If you know what my user name comes from, then I already love you.
I'm 18 and I'm in my freshman year of college right now at Arizona State University.
Gender: Female
Location: Arizona
Age: 18
Member Since: October 2, 2005
Answers: 46
Last Update: October 15, 2005
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ok im a young female...i know a lot the basics and terms about sex and whatever, and i know im not ready to do it, but i dont know like how it works. is it weird that i wana watch porn, not to get horny from it, but just to see how its done? is it wrong? dont say im too young to watch it, but its bugging me of thinking about how to do it (even though i wont for many more years). just help me please. thanks. (link)
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Porn isn't always addictive. I watch it every now and then, without getting 'addicted'.
I don't think it's a bad thing. I've downloaded porn on the computer since I was like...in middle school. Not regularly, but every few months.
I think by watching porn, it does help you know what to do. Of course, don't follow porns 100%, because a lot of times they're fake and unsafe (with birth control and all). Buuuut, you get the main idea of things. Then you can just use what they did, daydream it yourself to spice it up a bit and make it different, and when you're ready to have sex, you're not going to be so clueless as to what to do.
I don't think it's a bad thing. Just as long as it doesn't make you want to go out and have sex when you're not ready. Definately wait until you're ready and comfortable with doing those things with some one.
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Hey advicenators! =P
What do you think should be the curfew for a 15 year old girl? I'm asking this because I'm going to the movies with my guy friend and my parents want me home at 10pm. I'm a very trustworthy person and I WON'T have sex with him, that's for sure. He's only a friend. I'm kinda pissed about this because I want to stay out later, but they're strict & say only 10pm. I know I'm lucky because some kids can't even go out with friends yet. But, what do you guys think? Thanks. (link)
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10 PM is reasonable for that age. At the most, 11. Follow their rules and build their trust, and perhaps you can get them to make it later :)
When I turned 16, they let me stay out until 10 on the weeknights, and midnight on the weekends.
When I turned 17, it was still midnight on the weekends, but 11 on weeknights. (I think I had to ask for that to be extended for an hour though).
When I turned 18, no more curfew ever again.
I think it works like that with most parents. Not the EXACT same, but as each year passes, you get a little more...! You just have to work your way up. Good luck!
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is an orgasm the same thing as "getting off" (link)
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Actually to the person below me, orgasm isn't just when you jack off. It's during masturbation, oral sex or sex. Not just self-pleasure..It's everything.
To me, I think of orgasm as the same as getting off. But perhaps every one has different definitions for it, I don't know. But I think of the two as the same thing.
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I want to do something special for each of my parents. They do so much for me so I want to show them how much I care. So what should I do? Nothing that costs a lot...Like Breakfast in bed is a good idea, but 1. I have school and 2. They wake up before me...any ideas??? (link)
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I wrote my mom a poem once that explained how much I appreciated her.
I also made my mom a coupon book once. I Don't know if you have to do any chores, but I really didn't have to do very many when I was younger. So I wrote out coupons and decorated them that said things like "One car wash" or "One load of dishes" ect. Maybe a bunch of housework that your mom does, and one day when she comes home from work and is really tired, she can just use the coupon and have you do it!
I don't know if that sounds retarded or not, but I made one of those for her when I was younger.
She made me 2 coupons last Easter. I still have them and I sure do plan on using them!
It's nice that you want to do something for you parents. You should! Parents don't get enough credit :) Oh and for your dad....I have no clue. Sorry. I Don't have a good relationship with my dad so I don't know. lol
Good luck!
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how do you know when your in love or what is love? (link)
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You'll know when you meet the right person.
I know that isn't the answer you're looking for, but to me, it's just this amazing feeling that I can't even describe.
You'll probobaly think you're in love once or twice before you actually are. I remember I thought I was in love once, but then I met some one else, and I was like "wow. That wasn't even love before. Not even close. This is".
See, I can't even explain it! I'm sorry. But you'll know when it's there. It's way more than just a "really big crush".
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My boyfriend & I were trying to figure out how we can get a condom. We're both ready to have sex, but neither one of us has our license [we are 16, just don't have them for certain reason]. So, what are some ways that we can get some? And please don't say they have them in the bathrooms at certain stores, because those are very cheap & break easy. We want to be safe- not have a baby. (link)
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If there is a grocery store or gas station close enough, walk and get some.
If not, go the next time you're out. There's gas stations everywhere, so if you go see a movie on a Friday night or something and your parents drop you off, just walk there before or after the movie. Or get a friend who has a car to get you some.
