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so i took plan b. Cause i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend. sooooo he came over my house and then like at 4 o clock in the morning we had sex (which means it was Saturday) and then i took it like 10 pm on Monday that means it was under 72 hours right?
but i did'nt throw up which was one of the symptoms does this mean that it did'nt work?
But i did feel kinda dizzy (but did'nt last long) and i had stomach pain for like a hour or two. (link)
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You're fine. You're not going to have absolutely every symptom that the plan b box says you could have. At best you'll most likely only have one or two if any at all. Bottom line, you took the pill. It worked.
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okay. so me and my boyfriend went out for a lil over a year and a half. i am madly in love with him, but he just kept lieing to me, so i broke up w/ him. not even 3 weeks after he already has another girl. he tells me that hes over me, but that he still loves me. last night he told me that he was falling for me again. and i was gonna take him back. but then he decided that he was too worried about wat his current gf's friends would do. i love him so much. and im trying to just let go and move on. but its sooo hard. and its killing me seeing him w/ her. =/.
any advice? i know i deserve better. but maybe i dont want better. i just want him. gah. i hate my life. =/. (link)
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You don't hate your life. You hate a single thing that isn't going right in your life at the moment. Your ex boyfriend doesn't know what he wants. You can't have two different cakes and eat them both. Sorry, it just doesn't work. You need to let him go and sure it'll suck and hurt like hell but in the long run you'll be stronger and better for it. You'll be wiser.
He's not being fair to you or his current squeeze of the moment and he'll hurt her the way he hurt you. It's a cycle that only he can break. Sometimes in life we don't always get what we want and we can't fix everyone or mold them into what we want them to be. So naturally, we hold on even tighter when we should be letting go.
Give it time. Let him go. Tell him to let you go. Your heart will feel heavy at first, believe me it's not easy. But I guess life's got alot of tests for us - and hoops for us to jump through. Heartbreak is one of them. You'll survive. We always do. :)
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hay.. ok so im 17 and im still a virgin. i broke up with my bf last year after goin out with him for a couple of monthes cos he wanted to have sex and i wasnt ready and cos my friends didnt like him.
but now i think im ready and i really want to have sex but i want it to be the right time and right person. i think about gettin back with my x so we can do it but i now it wouldnt work.
im scared that ill never find someone and that ill be alone for the rest of my life. i think iv just lost hope. wat do i do?
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You breathe.
You realize that people don't just get back together to sleep with someone because they're ready to lose something major with "that" person. You realize this isn't a reality show, it's real life and once you do something - it can never be undone.
You are seventeen, why are you looking for a soulmate now? You've still got all your 20's and maybe 30's to find a good match for you.
Who you're with should better you. They should better your life. They should challenge you and make you grow. Do you know how many people there are walking around on this planet? You're going to come across extraordinary people in your lifetime , but you can't worry that you'll be alone. With or without a partner, you'll never be alone because you'll have friends and family.
Worry less. Smile more.
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ok remember the last question i asked you now ever since the "period" ended or whatever it was i have been like getting a brownish discharge thats really thick and stringy like on my panties every single day whats that from?? (link)
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it'll be from the medicine pumping out everything from your reproductive system. it's normal, however if it goes on past a few days , perhaps a doctors consult would be best.
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I have been with my man for over10 yrs and I caught him kissing another man. Now he flat out says it never happened and Im crazy for it. I know what I saw. I look back now and there are tell,tell signs all along,that srapping Man had very close friends but that close!Now I have gone beserk, tried to run him over. Now Im got legal problems.How do I put him out of my mind and stop this insane obsession to make him just tell me?? (link)
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He kissed a man and you tried to run him over, I can only imagine what you would've done if he'd been with a woman. My lord.
The legal problems, those are your own doing. You need to find something .. "constructive" to do with all of your built up anger.
Now, he could be bi, he could be straight, he could be gay. None of that really matters and if he doesn't want to tell you, he's not going to.
And there's many reasons for it. He could be having an identity crisis, doesn't quite know what to make of what he's done. Or in the end, you could just be nuts.
