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Q: 25 yr/F
Hello. I feel as if I have a problem b/c most other people have many friends that they can hang out and party with. I sometimes find myself alone bored wanting to go out on a Friday night. I have a wonderful husband and a son which make me very happy. The area of my life that I feel I am lacking in are my friends. I think that a lot of times in the past I have been misunderstood and some girls just don't like me. I've had girls hate me because they think that I am one way when really I am another. I have two best friends, but honestly we don't get to hang out much and one of them just moved away to another state. I just need to know what I can do to make new friends or meet new people. I want to be open and inviting, but I feel as if I'm doing too much and I don't want to be looked at like I'm a weirdo. I'm tired of asking friends to hang out only to be let down when it doesn't happen or they change their minds at the last minute. This really makes me feel like a loser. While some people have childhood friends they can call on, I don't because my mom moved my family around almost every year until I was about 12. So, those bonds and long relationships I never got the chance to create. I feel like I can count on one hand the amount of friends I have and I just wanna go out and have fun.

Ah, I completely hear you on the subject of moving/childhood friends. I had the same situation as you. I found that because I did move so often, I learned how to make friends easily for the short-term, but didn't learn the skills to maintain these. I'm not saying this is the same for you, however, though it is a common problem related to this lifestyle.

Anyway, what are your interests? Do you have a passion for sports? Art? Music? Acting? Perhaps you could join a club or organization. If you like sports, join an adult league for one you played as a child, or start a totally new sport (I would highly suggest rowing!). If you like to act, join a local theatre company.

In doing this, you'll give yourself a specific time each week to devote to something you love. Plus, once you immerse yourself within a group of people with compatible interests, it's only natural that you'll start forming connections that extend beyond the scheduled time.

I hope you gain the friendships you're after!

Q: what exactly is "auditing" a class? why cant you just go and sit in on a random class if you feel like it?

Basically, you sign up for a class, but not to receive credit. You then show up to class and listen to the lecture. BUT you are not tested and do not have to memorize the information.

This is great when you're interested in a class but don't want to receive credit for it (perhaps if you are worried about it hurting your GPA) or if your schedule is already full.

You still have to pay the credit fee, however. Think about it this way: you're still using the school's resources (hand-outs, professor's time, etc.) so even though you're not receiving a grade, you still have to pay to receive the information.

Keep in mind, I'm going with the information I'm familiar with based on my school's policy. I'd encourage you to speak with your adviser if you have one, or a counselor or upperclassman who could explain your school's policy.

Q: I really want a pen pal. Whether it's writing letters, or emailing. I've always wanted to have a pen pal so I can learn about that persons culture and most likely make a friend out of that experience. Does anyone know any websites or something that like give you a pen pal or something. I'm not sure how the whole thing works, but it's definately something i'm interested in. If you have any info that will help, please do share. Thanks in advance.

I did a quick google search with the term "get a pen pal" and these are some of the results that I think you will want:

PenPal World http://www.penpalworld.com/
PenPal Party http://www.penpalparty.com/
International Pen Friends http://www.europa-pages.com/penpal_form.html

I hope one of these will push you in the right direction! Having a pen pal is a ton of fun.

Q: This is one of my favorite artists and since I'm feeling a new artists search mood coming on, I wanted to know if anyone had any suggestions for something that I might like based on this.

My other favs include radiohead, cat power, andrew bird,...

Thanks to everyone in advance.
Have a great day :)

I love Iron & Wine too! I think some of these artists are pretty close to them:
1. Jose Gonzalez
2. Benjamin Gibbard
3. Wonderful Smith
4. Sufjan Stevens
5. Ben Harper

Sometimes to find similar artists to those I like, I'll go onto Panadora.com ... all you have to do is "create" a radio station by typing in your chosen artist's name. Then they'll start playing songs by artists similar to your chosen one, like Iron and Wine.

Q: I'm starting college at Marshall University (a mid-sized university in West Virginia, where I live) a week from today. I've been to the campus a bunch of times and know my way around, and I know the professors won't baby you and make you do your work like high school teachers do. I'm jsut wondering what classes are like. How are they setup? DO they give out handouts? Is there homework, besides studying?

Also, what kind of school supplies should I get? For high school, I got 1" binders for each class and put looseleaf or a 3- or 5- subject notebook in them. Should I follow this same method for college? I'm taking 16 hours, which is five classes and an "Introduction to the University" class, which only lasts 8 weeks.