You don't have to be a certain age to get them, and it should be easy enough to find a ride to the grocery store or something. Good job on being safe! The pulling out method is retarded and I know some one who got pregnant that way. Or if your parents don't mind, get on birth control. Otherwise, find a way to the store :) Good luck..
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How far can you drive a car after the empty light comes on? I have a rental car that I am not suppose to refule. I have 1/8 of a tank and have 40+ miles to go today. (link)
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Do what Pinky said, and put 5-10 bucks of gas in the car. You don't want to run out of gas on the way to where you're going.
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Ok this is a really horrible situation I got myself into.
Today is my 1 year anniversary with my boy friend and this weekend is my best friend's birthday. I totally forgot to mention that to my boyfriend and he bought us tickets to this concert and reserved dinner at a really nice place downtown that has a waiting list weeks long.
Anyway, I've known my best friend my entire life and we had always planned that for her 18th birthday, we'd drive over to Alberta and get totally tanked with a group of girlfriends because her parents would be away for Thanksgiving.
So yesterday, my boyfriend gave me my ticket and I noticed the date of the concert and the dinner falls on the same day of my friend's birthday! I couldn't believe it and I got really upset because my best friend and I had been planning this for years and I couldn't believe this was happening to me!!
Well my boy friend said he understood and it was ok, he could take me some time later even though I know he spent a lot of money on the tickets and planned it all out and we can't get seatings at a concert again till they come around on tour again. So I said ok, I'll go with Sandra and them.
So I was all planning on going with the girls until one of my other friends "felt bad" or whatever and she told my best friend and now my best friend says it's really stupid that I would ditch my boy friend for a road trip and she demended that I go to the concert.
Now I feel really bad and so does my boyfriend so I don't know what to do! Like if I go to Alberta, I'll feel really bad but at the same time, if I go to the concert, I'll feel bad too! What the eff am I supposed to do? (link)
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I agree with what the first person said. This is a really hard decision. And it's good that both of the people are very understanding about it..
But if you and your best friend have always said you would do that on her birthday, you should follow through with those plans, because they've been there forever. I know I'd feel really bad if my best friend went to a concert with her boyfriend when we had plans for ages. Like right now, I'm 18, and our plans are to go to Vegas on my 21st birthday and get soo soo drunk. And if we had plans like that for years, and she'd give them up for a concert, I'd be a bit upset. Because bands always come back, too. You only get one 18th birthday. But at the same time, you only get one 1-year anniversary too! Hmm.
Are you ever emotional drunk? Because I can be sometimes, not often, but once every few months. If you end up going with your friends and getting drunk, you want to make sure you don't start feeling bad about your boyfriend's plans when you're drunk..because alcohol mixed with feelings sometimes don't go so well! At least not for me. haha. That's probably not a problem for you, but sometimes I have to watch out for myself ahead of time about stuff like that.
I'm swinging towards going with your best friend, but whatever decision you make...good luck! I hope it all turns out good and no one gets upset :)
Whoever you DONT go with, make sure you make it up to them. Like have a special day for them :)
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is it a dis to have your screen name be "tragicly beautiful" ?? (link)
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No, it's just a screenname. A lot of people have artsy-sounding screennames like that. People even have screen names with words like Suicide and crap in them. They're either just emo, or they think it sounds cool.
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when you have your period can you go in the pool? because like my mom said the cold water stops the flow... even if youre not wearing a pad or tampon? (link)
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I've never tried it, but I wouldn't chance it. Just wear a tampon. They're super comfortable and you can't feel them :)
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I am a 24 year old female. Please tell me how to choose between two 30-something year old men that are both in love with me. One I was engaged to but he had to be put in jail for domestic violence The other lives aproxamately 1,500 miles away. My fiance` and I are required to go to a councelor by the courts,but I am in love with both men at the same time too.( My fiance` was drunk at the time of the incident, he is really sweet when he is sober.) I don't know who to choose. Please send me some good advice on who to keep in my life! (link)
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Don't choose either of them. One who lives 1,500 miles away isn't going to work either way. (How do you know him anyway? If it's online, then definately no. If it's some one you knew for a while, then moved away..Then still, they're far away and it won't work. Unless you want to move there. Otherwise, no).
Just because some one is drunk, it is no excuse. You don't want to marry some one who has a drinking problem, 1. and 2, ontop of that, you don't want to marry some one with a drinking problem who is a abusive when drunk. It just gets way worse later down the road. Do not put up with it.
