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I Can't Talk To Him But Is There Something There?
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I'm 17 now but when I was in the 8th Grade (last year of Junior High) I was considered a "geek". I was bookworm. Overweight and quiet. There was this pretty popular boy in my class who used to make fun of me all the time. He really made my life hell. After about two months, he started acting different around me. Sometimes he'd be really mean and then sometimes he'd be super nice (like random acts of kindness) and the one day after school, him and his female friend were talking in an almost empty classroom while I was trying to finish up some math. She asked him a question with my name in it and my ears perked up and then she called me and she said "--- likes you" and I made a face at him because I thought he was an ass at the time. Anyway, I think I hurt him a bit. He told me he hated me a few weeks after that incident.
A few months passed and we entered high school and I started liking him (he was still pretty popular but I was still a geek) but I figured I only liked him because he used to like me and I thought I'd get over it.
That year he told my friend that I was a geek.
During high school I’ve grown to love him more. I'm not a geek and I've lost a lot of weight (although I'm still a few pounds up). People who used to know me consider me considerably ‘cooler’. I'm sort of what you would call semi-popular but I'm not sure if I still measure up.
I don't know if he likes me too. My friends aren’t sure either. They say that over the span of the past three years, he stares at me sometimes when I'm not looking and –I- catch him looking too (except I'm not sure if he was looking first or just kept looking at me because –I- look at him). He does stuff sometimes like get really fidgety if he's walking in front of me or put the volume up in his car if he's near me. Just basic stuff.
I'm wondering is there an indication that he likes me at all and this could work or is he still mad at me and just looks because he's trying to prove something to himself and/or me?
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A lot of people pick on other people as a way of flirting with a crush, usually because they're too shy to flirt more obviously. I'll bet that's exactly what the guy you're talking about was doing in the beginning. When he started being nicer to you that probably meant that he was ready and had accepted that maybe he wanted to have a relationship with you. It seems to me that he has no idea that you like him at all. I don't think that you hurt him that much, he's just sad because he doesn't think that you'll give him a chance. My advice to you is to get him alone and talk to him about it for a few minutes. Be honest with him and tell him that you didn't used to like him because you thought that he was picking on you to be mean, not because he liked you. Since then, you've thought about it a lot and you think that you like him too. After you make that first move (which he's probably been waiting for!), it's up to him to make the next one. Give him time to think about it if he needs it, don't go overboard, but you should be really nice to him while you wait if he makes you at all! With the right words and a little luck, you could end up in a relationship with him. I hope everything works out for you!
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Hey there,
I know that this is an easy thing to say, and a much harder thing to do, but you're going to have to talk to him. He obviously is too proud to approach you, and nothing is going to happen until you two are on speaking terms again. You could alternatively get your friends to do it, but it's probably better that you do it. If face to face is too difficult for you, then get his email address. I think you should apologize for the way you acted in Year 8 because he was obviously very hurt by this. I can understand why you didn't believe him.. after the way he had treated you and all, but in a way he "Redeemed" himself by trying to be nice to you and showing you he liked you. It's up to you now to make the move. You don't have to tell him you like him straight away, in fact, he might confess it himself. I'd say he definitley did like you, but cared wayyy too much about high school heirachies and his reputation (and the fact you weren't as popular as him) Saying this, I'd like to clarify I believe it's ridiculous to care about how popular someone is. But I'm just trying to see things from his perspective here. Whether he likes you now I'm a bit uncertain about, it sounds to me like he tries to get your attention, but I could be wrong. You need to become friends again or things will never progress between you two. Hopefully he can leave the past in the past and you two can finally get together rejecting any highschool class distinctions. :P
Good luck! If you need anymore help, feel free to IM me or drop one in my inbox. and let me know how it goes.
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Well it sounds like you like him. Tell him when you made the face at him a few years ago, that you didn't mean it and you thought he was an asshole to you. Tell him that you like him now and see what he says.
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its sounds like he likes you, but make sure that you want to go out with him if he askes.
remeber what he did to you when you were in middle school.
be careful! dont let him hurt you!
there are plenty of good guys out there!
-Kelsey- :)
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i have a feeling that he still likes you-try and talk to him- but if that doesnt work slip a little letter into his car or locker or book and just wait....
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It sounds to me that this boy does still like you but may think that after "the incident" that you no longer like him. You need to swallow your pride and ask him straight out to be really sure. You can always test the water so to speak and maybe say Hi to him, smile at him etc see what responses you get back from him. It's all about breaking the ice and dropping your (and his) defenses a little. Be really bold and ask him out to see a film. It will hurt if he turns you down but you will know then where you stand and that it's time to move on. This may sound a little harsh but there is no point wasting your time on someone that isn't willing to do the same for you. Be happy.
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The only way to find out the truth is to get it from the horse's mouth. I know that it will be hard to take the risk because the courage is low, but that's the only way to find out the truth. So do you dare do it. Don't be afraid of rejection. Just do it. You'll never know the truth if you don't ask and if you don't ask, why waste your time. Just do it and tell him how you feel. Go for it . Definitely. I got a good feeling about this.
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Hey,
Things like this are so confusing for everyone, and if you catch him looking again just ask him whats the problem. I think you should just get on with things until he makes it clear he likes you, else its going to continue with mind games!
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I wouldn't give him the time of day. It sounds like he was pretty shallow and an ass to you, people change.. but still. I wouldn't allow someone like that in my life.
Try having a conversation or something with him. Stare back at him, wave, something.. and just see how he responds. I know that going out on a limb like that is easier said then done. Just build up some confidence and go for it.
I would gather though by his actions he may still be kinda into you.
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it sounds to me like he really likes you but he is kind of shy so he doesn't really know how to tell you that he likes you. I think that next time you see him you should talk to him and maybe ask him out and see what happens. Maybe you two will end up in a great relationship. Good luck. I hope whatever happens makes you happy.
Tiff
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