Continue with what works for you as far as supplies go. There's no reason to dive into a totally new style of organization -- in fact, it'll just make it harder to adapt to college life. You will be taking a lot of notes in your classes, and receiving lots of handouts most likely. Many teachers I've had give out gigantic packets for reading supplements, so you may even want some hole-punched folders to put within your binders.

Also, professors will give you the entire syllabus for the semester. I don't know of a single professor that doesn't. That way you know what all you'll be expected to do, though that also means they'll be less inclined to remind you. So keep track of this. You may even consider typing it up onto a word document just in case.

Homework typically consists of readings. Trust me when I say pop quizzes are going to happen, especially over assigned readings. A lot of homework will be papers (2-3 page, sometimes 5). At this point many professors assume that you'll do anything supplemental (ie math problems, worksheet type exercises) as a part of your studying. So it's safe to assume doing them for grades is a thing of your past.

Ratemyprofessors.com (http://www.ratemyprofessors.com/) is a great resource. You can view reviews of the professors at your school, written by students themselves.
Of course take it all with a grain of salt -- negative could be due to low, albeit well-deserved, grades.

Now, I am a student at a private college in New England, and I don't have experience at any other school. So I've based my answer on my own school. But what I've written seems to be my friends' (at other schools) own experiences as well. You may want to talk to your counselor or adviser for anything specific to your school.

I hope this helps!

Q: preseason starts tomorrow for xc.
and im so scared.
i've never done a competative sport before.
but i have danced for 7 years.
i'm afraid i won't be able to run like the other girls.

do you guys have any advice for me.
the basic facts that i should know.
anything would do.
please help! thanks.

I'm pretty sure you won't be the only one in your position. And even if you're the ONLY one who has never done XC before, not everyone's going to be in tip-top shape. I've never done XC, but I was a 3-sport letterman in high school, so I can speak on that experience.

My brother is an incoming freshman this year and is doing cross country for the first time ever. His preseason started a week ago, and at first it was killer for him. He was sore and one of the slower ones. But his coach recognized he was out of shape, and catered the exercises to his ability level. Now my brother is quickly getting into shape. He also said that out of 20 runners, only 4 were in tip-top shape, but according to the coach, this is the same every year but they still go on to win championships. So keep that in mind, because even if you feel like you don't measure up now, if you work hard, you'll go far.

Typically it takes 3 weeks to really feel competent and in shape. The first week you're going to be sore, the second week you're going to improve, and the third week you're going to get into the groove of things.

I hope you enjoy XC. I really have grown to love running, and I'm sure you will too. It's addicting and it's amazing how much energy you can get from running.

Q: i'm 15 years old and i'm 5'11"ish. i'm also about 230 pounds. i know because i'm taller i'm going to weigh more. my friends, who dont know exactly how much i weigh, say that i'm not fat. but all they can go on is my appearance. they tell me that i'm not at all fat. that i'm average for my height. but all i can see when i look at myself is complete fat. also, my friends tell me that i'm beautiful. i dont think i'm hideous but i wouldnt at all go with beautiful. my question is that if i'm not fat and i'm so beautiful why do no guys ever approach me or chose to try and talk to me, but they do approach my friends?

Guys may be intimidated, or may see a lack of confidence. For me, I look for guys who exude a certain level of confidence -- whose who are content in their own shoes (though definitely not cocky!). I'm sure that's the same for guys!

It sounds like you should work on your confidence. If you don't already, do some exercising. It could be a simple 15 minute morning jog, or something more physically demanding. I find that on days when I exercise, I have a nicer glow to me. Suddenly, I'm able to ignore my weaknesses. It's probably the endorphins, which is an internally produced painkiller... Plus, from exercising, you'll build muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat but takes up less space. So, you'll be healthy and have a great figure.

You could also create your own mantra. Tell yourself "I'm beautiful and smart and confident" or something along those lines. For example, before I performed a violin solo at a concert last spring, I told myself "I'm prepared, I'm ready, and I'm going to nail this" and I repeated it.

If it's more that they're intimidated, you could do a few things. First, start conversation instead of waiting for a guy to come to you. And show him you're interested. Second, Make sure you LOOK happy. Sometimes when I was younger I'd get this face that looked like I was pissed off, even though I wasn't. That definitely scared some people away.

I hope this gives you some ideas beyond what you asked.