In the end, it's his decision to tell you or not to tell you about what may or may not have happened and you have to respect him and just move on. Before you land yourself in jail. Or the nut house.
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ew ok so my hair is gross with split ends and i want them to go away with out having to cut all of my hair so is there a really good product or house hold w.e to really get my hair back to health ? (link)
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Actually, household products are better then your run of the mill store items.
Now, I realize this may sound horribly strange to some people but Olive Oil, well -- any oil for cooking or whatever rejuvenates your hair.
Also, using baby oil. Mind you , mix it into a bowl first. Take your shower. Then when your hair is still wet apply whatever's in your bowl to the bottom of your hair. JUST TO THE ENDS PLEASE.
I don't want you to be walking around with a slick head thinking your problem's been solved.
Leave this on for a few minutes, then rinse it out thoroughly.
This will work but eventually, you're going to need a trim. Not a chop. :)
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but in the directions it said to rise the leave in conditioner "/ (link)
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i'm not a big fan of directions because i know what works best for me.
if you want to rinse it out, go ahead.
you can also try bedhead root softening spray that'll revive your hair. or any product on the shelf really. just read the directions and then decide what you want to do.
personally, i live by my biolage and beyond the zone products but i also do homemade things to my hair. and my hair always looks amazing, it's one thing i always get right.
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you recently just answered my question that i asked maybe like a week or 2 ago well now i have this worry
i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend (july 7th) but he didnt *** in me but we were worried about it anyway so i took the morning after pill 24 hours after (july 8th) around the 14th i got very light bleeding and i was so worried becuase my period is never that light then it started getting heavier where i could actually use a tampon and it would fill up and my pad i think was filling up but then today the 19th its over and usually i get my period the 21st .. i thought i was safe but i reaad on the internet that implantation bleeding can sometimes last a couple of days... is this just an irregular period.. or should i be worried?? (link)
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the morning after pill or "plan b" is a very unusual pill. trust me, i don't want to give you the wrong idea about me but i've taken these like candy before.
now sometimes, you'll have light bleeding that will onset an earlier period. earlier then when your period usually comes. sometimes you'll have two periods that month. sometimes you'll spot and bleed lightly for a month.
so don't worry, all of this is normal. however if you're still concerned, call planned parenthood and make an appointment.
bset of luck :)
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First of all.. I'm a virgin. I'm 21, and I'm having some vagina issues. Anyone who gets grossed out, don't read any further.
I'm itchy HORRIBLY down there. It's inflamed, and burning. There's no discharge at all, but it's red, and concerning me.
My question-- what could it be? I'm well-aware that people on here are probably not physicians, but it would be great to have some feedback. Maybe even a suggestion on what it could be, or if anyone has ever gone through it and found proper treatment.
I will say, that just because I am a virgin, I have a boyfriend. We've messed around a bit, as far as fingering and oral sex.
I've done a bit of research, and found that some things like shaving, fingering, soaps, and even the heat of summer, can cause a yeast infection. Any of these could be possible. But I'm scared it's more. I feel like I've worked too hard being a virgin to be so irresponsible to catch something.
Help? (link)
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Relax. Something that I actually didn't know until a recent trip to the good ol' gyno office is that, sleeping in underwear (especially thongs) can cause a bacteria buildup.
So try sleeping au naturale. Atleast for a little while in the summer.
Also this could be a uti (urinary tract infection) that went unnoticed and now could have become a yeast infection.
When shaving, especially in the summer you want to be careful because of the delicate area and sensitive skin. After you've shaved try applying a moisturizer around the area. Being dry down there can cause skin to chaf and then with fingers pressing around the area leads to friction.
dryness+friction = swollen.
so just read through this and see if any of this applies to you. and then see a doctor.
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hey ok im really scared Becvause i think i might have gotten this girl pregnant i went to her house at night and i was really drunk we had unprotected sex for seriously like 1 minute and i pulled out because i wanted a condom i wasnt even close to cumming cuz i t wasnt that great..i dont know if i pre cummed and thats what im scared about but i was drunk and u ejaculated earlier that day but like i said i was drunk and was peeing ALOT did this clean out the leftover sperm? and could she pregnant? and she DID take the morning after poill (link)
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Were you drunk when you typed this paragraph out?
