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My name is Kristen, and I'm seventeen years old.

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I'm going out with this guy that my friends just absolutely hate! One of my friends even threatened to stab him in the neck with her pocket knife during church! I don't want to break up with the guy because he's absolutely perfect to me. What should I do?

prettykitty77723

Well, he's your boyfriend, not hers. Does she even really know him? If not, get some friends together and go out to the mall or the movies and try to sort things out.
If your friends do know him, and still don't like him, maybe you just need to sit down and talk with them. Find out why they don't like him, and maybe ask to give him a chance. Good luck!

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I am moving and all of my friends are sad. I dont know if i should move with my dad to be closer to my friends or move with my mom.
i dont know what to do i am so confused.
what do u think i should do??

You have to do what is best for you. No one can make the decision for you. Are you going to be unhappy if you move in with your mom, or vice versa? You need to really think about how you are going to feel in each situation.

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A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!

I can understand that, but take this as an opportunity to get to know her. It's a little silly just to consider not going anymore. I seriously don't think you should ruin a really good time just because someone else you don't know very well is going. Definitely talk to her, just bring up random things like movies and music, and see where the conversation goes. You don't have to be best friends with her, just get to know her before anything else.

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I have a guy friend who I've always been very close to, but recently I moved a long ways away from him and I feel like we're drifting apart. There's just nothing to talk about anymore. I don't want to lose him because he's a really great friend.

I completely understand what you're going through; the same thing has happened to me. Now there's different friends and you can't really talk about them.
The best thing to do is talk about old times, old memories that you had, movies, music, television, school classes, the summer. Try and get together a couple of times a month, just meeting each other halfway or something.
Good luck! Thank for the question, and feel free to send me something else if you need to.

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I have a friend but the thing is i don't like her as a friend any more because she is very mean and controling. she still thinks we're friends even though i haven't talked to her in months. she called me and asked me to go to her birthday party how do i tell her that i don't want to go without hurting her feelings? also it is a sleep over thing and i said i could sleep over because of something the next day which is true but she still wants me to go for a few hours the first day! please help i don't want to hurt her feelings!!

If you really don't want to go, just tell her you won't be able to make it that day.

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my friend is goin out with the guy i like and my other best friend likes him. how can i win him over the other 2?i rate high.

p.s. the other 2 girls are mad at me for certain reasons

There basically is no way to win him over. If he's going out with your friend, then he likes her. Maybe it's time to move on and find someone new; you don't want to fight with your best friends over some guy. Guys just come and go. There are many more opportunities out there. You don't want to ruin your relationship with your friends over this. Trust me; I've been there, done that. Send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen

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I have alot of friends at school/church/cheer. But no one invites me to do stuff with them on the weekends! I spend my time on the computer cus no one invites me over, what should I do?

You should start asking them over. Just casually bring up how you guys need to all hang out sometime, and start making plans.

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Okay, so one of my friends is having a B-Day party on Friday. She's inviting a bunch of people. She claims that she is my BFF, and she loves me as a friend so much. The problem is that whenever i go to her parties, she ignores me and hangs around with her other friends, and NEVER talks to me. Should i go ?

You should still go. Just make more of an effort to talk to her. Get involved with other groups of people that she might hang out with. Maybe you could even talk to her beforehand. Tell her you tend to feel a bit left out at her parties. That way, you two can have an honest talk about what's going to happen. Good luck! ♥ Kristen

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This fight all started on this site called "Kiwibox"...

Okay this fight has been going on for days and I don't know how to end it. See she started this," Hoebags Club" with a couple of other friends of mine and I felt left out and it turns out that she started this club after I responded with a JOKE in another friends journal and I didn't say "j/k"

Well I ranted about it in my Random journal and Things got out of hand and now 2 of the "Hoebags" are calling me a "2 year old" and " A Bitch" and I don't know how to stop the fight. I appologized and everything.

You have to really talk to these people. Tell them you're sorry about everything that happened. It was just a joke, and you didn't mean for it to be taken offensively. If they do't accept the apology, then just wait for it to blow over. If it never blows over, are those friends you want to have? Real friends shouldn't hold grudges. ♥ Kristen

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Theres a girl at my school (not my friend but i talk to her) and her boyfriend recently broke up with her. She's heart broken and feels that she isn't good enough. Now she wont eat..shes refusing to eat and its scaring everyone. She is dropping pounds by the second and is always depressed. I really want to help her, but I don't know her family personally enough to tell them. Should I let her suffer? i would feel wrong not telling anyone.