Q: i didn't know under which category to put this in but what they hey.... the question is super silly but i'm really sensitive about this so here goes...

when i was in 1st and 2nd grade i was a super bully... i don't know if it helped that my dad's sister was the principle and owner of the school ( i swear i never rubbed that in and i never even realized why people REALLY feared me until later- read on i'll explain how)

anyway even sixth graders were afraid of me... needless to say karma gave me what i deserved ( i learned my lesson and i pride myself in being nice! honest!) for the rest of grade school up to like the 7th grade i was sort of outcasted... (or that's what i thought....but apparently years later i discovered that the group who shunned me were really the group who were least liked and people wanted to be MY friend instead of theirs but my old rep as a bully still made them fear me).... anyway i moved away and started fresh (though that wasn't any better because i hated school and absolutely love college)

here's the situation: the other day a girl from grade school added me on facebook... she was one of three (the nicest out of the others) girls i thought were the "cool" people...i am not sure how things are with them (since i moved countries) but i am pretty sure that they're still friends (it's a small town with one college and over overprotective parents) ..... so anyhow i am not sure why she added me (nope i doubt it's to mend the past because there isn't any past to mend... i had no issues with her at one point we were friends, but she decided to go with the other two girls, one of which absolutely LOATHES me.... i am a hundred percent sure of this....) so i am thinking maybe she added me either

1) because she is curious to see how i am doing now and how i've become (i've been gone for almost 10 years and because other -and i quote them on this- "none elitist group leaders" from their clique have me on their friend lists (these are people who generally were nice to me from their group and again i had no problems with them... or actually they had no problem with me)...

2) she wants to expand her list (she has over 2000 people... i mean who really really KNOWS that number of people well)

3)or because (as my other friends -whom i kept in touch with and met last summer- tell me i am a "cool icon of coolness" supposedly.... and thats how i understood that i wasn't really that uncool then) she thinks it would boost her social status having me on her list (seriously i doubt this just because i am not much into facebook and all the people i have, added me... so it makes me wonder y?)

4) maybe (and this is hypothetical too) because they heard that their last chance in nabbing the last "heir" of my dads fortune is being threatened by this girl who isn't from my hometown and is therefore not worthy........... my brother is engaged to a girl they've never heard of (oh trust me this is nothing compared to what goes on! its like a high class prostitution society....not that i am condoning anyone... whatever floats their boat as long as it doesn't rock mine)

i still feel like crap remembering how they used to treat me and how they used to make me feel... when my mum goes back to attend all the social events and so on these girls swarm around her asking about how i am doing since i never got to go back after going to school in england and after i started college in sanfransisco (and just like any naive mother... my mum tells me that my "friends" are asking about how i am doing......seriously wth???)

sorry for the improper grammar it's like 3 am here...... but i really need advice... should i add her and open that gate? or just i just ignore? (and would that look like i am afraid to face the past???)

It really sounds like they want something. After all, it's been ten years and it sounds as if you haven't heard of them during those 10 years. And all the sudden you've been friend-requested and they've been asking about you.

If I were in your spot, I would accept the request. Then, you can hear what she has to day (most likely you'll receive a comment or a message). The minute she does anything unsettling, you can of course remove her from your list or even block her. It's entirely possible, though, that she just wants to re-link with an old friend.

But if you absolutely don't want to add her, there's nothing wrong in it. It's your life and you deserve to be happy. You sound like you've grown into a great person, and obviously those years which shaped you are not years you want to return to.

Q: I did a random google search of my name, and found a couple of links with some personal information, including a really embarrassing poem i posted 7 years ago. There are a few other sites too, but nothing this embarrassing.

Is there anything I can do to get my name removed from a google search, or at least that particular link (poem)?? Potential employers, people I'm interested in..could easily get information about me- VERY annoying.

You could try contacting the webmasters of the sites in question. Say that you would appreciate it if they would remove the content or, at the very least, replace your name with "anonymous."

Or you could pay to have your reputation 'cleaned up'. There's an article on newsweek (http://www.newsweek.com/id/109612) that I think should help you out.

Q: My little cous thinks he can chew. His mom don't want him to.
Whats the strongest brand of tobacco products that will GAG him.
Such as kodiak.
Copenhagen.
...

Apparently Copenhagen is the strongest brand. (source: http://www.smokehelp.org/html/spit_destroys.html)

You should talk to him, show him what will happen if he continues to chew. The website I sourced above has some pretty grime stats. Here are some more sites that may be of use:
http://www.quittobacco.com/facts/effects.htm
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/Tobacco/smokeless
http://www.cancer.org/docroot/PED/content/PED_10_13X_Quitting_Smokeless_Tobacco.asp

I hope this answers your question and helps you out.