Basic sex ed rule no. 1 - you always, ALWAYS use protection.
When your aroused, your penis emits pre ejaculate. Obviously you're not a virgin and your the owner of a penis so you should know this. Drunk or not.
Pulling out, is not an effective method. What do you think peeing is going to do? Your penis isn't like a garden hose, where if you run stuff through it, the tip gets clean.
Bottomline, she took the morning after pill which will kill your sperm, if any got inside her.
Next time, use your head.
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ok. to start off. me and my boyfriend are very sexual. we do alot of stuff. but the one that i am so self consious about, is when he eats me out. i dont smell like "fish" and i do clean down there. he just said its a sweet and sour taste which he doesnt like. i was just wondering. what can i do to make it taste good. i do clean it and take care of it. so all i need is how do i make it where he wants to eat me out all the time. (link)
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Your vagina's not a pork roast, so what's he expecting?
Truthfully though, even though you can scrub and clean til your raw in that area, your natural "aroma" consists of your body chemical makeup and the kinds of food and drink you put into your body.
So if you're eating or drinking salty and acidic things, that could be where he's getting his "sweet and sour" complex from.
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my boyfriend loves anal. i dont mind doing it either, but i hurts me. so i was wondering if there is anything i can do to make it not hurt. i dont mind doing it cause its kinda hot to me. i jsut need to be able to handle it. (link)
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Well yay for your boyfriend, apparently he's never had something shoved up his ass.
It could be hurting you for a few reasons, you may need to er, "stretch" it a bit and you also want to make sure you're using lube because if you're not ... dear god help you.
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hi (link)
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No. You're only 14, your face will change as you get older. The shape will even out, your in that weird puberty stage.
When I was in 8th grade one of the hottest guys in school asked if I planned on getting a nosejob so one day someone would want to sleep with me.
And then I grew up and my body changed and my face changed alot, and he was the one asking me to go places with him.
Your face is you, but it isn't all of you. I'm sure your nose is beautiful and you'll find some guy who thinks that. Remember, boys are pains in the ass well -- always-- but especially at this age.
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okay, im 14, starting high school this september!
...but im a prude!
i never made out with a boy before.
do you think this is weird?
and i dont know how to make out.
does anyone one know how to and describe it to me?
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There's no shame in never having kissed a guy.
And it's not quite as smooth as it happens in movies. The best thing I have for you is knowing that making out, it'll come to you. It's not rocket science. And every little bump you hit learning how to, just makes it a little easier.
Don't get all freaked out or anything when it comes time for a lip lock. Just let it happen.
My first kiss was with someone who kissed tons of people before me, so you'd think he'd be a natural, right? Wrong, he slightly chipped a bottom tooth of mine.
You see, kissing's different for everyone so no I don't think it's weird. There's no rush to be a real life Scarlett Johannson.
Goodluck, frosh :)
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(1)what's the difference between friends with benefits and an open relationship? (is it just that with an open relationship, you're actually in a relationship while you can do stuff with other people and with friends with benefits you don't actually have a relationship?)
(2) why would someone even bother having an open relationship when they can just be friends with benefits? (link)
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friends with benefits, there's no relationship there whatsoever. You're free to hook up with as many people as you like because you're unattached.
open relationships are nonexclusive. it's more like , you go on dates. You're together but you haven't set the boundaries anda re both ok sleeping with other people.
mind you, both of these are completely pointless because someone gets attached at some point or this or that. it never works in the end unless you both are emotionally dead people that like to rack up numbers.
hope that helped clear up all that confusion. ;)
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Ohkay,
My friend sophie,
she is INLOVE with my brother,
and my brother doesn't like her what so ever,
and shes always on to me how she likes him so much and all of that!!
Its so annoying.
and she wants to know what to do.
ive told her to move on but she just doesn't listen.
