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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



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advice

I'm 16 and not realy use to buying gifts for a boy/guy that's 16, 17, or 18. i could tell you aout the person and maybe this could help you help me.

*has an i-pod
*listens to all kinds of music
*loves soccer/ plays soccer
*10th grade
*fav. color is green and red
*has almost every namebrand shoe that has ever been sold
*sweet, kind, and OUTGOING

What do i get him?

thank you. :)

if you know his favorite store, get him something from there. like a hat, or guy necklace or guy bracelet or guy scarf. maybe an itunes gift card. maybe something homemade like a collage of pictures. or make him a mix CD of all your/his favorite songs. draw him a picture. make him a tiedye shirt. buy him a poster. buy lots of heart balloons and fill his room/locker/car with the balloons.

just be creative!

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19/female.

whats a name that i can call this guy joe... we've been friends for about 4 years now .. we're not dating but i do have a crush on him ;) he doesn't know it. i havent told him because he just got out of a relationship of 3 yrs so it'd be too soon for him i think. we are close friends though.. "best friends" if you want to say that.

i don't really want to say like..
hey!...
boo
best friend (that sounds cheesy?)
boy

his ex girlfriend called him joejoe so i don't want to say that and just saying joe isn't fun and unique. i'm usually the only one who calls him joseph .. but that gets boring. any ideas?? i don't wanna say sweetie, hottie .. anything that would be too strong.

i have a good friend named joe and i call him

joe-schmo
joe-bro
oh-joe
ace (inside joke)
buddy

let me know what you think!

-volleyball2150

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Okay so I have realized that whenever my friends and I have a fight, and its my fault, the reason is because I am jealous.

My tendancy to be jealous has ruined my relationship with my ex-bestfriend. And I can see it happening again.
You are probably saying, "well just stop being jealous." or "just be happy for her." but its not like that. its not that easy.

when i make really close friend, i only make one at a time. and lets name her... Sani. okay so sani and i became closer this year. at first i thought she was a a funny, chill, innocentish girl. and sheis... butnow she always talks about boys... and now shes getting closer to other people? and its making me so jealous. and now this really hot upperclass man likes her.

what do i do? i cant talk to her because that would make it soo awkward!

hah i'm the exact same way. my bff and i right now are having a little mini war thing. i do things that piss her off and she does things that piss me off.

the best thing you can do right now is just to hold it in. i know that sounds bad and unhealthy, but if you explode at her and act totally jealous, it could ruin a really valuable friendship.

here's what you can do- next time you're jealous of something.. think or write something that YOU have that she doesnt. then just keep reminding yourself that you're special and that this jealously issue won't get to you and it doesn't hurt you.

then think about something else. idk what but just pick something randomly and think very deeply about that.

also, if your friend gets super obnoxious- like she's always talking about that hot guy or always obsessing over these guys that get her, you can either

- change the subject right away and talk about something else.. that shows that you're not interested in that and that you want her to shut up.

- or you could politely tell her to stop talking about that because you have a lot of stuff on your mind and you don't want to hear about her issues.

- or you could secretly think to yourself "if she keeps this up... she's going to turn into a slut or bad person and it could seriously ruin her reputation." that's what i do sometimes and it makes me feel better.

- i hope i helped!!

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I met this girl and I really like her but just wanna start out slow. I'm out of work and have little to no money and we are going to be hanging out this weekend. So what would be some good, but inexpensive ideas that would be fun.

my bff recently went on a 6 hour date with this guy and she said they didn't spend too much money. she said that he blindfolded her and took her to this place as a surprise. it was an art museum and they looked around for a while. then he took her to a park and they had a picnic. after that they walked around downtown and stopped at a dessert place. then they went to the lake to play beach volleyball and just tanned for a while, watched the sunset. then they went home to watch a movie, then a bonfire with some friends. and then he took her alone and they stargazed.

so the only thing that would actually cost money in that situation is the art musuem, and dessert.

in substitute for those.. you could make paintings of your own instead of paying money to see others. and you could also make your own dessert instead of paying to eat someone elses.

hope i helped!