Q: do sweatshops produce converses and nikes? would i be a bad person if bought converse shoes? everyone has them but i dunno

Yes. Nike owns Converse, and employs workers in sweatshops.

As for whether you'd be a bad person for buying Converse shoes due to this? Well, that's up for you to decide. Each person has his or her own definition of morals. Consider these:
1) You are buying from a company that promotes 'poor' labor practice, so your money is essentially fueling these practices. Are you okay with that?
2) On the other hand, a very minuscule portion of your money will go to the workers. Therefore, you're helping them stay employed. Do you support this argument more?

You obviously have your doubts about buying from a company that uses sweatshops. I'm not going to tell you what I think, because only you can make this decision. I hope this helps you out.

Q: how was da gurl over the top?
how could she pull it off the eyeshadow?

how did she do it ?

was she always wearing it or no..

She just always wore bright clothing and jewlery. What I meant by that wasn't negative, just that she had such a confident, outgoing attitude -- in a good way. And because of that, the bright eyeshadow didn't seem tacky. It was just her. I hope that makes sense?

Q: http://beautyfromtheearth.com/fpdb/images/content/Image/rainbow2.jpg

is it possible or okay to go to schoool looking like this?

if not, then why do people still buy those eyeshadows! for what OCCASSIONS can you possibly wear those colors!

I think anything's possible. There was a girl who was in a class with me junior year who always wore colorful eyeshadow. She was just the type who could pull it off -- confident, a bit over-the-top but not in a bad way, etc. If you want to wear colorful eye makeup, then by all means, wear it.

Many people who buy colorful eyeshadow will wear just one color and wear it very lightly so the color only subtly shows. Or you could wear it to a fun event, such as a concert or a festival.

So to answer your question, it's possible to go to school looking like that, and if you're confident enough to wear your make-up a bit more boldly than what is mainstream, then you do it!

Q: i asked about this before. but its really bothering me.
i got my two bottom wisdom teeth out on monday morning
and its wednesday and i understand it doesnt heal reallly fast. but the doctor gave me medicine so i cant get infections and some vicodin. i took the vicodin once with advil on the first day. but it didnt help.
and i take the advil like twice or three times aday
and it still doesnt help. i look like a chipmunk cuase my cheecks are so swollen and it hurts. i can barely open my mouth and i can talk, but not that well. andd i cant sleep at night
i normally sleep on my stomach or side but the dentist told me to sleep on my back, and be elivated with lots of pillows. and its really annoying cause i hate laying like that.
also ive been living off of arizona ice tea, water, ice cream, and ramen soup. and im getting sick of just eating the soup.
i want this pain to go awayyyy! i need some help.

The swelling should go down by the fourth day. In the meantime, try icing your cheeks (20 minutes on one side, then 20 minutes on the other, and repeat as desired).

Since you're in such strong pain, you should go to your oral surgeon (call first though). It's possible that you have a dry socket. This happens when the blood clot is removed from the socket, thus exposing the bone.

If nothing else, hearing you'll be fine should be of great reassurance.

Q:

Well...

I am adopted..and all I know is that my Fathers last name is Corbin and my Mothers last name was Gainey...

Does anyone know what Corbin is? Like is it French, Irish, German etc?

and what is Gainey? If It's Irish, French etc?

Thanks!

BahaiMa22

Hello. I know of a site that provides information and the crests of pretty much every surname. Here's what I found for you:

Corbin is French and Scottish. You can view info on this surname here: http://www.houseofnames.com/xq/asp.fc/qx/Corbin-family-crest.htmv

Gainey is English and Irish. And you can view info on it here: http://www.houseofnames.com/xq/asp.fc/qx/Gainey-family-crest.htm

I hope this helps you out!

Q: ok im in eighth grade right now and im in advance orchestra. should i start learning vibrato? :|

From what you've given me, it sounds like now's the perfect time to start learning. Vibrato takes some people a while to grasp, though for others it comes reasonably quickly. In my case, I had a major orchestra audition coming up and I pretty much had to use vibrato, so out of necessity I was able to do it. That was years ago, however, and I still find myself tweaking little bits. So just like anything else on the violin really, it can always improve.

While you're learning, make sure you're not compromising any other techniques. Make sure you keep proper form and intonation. The highest pitch of the vibration should be that note, and the lowest should be about a half step lower.

I know some people who've used a book called Viva Vibrato and had great results. It's sold at most major music stores as well as online.