Do not, under any circumstances, let her suffer! Someone needs to be told. She could get seriously hurt herself by what she's doing. Tell a teacher at school, a guidance counselor, or an adult you know can do something. Even if you don't know her family personally, her parents need to be notified. Best wishes. ♥ Kristen

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ok i asked about the games for my party earlier..and if they were too babyish..most of you said no, so thats a good sign. My next question is how many games per hour should i have? i dont want to overwhelm everyone with games..should it be once every half hour? every hour? thanks you guys

I would say no more than two every hour. But it depends on the length of the game.. if it's a really long game, then few people will want to play another one right after it. Play it by ear though.. see how guests are responding to the games and kind of arrange the games according to that. Hope I helped. ♥ Kristen

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Theres this girl who is my ex best friend. I HATE her now. She does anything and everything to piss me off. I can not stand this girl!! I mean she will ruin me, I want to basically like ruin this girls life because of all the things shes put me through. What do I do to make her know that she better keep away from me and not to push me too far?!?

Completely ignore her! She wants attention, and for you to flip out. All you're doing by responding to her is giving her the attention that she wants. By ignoring her, she'll just feel stupid by bothering you and getting no response. ♥ Kristen

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My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :)

She's not a friend at all. There's not much to do but completely ignore her. She wants the attention, and you're giving it to by responding. Talk to your principal, a teacher, a parent, or your guidance counselor. You deserve better than what's happening now. Good luck, and if you need to talk, just drop one in my inbox. ♥ Kristen

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Okay well i have a friend and she makes me do EVERYTHING 4 her well at lunch like she will be like here is 50 cents go buy me a cookie and i do it! i dont want to but i do anyways. and i through her trash away 4 her and she pays me a dime and i dont want to do that either i just feel like i can tsay no and when i do i feel like she will be mad at me but whp cares right i cant do stuff 4 her right? well i dont know what do to please help!

The the next time she tells you to go do something, say no. If she gets mad, don't get an attitude. Just explain that she's not your boss and you don't have to do it. Good luck! Send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen

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Ok my friend picked me up from track and i had her track shoes and put them inside and infront of the car. When we got home, she noticed she only had one. She sorta freaked out and then we had to pay her bro to go bak up to the skool and look for it. We couldnt find it. We got back and she was pissed and didnt want to talk to me. I felt really bad and uncomfterble, she gave me mean looks so i said i had to go home. I have to go back to her house so they can take us to a camp. What do i do?? i feel really bad.
please help i rate high

It probably fell out somewhere. Start by looking where you were, and retracing your steps. If you can't find it, maybe you should offer to replace it. Good luck! ♥ Kristen

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I know this is wrong but i got myself into some serious mess.My bestfriend has a bf and they been together for 9 months and the other day me and him saw each other at this one place and we ended up in his car doing things.I feel really bad i don't know if i should tell her or not.I dont want to but i dont want her finding out from anybody else because i love her so much she is like my sister.IM confused plz help!

Of course you should tell her. You did something wrong, and now you have to face whatever is going to happen between the two of you. Tell her you are genuinely sorry for what you did.. Send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen

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well as you know.... iam asking you about friends. iam in grade 8 and i have lots of friends and i think demi linzey jennifer lily kim kelsi sammi and jordana are my best friends..but lately demi, linzey and jennifer have been kinda zoneing(i think thats how u spell it) me out. whats up with them??

What does "zoning" mean? Anyway, just have a talk with them. Ask them why they're acting the way they are.

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When a guy puts his arm around a girls waist do u think the girl should put her arm around his waist or like his shoulders??

The girl should put her arm around his waist. It might be more comfortable.

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ok here is the thing i met this guy from my BFF...i backed off bc i knew she liked him and i didnt want to let her know i liked him...yet he is 2 months older yet a grade younger so he isnt in the high school with me yet..

im tryin to think of a way to let them both know that i like him with out obvious signals

he seems to flirt or whatever with me...like he will sometimes hug me or hell run from me n make me catch him..idk

i will most likely see him 2morro @ the mall again but im not sure...any ideas on how i can pull this off?

Maybe you should just flirt back a little. Don't go overboard; just talk to him a lot, and stuff like that. I hope I helped. If not, just send me another question.
Thanks! Kristen

PS But just remember, since you both like the same guy, don't let him ruin your friendship

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You see my best friend has this boy bofreind right. And to me she is spending way more time with him then me. Thats the only person she talks about to. I have been her best friend since the 4th grade he just been her bf for a couple of months. What should I do?

Talk to her. Tell her you miss spending time with her. Try to arrange a sleepover or shopping trip, or something just to get together and talk. Maybe she'll realize that she needs to manage her time better. Hope I helped.
♥ Kristen

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