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My best friend has been dating "THE prize catch" guy from her university and she was really happy about it when she got him. She still talks about how all the girls wanted him and such. Problem is, he's the biggest jerk I have met in a long time. He treats her like dirt and me too for that matter. If my younger brother (17, I'm 20) is there, the boyfriend talks asks him for my opinion on things. I've tried talking to her but I just get the 8 girls wanted him story. What can I do to help her? I'm worried that comming out and saying it will make her think I'm jealous.

sugarhigh is correct. after you see that something has happened, ask her if you can talk to her in private. then explain to her your feelings. if she thinks that you are jealous or crazy, then say "did you not just see what happened now? he said/did ____" and then explaint to her what he did or said that was wrong. you need to talk to her and tell her your feelings. and if she still does not listen to you, then dont be around them because later on you will get dragged into this mess and then your friend will be begging you to help and you will have to say "i told you so". if she is a true friend, she will listen to you and understand what you are saying.

i hope i helped!

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my friend always talks bout me behind my back, and im soooo sick ov her shit! She wont stop, but i want to keep being her friend. what should i do?

do one favor for me... write down on a piece of paper all of the qualities a good friend has. some examples would be honesty, loyalty, loving etc.
now what i want you to do is see how many of those things this girl has. If your list contains about 10 personalities... i would guess this girl has 3 of them.

this girl is NOT your friend!!! trust me on this one, break off this friendship because she is only causing you to feel more miserable. if you break off this friendship, i guarentee that you will be so much happier. I had a friend like her once. always talking about my back but yet sometimes she would be so funny and nice to me. I would come home from school or her house somedays crying... my mom would say that i need to stop being her friend because shes making my life a mess. and when we grow older that she will destroy it. but i couldnt stop being her friend, she made me feel happy sometimes and that i could just be me and let loose and be wild. and that anything could happen. but i knew deep inside of me that she was dragging me down with her. so one day i went up to her and said "you know what? im done with you. im done with you and your snotty attitude and i dont need a friend who makes my life miserable. goodbye." and we stopped talking for a long time.

please please please dont be friends with her because she needs to learn her lesson and if you leave her, she will learn it.

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Everytime that I try to help my sister with her baby, she yells at me if I do something wrong. Sometimes I just want to yell back at her and tell her all the things that she does wrong as a parent.Should I tell her how I feel? How should I do it if I do?

just like the other advicenator said. If you are helping her without being told, then basically her yelling means "back off. i can handle it myself" i know that you want to help but try to not help and let her ask you for help.

if she IS asking for your help and you try but she still yells at you, dont yell back because she probably has enough stress going on already. shes not married and has a kid that she needs to take care of. so dont yell back because it will put more pressure on her. instead, ASK HER how to help specifically. so for example if she says pat the baby so she can burp... and you do it and she starts yelling, then polietly say "could you show me the right way?"

if this method still doesnt work, then you need to talk to her. preferably when she is alone without the baby because that will most likely be a distraction. get her alone and just spill out all of your feelings. dont be yelling and screaming... but let it all out calmly. say something like "I dont think that your yelling is necessary and instead you could just show me the correct way to do things."

i hope i helped!

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alright so here's the deal; my best friend and i have been best friend's for about two year's
i have two best friend's & she never minded until now; i mean we hang out ALOT! i'd say i hang out with them the same- anyways's she has this "NEW" friend who i may can't stand one bit :/ she's 12 year's old; & were 15, i dont know it's like she is changeing on me like she never call's me & when i call her she's like UGH CAN I CALL YOU BACK & she never calls me back & the other day i had a big prob & i wanted to run to her about & she was just like oh. dang- LIKE WTF? & it isnt like to with her "NEW" friend & i wanted to hang out with her on friday but she said she couldnt chill then come to find out her "NEW" friend spent the nite.. I DONT KNOW what the heck should i do; i dont wanna just like NOT care because i do care & i just cant act like i dont & i just dont wanna lose her... =/

any thin could help< --

Hun, she's not physic! She can't read minds, so you need to confront her about this and tell her whats on your mind. Some people can tell how a person is feeling like, just by looking at them. And that may be possible with her, but if she could tell that you are sad/mad, she might think you just need space, so that could be a reason why she's avoiding you.

Make sure you talk to her and tell her what you're feeling. For example you could say "(name), I just want you to know that when you spend time with your friend, you seem to shut me out of your life and I feel like we don't hang out as much anymore"

Talk to her and find a day (possibly a week or 2 ahead of time) where you're both availible and you 2 just go hang out. If its shopping, sleepover, movies. whatev.

She also might just need time time away from you, so try to give her space and don't be all up in it, ya know?

