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My sister (not married) has a baby she yells at me all the t
Everytime that I try to help my sister with her baby, she yells at me if I do something wrong. Sometimes I just want to yell back at her and tell her all the things that she does wrong as a parent.Should I tell her how I feel? How should I do it if I do?
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Don't criticize a mother.
We aren't perfect people, therefore we aren't perfect parents. I will admit, I will be learning how to be a mother for the rest of my life.
Instead of getting upset when she tells you that you are doing something wrong when it comes to the baby, LISTEN. You may learn something, which you will be thankful to know one day when you have children of your own.
If you want to tell her how you feel about something, tell her how you feel about her yelling at you. When people bark at you, it makes things harder because of frustration. But try to understand, she's probably frustrated herself, and that is likely why she yells.
Just don't criticize a mother.
ygs-30/f
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First, don't criticize her parenting. I am not a parent myself, but I imagine it to be VERY stressful. She probably yells at you because of this, the stress has made her fuse short and the littlest things will make her angry. So, it probably isn't your fault.
What you CAN do, is talk to her about it, calmly, and in a mature way. Approach her and let her know you don't like that she's yelling at you when you're only trying to help. Make sure to let her know that you understand she's under pressure having a baby and not being married, but you're really not into the idea of her yelling at you.
-Laura. (16-f)
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just like the other advicenator said. If you are helping her without being told, then basically her yelling means "back off. i can handle it myself" i know that you want to help but try to not help and let her ask you for help.
if she IS asking for your help and you try but she still yells at you, dont yell back because she probably has enough stress going on already. shes not married and has a kid that she needs to take care of. so dont yell back because it will put more pressure on her. instead, ASK HER how to help specifically. so for example if she says pat the baby so she can burp... and you do it and she starts yelling, then polietly say "could you show me the right way?"
if this method still doesnt work, then you need to talk to her. preferably when she is alone without the baby because that will most likely be a distraction. get her alone and just spill out all of your feelings. dont be yelling and screaming... but let it all out calmly. say something like "I dont think that your yelling is necessary and instead you could just show me the correct way to do things."
i hope i helped!
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Is she asking you for your help before you try to help with her baby? If not, that could be why she's yelling at you.
However, if she asks for your help in the first place and yells at you, something should be said. Sometime when the two of you are together alone, tell her you want to talk to her. Then proceed to tell her exactly how you feel. Be tactful though. Mention that you're helping with the best intentions and you feel bad if you do something wrong, but that at times you feel like her yelling is excessive.
I hope everything works out between you two.
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