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Best Friend's Party Or Boyfriend's Anniversary?
Ok this is a really horrible situation I got myself into.
Today is my 1 year anniversary with my boy friend and this weekend is my best friend's birthday. I totally forgot to mention that to my boyfriend and he bought us tickets to this concert and reserved dinner at a really nice place downtown that has a waiting list weeks long.
Anyway, I've known my best friend my entire life and we had always planned that for her 18th birthday, we'd drive over to Alberta and get totally tanked with a group of girlfriends because her parents would be away for Thanksgiving.
So yesterday, my boyfriend gave me my ticket and I noticed the date of the concert and the dinner falls on the same day of my friend's birthday! I couldn't believe it and I got really upset because my best friend and I had been planning this for years and I couldn't believe this was happening to me!!
Well my boy friend said he understood and it was ok, he could take me some time later even though I know he spent a lot of money on the tickets and planned it all out and we can't get seatings at a concert again till they come around on tour again. So I said ok, I'll go with Sandra and them.
So I was all planning on going with the girls until one of my other friends "felt bad" or whatever and she told my best friend and now my best friend says it's really stupid that I would ditch my boy friend for a road trip and she demended that I go to the concert.
Now I feel really bad and so does my boyfriend so I don't know what to do! Like if I go to Alberta, I'll feel really bad but at the same time, if I go to the concert, I'll feel bad too! What the eff am I supposed to do?
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I have a close friend, we're like brothers, and if I were in your situation my friend would totally understand why I'd go to the concert and I'd understand if he did that. Sure you've had this planned, but you said you've been friends for your entire lives...this surely shouldn't stop you guys. You've been friends for eighteen years, and this shouldn't change anything. Your time with your boyfriend could be running out as we speak, so you might as well get fond memories now ya know? You can always celeberate your friend's birthday the following week, but I suppose you can't drive over to Alberta and get drunk...which probably isn't that awesome. It'll only make a habit out of drinkin'. But just think about the money your poor boyfriend invested in your anniversary. All down the drain...if only there were some way he could be reimburst. Speaking of which...has money actually been put up for this trip? If not go with the boy.
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I agree with what the first person said. This is a really hard decision. And it's good that both of the people are very understanding about it..
But if you and your best friend have always said you would do that on her birthday, you should follow through with those plans, because they've been there forever. I know I'd feel really bad if my best friend went to a concert with her boyfriend when we had plans for ages. Like right now, I'm 18, and our plans are to go to Vegas on my 21st birthday and get soo soo drunk. And if we had plans like that for years, and she'd give them up for a concert, I'd be a bit upset. Because bands always come back, too. You only get one 18th birthday. But at the same time, you only get one 1-year anniversary too! Hmm.
Are you ever emotional drunk? Because I can be sometimes, not often, but once every few months. If you end up going with your friends and getting drunk, you want to make sure you don't start feeling bad about your boyfriend's plans when you're drunk..because alcohol mixed with feelings sometimes don't go so well! At least not for me. haha. That's probably not a problem for you, but sometimes I have to watch out for myself ahead of time about stuff like that.
I'm swinging towards going with your best friend, but whatever decision you make...good luck! I hope it all turns out good and no one gets upset :)
Whoever you DONT go with, make sure you make it up to them. Like have a special day for them :)
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I think that you should go to the concert. Your boyfriend spent a LOT of money to get the tickets, and took the time to get reservations also. That's a once in a relationship type thing. You can ALWAYS go on a road trip another time, and plus it can be even more suprises for your friend because you have more time to plan.
♥ Melissa
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I think that you should go with your friend because that's what you've planned earlier on and you shouldn't back out on something that you've planned. Also, you said you've known your best friend for your whole life. How long have you been with your boyfriend for? Are you going to ditch the friend that you've known your whole life for him?
One exception would be if your friend insists that you go to the concert. If you're going on a road trip, you're together for a long time. It would be awkward if your friend is insisting that you go to the concert. If you do go to the concert, remember to give your friend a present and say happy birthday. (Of course, you should be doing that anyway, but if you can't be with her, that's even more important)
Of course, you can always choose to not go to either, so you're not ditching one for the other, but I don't think it's very fair for your best friend or your boyfriend because if they both said that they don't mind, you might as well at least try to be with one.
Easier said than done, but don't feel bad no matter which one you choose, because that would make whoever that you didn't choose to go with feel bad. It's nice of your best friend and your boyfriend that they don't mind if you choose the other. Enjoy yourself no matter where you decide to go.
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