Some references I'm fond of include:
Violin Master Class: Vibrato (beginner to advanced) http://www.violinmasterclass.com/vibrato.php
Violin Vibrato (taught by a 13 (?) year old girl, is very straight to the point) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wx5VN9RtVH8

Good luck! And if you have any more questions related to the violin, feel free to drop me a message.

Q: I'm 18 and I was home schooled since 4th grade...

I was wondering what everyone on here thought about relationships, because I never went to public school and I've never really had a boyfriend before that has ever really worked out and I want some input...

I'm not sure what's okay and what's not. My friends boyfriends, in my opinion, were always not very good because when they were dating my friends (and some that are still together to this day) they will/would tell other girls like "hey sexy!" and "i love you too and I miss you too" like on their myspaces and stuff and through text messages. And there was a guy I was talking to while back that would say I love you to his ex g.f and he told me he still loved her but not as a g.f anymore and that they'd never get back together and I didn't have anything to worry about but he hung out with her alone and they still say I love you, and I didn't like that so I stopped talking to him in that way but we're still friends...

But to me, that's just not stuff you should say to someone unless your interested in them. But my friends tell me it's nomral, that that's how all people act in public school and in life and what not and that there is no reason to be upset or jealous about anything like that and I got a lot of crap for not talking to this guy anymore just because of that...

So my question is, do you all think that, that sort of thing is normal and okay? And should I not let things like that bother me should I happen to date a guy that does that?

And if you think I shouldn't get upset if the guy I date does that, how do I comfort myself and not let it get to me?

I'm not terrible looking, but I'm no beauty queen and I have a good life but I do have some insecurites and I guess I do like getting attention from a guy if i like him. I don't like any attention on me when im with friends or family but when it comes to guys I like I tend to want all of their attention and it kind of hurts my feelings when someone else seems to be getting treated so nicely by whom ever it is I'm interested in at the time/my boyfriend at the time.

So, if all this "i love you" stuff and hanging out with girls alone that are "just friends" even if they've had a history before is normal and I shouldn't be upset over it, can you guys tell me how to deal better so I don't ruin any relationship by getting jealous or "overracting" (as my friends call it) and what not? I mean I never mean it in a bad way and I never knew that it was thought of as okay before, but I guess I've been too sheltered, so, please help...

P.S-I'm not mean or witchy I just don't really get it, my whole life I've always been around people older than me and I'm an only child so please don't think I'm rude because I got upset over those things, if it's a problem that's why I'm asking for help. So, please no mean remarks.

Oh my ... what you just said has hit a chord with me. I completely agree with you. Why date someone who isn't fully committed to you? When two people enter a relationship, they should give some things up, especially casual flirting. I'm pretty sure these same guys wouldn't appreciate their girlfriends saying "I love you and miss you" to other guys, right?

I think some people are just so desperate to be in a relationship that they actually excuse behavior that bothers them, in fear that they'll have nobody otherwise.

Really, happiness is key in a relationship. If someone is happy despite this side flirting, then I suppose it's better left alone. But obviously it wouldn't make you happy, so don't ever lower your standards just so you can have a boyfriend. You shouldn't be in a rush! I didn't date at all through high school, because I was waiting for the right guy -- one who I would deem respectful. And believe me, I don't regret it.

Q: I was wondering if any one could give me a detailed character list on the book The Wave by Todd Strasser

I know there are several books called the wave, but i think the one i am talking about is by Todd Strasser about the classroom experiment that went too far.

I found a pretty good list here: http://thebestnotes.com/booknotes/Wave_Strasser/The_Wave_Study_Guide02.html

For your convenience I'll paste it below.

CHARACTER LIST

Major Characters

Laurie Saunders
A smart and outgoing senior student at Gordon High School. She is the editor-in-chief of the school newspaper, The Gordon Grapevine. She is a student in Ben Ross' history class and the main opposing voice against The Wave. She becomes the vigilant resistant force after she initially likes the idea, but then is drawn into opposition by the respect she has for history and the opinion of others. She sees the harmful direction of the wave and sets forth to end it.

Ben Ross
An intelligent and energetic history teacher at Gordon High who's popular among his students for his enthusiasm and accessibility. He creates The Wave as an experiment to show his students how fascism can be embraced by the masses. He creates an experiment to see what it would have been like in Nazi Germany during World War II.

David Collins
A senior student at Gordon High School and the captain of their football team. He is a student in Ben Ross' history class and the most idealistic about what The Wave can achieve. He is also Laurie's boyfriend.

