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my bff bf
I know this is wrong but i got myself into some serious mess.My bestfriend has a bf and they been together for 9 months and the other day me and him saw each other at this one place and we ended up in his car doing things.I feel really bad i don't know if i should tell her or not.I dont want to but i dont want her finding out from anybody else because i love her so much she is like my sister.IM confused plz help!
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You should definitly tell her asap. It's best that she finds out from you than somebody else. Finding something like this out from someone other than the person who was involved puts a huge strain on trust. I had a friend who did this, and when she didn't tell me and I found out from someone else. I was more hurt and upset that she wouldn't tell me.
~Amb~
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Well you will have to tell her sooner or later because whichever way she finds out(and she will eventually) so there isn't any reason with hiding it.
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You have to tell her, say you had no idea what you were doing and you were truly sorry. If she found out from somebody else if would be bad!!
-good luck
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I think the best thing for you to do is to just teel her. What you did was wrong, and she has a right to know, and from you. You are her best friend, so let her here it from you because if she heres it from somebody else, she will be even more angry at you. Let her know immediately, even though it might hurt her, because that's what friends do...tell the truth. I really hope she forgives you, and if you have more questions, contact me on my page and I'll be sure to answer you ASAP!
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You shouldn't have done it and you know it. It's better for you to go to her and express how sorry you are to her face then for her to hear it around school or somebody else tell her. She may hate you for the rest of your life, she may be understanding and give you another chance. Everybody makes mistakes and you gonna learn from them. My best friend would never do something like this but if she had I would have to forgive her because she is my twin and I can't live without her but you need to tell your friend this before she hears it from someone else.
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First of all how could you do that to her!!!!!! you cant be much of a friend of you do stuff like that! Anyways u gotta tell, her she might hate you forever and she might be really glad you were truthful, you gotta take ur chances ~Shelby~
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Of course you should tell her. You did something wrong, and now you have to face whatever is going to happen between the two of you. Tell her you are genuinely sorry for what you did.. Send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen
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You certainly did wrong by messing with your friends boyfriend.You are not the only one in the wrong here though.This guy doesn't seem to care much for her feelings either.
The solution to this one is tricky.I'm all for honesty but truthfully the only reason for telling her is to ease your guilty conscious and to make YOU feel better.Her it will only hurt.I see no reason to deliberatly hurt your friend.
You may have no choice but to tell her though if anybody saw what you did.You will probably lose a friend unless you have a good excuse for your behavior,I'd make a point of letting her know that you are not the only one to blame here.
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I think you should tell your best friend i bet she'd rather hear it from you than anyone else i dont think shes will make friends with you after that but its better that you tell her because if you dont and she finds out then she will be asking you why you didnt tell her and that you was keeping secrets from her
luv roxie
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heya. i think if you really loved your friend as a sister then you should tell her the truth, she may forgive you, she may not, but its better coming from you than anyone else
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Yes, you are right. It was very wrong. If you loved her, you would have thought about the consequences before doing anything with your bestfriend's boyfriend. You had better tell your bestfriend. She has a right to know. And that boyfriend of hers isn't that trustworthy if he did "things" with you, her bestfriend. If you love your bestfriend, you will let her know about what happened and warn her about her boyfriend. Her trust with you may be broken after you tell her, but if you guys are really bestfriends, you will gain it back if you give it your all.
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oh man, that is plan out horrible. I'm not going to tell you what I really think because I know that you will be going through enough Hell. You don't have a choice first of all, if you cared for her, you'd tell her, it will take a long time for her to forgive you, and you both need to tell her, you and her future ex guy. I know you don't want to, but you really have to, can you imagine this whole situation vice versa? You'd definetly want to know, trust me, I know this will be hard, but don't expect for you guys to stay friends forever it will take time. But you owe her a fairly HUGE apology.
-TheTeenGirl
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well i went through this with one my really really close friends. i had found out the hard way, from lots of other people, even people i didnt know. i kno its going to be hard, but you just have to come out and tell her. You two are probably really close and when you tell her, yes she'll be upset but your being honest and your telling the truth. Explain to her how sorry you are and how much she means to you. & besides she cant be with a jerk like that anyways. obvisiously he wasnt a very good b/f. i hoped i helped you and i wish you the best of luck! <3
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wow you messed up.. tell her you screwed uo its not her fault, she has the right to know... sorry but its true. hope i helped! xox Ariella
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Not only do you need to be honest with her, but you also need to be honest with yourself. What happens when they get in a fight and he "slips" and tells her about what happened. How do you think she is going to feel when she comes to you only to find out that it's true?! It's going to be really hard and I completely understand that. But you need to think about the consequences behind keeping your mouth shut. If it were me I would feel a lot better about it coming from my BEST FRIEND than anyone else. Although who's to say how she will react to the situation. But you need to tell her EXACTLY how you feel, that she is like a sister to you and how much you love her. Like I said before, it's a lot better coming from her BEST FRIEND than anyone else!! Best Friends are Forever!!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda
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If I were you I would tell her. It would be worse if you kept it from her and she found out from someone else. Obviously she doesnt have a very good boyfriend if he would do that to her, but just tell her and try talking to her. Sorry I couldnt really help. Goodluck hun. xOx
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