Shes fully obsessed, and says hes my life blah blah blah.
What can i tell her.
i mean,
my brother and her are always arguing and stuff.
its like OMG slap me.
Please helP!
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Sticky situation.
Friend vs. Sibling . . .
Well obviously to start out with you need to sit sophie down and give her the tough love chat.
Explain to her that your brother isn't into her and when they argue, he's not flirting. Explain also that you love them both but the constant back and forth is getting a bit ridiculous. She'll move on, it's just a crush.
If this chat doesn't work, sohpie's an extremely dense character to crack and will eventually see the light, until then just ride it out.
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but i rinse my leave in conditioner is it bad? (link)
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it's not bad but hun, if you rinse your leave in conditioner, whats the point? ha, that's why we call it leave in.
just don't apply a huge excessive amount. that's the best way to start with it if your hairs not used to having a crapload of product in it.
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Hi! I;m gonna spend the night at a girl's house... And sometimes when i go places, we don't do nothin.... Any ideas of stuff we could do that is actually fun and not stupid? We're both 13 year old girls btw... And i'd prefer ideas where i don't have to buy anything... Just cause it isn't a BIG slmber party with bunches of people... I'm just gonna go hang out with my friend.. Any ideas will be greatly appreciated!!! (link)
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Scrap booking
movie watching
baking and making odd food that only clusters of girls would eat
do crafts ( don't laugh. i'm alot older then 13 and i loooove crafts)
- girls nights for your age group are supposed to be low key. it's not like you're supposed to be out terrorizing the neighborhood. haa
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i'm 15 years old and i'm 5'11"ish. i'm also about 230 pounds. i know because i'm taller i'm going to weigh more. my friends, who dont know exactly how much i weigh, say that i'm not fat. but all they can go on is my appearance. they tell me that i'm not at all fat. that i'm average for my height. but all i can see when i look at myself is complete fat. also, my friends tell me that i'm beautiful. i dont think i'm hideous but i wouldnt at all go with beautiful. my question is that if i'm not fat and i'm so beautiful why do no guys ever approach me or chose to try and talk to me, but they do approach my friends? (link)
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to have a guy love you and be happy with you, you have to love and be happy with yourself. men sense insecurity, it's like a sixth sense. so while you may think that you're hiding it well ; trust me, you're not.
for days when you're feeling bloated or whatnot try an empire waist shirt, they're beautiful and flattering while also covering up any problem spots. i myself have a collection of these.
smile from the inside out, it's the best way to get a man's attention.
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i have known this kid for about 2 years and we dated for 8 months. we were really serious. he was the first and only kid i've ever had sex with or done anything sexual with. i was also his first time. i broke up with him because he wanted to be a lot more serious than i did. he would always tell me he wanted to marry me and i wasnt sure about that. he is two years older than me but he dropped out of school a few times so hes stayed back twice. hes coming back to school this year and hes going to be in all or most of my classes. i was the one to break up with him so obviously i feel bad that i broke a really good friend's heart. but my heart was also broken at the end of the relationship. i havent really talked to him since we broke up and our class will only have about 20 kids in it. how am i supposed to deal with seeing this kid, who was my first ever love and first serious heartbreak, daily when i'm not ready to? (link)
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the answer to your question is that there is no answer. relationships are painful. you "fall" in love, you "break" a heart, you "lose" a piece of yourself.
You'll never forget your first love, it's common to carry a piece of them in your memory forever. However it does get easier to see them, I know that saying "give it time" isn't exactly what you want to hear but it's the best advice out there. If you two are meant for a round 2,3,4 --- things will unfold that way.
Just try and focus on school and the workload so you don't end up staying behind yourself. And spend alot of time with your friends, try a sport or a club.
Busying yourself doesn't give you any time to sit around and mope about the past. You two dated, you broke up, it's over. Pick up the pieces of your life and carry on. It sounds harsh but it's truly the best thing you can do.
This was just your first love. You'll have so many more to come that eventually he'll just be a blur in the back of your head.
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