Robert Billings
A senior student at Gordon High School who's become the outcast since he'd rather give up than live up to his older brother's standards. He is weak and shy in many ways, perceivably because of the success of his older brother, but The Wave becomes his salvation, giving him new-found self-confidence and for the first time in his life, social status. Through it, he finds acceptance among the groups that had so long before found him to be an outcast.

Minor Characters

Mr. Gabondi
A French teacher at Gordon High School.

Amy Smith
Laurie Saunders' best friend and a student in both Mr. Gabondi's French class Ben Ross' history class.

Brad
A student in Ben Ross' history class who has a history of picking on Robert Billings.

Jeff Billings
Robert Billings' older brother, who is never seen in the story but whose outstanding qualities as a student and athlete haunt Robert mentally in his daily life.

Brian Ammon
A student in Ben Ross' history class and the quarterback of the Gordon High School football team.

Principal Owens
The principal of Gordon High School, he becomes the voice of the wider community in the novel.

Carl Block
Gordon High School student who is also the investigator reporter for The Grapevine.

Alex Cooper
Gordon High School student who is also the music reviewer for The Grapevine.

Christy Ross
The wife of Ben Ross, as well as the music and choir instructor at Gordon High School.

Betty Lewis
A friend of Christy Ross who plays tennis with her.

Eric
A student in Ben Ross' history class and member of the football team.

Deutsch
A junior who is the second string quarterback, he wishes to replace Brian Ammon.

Midge Saunders
The mother of Laurie Saunders, concerned about The Wave and its influence.

Mr. Saunders
The father of Laurie Saunders and husband of Midge Saunders, he is initially more complacent about The Wave than his wife.

George Snyder
A student in Mr. Ross’ History class and member of The Wave.

Norm Schiller
Biology teacher and football coach.

Elaine Billings
The mother of Jeff and Robert Billings.

Unnamed Jewish Boy
Harassed by members of The Wave and called a “dirty Jew”.

Angry parents
Complainants to Principal Owens.

Unnamed Rabbi
The Rabbi for the unnamed Jewish boy.

Adolf Hitler
The German dictator who instigated World War II and is responsible for the Holocaust.

Q: so today i got my wisdom teeth pulled.
but only the two bottoms ones.
and my mouth was numb for about 2 or 3 hours and it sucked. alottt.
and now that its gone im in a lot of pain.
the dentist told me to keep my head elivated and they gave me medicine and i have advil and vicodin in me right now. and honestly the pain hasnt changed and i took the vicodin about 3 hours ago and ive taken two tablets of advil twice already. i know this is gonna be so hard to sleep tonight.
but is there anything i can do to make the pain go away cause its annoying me soo much and its really uncomfortable.

I had all four taken out about 2 and a half weeks ago. Luckily I felt no pain. Although I'd love to attribute this to taking perfect care of myself, I think I just have lucky genetics. I'll share what my oral surgeon instructed me during my pre-op:

Typically it takes four days maximum for the pain to go away. If it's painful to the point where you cannot function, you may consider calling your oral surgeon. You may be able to take a dosage of two vicodin instead of just one.

Make sure you're taking care of yourself. Avoid the sucking motion and be tender with your mouth. Tomorrow, you'll want to rinse your mouth with salt water.

Also, ice helps. Try icing one side of your face for 20 minutes and then the other for 20 minutes, and repeat as desired. This helps numb the area as well as minimize the swelling.

There are also some websites I think should help:
http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/wisdom-tooth-extraction
http://www.animated-teeth.com/wisdom_teeth/t4_impacted_wisdom_tooth.htm#recovery

I hope your recovery becomes less painful. The tips on the two sites I shared with you should help a fair deal.

Q: Okay so I've already asked a question regarding organization for school. I went to Staple's and I bought 2 5-Subject notebooks and a binder for math.

I was thinking about using 1 of the 5subject notebooks for Chemistry and English, and then the other for History and French, but I'm not sure how to split it up. Any ideas?

You may want to have a separate notebook for some subjects all-together.

When I took Chemistry I easily filled up my 5-subject during the course of the year. In French I took loads of notes, so also found I needed at least one 5-subject each year. In my junior year AP English class I took tons of notes as well, because in my class if we didn't we were hosed.

Plus wouldn't it be a pain if you ran out of space in one section and had to get a new notebook for that, but still had to carry around the old one? At that point it defeats the purpose of combining subjects.

You might want to ask people who took the classes at your school last year. They should give you good insight as to what you'll need.

I hope this helps.