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fighting again
I was the one who wrote about my best friend carly. well something bad happened. It all started yesterday when we were chatting online. Her ex came on and he told her that he liked me and then she told me. I was like why does he like me and she told me to ask him myself. well i didn't want to because I know what she went through with him and besides she doesn't like when her friends date her exs. well she told me that he wanted to talk to me and she said I should talk to him so I was like okay. well we started talking and then carly got offline. well like five minutes later she got back on so I started talking to her again. then she started freaking out on me and she told me to fuck off and stuff like that. I was like okay. I told her that if us talking was making her mad then I wouldn't talk to him but she just got offline. well I was still talking to her ex and she was talking to him and told him that she wasn't my friend and she hated me. he said he was going to talk to her which he did later on and she didn't seem like she was mad at me anymore. so this morning I called her and she hung up on me. so I called back again and she started screaming at me. I apologized for yesterday and I told her that I wasn't trying to go out with him or anything I was just excited that someone finally liked me but I didn't intend to hurt her and I told her that if talking to him was going to ruin our friendship that I wouldn't talk to him anymore. but she didn't really listen to me she just told me that she didn't want anything to do with me and that we weren't friends anymore. and then she hung up on me again. I don't want to lose her as my best friend and I am really depressed again but I don't know what to do since she won't talk to me. I feel empty and like I want to die without her, I know that is kind of weird but she has done so much for me and been there for me when noone else was. Pleas help me figure out what to do so that I won't lose her. I know that the fact that she is pregnant and all stressed out because of her bf has something to do with it but I want us to be best friends again. I will do whatever it takes so I don't lose her.
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Stop talking to her ex b/f first of all. If you told him that you don't like him, and that you would never do anything to hurt your best friend (such as dating him), then I think that would make your friend feel better. Try to talk to her in person, and tell her that you aren't going to hurt her. She is probably just upset, b/c her b/f hurt her, and now she is afraid that her best friend might. You two are/were probably two of the most important people in her life, so I can understand why she is so upset. Just continute trying to talk to her, and I think that if she sees that you aren't going to give up, she will give in and talk to you. Be there for her, b/c it seems like she is going to be needing you a lot, especially if she is pregnant!
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Firstly your friend told you to speak to this guy, you have not done anything wrong at all, you have only done what your friend said to do. Pregnancy and hormones do funny things to a girl and it maybe that she has over reacted due to hormones. I know you don't want to loose her as a friend so for the time being it is probably best to leave her to cool down a little, text her or e-mail her, this way she can read your views and how this has made you feel in her own time. Explain that you do not want to lose her friendship, that your intension wasn't to hurt her and explain how happy it made you feel that someone liked you. If she is your true friend she will understand this and then you will be able to talk about it. Good friends have these disagreements but good friends also talk openly about their problems and disagreements and work them out. The number of issues my best friend and I have had and we've always come through it by being open and honest and talking, we've been best friends 20 years. Good luck
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I didn't read your other question, but I think I have enough information to answer this question.
There isn't much you can do at this point. You've done a lot, and she hasn't listened to you. You've explained to her that you don't like him and aren't going out with him, right?
That's all you can do.
I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's true.
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR. You did nothing wrong. She's the one who blew everything out of control.
What I would do is wait until she comes around. She should realize that she blew everything out of proportion and apologize.
But if she doesn't come around... try again. Tell her that you would NEVER do that to her, and that you treasure your friendship too much to do that.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
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you seem like a really good friend & she does too, except she's probably upset at the fact that you even decided to talk to him. juss explain to her every thing you can. try not to let him get in the way, because he doesnt really seem worth it. it does seem like you want nothing to do with it though, which is good. being excited about that kind've thing is totally normal & she should understand that. if she's your true friend, she'll be friends with you again. juss talk to her & give her some time.
good luck!♥
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