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I need some major advice
I am a 24 year old female. Please tell me how to choose between two 30-something year old men that are both in love with me. One I was engaged to but he had to be put in jail for domestic violence The other lives aproxamately 1,500 miles away. My fiance` and I are required to go to a councelor by the courts,but I am in love with both men at the same time too.( My fiance` was drunk at the time of the incident, he is really sweet when he is sober.) I don't know who to choose. Please send me some good advice on who to keep in my life!
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Please don't marry this known domestic violator and drunk. You are a beautiful young woman who has the WORLD at her hands. My sister in law is in the same boat, and by the day she is more battered, don't lie for this man, get AWAY from him. becuase a man that drinks will always drink, and a drunk doesn't have control of their situation. Your life is so much more important than becoming a domestic violence victim.
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I know I'm kind of young to be answering a question like this, but I believe that sometimes love and relationships can be a completely different thing. I know a guy that just ended a relationship with a girl that he had loved. She was nice, had a great personality, he liked her family, and they were really close. He realized that as great of friends they were that they just weren't compatible at all. He fall out of love with her and moved on with his life. I would strongly encourage you never to see the man that got put in jail for domestic violence again. He's dangerous, and as much as you may love him, alcohol is no excuse for domestic violence. I don't really know enough about the guy that lives so far away from you so I can't really say whether you should be in a relationship with him or not. If you do choose to be in one, long distance relationships are really hard...I know from experience. They can work out though in the end if you are really committed, I know that from experience too. Good luck with whatever you decide!
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A guy should try to control himself at all times. Sober or not, he should never hit you. I'd go with the other guy.
There is no real distance when it comes to love.
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Neither of them. If you can't decide who you love more, you don't truly love either one. Choosing to be with neither of them will be good for you and them. Also, I think that any woman who goes back to someone who was abusive (I don't care that he was drunk!) is kind of weak. No offense to you, but I think you need to learn that you don't need a man to be a whole person, especially one that hurts you.
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My advice is you should pick one who is to say which is the right one to pick the fact is their is no right or rong answer to this question pick one or the other if your right you'll be happy if your wrong try to learn from your mistake and move on
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Don't choose either of them. One who lives 1,500 miles away isn't going to work either way. (How do you know him anyway? If it's online, then definately no. If it's some one you knew for a while, then moved away..Then still, they're far away and it won't work. Unless you want to move there. Otherwise, no).
Just because some one is drunk, it is no excuse. You don't want to marry some one who has a drinking problem, 1. and 2, ontop of that, you don't want to marry some one with a drinking problem who is a abusive when drunk. It just gets way worse later down the road. Do not put up with it.
Go find some one new, or move 1,500 miles away to the other one if it's worth it.
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well my mom was married to a guy who was an alcoholic.. im not sure if this is this guys situation or not but you dont want that in a guy.. i seen how it has tooken my mothers trust away and everything else.. he has abused my mom alot and yes she thought things was going to get better and sometimes they did **for a little while** then it alll went back to normal and just got messed up again and sometimes even worse.. <p>
Now this over guy that lives far away if there isnt no possible way to be with him as a relationship thenid just stay long idstance friends.. <p>
Id take your fiance to a rehab as soon as possible to help before it might get worse.. if alcohol isnt the problem then deff. go to counciling and try and work things out.. ♥ Dez
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Umm...obviously you should not choose the guy put away for domestic violence, no matter how "sweet" he is when he's not drunk.
Maybe you should reevaluate your priorities if you truly believe you are in love with 2 men.
Honestly, it sounds like the thing to do that would have the most common sense is to not choose either of them but to find someone new who fits your circumstances better. I know you probably won't do that though so I am wasting my words.
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