I hope I helped and I wish you luck!
-volleyball2150

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i received a call yesterday from this girl that i didnt know.She was trying to get my ex bf's number.I found out that i knew her bf but she wanted to know if i knew anybody that would know my ex's number.I told her that i dont give out my friends number to people i dont know.Then she asked me if i couldd ask her bf if he was planning on breaking up with her.At first i sad no because im not about to get into somebody else's relationship but then i made a deal with her.She wouldnt give out the name of the girl who gave her my number so i made a deal with her so that she would.i told her i would ask her bf if she told me who gave her my number because i really dont appreiate somebody going around giving out my number.well it ended up being a friend of mine that wasnt that close but was really a sweet girl.the girl begged me not to tell her she told me.My question is should i confront that girl for giving out my number because that really does piss me off.Also i still dont plan on asking her bf the questions she wanted me to but should i?I try my hardest to stay out of any kind of drama but is that a way that would put me into any kind of unwanted drama.I think it might be but i would like others opinions.thanx!!!

I think you should confront the girl who gave out your number. Don't make it a big deal as it already is. Just say- Did you by any chance give out my number to someone? Then ask why and If she could stop. don't yell, but just calmly tell her that you don't want it to happen again.

As for the bf questions- you can ask him, but don't get too involved. Maybe like 1 or 2 questions and If the girl says why didn't you ask more, just be like "oh I had to go run errands. Or he was in a rush."

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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My friends are constantly copying me i dont know how anyone can take it as a compliment its exstremly annoying! If i get a new top everyone will ask where i got it from and then ..guess what..the next week they have got it or something similar. The worst thing is when they get complimented on it by someone else, sooooooo annoying.. when you got it first!! Everyone probably thinks i copy them aaaargh?
How do i stop them from copying me?
without telling them or hinting iv already tryed it!

you can try telling white lies. They are not lies! telling a lie is something you do that gets you out of trouble. White lies is if you want change. So in this case, you want to change the fact of copying. so you tell a white lie. example=

"where did you get that top?" (say you got it at American Eagle)
"oh I got it at JC Penney"

and when they go there to look for it, it won't be there. Or you can say like "oh I got it in Europe"

What i'm starting to think right now is that you're not original enough... you need to be unique so that you don't look alike with others. Try buying a 'make your own jewlery' kit and beads and then you can make your own jewlery so they can't buy it. Or try buying different designer clothes (that normal people in your area wounldn't think of) and try mix and matching.

-volleyball2150

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My friend is really starting to get to me now iv been putting up with the constant "acts" (being fake all the time) and the "fuck off just dont talk to me im not in the mood" ( probably because my hair didnt straighten probably this morning)
If i say one wrong thing towards her she gets in a big stress and will ignore me all day.. then later on in the day if i ask whats wrong she will twist it around and put the blame on me, making me feel really bad and i end up apologising this is the only way she will talk to me again. We have so much in coman and share everything togeather and tell each other everything! Yet after all of this shes is still exstremly popular with everyone especially the boys she acts so fake towards them but they think she is sooo hot, its so annoying when im just normal around the boys and just being myself i dont get anything back in return other than an insult or nasty glare half of the time!??, every thinks so much of her and no one can ever understand when i tell them about it?? I just dont no what to do about it anymore iv tryed almost everything i can think of!?!?

ok calm down... I realize that you do not want to lose this friedship with her. So have a talk with her. Sit her down somewhere and ask her why she is under so much stress lately. Friends need to be very good listeners. So listen to what she has to say. If she is confused by what you are asking her. Give her some examples of what has happened. Just let your heart do all the talking and listen to her. Then talk to her on ways to solve it.

As for the guys part... you're doing the right thing. I actually have a friend who is so fake and always flirts with the guys... and she has had like 20 boyfriends already. And look at me, i'm normal with the guys... suure i flirt once in a while but thats only with 1 guy. she is like that with so many different guys. Don't be like your friend. Don't start acting all fake and trying to get boys. They will come. It just takes time. Don't think of the present time... think of the future. So in other words- don't think about how many dates she gets now... just think about how many dates she will NOT get in a few years because she will start to be known as a slut or whore. Then all of the guys will start coming towards you.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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Well my so called close friend lets call her lena i trusted her i told her everything ! ok well me and her we used to bitch about this girl wrong i know and i regret it so dont tell me im a mean bitch or anything anyways well lena went and told her that i said this and that about her and the girl lets call her nina well nina told me off when lena backstabbed her aswell but i didnt say anything anyways nina told me off and started screaming at me and she told me our friendship was over and i just want everything back to normal if i could go back in time i would but i can't i've learnt my lesson all i want is everything to back to the way it was but i don't know what to say or do and now lena is closer to nina now and i miss lena so muchh and i also miss nina i don't know who to trust anymore

you're like a miniture version of my other friends who are sort of having a fight like that. anyways...

