna hurt anybody because i feel so bad!! and i don't wanna start drama!! =( please help!!

PLEASE!!

I would personally say DO NOT tell them. If she told you behind their backs, then she probably doesn't want them to know. Just talk to Emily and tell her that if she doesn't like them she needs to explain it to them because she's hurting their feelings. Hopefully it works out!
♥ Melissa

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Okay so my friend said she hates my boyfriend, and always tells me to dump him or she will make my live hell.. she said that i deserve someone hotter because my boyfriend is ugly, and cares about only me. She and my boyfriend are always arguing and it makes me cry, and today she was being really mean to him, and she made him cry, and then me. I dont know what to do..please help!

Your friend isn't really your friend. You need to explain to her that you don't care how he looks, it's about who he is, and that you love him. It's not HER boyfriend, and you wouldn't do that to her so don't let her do it to you. If you love him that's all that matters, don't let your friend mess it up!
♥ Melissa

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my friends and i constantly suffer drama. we spend hours and hours at night on AIM trying to figure it out. it almost always ends up in someone crying or hurt. how do i help them with out just causing more drama?

There's really no way to STOP drama, because there's ALWAYS going to be one or more person starting it, or re-starting it. There's nothing you can do to help unless you WANT them to. Maybe they have some kind of insecurity issues [I can say I do] or something like that? Try to find out the reason why the drama starts all the time, then talk to them. If they want help then help, and if they don't I really don't know what to tell you. Good luck, sorry I wasn't more helpful, but I'm kind of in this position right now.
♥ Melissa

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