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I caught my man kissing another man and he says it never happened
I have been with my man for over10 yrs and I caught him kissing another man. Now he flat out says it never happened and Im crazy for it. I know what I saw. I look back now and there are tell,tell signs all along,that srapping Man had very close friends but that close!Now I have gone beserk, tried to run him over. Now Im got legal problems.How do I put him out of my mind and stop this insane obsession to make him just tell me??
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He kissed a man and you tried to run him over, I can only imagine what you would've done if he'd been with a woman. My lord.
The legal problems, those are your own doing. You need to find something .. "constructive" to do with all of your built up anger.
Now, he could be bi, he could be straight, he could be gay. None of that really matters and if he doesn't want to tell you, he's not going to.
And there's many reasons for it. He could be having an identity crisis, doesn't quite know what to make of what he's done. Or in the end, you could just be nuts.
In the end, it's his decision to tell you or not to tell you about what may or may not have happened and you have to respect him and just move on. Before you land yourself in jail. Or the nut house.
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You can only learn to control yourself, and it sounds like you have had difficulty doing so in anger. Focus on getting yourself help and health. Join a support group, go to a place of worship, talk with friends, see a counselor, look for women's groups etc. You need to be surrounded by good people and good counsel. We cannot make someone tell us the truth. That is impossible. Everyone has a different truth, and a different reality, but beyond that philosophical crap, everyone has their own choice. The man you knew, may be only part of the real man. Maybe he did kiss a man and he is a homosexual. Maybe he has always been confused or is trying something new. Express the hurt and anger you feel with your words. No more violence or attempts to control any other human being. Ever. You are on your own journey. Do not fear the fact that every human only belongs to him or her own self. He may choose to enter counseling with you or he may at least talk to you if you can put aside your hostility and tell him you are deeply sorry. Then, you must accept whatever his answer is...even if it is silence.
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How old are you?
How old is he?
Do you want to stay with him?
Do you want to dump him?
You left out some important details, but i'll try to answer as best as i can.
First of all, just flat out say this, I saw you, don't lie, I know what I saw. Be like, you need to tell me. How long has this been going on? Why didn't you tell me?
He may not want to tell you becuase, well call me crazy, BUT YOU TRIED TO RUN HIM OVERR!
Just cool it, be like screw this guy, his an a$$. Go find someone that you diserve. Stop assosiating yourself with him. Don't put your self in the possition where you have to be at the same place, at the same time with him. He might be bi-sexual. Thats fine, but not while your in a relationship.
Try to talk it out calmly. You can't over react and freak out, say it in a nice, calm voice, maybe that will get it through his head.
Move on though, he doesn't diserve you and you can have soooooo much better.
hope i helped and if you need anymore help just drop it in my inbox
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