If you truely, deeply feel bad about this you need to confront lena and nina about it. Find somewhere, sometime that you can talk to them alone. Say "Hey, I know you're mad at me but just listen to what I have to say. You might ignore me, thats ok, but just promise me that you'll listen to me" then just let out your feelings to both of them.

also, from experience, I woulnd't talk to both of them at the same time because they can gang on you and hurt you. If they refuse to listen... like listening to music, or walking away... then write them a note and stick it in their locker at school (make sure it's the right one... I almost did that once!) or write them an email, or send an IM message, text message or even leave their cell phones/home phones a voicemail.

Anyway you can, try to get them to listen to you. Don't feel bad if they don't respond... all it takes to mend this friendship is for them to listen to you. Once they hear you out, give them some time to think about it. Don't expect them to call you right after you explain everything to them. Wait a while ( usually 2-7 days) and then call/text/email them again.

You really need to let your heart do all the talking. Don't write down all of the lines you're going to say to them... because that's just coming from your head. You need to tell them what is coming from your heart. Showing emotions and body language is a bonus. Crossing your arms= bad. It shows that you don't really give a shit about the friendship. having your hands on your head= good. It shows that you are having a headache because you are so sorry. laughing= bad. Also, it shows that you are not serious. Crying= good. It shows how much you care about them.

I wish you luck!
-volleyball2150

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So i've been strugglin drug use i was a big crack head but i havent smoked in 24 days. Well the reason i was doing that stuff was b/c my dad is kinda a asshole. well i told my friend and she was concerned and i promised her i wouldnt smoke her anymore. Anyway lately i've been gettin pain killas mostly OCs from my bf Dwight and my friend got mad at me 4 doin em and bein round dwight. The thing is tho i need the meds b/c i'm in so much pain from all the shit my dad does. And i dont c the big deal b/c its not like i'm usin crack again or nethin? Am i wrong for usin the meds?

You're so grateful to have a friend like that. I've never done drugs and NEVER will. So i'm sorry but I can't really help you on this one. But in my gut i'll give you some advice....

I don't trust this dwight guy...even though you might trust him. You never know.. he could be giving you medication, or it could be some other crap. What I would do is talk to your friend. She sounds like a very responsible girl and I trust her. Talk to her and see what she thinks. I know you told me that she says to stay away from him and the meds, and I would listen to her. If your dad is not a good guy, then ask your friend if you can stay at her place for a while until your dad settles down.

If you have a school counselor, I would HIGHLY reccommend going there. If I were you, I'd go to someone who is older, more mature, and is trustable.

I hope everything goes ok! Inbox me if you need anymore help. I'm here for you.
-volleyball2150

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15/f

I don't like my friends anymore. Please pardon me if this sounds conceited.....But I'm just trying to make a point; I'm at a higher level than them. I consider myself to be, and I've been told I am. They always either put me down or just.....ignore and neglect me.

They never ask to do stuff with me. I'm the one who always has to ask.
They go somewhere with their other friends and don't even include me. They have parties, don't include me.
At other times, they talk to me only when they need homework help or when they're bored.

And these are my BEST friends. Like, I won't hang out with anyone else.
And they make me feel bad about myself....I know I'm prettier and smarter (please don't yell at me...I'm not trying to sound conceited) I consider myself to be...And they just sort of.....detain me, you know? I already set a high level for myself.

They all have boyfriends. And most of them broke up with their boyfriends, and their boyfriends formed an interest towards me...And they get SO jealous.

It's like..Friend 1: OH MY GOSH! WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO HIM?!

Well, maybe because he's not your bf anymore?!?

