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i have really unmanageable hair. it's wavey, poofy, and frizzy. i have to spend and hour straightening it at night and about 45 minutes in the morning.. just to put it up in a pony tail. it won't stay straight so i can't leave it down. is there anything i could do so it will stay straight for more than 10 minutes? (link)
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I have naturally wavey hair and have to straighten it each morning. I use L'Oreal Hot Straight (it's in a bright pink bottle) When Ihave used this my hair will be straight all day and will literally only need the front lightly done the following morning, it will last all weekend.
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I'm 17 now but when I was in the 8th Grade (last year of Junior High) I was considered a "geek". I was bookworm. Overweight and quiet. There was this pretty popular boy in my class who used to make fun of me all the time. He really made my life hell. After about two months, he started acting different around me. Sometimes he'd be really mean and then sometimes he'd be super nice (like random acts of kindness) and the one day after school, him and his female friend were talking in an almost empty classroom while I was trying to finish up some math. She asked him a question with my name in it and my ears perked up and then she called me and she said "--- likes you" and I made a face at him because I thought he was an ass at the time. Anyway, I think I hurt him a bit. He told me he hated me a few weeks after that incident.
A few months passed and we entered high school and I started liking him (he was still pretty popular but I was still a geek) but I figured I only liked him because he used to like me and I thought I'd get over it.
That year he told my friend that I was a geek.
During high school I’ve grown to love him more. I'm not a geek and I've lost a lot of weight (although I'm still a few pounds up). People who used to know me consider me considerably ‘cooler’. I'm sort of what you would call semi-popular but I'm not sure if I still measure up.
I don't know if he likes me too. My friends aren’t sure either. They say that over the span of the past three years, he stares at me sometimes when I'm not looking and –I- catch him looking too (except I'm not sure if he was looking first or just kept looking at me because –I- look at him). He does stuff sometimes like get really fidgety if he's walking in front of me or put the volume up in his car if he's near me. Just basic stuff.
I'm wondering is there an indication that he likes me at all and this could work or is he still mad at me and just looks because he's trying to prove something to himself and/or me? (link)
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It sounds to me that this boy does still like you but may think that after "the incident" that you no longer like him. You need to swallow your pride and ask him straight out to be really sure. You can always test the water so to speak and maybe say Hi to him, smile at him etc see what responses you get back from him. It's all about breaking the ice and dropping your (and his) defenses a little. Be really bold and ask him out to see a film. It will hurt if he turns you down but you will know then where you stand and that it's time to move on. This may sound a little harsh but there is no point wasting your time on someone that isn't willing to do the same for you. Be happy.
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I was the one who wrote about my best friend carly. well something bad happened. It all started yesterday when we were chatting online. Her ex came on and he told her that he liked me and then she told me. I was like why does he like me and she told me to ask him myself. well i didn't want to because I know what she went through with him and besides she doesn't like when her friends date her exs. well she told me that he wanted to talk to me and she said I should talk to him so I was like okay. well we started talking and then carly got offline. well like five minutes later she got back on so I started talking to her again. then she started freaking out on me and she told me to fuck off and stuff like that. I was like okay. I told her that if us talking was making her mad then I wouldn't talk to him but she just got offline. well I was still talking to her ex and she was talking to him and told him that she wasn't my friend and she hated me. he said he was going to talk to her which he did later on and she didn't seem like she was mad at me anymore. so this morning I called her and she hung up on me. so I called back again and she started screaming at me. I apologized for yesterday and I told her that I wasn't trying to go out with him or anything I was just excited that someone finally liked me but I didn't intend to hurt her and I told her that if talking to him was going to ruin our friendship that I wouldn't talk to him anymore. but she didn't really listen to me she just told me that she didn't want anything to do with me and that we weren't friends anymore. and then she hung up on me again. I don't want to lose her as my best friend and I am really depressed again but I don't know what to do since she won't talk to me. I feel empty and like I want to die without her, I know that is kind of weird but she has done so much for me and been there for me when noone else was. Pleas help me figure out what to do so that I won't lose her. I know that the fact that she is pregnant and all stressed out because of her bf has something to do with it but I want us to be best friends again. I will do whatever it takes so I don't lose her. (link)
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Firstly your friend told you to speak to this guy, you have not done anything wrong at all, you have only done what your friend said to do. Pregnancy and hormones do funny things to a girl and it maybe that she has over reacted due to hormones. I know you don't want to loose her as a friend so for the time being it is probably best to leave her to cool down a little, text her or e-mail her, this way she can read your views and how this has made you feel in her own time. Explain that you do not want to lose her friendship, that your intension wasn't to hurt her and explain how happy it made you feel that someone liked you. If she is your true friend she will understand this and then you will be able to talk about it. Good friends have these disagreements but good friends also talk openly about their problems and disagreements and work them out. The number of issues my best friend and I have had and we've always come through it by being open and honest and talking, we've been best friends 20 years. Good luck
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I'm 27 yrs, newly married. my problem is I'dont wan to get pregnant now. I'm totally not ready to be mother now coz i'm still pursuing my studies. I'm very scad to inform this to my husband coz i scad he will upset about that coz he loves children and he is a very loving person. I alrdy tempted to sex once but i'm scad i'm pregnant now, eventhough i take early precautions. please let me know how to avoid this pregnancy? and any symtoms?
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Firstly I must say to you if you are not ready to start a family this is OK, it is your decission. You need to sit down with your husband and discuss your concerns with him, he loves and cares about you and would want you to be happy. Explain that you would like to finish your studies before starting a family. You are not saying "NO" to children, just "Not right now". If you have worries that you are pregnant you need to go to your GP, he may be able to give you the "morning after pill" but this is usually given within 72 hours of intercourse. He may have more advice for you. As for pregnancy symptoms, each woman is different really you could experience:- swollen/tender breasts, nausea, a sudden dislike to usually liked foods, smells and obvioulsy the lack of a period etc. You must go to your GP really. Hope this helps and good luck.
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