Go find some one new, or move 1,500 miles away to the other one if it's worth it.
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well... i am 13 and i weigh 176 pounds... this really takes a toll on my social life ... especially with guys... i really really really want to lose at least 20 pounds ((to begin with)) asap... but i dont want to go on a major diet... does anyone know a good plan for me?
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Drink a lot of water and cut back on the sodas. Water does great for your body! And when you eat, still eat 3 meals a day, just don't eat AS much each time. I used to eat until I was stuffed (because I love eating!) but now I've gotten to the habit where I eat until I'm satisfied. Meaning, I don't have that stuffed feeling, but I'm not hungry anymore. I went to the gym for 3 months last year, and I still ate junk food and lost weight. So excersize is important, and you don't always necessarily have to go on a diet (although it helps)...
You can start running at night, or doing some excersizes in your room. Do crunches. Maybe get some ideas out of a magazine at the store with excersizes you can do. If you're allowed to join a gym, do that. It definately helps.
Either way, good luck!
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i am 14/f and i dont have a thong. am i the only one? how can i get some w/o getting embarrsed. how do i know my size?thnx 4 help! (link)
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No you aren't the only one. I didn't start wearing them until my junior year of high school. AND I know some people that still don't wear them, and they're 18 in college.
Don't be embarassed if you go buy some. They're just underwear, and you'll never see the person who's at the register again.
You just kind of guess the sizes. Like the other person said, if your skinny, you're a small. Medium, you're a medium, ect. If one size doesn't fit, go up or down one the next time. I love thongs so much, definately comfortable!
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Is it wrong that I'm happy over the fact my ex-girlfriend just got cheated on by her most recent boyfriend? (link)
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Totally not wrong at all. I'd be throwing a party out of my extreme happiness at this moment. It's completely human :) Be happy all you want over this!
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does anybody know what time is a good time to do homework? cause sometimes i just dont feel like doing all that work (link)
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Try getting your homework done at school. At least, all that you can. If not, do it shortly after you get home. If you skip straight to the TV or internet or phone, then you might get sidetracked and forget about it until later. And by the time you remember it, you won't feel like doing it anymore. So definately get it all done within an hour or two after returning home from school.
I guess also, just do it at the time of day that you feel most awake, and when you think you could concentrate more. It's horrible when you can't concentrate at all :( I had that problem tonight.
Good luck. Homework sucks. Just try to get it all done at school, I was pretty good at doing that all throughout high school.
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I am 5'3'' and i weigh about 134 lbs. i kno im not fat, but i am chubby in my stomach and legs and i am trying to lose weight and tone those areas within about a month. Anyone have any ideas as to what kind of exercises i should be doing to make my legs and stomach slimmer? (link)
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I'm in the same position. Well, I'm a different height and weight, but basically I'm not FAT, but I'd like to be more toned.
Do you want to change your eating habits at all? I know when I go on my 'diet' soon, it's not really going to be a diet. It's just going to be no more 3 sodas a day, drink LOTS of water, and no more fast food all the time. Even little things like quitting soda and drinking tons of water can help a bit.
I'm not a health expert, so I may not even know what I'm talking about. But what I'm going to start doing is going for a run, maybe 4 or 5 times a week. And doing lots of crunches. The running should keep your body active and help metabolism (I THINK? I'm just guessing), and the crunches should help your stomach.
I hope this helps. Sorry I couldn't give you any more suggestions. Maybe try looking in a magazine on new excersizes that you can do from your home. I'm sure there's tons of different ways to do crunches rather than just the boring standard ones.
Good luck! And remember, self discipline. If you skip a few days of working out, it may get hard to get back in the routine again. That's how I always end up loosing it. And if you end up going on some sort of a diet, you have to control any urges that you have. And with excersizing, if you get tired, don't stop right away. You have to push yourself to see any results. Of course, don't keep going until you're about to pass out. But it's true, "No Pain, No gain". You should be able to feel it as you work out :) Good luck
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I'm a 14/f and i would like to give my boyfriend head, but i'm scared because i dont want to hurt him because of my braces or rip the condom or anything. what should i do?
-Lost-n-confoosed (link)
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Your lips will be covering your teeth and braces while giving head, so the guy shouldn't feel them, and it shouldn't hurt him. I remember I asked my guy friend once if he's ever gotten head by some one with braces, and he said Yeah, it felt normal and was still good.
So don't worry! You'll be fine if you just be careful and make sure your teeth/braces are covered by your lips. Honestly, practice on your fingers or a popsicle. Feel how wide your mouth needs to be in order to suck without it hitting your teeth.