I feel like i'm wasting my life/time/energy on these girls and guys when I could be out there hanging out with better people or, even better, not hanging out with anyone at all (I wouldn't mind)
I really wanna show them that I'm not interested in their friendship.
Any advice? :) Thank you very much. And please please pleaaaaaaase don't think I'm conceited. I'm really sorry if I sound like I am.

you're actually right... you ARE wasting your time with these people. If your school hosts after school activities... find an activity that you have an interest in. Then just meet new people that have the same hobbies as you. For me... its volleyball. I'll meet a new person by having a conversation like =
me- How did you do that?
them- oh i just did this... then that.. etc.
me- oh cool. I'm (my name) by the way
them- i'm (their name)
me- so...etc.

and i'll just keep talking about the surroundings. Like say if you're in the classroom and the teacher smells bad. then be like- "so does the teacher always smell this bad?" and let the conversation flow from there. another way to keep conversations flowing is to ask questions. If you ask questions- they are going to have to answer them. If they don't answer... then thats rude and trust me, people feel guilty if they don't answer a question and just leave it hanging in space.

Just find new friends. If you're friends are getting jealous be like -its not my fault! and smile and walk away.
or if you find out that they are having a party and didn't invite you be like - "i don't even know why i try..." and if they say "what did you say?" be like "Oh nothing... i was just saying to myself why I bother spending time with you guys because you don't even treat me as real friends. But oh well... its your loss not mine." and walk away

walking away is probably the highest level of rejection. It makes the other person feel really bad and that you just ended the thing. You know how in like a sport and the tiebreaker is really close... like if the sport ends at 25 and the score is 22-23... and you think "ok i'm going to be the hero. I'm going to finish this right here... right now!!" You need to be that person and think that when you have a fight or anything like that. Be the one who stops it and ends it. Case closed... its over!! walk away!

-volleyball2150

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Well my BFFs are like all getting boys now we all are and i n otice that we are ignoreing eachother and going to out boys. I really do'nt like it i miss them and as much as I like the boy I like i really want my BFFs back. So how can we still see eachother and still like boys.

try going on double dates, or triple dates or however many couples are going. Or just schedule a weekly friday night as a "Girls Night Out" when you do makeovers, movies, shopping, talking, gossiping etc. etc. etc. Just one time a week is not going to kill them. Maybe you can switch off houses. Or maybe even have all of your friends sign up in a club together. Like book scrapping club after school, or Home ec., or something where there are not most boys.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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what would be a realy good christmas party?????


I need help!!!!!
-Sondra

maybe do a secret santa thing... where each guest gets 1 person, and they buy that person a gift but the person doesn't know who the "secret santa" is, then when the party comes... one person starts by going up to the person they got and said "i'm your secret santa" and then that person gives their person their gift. Once everyone has their gifts, everyone opens them up!

Or play this fun game where the host/hostess buys lots of presents to give out, then he/she wraps them up and for this game- she/he will wrap them up with lots of layers, so its best if the presents are small, then they will appear larger because of the paper. Then everyone sits in a circle and its like musical chairs... when the music stops, the object stops moving in a circle, whoever has the object unwraps 1 layer and you keep on going until the last layer is opened, whoever opens the last layer gets the object!!

this game is sorta like the one above, but what you do is roll dice for the presents. If you get say 2 5's then you pick a present you want (but they are wrapped). But say you get 2 6's, then you can decide if you want to 'steal' another persons present (but you don't know what they are, because they are still wrapped.) got it??

Maybe have a guest volunteer to dress up as a santa?

put lots of decorations up, lots of music, make a big area for dancing, maybe even a talent show. Oh and what I would think is awesome, is have a mistletoe under a door, so then if theres a guy and a girl, you say "kiss!!" and point up.

I hope I helped and have fun!!
-volleyball2150

PS: last year, I threw a christmas/new years eve party.

Its when you do all that stuff I mentioned, but on new years eve, then you all count down to the new year and kiss when the clock hits 12:00!! then you scream "happy new year" throw confetti and release the balloons! Have cake, eat pizza, drink sparkling juice and just play games. Like board games, charades, pictionary, air hockey, foosball, etc.

