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i'm 15 years old and i'm 5'11"ish. i'm also about 230 pounds. i know because i'm taller i'm going to weigh more. my friends, who dont know exactly how much i weigh, say that i'm not fat. but all they can go on is my appearance. they tell me that i'm not at all fat. that i'm average for my height. but all i can see when i look at myself is complete fat. also, my friends tell me that i'm beautiful. i dont think i'm hideous but i wouldnt at all go with beautiful. my question is that if i'm not fat and i'm so beautiful why do no guys ever approach me or chose to try and talk to me, but they do approach my friends?
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Guys may be intimidated, or may see a lack of confidence. For me, I look for guys who exude a certain level of confidence -- whose who are content in their own shoes (though definitely not cocky!). I'm sure that's the same for guys!
It sounds like you should work on your confidence. If you don't already, do some exercising. It could be a simple 15 minute morning jog, or something more physically demanding. I find that on days when I exercise, I have a nicer glow to me. Suddenly, I'm able to ignore my weaknesses. It's probably the endorphins, which is an internally produced painkiller... Plus, from exercising, you'll build muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat but takes up less space. So, you'll be healthy and have a great figure.
You could also create your own mantra. Tell yourself "I'm beautiful and smart and confident" or something along those lines. For example, before I performed a violin solo at a concert last spring, I told myself "I'm prepared, I'm ready, and I'm going to nail this" and I repeated it.
If it's more that they're intimidated, you could do a few things. First, start conversation instead of waiting for a guy to come to you. And show him you're interested. Second, Make sure you LOOK happy. Sometimes when I was younger I'd get this face that looked like I was pissed off, even though I wasn't. That definitely scared some people away.
I hope this gives you some ideas beyond what you asked.
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to have a guy love you and be happy with you, you have to love and be happy with yourself. men sense insecurity, it's like a sixth sense. so while you may think that you're hiding it well ; trust me, you're not.
for days when you're feeling bloated or whatnot try an empire waist shirt, they're beautiful and flattering while also covering up any problem spots. i myself have a collection of these.
smile from the inside out, it's the best way to get a man's attention.
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