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How do i get in good with the boys? I want every guy to notice me and i want them all to love me.. but how do i get a guys attention and how do i make that work. What makes a girl love a girl as a friend? (link)
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First, don't expect EVERY ONE to like you. Not every one will no matter what, because you can't please every one. But you can still make a majority of people like you.
The boys like girls who are cute and dress good. I would tell you otherwise if I could, but honestly, the world really is that shallow. But even people who aren't necessarily pretty can still have a lot of friends, and boyfriends. A lot of it depends on the personality. For example, if some girl was hot, but was a complete bitch to every one, no one would like her. So personality definately helps.
Guys like girls who smile a lot, and seem approachable. I can't really say too much, because I'm not a guy...but if you're nice, and funny, and fun to be around, then you should be okay. It also helps to have a sense of humor, and joke around with guys too. I know I've joked around with guys about things that a lot of girls don't, and they'll say to me "Dude you are so awesome! Most girls wouldn't find that funny or would think it's gross!" So having a sense of humor would help get along too.
To be a good friend......Don't talk too much shit behind people's backs. I don't know how old you are, but a lot of middle school/high school has a lot of shit-talking going on during most of it. If you do it too much, people will think you talk badly about them too. I know that I trusted the people more in my group of friends that DIDNT join in on the trash talking, then the ones that did. Because I felt that if I told the ones who normally gossiped to the group something, then they'd go around and tell some one else. Trust is an important thing in anything relationship, whether it be in a friendship with a girl, or dating a guy. So it's definately good to have people trust you. It can bring you closer to them when they're feeling down and needing a friend, or need some one's advice.
To be a good friend, don't talk too much about yourself. I always make it a point to ask my best friend how her day is going, and to try to remind myself to ask her about updates on things. Such as "hey, remember last week when you were supposed to write that essay I was trying to help you with, How'd that go?" That's just an example. I guess this could go along with how to get guys to like you...Don't talk too much about yourself. Let other people do the talking sometimes too. I know I had that problem for a while. If you ask people questions about their life, it makes you seem interested, and like you actually care. You'd be surprised at how little people ask and seem interested in others lives. I know my friends don't really.. So it might mean something to some one when you do. If your friends feel that you care about them, and that they can trust you, believe me, you're doing good.
Oh, and just be FUN! I always want a friend who can be serious when I need them to be, but can also be fun a lot too.
I'm so, so sorry that this is so long. But I hope I helped you. Good luck.
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Okay, my 18th birthday is in...like, three weeks and I have no plans. I want to do SOMETHING with my friends. Unfortunately a bunch of my friends aren't 18, so that rules out going to a club or anything. My birthday's on a monday, which really sucks, but we could do something the weekend before, or on halloween weekend or something...anyway, I know that.
I'd like a few opinions and ideas as to what we could do. I refuse to let my 18th go by without celebrating. I did that with my 16th and I regret it quite a bit.
So, ideas? Also, please try to hold off on the chatspeak. I rate down if it takes me more than one attempt to read and understand the response. Punctuation marks are your friends. ^_^ (link)
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That sucks that a bunch of your friends aren't 18. Because I was going to say, Go to a porn store! Just because you can! ....but they're not 18.
Luckily, my best friend is a year older than me. On my 18th birthday we went to a porn store, went out to eat at my favorite restaraunt, and then got drunk right before going into my first club.
Even if you can't do things like that, you can still enjoy the company of your friends. Definately don't be alone on your birthday. My 16th birthday sucked as well, so I was kind of pessimistic about my 18th. But it turned out great.
Go out to dinner with your friends. Spend time with them. Maybe go someplace further out then where you normally go, because doing the same things all the time can get boring. Take silly pictures of you guys around town, if you like pictures. You can even just simply eat cake and watch a movie at home. Just as long as your with your friends having fun and laughing, I'd say its a success!
Well Happy Birthday, and I hope you have a great time with whatever you decide on doing :)
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Ok i never did this but if you masturbate can your vagina tear?? (link)
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Technically, it COULD happen....But it most likely won't. If you're in control of it yourself, you know how big of objects to put up there, and when to stop. If it were to start hurting for some reason, you'd stop before anything happened.
I'm not saying go stick huge objects up your vagina and call it masturbation. Hell, not every one even puts fingers in their vagina when they masturbate! Some just rub it. Really, you aren't going to hurt yourself masturbating. It's a safe thing to do :)
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