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k soo im 15/f, sophomore, and i have these 2 best friends. yesterday after school we went to one's house..but..my best friend,"A", decided to leave at around 5:00. because she was BORED. and "tired". ok, so we were watching america's next top model..it was raining outside..we couldnt think of anything else to do. but she wanted to go home. k so youre probably like,whats wrong with that? she ALWAYS does it! the week before we were at my house and she left at 9:00 or something , while my other friend stayed till 10. and she even made her sister go home just because she wanted to go home. her 11 year old sister would stay out later than her! it's pathetic and we're 15 almost 16! i know our town is pretty boring, most of the time we only go out to eat and hang at each others houses-we couldve went to the movies, but she finds those boring too. the mall, but we couldn't get a ride..i suggested bowling, she didn't want to. it's like nothing satisfies her. and seriously i'd rather do nothing with my best friends than do nothing by myself. i dunno what her problem iss. and also we went to my other friends house yesterday, but she wanted to go to mine cuz somehow "it's the most fun" i don't know how, i really don't see how it's so much fun. but we had hung out at my house the last probably like 4 fridays, and my mom was like getting annoyed cuz she had the responsibility and if we didnt go out to eat, she had to cook or order pizza. so i don't know what to do anymore, i actually told her when she left yesterday that like, why does she always leave so early. of course she denied and just said she wanted to go home because she was tired and had "stuff" to do.

i'm just sick of this! like it makes me mad cause we have so much fun together, i don't understand her though. she ALWAYS leaves early just because she gets bored. what should i say to her? what can we DO that's not "boring"?! is this ridiculous or what ugh. thanks so much, sorry it was so long!

ha ha yeah thats pretty sick.

I think that this girl isn't satisfied with the group of people she's with. Now, I'm not trying to be mean here... but you're too much of a softie. I can already tell because this has happened a lot and you are not taking action. You should've taken action after the first 2 or 3 times. Take her somewhere where there are no distractions and when you 2 are alone. Sit her down and tell her that she either is going to be friends with you and your friends and have FUN, or find a new group of friends. You said that you would rather do nothing by yourself, than nothing with your friends.

When you talk to her, don't be a softie... but don't be too harsh so that she wants revenge. "body language" Stand up straight and tall, cross your arms... don't be in a position where she doesn't take you seriously. Attitude is everything. You need to be a solid. Where she is a little intimidated by yourself.

She either needs to be around you and have fun (or at least ACT like she is having fun until the time of that day is over) or find another group of friends where she can actually enjoy herself. You can tell her that she is just wasting her time being bored around you guys and she would be way better off by herself. Next time you arrange a hanging out day... don't include her. If she asks- just say that whenever she is around, she brings the energy level way down and you wanted a day to see how it would be like without her.

Maybe go to a local store and buy Board games, video games, computer games, thriller movies (the kind that is like in the beginning you're like "oh this is kinda boring" but then towards the end its like "oh my god.. whats gonna happen next" Sorta like one of those books where you can never put it down")

Even if the movie is not that good, it still would be a thriller so that makes it even more interesting. Maybe get a deck of cards and play a game like Solitare. Maybe have a magic show, talent show.

TUNES! whenever you hang out with friends, you need to have music. If theres a song playing that all of you know, be the first person to stand up and start dancing. More people will join and soon all of you will be dancing. If you do have a ride one day, don't tell anybody where their going... then go somewhere cool. Like bowing for instance. See if there's a COSMIC BOWLING. Its cool because its black lights and if you wear white, you glow. Most bowling places have music, and while you are waiting for turns, you could be playing arcade games... dancing, eating, playing pool, etc. Maybe if you have a local gym, you could all go swimming or play tennis. Oohh..... how about YARD GAMES! play like Capture the Flag (( or my version- capture the football. Its like capture the flag, except you try to get the football and you can tackle each other. Its sooooo much fun. especially in the rain when you all get muddy. =D

Just use your imagination and pretend like you are having a party.

-volleyball2150

PS: one of my most favorite games to play with a big group is called= Endurance

Have one person be the host and they get to make up a bunch of challenges. Their will be 4 teams... North, East, South and West. (like spin 10 times around a baseball bat and then go across the lawn, take a basketball and dribble the ball and shoot. First person gets 100 points. Or have everyone tie a balloon to their shoe. So like the North team would all have 1 red balloon to their shoe. The south team would have 1 White balloon tied to their shoe etc. Then have all 4 teams on 4 walls of a room, On your mark, get set, go! everyone has to pop the other teams balloons. Theres a 2 minute session... after 2 minutes is up.. you get a break and you count who is the winner so far. If you're balloon is popped, then you're out of the game.

Its soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much fun!!!!!!!!!

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Okay so like last night I was hanging with my friends, lets call them.. Hannah, Leslie and George

And george was gonna invite all of us over for a scary movie night for tonight and we all were like YAY YES WE CAN COMMEE!!
and the last night i slept at hannah's and this morning she was lile, "I wanna have alot of people over tonight" And then I was like "Well we are going to George's" And then Leslie was like "Yeah lets just tell him we all cant come though"

But i was like "no we can't do that thats mean we are practically ditching him"

And then we all go in this whole arugement and now we are pretty mad at eachother.

Hannah Said im still invited if i wanna come, BUt i dont know what to do.. Should I still go to George's? Or Hannah's? If I go to George's I would be the only girl but i dont really care.

BUt like the sad thing is George wasnt even invited to Hannah's SO i think that is really mean

Also this isnt the first time hannah has done this she done this before and when she did to it leslie would be like OMG SHE IS SO MEAN and now leslie is doing it with her and she is on her side 100%

I tried talking to them a million times but it keeps ending up in a fight..

so i just need help with this huge mess..
help!!!!

It sounds to me that Hannah and Leslie aren't really good friends with you or george. If I were you, I'd forget about hannah and leslie because they are not nice people, and definitally not your clique. I think you know what the right choice is.... go to georges house. My dad is always telling me that if you promise something, that is not only a promise... but a commitment. You committed to doing something, and you can't just break it and give up. That shows that you are a loser. These girls obviously don't care what george feels. Now if you do go to George's, you should be prepared because they ARE going to be mad at you. But let them have their space and when the time comes... they'll see that what they did was a huge mistake. Just do the right thing and don't even care about them... you tried to convince them. that's the best you can do. You can't force them to make the right choice, it's their decision. You just need to lead them on to the right choice.. and let them think for a while about what is wrong and what is right.

The main point here is- don't let them influence you into doing bad things. You KNOW whats right, just ignore what they say and have fun at George's!

-volleyball2150

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There are these two girls who used to be my best friends. Last year, they talked about me, made up stuff, blamed everything on me, & all of these other things so that they could get out of everything that they did & said about one of our other friends. They did that three times; I gave them three chances. Each time, they would apologize & say it wouldn`t happen again, but it kept happening. So, I just gradually stopped hanging out with them, but I was thinking the other day. When I was with them...I`ve never had that much fun with any of my other friends in my life. Plus, they would stand up for me if someone said something mean to one of us. No matter how much I cried cause of them, I also laughed just as much. I don`t know what to do. Should I just keep doing what I`m doing & staying away from them? Or should I give them another chance?

hmmm... well this is tricky. If I were you, i'd give them ONE LAST CHANCE. and if that last chance goes wrong, then don't even bother to hang out with them because even if you had lots of fun with them, you also got hurt many times. If you hang out with them and keep letting them do these mean things to you, they'll think it's ok and just keep doing them. You can find friends that are even better than them. You just have to be YOURSELF and not be a fake. If you are a fake, people will be attracted to your phony act and then when you are yourself, they will think you're a weirdo because they thought your act was really you, when it's not. and then it just gets ugly from there. So be yourself and people will like you for who you are. Even if you don't find any true friends really quickly, you still have your family to look up to and talk with.

I hope everythings goes ok

-volleyball2150

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ok so i used to have a bffl and over the summer we got into this huge fight that changed everything!we started to become friends again but all summer she started hanging out with this girl and they became bffls! she started hanging out with tons of guys and acting really slutish. now that the school year has started back up she barley ever talks to me and and she is always talking about how much she loves her new friends and she gives them nicknames.i dont want to say anything mean because we just now started to become friends but shes changed sooo much its like shes not even the same person! can someone help me?

Just like what breezy said, you won't have a bff your whole life. You had a bff once when you were 4, you thought that he/she would stay with you forever? nope... about 37% of bff's are most likely to stay together through their life.

My friend is like her too, last year in school we were bff's now she's changed and It gets on my nerves. But the best you can do is talk to her aobut it and reminde her the good times you've had together. Like invite her over for a sleepover and do the silly things that you did back then. Go shopping together or watch a movie. Just spend more time with her and don't let go of her. I highly reccommened that you DONT' ignore her, If you don't tell her what's wrong, then she won't know whats wrong. Ignoring people doesn't solve anything... it just makes the other person confused because they have no idea what's going on, and eventually they will just think that YOU don't want to be friends with HER. and that' not true.

I wish you the best of luck
-volleyball2150

PS: even if she isn't a keeper, it's not the end of the world. Just be yourself and you'll make new friends

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